My boyfriend has a dog from his previous relationship and refuses to train it...help!

Talk to him once more and explain to him that it’s his dog and that you can’t deal with it anymore and if he doesn’t take care of it or find it a new home that
you’re going to take it to the shelter or he can take it to his ex. If that doesn’t work just have your mom take care of your kid and take the dog to the shelter so that he can get properly taken care of.

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“oops” the dog must have “ran away”

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Rehome the dog and tell him it ran away

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Yeah that’s pretty damned disgusting for a child to be around.

Vinegar neutralizes the pee. It doesn’t smell as bad but not a permanent solution. Buy a crate for it and just tell your boyfriend that the dog stays there until he trains him. Couches are expensive.

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It’s literally a whole job to train a dog. Can you not fund someone else to take it in, or leave the dog outside somewhere during the day and put it in a puppy crate at night so if it does use the bathroom it’s at least not through the whole house. My Pitt would literally shit in front of my bedroom door every single night when he was being trained even though he would go all dang day only using it outside!! He wouldn’t wine, scratch, or bark to let us know he just literally would crap at the door, I started keeping him outside during the day and he realized if he used it outside, he got to come in at night. Got to reward them just like kids to keep them confident and consistent!! Hope this helps

One day the dog just needs to mysteriously dissappear

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It’s on you as well no excuse to not put the dog out on a runner or take the dog out every half hour until it gets the concept

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It sounds like your bf don’t really care about crap and your making excuses for him js and get a pen and put the dog outside make the bf build a big nice dog house for in the dog pen just that simple and wash your stuff in white vinegar and laundry soap it should take the smell out white vinegar does js

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The dog is doing it intentionally because the dog knows you dont want it … bond with the dog and the dog will stop doing it to hurt you. Once my dog shit on my bed because we moved and he had to be tied up outside first chance he got he shit right in the middle of my bed to tell me how he felt.

That’s now YOUR dog not his. He works so u can stay at home so why are you moaning, YOU send it to be trained or put puppy pads down an learn it, however it sounds abit old to be doing that so probably passed trained

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I can’t comprehend how people allow dogs in their house let alone on the couch

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I would tell him either the dog gets trained or HE is to assume ALL responsibility for it. Forget going with your buddies you have to stay home cleaning up dog poo from cushions. A few times of that and either he’d get rid of it or get it trained.

All the time that you spend cleaning up after it. You could buy her an appropriate sized kennel and start working with her yourself. Make her your dog.
And if dogs are not your thing, I would do my best to find a suitable home that is willing to work with her and have patience with her.

He needs to grow up and be responsible!

Do not be a servant to an animal! Boot the dog and the boyfriend! Have some pride and self respect as a “human being”. You are the master of your destiny, the captain of your ship. Be only a servant to the Lord God. He will guide you safely.

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Keep her in a crate. Outside. Then tell him to get his dog trained or else she is gone and you will rehome both him and her. And tell him he needs to replace your couch!!! I refuse to let my bf’s dog in my new place because his dog was never trained nor did he make time to train her. Peed in every area of my house including on my couches. She peed so much on my brand new real wood floors that it ruined them and it would drain to my basement and ruined my things down there. She scratched up the entirety of the wood floors too. It was awful. She was left with me a lot. I almost sold her when he left her with me for two months and moved out of state. I refuse to let her in my new house because she is still peeing in the house, does unthinkable things, stinks in ways I didn’t know dogs stunk and is a slobbering mess.

Find something like this for outside of your house.

Feed him on a schedule then take him out within 15 minutes after he eats. Let him stay out for awhile or take him out every 10 or 15 minutes until he dies his business. Same goes for when he drinks. It will take awhile but it will work. The bell at the door works great. My daughter bought a dog door bell and put it on the outside lower door. The dog rings the bell when it wants back in. She has bells hanging on the door knob inside and she rings those when she needs to go out. Took a few weeks of constant care but it will work. Good luck and try to get it done before the new baby comes. You will all be happier

Crate training or dog needs to go.

We have a puppy that is very active and I take her out every 30min when she was really little and then every hour. We put a bell on the front door and every time we go out we have her paw hit the bell. After 9 months she has never had an accident. She does chew like a crazy puppy but that’s another situation. Get the dog lots of toys and take it out very often. It’s not the dogs fault. I would say your bf needs to stop going out with his friends so much! My husband comes straight home everyday. He takes the dog out as soon as he gets home and throws the ball for at least 30 minutes so she gets exercise. Good luck :white_heart:

If he’s unwilling to do the work to train HIS dog and unwilling to rehome the dog, you need to rehome the man.

Housebreak the dog yourself. If the dog isn’t fixed, get it fixed. If it’s a male dog marking, get a belly band as a stopgap measure. One doesn’t send a dog to get housebroken. I adopted an almost 2 year old dog when my son was almost a year. Every time he stopped to sniff things, we ran him outside. At this point you’re still letting it happen. It’s not just his fault anymore. You work on the problem before the next baby is born.

