My boyfriend of four months has an apartment together with his brother and his brother’s wife. She does all the cooking. He constantly brags to me about what she cooks for dinner and how good it is. When he comes over to my place, I cook for him, and he says he likes my food. However, even when he’s with me for a few days, he makes comments like, “man, I can’t wait to go home and have dinner; I been missing out.” I find it really offensive. I feed him good at my place, yet he still says he’s missing out from the cooked meals at his place. It kinda hurts my feelings hearing how much he brags about another woman’s cooking. And the fact that another woman cooks so often for him kinda bothers me. Would you feel some type of way about this? or am I just being sensitive?
Maybe her cooking is better?
I would tell him to bring some home for me too
I mean usually in these dynamics the wife of a brother is like a sister . But i would be offended to . But I also don’t think he means it disrespectfully . He is Probably dependent on others. He needs to be more independent that’s the issue
Make him hot pockets and tell him to be grateful
Don’t waste your time cooking if he’s missing her cooking anyways make him sandwiches or bowls of cereal 
Sounds like he’s testing you or pushing you to do what he don’t have the balls to do. Break up with him cuz he’s crushing on his brothers girl and using you as a cover🤷
Maybe have a conversation as to why he likes his sister(in laws) cooking and then apply it to your cooking. Make it a learning experience.
I’d only feed him microwaveable stuff and canned stuff from now on.
Maybe you can’t cook 
I wouldn’t be annoyed she cooks but I would be annoyed he says all the time hers is better or can’t wait to get home to it. I’d just say look If you don’t like my cooking then you can cook 
Hand him an apron, see if his cooking is as good as yours or hers…
I used to brag about my sisters cooking! We ate together several times a week, and it was great! She knew how to make things that I didn’t, and inspired me to become a better cook when I moved away. Go eat with them, expand on meal ideas! It sounds like you are envious of her cooking, so learn! I love when people want me to teach them how to cook! (I had girls come learn to bake bread a few weeks ago.)
See what her cooking is like. Maybe she could be a chef. However it’s his sister in law. I don’t think you should be worried. If your food is the same as hers but he likes it more then maybe be butt hurt but she might be a better cook so id taste the food.
Tell him to go home and eat.
The other woman cooking for him is nothing, she’s cooking for her family and he happens to be there. You’re just worked up over the other thing to see clearly.
You are, however, completely in the right to be upset over him saying he’s, “missing out”. That’s super rude to you.
Edit to add: Stop cooking for him.
You’re being too sensitive.
You’re being over sensitive. Since he lives at his brother’s house then of course his sister in law is going to be doing a lot of cooking for him. It wouldn’t be right to cook for her husband and not him. Maybe call her and get some of her recipes and surprise him.
Maybe she’s just a better cook?
I’d honestly take offense but I’d then ask if she could teach me a few tricks.
Ugh! I hate cooking! I’d actually be grateful for another woman to cook for him! 
but on a more serious note… if it bothers you, just tell him it’s a bit insulting. If he continues to do it after you’ve expressed your feelings… let that woman feed his ass every night!
Were allowed to be a little sensitive but I wouldn’t take him to task over it. Maybe she really is just an extraordinary cook. Why fight it? Enjoy cooking for him when you can and then go over there and get in on some of that good food and get a break sometimes. Then find out what his favorite thing is she makes and see if she’ll share the recipe.
Stop cooking for him the he can’t compare anymore
I wouldn’t be offended. I’d ask if I can go too😂 I suppose that’s the difference between having only dated for four months and being married for almost 20 years😂 no jealousy here… point me to the plate sis🤤
Sounds like I’d go and eat her cooking too. You should too. Lol
Make him cook or take you out to eat. Stop feeding him & “feeding” him.
If that was my man I would tell him he is annoying as fuck and to start coming over after he already eats at his house, so I don’t have to waste my damn time and also listen to his dumb ass
Make him cook 4 u then 
or don’t cook 4 him at all, send him home 2 eat 
Tell him then enjoy her food you’re done cooking for him. If he doesn’t appreciate it or doesn’t need to tell you that. It’s like you bragging about some other guy on how good he does something all the time.
I suck at cooking so it wouldn’t bother me. I’d just say well I’m coming to eat to and not have to cook.
Dammm, now I want to go and taste her food too
That would bother me, too. Have you ever thought about asking her for some recipes, though?
Tell him to go home and eat then.
4months you’ve been with him & your moaning already? She’s MARRIED to your boyfriends brother, you have alot to live upto by the sounds of it, stop moaning & cook DECENT FOOD, however how do you start a relationship in the middle of a pandemic when your not supposed to be near people?? That I find odd.
