My boyfriend has been saving other girls photos: Advice?

Like all men , my bf likes to look at pictures of other women. You know, bikini pics etc… which is fine I don’t care about that. He’s just looking right?? But I just found out he’s been saving these pictures or videos of other girl like on tik tok that he finds, and one of them was of his ex. He’s been Saving a lot of them to his camera roll. And to me I don’t think that’s right… if you want to look then look, I know he’s not blind. But what’s the point of saving them?? He has pictures of me so he does he feel the need to save other girls pictures ? I asked him to delete them and he did. But he said I was over reacting about it… am I?

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I don’t agree with saving pics of other girls. And definitely not an ex…

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Thats a nope from me… id be out

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Just left a guy for liking a bunch of girls pics. It’s disrespectful and looking is cheating. If that’s what he wants to look at everyday, he needs to go get that.

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Start posting yourself like the ones he saves :two_hearts:

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I bet he is jerking off to them.

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He’s jerking off to those pictures 100% (& I don’t mean the ones of you.)

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It’s one thing to “just be looking” to SAVE them is another. Especially of an ex. Run girl run :running_woman:

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No you’re not over reacting. In any situation is that ok.

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Definitely not why tf is he saving them

I feel like that’s borderline stalker :rofl: find u a new man

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No not like all men my husband doesnt specifically go looking for other womens photos…dude got your head messed up LEAVE HIM

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Man, you caught him. Period.

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There saved for those long bathroom breaks

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That’s not cool shouldn’t be doing that

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Girl you start saving guys pictures too let’s see how he likes it :sweat_smile:

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Nope - saving means some sort of intent or personal connection…
Looking is normal… we all kinda do that… saving is a NO!!

No. You are not overreacting at all. Time to go.

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Why are you looking at his pics? Did he do something to make you suspicious?

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When my husband and i got together similar ish situation after numerous talks and not being heard. I took of my engagement ting and said if he needed this much attention/ giving it to other woman then he didnt need us me and my daughter. We are now married baby number 2 and he has 0 social media outside of like linked in.
Id stand up for yourself- that sh!t is hurtful.

Listen, from someone previously in your situation… if you EVER… EVER have to ask ANYONE questions about your relationship, it’s not the right one! I promise! My husband now, we don’t even touch each other’s phones, ask where the other is going, anything like that bc there is soooooo much trust. You’re wasting so much energy and so much of your life worrying about this type of stuff :heart:

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I definitely wouldn’t be okay with that. Especially because it’s most likely with out their permission.

If he’s doing that best believe there is more you should leave him he’s not into you sis

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I’d be mad at him saving the pics of his ex. The other girls he probably ain’t even gonna meet and uses the saved pics just like looking at girls in magazines. But the ex, heck no, he has history with her.

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Two words
Spank bank
Though saving pics of the ex is worrying

Saving pictures of his ex? Throw the whole man away…. Who knows what he uses those pictures for anyway Lol so ya cut your losses girl.

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That’s weird AF. I’d say bye

If you didn’t go threw his picture you wouldn’t be bothered by it js :woman_shrugging:

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Like all men? Umm not all men do that…This is awful and I am so sorry :frowning:

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I wouldn’t feel confident after that if my man did that

You’re not overreacting. He should respect how you feel about him doing that.

Looking is one thing but he crossed the line

First off NOT ‘ALL MEN’ Just the ones that don’t respect their relationship…

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Yeah babe not all men do that…. Just saying

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i dont think it’d bother me if my man ws doing that.
we all look, its hard not to these days. and its not like there’s anything really “naughty” on tiktok, soo it cant be that good.

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You ain’t doing your job right he’s gonna cheat

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Shouldn’t be staring at other women or saving pics…he should be looking at pics of you only…normal to look around but not saving pics or or using them to do the naughty!

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I dont understand the “all men” my boyfriend would never. That’s a big red flag. Tbh I’d leave personally before things get even more out of hand. :woman_shrugging: sounds like he doesn’t respect you at all and that’s BS. You deserve better.

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Yeah mine been doing same calls it wank bank

No, you aren’t overreacting. I think you have a problem. If he’s still looking at his ex… well, it’s time to have a chat. If you see the slightest hint that he’s not being honest with you. It’s time to go before you get hurt.

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Mine looks, is allowed… he doesn’t save… that’s weird when he can Google for new pics whenever :woman_shrugging:

Your gut will never lie!!

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Nope. Thinking with his dick instead of his heart. Later him, like in See ya Later

Honestly, saving them is the same as looking. He can just go to the same page over and over if he wanted to. But the ex thing is where it crosses a line for me. I’d be super mad.

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First of all NOT ALL MAN “like” others girls pics when married or in a relationship, REAL MAN respect their partners and it’s not because of the woman’s insecurities it’s the man respecting his partner.

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That’s not ok talk to him and see why he’s doing it
If he can’t give you a proper answer then you best do what you need to do for yourself because he will never change and will eventually cheat

Huge red flag. Is he a a nymphomaniac??

I have 1000’s of pics of Jason Mamoa… doesn’t make me a cheater does it? :smiley:

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Follow your gut girl. Advise can help but don’t listen so much to outside influences… I can say my gut would probably feel the same way you are.
Sending good vibes :heart:

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That’s not a good feeling you feel uneasy for a reason girl I’m not going to say anything else negative. Go with ur gut. I’m assuming you don’t take pictures of other guys and maybe you should start to show him how it feels or maybe he won’t care until just use that as an excuse to keep saving other girls pictures and then you have your answer he’s less committed than you. I hope it’s as innocent as he seems to think and says it is💚

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I could have written this myself :pensive: definitely makes one feel inadequate. Sorry you’re going through this too.

