My boyfriend, who is my sons father, barely helps me with anything. I’m the one who gets up with our son in the morning. I’m the one who does each feeding. I’m the one who mostly plays with him. I’m the one who takes him out of the house to “play” somewhere. All while his father sleeps in every day, walks out of the house to go wherever whenever he pleases, etc. Bottom line, every time I ask him to help out he says “this is your job, you’re the mother”. I feel like I’m a single mom at this point and my sons father is the babysitter. Anyone relate? What do you do in this situation?
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My boyfriend doesn't help me with anything: Advice?
You tell him to either help you with the child or he needs to leave. Stand up for yourself.
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If you already feel like a single mum, your better of actually being one, kick him out, by the sounds of it you are already doing a great job by yourself you don’t need him hunny
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Speak to him, a baby is both your responsibilities not just yours as a mother. He seriously needs some growing up to do and should of thought twice before bringing a child into this world.
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You won’t guilt him to change…so kick him out, or just enjoy your son, and don’t expect anything from him! You can handle your child alone, men are not really even help anyways! 
you said he sleeps in every day, so im wondering if he works maybe 2nd or 3rd shift?
he still needs to help out though.
Leave, take him to court for child support and custody.
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He isn’t a father. He’s a bitch.
Don’t have any more baby with that dude.
baby you gotta go with your bad self and leave a boy
Well seen as how you’ve asked him for help, with no response. Now, I’d be telling him that you are really feeling like a single parent. Tell him what you expect out of him. If he can’t do what you expect then leave. Go be a single parent and not worry about his a$$ anymore. My hubby was like this in the beginning. I did all night feedings, was up every morning, did all house chores. Couldn’t go out without being bugged and asked when I was coming home. He had very little patience. After not recieveing any help, I finally broke down and told him I was feeling alone and feeling like a single parent. I told him, if he wasn’t going to help and step up, then he needs to leave because I’m not taking care of three children. I have 2 boys, that’s it. I’m not gonna take care of a man child as well. He kinda got it and started helping a little more. When I started getting my migraines, he really had to step up. Let that man know exact how you’re feeling and don’t hold back emotions for his sake. Just tell him.
What do you need him for? He isn’t really a Dad
Be a single mom and leave the lazy bum
Well if you doing it all on your own move out or put your foot down about helping. Tell him its not 1950 anymore in this modern world 99%of fathers help in the house
Get use to it. It won’t change. There’s a generation of men who want women to contribute as much as they do financially yet want the woman to do all the child rearing, housework and take care of all their needs and things they should be doing themselves as well. It’s the entitled generation I guess who still reflect their dads attitudes but also act like another kid. I keep hearing stories like this and it’s beyond sad.
You are a single mom. Now kick your deadbeat to the curb.
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My ex-husband was like that. He wouldn’t take the garbage out or mow the grass. I can count the number of times that he cleaned or changed a diaper on one hand. Glad that we are divorced. My new husband helps a bit more. My son helps with the chores now, because he sees his stepdad helping. I set a bad example by allowing that behavior.
You need to tell him that you may be the mother but as he’s the father he’s got just as much responsibility to raise your son, and that if he doesn’t like that then you’re better off without him. Sounds like you’re a great mum.