It’s his sister in law. U need to chill out. All ur gonna do is make urself look bad to his family by acting jealous over food.
I’d stop cooking for him honestly
He obviously doesn’t understand the work you put into making his meals. Take him to McDonald’s !!
It’s rude for him to say that when you have been cooking.
Dump him. A REAL man will lie and say he appreciates your cooking even if its terrible…and he will cook and not be insensitive…
Quit feeding him!!! Duh
It’s nice that he likes her cooking but that’s kind of rude how he’s literally looking forward to leaving your presence to go eat it. Maybe next time he mentions it call him out and tell him you want to go over there and try this amazingness.
The fact that she cooks so often for him bothers you? He lives there. She’s married to his brother.
If someone was living with me n my husband, I’d be the one cooking us all dinner so I definitely don’t find it weird that his SISTER IN LAW is cooking him food. Some people just make better food, oh well
Yes most of us would be a little put out by this. SHOULD we be? Probably not. She’s a better cook. In his opinion and to his tastes at least. That’s ok. We don’t have to be the best of EVERYTHING to our partner.
Why not just make it a positive experience & ask her how she cooks certain things. Maybe there are things she can TEACH you. Dont get upset or jealous. Everyone cooks differently. Doesnt mean you are a bad cook at all. I honestly understand but no, 
BOSS tf up & upgrade ya cooking skills mama, if it’s really upsetting you!
I’m just curious how old yall are…
Idk maybe ask him to have her meal prep enough for him to bring over for both of yall
But on some real levels it is pretty disrespectful for him to say he’s ready to go home and eat bc he’s missing out, that would hurt my feelings but men are weird and they don’t think about stuff like that so you should definitely tell him how it makes you feel and if he doesn’t stop then cross that bridge when you get there
So ask her for tips
And that’s on who?? Mary had a little lamb !
It is offensive… just not in “another woman” kind of way. The part about …I can’t wait to go home and eat… sounds like a little kid that is ready to go home after a weekend sleep over. Hopefully he has a ride home?
This is Ridiculous
Get your bf to invite you there for supper…and learn what she does. I’m positive they enjoy having their privacy when he’s at your place…it’s a win win! 
Has he cooked for you?
Ask if you can go to his place and learn from his SISTER IN LAW how to make her recipes. Or ask her yourself. I mean I know there are some crazy relationships out there, but that is his sister in law, not some random woman cooking for him…
Doesnt sound like a man it sounds like a boy… sorry but why deal with that? Higher your standards. If he’s staying at your place he could cook for you or with you.
I would love for someone else to cook for my man so I don’t have to
Do U go to his house? Maybe have dinner there 1 night a week an U an her cook dinner together an she can help U with some tips… . But I see where your coming from I’d be mad too
He sounds like a spoilt brat!!
Ask her if she’ll teach you how to cook
Have you had her food? She may be a bad ass cook. If it bothers you try some new recipes or go to her house and have her teach you what she’s doing. Don’t be jealous some people can just cook better.
I think your being a bit sensitive… but maybe asking what his favorites are and you can try to recreate them. Also bring it up that it hurts your feelings too, I doubt he is trying to hurt them
I say friend her learn her recipes show him u can cook her food and than boot his ass to the curb and cook for the next man haha 
Hes giving you hints and its rude.
Don’t take offense, if he likes her cooking ask if she could help you with a couple of his favorite recipes? Women have so much potential to help others. Embrace it. Or take private cooking lessons and blow her out of the water!
Its okay that he likes her cooking. But I seems like he is throwing it in your face that another woman is doing something for him. I would be pissy about it to. Tell him it’s getting old to hear it. It’s insulting to a woman who can cook and doesn’t get credit for it.
I think it’s disrespectful too, and yeah maybe ask her what she cooks with. Get some ideas from her. But talk to him about saying hurtful things to you.
Also, a Carole Baskin tip- sardine oil lol
Tell him it bothers you, but you could also ask the other chick for a few of her recipes if she’s willing to part with them.
I myself wouldnt cook for him anymore
Lady if you feel like a side dish, take yourself off the menu. 
My man’s brother use to live with us I cooked all the time . He helped him self to whatever food he wanted
I was seeing my bf long distance for 2 years, and decided to move in with him. I’m a restaurant manager, and he’s African. I never felt like cooking after a long 11 hour shift. I lived with him for a year, and I started to get in routine to cook. At the end of the day, I enjoyed the recipes I tried and he was excited I started to get into cooking. It took 3 years into our relationship before I engaged in the kitchen, and he was patient.