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Fuck him. Stay single. Be happy

Okay first, I hate hate hate it when some says you are overreacting when your feelings are 100% valid.
Second, I wouldn’t have liked it either for my man to be saving those photos but the ones of the ex especially is odd. I’m glad you expressed your feelings and he deleted them. Now if he still does it you will know he isn’t respecting your feelings and boundaries which is a definite red flag.

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Those of you writing not all men your absolutely right because everyone looks at some point at another individual and if you say no then your a liar but I do think he went a little to far by saving things. Maybe he didn’t know boundaries but he should of known.

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He’s a bf get rid of him

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Not all men do this.

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People normalize things like that b/c they don’t know how it is to get treated w/ respect in a relationship. This is 100% not okay.

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Like all men? We really need to stop only expecting the bare minimum :woman_facepalming:t3:

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Like all men? We really need to stop only expecting the bare minimum :woman_facepalming:t3:

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My wife would divorce me

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girl, read what you just wrote… and realize you already have the answer. get rid of that thang quick

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No , you’re not if u in a relationship boyfriend/girlfriend if it bothers you it should be deleted period

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I think its a Red :triangular_flag_on_post: flag

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Your feelings a 100% valid and he needs to know that!

I don’t believe looking is just looking. It starts with a look then they want more. The eyes are the gateway to the heart, if a man keeps looking at other women they capture his heart and it’ll weaken or break the bond between husband and wife. Gazing is a form of intimacy that should be kept between spouses.

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I would divorce / leave.

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My husband don’t look at girls or watch porn or anything. He don’t even have social media. :person_shrugging:

When men make you feel like you’re overreacting-it’s to take the blame off them. He knew what he did was wrong but he’s gonna make you feel guilty so he can feel less guilty about it. Either way. Dude is manipulating you and that’s a red flag overall.

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That’s not all men… just saying

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No fuck you weren’t over reacting. Start saving pics of other men see what he says. Guys are one sided as hell about that shit. He wouldn’t like you to do it :smirk:

My husband has never done this. You need someone who only has eyes for you. It is literally the best feeling ever. By saying you are overreacting he is dismissing your feelings and that is truly disrespectful. If he cared about you he would say “I am sorry that hurt you. I won’t do it again”. He doesn’t see anything wrong with his actions and that really IS a problem since you obviously do. If it matters to you, it matters. Your feelings are always valid.

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Mine never did this. Or does this. We’ve been together 30 years.
This is Not an every man thing. Apparently he’s not loyal or faithful. If he loved you he would not do this because he Loves you. No I’m not stupid or nieve. My brothers don’t do this nor my BIL’s. So I would let him go. Sorry. But, he’s looking around. Why?

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Not all men do that.

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The point of saving them is cuz he’s jerking off to them. Duh. It’s not weird or uncommon. If he’s doing that he needs more than you sexually.

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Your not over reacting that’s disrespecting you as his gf or wife especially his ex being one and saving the pictures I would flip out at mine if I caught him doing that and found other women on his phone or even tAlking or photos

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No you’re not. Saving pics/videos and even looking at other girls is cheating I don’t care what anyone says. It’s cheating!!! And by the way…that’s not all man. My husband doesn’t save any woman’s videos or pics on his phone.

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That’s a boy!! No men do that it’s a form of cheating and disrespect asf

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Thats really not right. I’d be gone.

Monkey spanking material

Talk to him about it if it bothers you. I could not care less if my husband has pics of other women, but I fully understand how it may be a problem for some. Communication is key.

No. The lust of the eye will eventually lead to want to touch and you get the rest

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Not all men do this lmaooo some respect their woman

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Just remember this. If he didn’t want to he wouldn’t. And him saying you’re over reacting this a red flag :triangular_flag_on_post:you are setting a boundary and he is trying to tell you your feelings aren’t valid. Not ok. There are guys out there who won’t do this and don’t feel the need to because you are enough. Leave before he ruins your self esteem!

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You are not overreacting at all

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No you aren’t overreacting that’s disrespectful af ask him if he would be ok with you saving videos and pics of your exes? I pro.ise he wouldnt be.

Ask him how he would feel if you were saving photos of shirtless men, including your ex on your phone. You gave him a boundary and he can either respect it or leave. He’s with you and if he wants a girl that’s not “overreacting”, then he can go find one.

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Hmm my bf doesn’t outta respect for me and he says when pll find their ’ person " they now lo get have eyes for anyone

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This is mad creepy :joy:

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I guess he saved them for his spank bank? But of his ex tho. That’s a lil sus

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No. You are right. I would have a problem with that. Maybe start doing the same with hot dudes. Bet he won’t like that.

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Plus…he’s probably thinking of someone else

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Start saving dicks pics and see how he reacts

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Get out now. They don’t change I went through this after 10 years of marriage

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YES you are. Where do you find the time do look thru all this stuff?
I am a woman and I save pics of guys (and lots of other beautiful things). As to ex or exs, I have all kinds of memorabilia and its just that memories.
ENJOY your current
relationship.

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Are you upset? Do t let him minimize your feelings or concerns. Tell him exactly what you said and make him explain- it’s not going to make any difference if he not listening to you. It’s probably for masturbation because guys like variety even if it’s not a real person- men are just odd.

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Kick him to the curb

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Nope, disrespectful especially with pics of ex

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The saving is a nope from me. If hes THAT bad off he needs to look at other women to have fun, he can go incognito, do his business and better not let me find anything. I wouldnt do it to him, so i dont expect it done to me…BUT lusting after others thats not your spouse is a sin regardless to me. Strict christian upbringing n all :person_shrugging:

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NO. If this is nothing…then the next thing will be, too. TRUST me. Do not waste your time. If he’s still looking you better get to looking also. He’s gonna steal your joy.

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