I would start kennel training while he’s gone even with you home or when everyone is gone for the day. :woman_shrugging:t2: Take him out before he goes to work and then again once he gets home. A lot of dogs are kennel trained it’s not going to hurt him for a few hours. And set timers to help you try and take him out every hour or so when he is out of the kennel. And I know it may not be what you want but even trying to potty pad train a dog could be worth it. Both my dogs are pad trained, one being almost 12 years old the other being 4 months old. And it has helped so much with accidents randomly throughout the house!

Find the dog a new home. Clearly neither of you want to train it yourselves, and you’re already overwhelmed with one child, imagine having two, you’re really going to go mad. Rehome it to someone that will take the time to train and care for it properly.

My husband works incredibly hard outside the home and is going back to school, and I’m at home. You know where he mostly is when he’s not doing those things? Home. Not because I make him but because he chooses to be. You’re making a family with someone who is not making his family (including the dog) his priority, and it’s only going to get worse. I know what I’m saying is huge, but you need to pack up your kiddo and leave.

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Take the dog outside!?? Train it yourselves.

Re-home the dog or the boyfriend. Whichever is easier.

I would absolutely be rehoming the dog. I would not for any reason under any circumstances put up with that.

Dogs are like toddlers you gotta make it fun or they’re not interested. I don’t blame him for not wanting to get rid of the dog you knew him and the puppers was package from the start so basically it’s your step kid. If the dog knows you hate him/ her it’s gonna be longer road ahead animals are stupid. High reward treats ( chicken , ham and etc) praise every-time they pee outside , they even have a spray on Amazon you can buy spray it in the grass ( go here I believe it’s called) , take them outside every 50-1 hour , no water before bed , after eating (30-40 mins) also crate train ( that does not mean keep them
In there 24/7). Gotta be constant with the process. Putting bells on the door are good way of them letting you know too.

You keep saying it’s his ex’s dog is there resentment there. I have house broken a dog that was over 10 years old it takes patience put a bell on the door to go outside show him how to use it and he should catch on it might take a little while you never did say how old the dog was good luck

If you’re going to stay with him, then you need to tell him that either he can clean up after the dog himself and get it trained, or give it to someone who will. I would refuse to be the one cleaning up after it at that point. I personally would get a job of your own, and inform him that you will be leaving, if he doesn’t do one of those options. He’s obviously fine with living like that and doesn’t care to train it himself or pay a trainer, because he isn’t the one who is cleaning up after the dog. The fact that he just doesn’t care would be enough for me to leave. You have a child and another on the way and they don’t deserve to live in that environment, just because their father is cheap and lazy. Neither do you. It’s also wrong that he is never home, but it’s your decision if you want to be with him. Just keep in mind that eventually it won’t be just the dog acting out, your kids could potentially do so too, if they barely see their dad.

Nope. The dog would have to go…

I got dog pee pads for my puppy and they have a smell that attracts them to do their business there, we can’t smell it but the dogs sure can, my adult son brought his dog over who is really well trained to go outside, he walked over to the pad and promptly pooped on it!lol, the dog had never even seen a pee pad before, my puppy took right to it too.

First of all get out of the mindset that he “works” and therefore can be gone out of the house ALL THE TIME! wtf?!? Ugh no. When he’s not working he needs to be spending time with his kids and training his dog…. You need to tell him that either the dog gets trained BY HIM or he pays a trainer or you’re out! Your kids cannot live in a home with pet feces and urine! What in the actual heck?!?

Maybe put the dog outside as soon as you wake up and leave him out there till he has breakfast then after breakfast outside again, with it being nice weather going outside for a 15 min every now and then won’t hurt the dog, you can also get training posts for dogs that smell for them to wee up which might help, if the dog is weeing in the house also when it does the wee or poop shut it outside bring it back in and put him in a room without you in then bring him back in, if he does it again repeat the same outside tell off bring in leave in a room your not in that he cnt wee up, he will get the jist over time that it’s naughty and he’s shut away for it, also you need to get rid of the wee smell as he will just keep making the same spot, doggy will learn if he gets shouted at and put away each time he does it, also when you see the dog have a wee outside go out congratulate him and give him a treat and make a big fuse out if him that way he knows that’s the place to wee

Stop making excuses for him, and yourself! Lay it on the line because he sure as hdll doesn’t want to take responsibility. How much time to do you spend scrubbing? Move that time to observing. Note how long aftdr a drink or meal is she evacuating? Watch for signs, looking for places to squats, going round in circles! Immediatly put her out even in full stream! When she finishes praise and a treat! Make much of it i have had dogs all my life and i follow this mantra, including rrscue dogs. Never be cruel! The dogs doesn"t know shes doing wrong but she will know ur cross with her! More cathching in the act and less scrubbing! It will be time well spent! STOP making excuses for him! Its a family dog, therefore he should take some responsibility. If he has time to spend with his mates, where’s your family time? You are not a drudge! Dont give up on the dog! All she wants is training and love. There is no such thing as his or her dog. If you live together then the dog belong to both of you, He’s nicely slipping responsibility onto you! Wake him up!