I only started cooking because I realized I’m the woman of the house, and we were talking about having kids. I wanted to learn how to cook for myself and him, and how I’d like to feed my family when we do start a family. If he’s patient enough, start looking at recipes together. Get him interested in what your doing in the kitchen for him. See what he likes, make mistakes, and maybe get him involved. Make it a date night, where you both find something, or whatever he likes, and try it!
This does not mean you are a bad cook. It says his taste is different than yours. I would get together with her a compare recipes… Your favorites depend on what you ate as a kid
Hell naw tell him bring leftovers work it to your benefit
Well are you as good of a cook as she is?? Some people are just better at cooking than others. I would beat him at his own game and ask to cook with his sister-in-law and she can teach you. If he’s bringing it up that often… Your cooking must be lacking.
Early in our relationship, my husband complained that I was taking sooo long to make dinner, after coming home from an all day outing. ( I was a slow dinner maker, back then.) He said " Ann, (his ex) could put dinner together in 20 minutes." My response: "Give her a call, let’s all go over to her place for dinner!) He never mentioned it again. Now, married 40+ years, I am a better, and faster cook. 
In the South his reaction would be the equivalent of the dreaded question, “who made this”? Just ask his sister in law to teach you her ways 
I’d be offended too but shit sometimes you’ve gotta adapt.
I’m petty id be like “go home and eat then!” well if my so ever said something I’d say something of that sort. But I’m the only one who cooks for my man.
You can ask her for cooking lessons🤷♀️ i know of some in laws gfs/bfs compliment my cooking and the other get a little weird.
It’s literally just food.
But, he is being rude & I’d confront him on it & ask if he has any food he prefers to eat
I wouldn’t necessarily get offended. I’d go over to his house and ask her if y’all can cook and see what she does.
I Spielberg be offended. I am a good cook and my husband loves my cooking but some people just have that special talent. Everyone has that certain person or a couple of people that you just love their cooking more than anyone else. Think of it this way, if you marry into the family you get to have access to her cooking forever.
Maybe he just really loves food and she’s an amazing chef. However I can see how that would be a little upsetting especially if it’s a constant thing.
Dated a guy like this… he always made comments like this but it wasn’t only about my cooking. Every woman was somehow better than me at something 
Throw the whole guy out
My sisters husband did this exact thing and he was having sex with her.
Tell him to shut up clown
Fk tell him to stay there
Pure cheek and disrespect! Why does he have to harp on about it to you all time ?? Something not right there 
I think you’re being a bit too sensitive here.
The “other woman” is his sister in law. She’s cooking for her family and that just happens to include him because they’re part of the same household.
In those few days of staying with you, its likely she ends up making one of his favorite meals and he does feel like he’s missing out. I dont really think it’s meant as a “dig” at you or your cooking.
It’s important to remember too, that some people really enjoy cooking and for them its less of a chore or “have to” type thing and more of a hobby. As a stay at home mom myself, I actually get this.
I enjoy canning…its REALLY calming for me. I like playing with muffin and cookie recipes…even when things go wrong I love the challenge of changing it into something that will taste good.
Some nights I get a bit fancy…not because it’s a special occasion just because I feel like it and I enjoy it.
Just take a breath.
Maybe ask if she could share a recipe or show you how to cook one of his favorite things.
No. I’m not implying you couldnt follow a recipe but I know I personally dont measure everything out and theres steps i always forget to include when giving directions.
Ask him what is his favorite dish she makes so you can make it and try to make it just a little bit better than hers that is if you really do know how to cook lol
Girl my now hubby and I had issues like this and I just came out and was blunt with him and told him how I felt and the way he was acting was really being rude and and hurting my feelings and im to the point that I’m done trying. Then after we had this conversation things totally changed and for the better. However all relationships are different good luck and best wishes to you
Ask him too cook you supper sometime then judge his ha ha
Uh… idk because I’m on the other end of this… I get how it could make her uncomfortable but then again there are people out there that say they can cook and can’t… like I said I don’t know because this is not an issue for me but I recommend sitting down with him and being honest about how you feel. And maybe try her cooking… if its better than yours see if you can get some tips
Ask him to cook. The end.
See, this shit right here. This must be why these little petty ass girls my BIL brings around never last, cause they start getting jealous and making him not eat our food. Like TF grow up. Some women cook like hell and I am one of those. Dont hate appreciate!
I wouldn’t cook another Fing thing for him… Oh your sister in law is a fantastic cook… Good have her send two plates!
Don’t cook for him anymore go out to eat or make something like sandwiches with chips 
I wouldn’t cook for someone who doesn’t appreciate my efforts 
Ask her to teach you! Make your man happy. Sounds like insecurity
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Yes I’d ask to go to his place for dinner and stop cooking🤷♀️
Yeah, you’re being sensitive. Hell, I would send his a** over there to get both of us a plate.