I’m wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and, if so, looking for advice or help with a solution. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost eight years. We had a child a few years ago, and since then my self-esteem has plummeted. In the last few years, I’ve noticed my boyfriend isn’t as affectionate as he uses to be. Cuddling, hand-holding, and even romantic kissing have declined. Basically, we pack each other on the lips, and that’s it. I’ve expressed insecurities with this, and he always claims he doesn’t know what I’m talking about. he doesn’t notice if I dress up, doesn’t call me beautiful, etc. I feel like I’m holding on to the past. I’ve tried being more affectionate to him, only to be turned down. Will, a man says he still loves you, thinks your beautiful etc but then not show you? What can I do.
My husband was acting like this…turns out he was cheating🤦
Feel better about yourself. You don’t need him to make you feel beautiful. Take the steps YOU need to feel better about yourself. Confidence is the sexiest quality on a person.
Send me some pictures I might be able to help you out
My husband was this way…and turned to video games. I could stand butt naked or sexy clothes an he would lean around me an look at tv/video game. Never touched me…slept on edge of the bed…found out he was cheating.
Don’t push for it. It’s the comfort zone of him knowing that you two are solid. It’s just how some men are wired. We like the courting stage to never end. Keep your chin up Beautiful!
Sounds like marriage
Men are their most affectionate when they are trying to “catch” you. Once they have you, they are secure in the relationship and the romance no longer becomes necessary (for them). You need to let him know what you want, and what you expect.
I’ve been with my husband going on 7 years. He acknowledges me every single day. Even if its just for 5 seconds. He routes for me every single day! If I dress up , I have to do the full circle spin for him and all. 
If your husband doesn’t care about solving your issues and working towards making you feel better then do it yourself. Get dressed up and go out with friends. Feel good and look good for you. But I feel like a man who isn’t on your side and helping you feel more confident isn’t really worth having.
Self love is the best kind of love… find that confidence and believe me he will notice. I would really be snooping a disconnect can mean many things.
Leave. It’s over. I’m sorry that’s blunt, but it’s the truth. He’s lying/in denial. I’ve been there myself. Stayed with my ex for 20 yrs, it shoulda been over with by year 6. It doesn’t get better,it get worse. The longer you stay, the more broken you will be. It’ll kill your soul.
I’m sorry hun
My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married for 10. He went through a period of time after I had our sons where he was very much like this. Nothing catastrophic was going on. He just got caught up in the exhaustion of being a dad and a husband. I brought it to his attention and told him I wasn’t feeling the love from him and it was making me feel like it was time to go. I kindly reminded him that words of affirmation is my top love language. He immediately adjusted. Now, I don’t go a single day without him complimenting me, telling me he loves me and how attractive he finds me. We’re expecting baby number 3 when 2 years ago, I was convinced it may be time to give up. We’ve never been in a happier or healthier place. 
Don’t whine, make yourself shine
My husband and I have been together 13 years and married 10. He ALWAYS tells me I am beautiful and still “chases” me. It sounds like he is in a funk or doesn’t care to meet your needs. Anything I tell my husband I need, he does or at least meets me in the middle. We both strive to please each other and make each other whole. I would try one more time to really have a serious talk about how you feel and what you need from him. If he doesn’t listen, I would do self love, go out with friends, dress up and consider leaving him
Same boat right here hun.
Try and do the “love language activity” with him. You can find free love language tests online. I find it’s an amazing way to open communication and understand each others love language. It is just as important to understand his as it is for him to understand yours, you might just be misreading what he’s capable of giving you. Give it a try.
Relatioships have a tendency of becoming “comfortable.” Communication is key. Everyone has their own type of love language or multiple. Yours may be different than his. It’s important to let your significant other know what you need.
I’ve had 3 children with my fiancé I’ve been with for 8 years and 2 are twins I had five months ago and he does nothing but boost my confidence when I feel I don’t look beautiful especially with my body after carrying our twins. He’s extremely affectionate and I have to sometimes stop him and say shhhh or enough because the kiddos. He should be there and be lifting you up. Also consider he could be going through something personal and he isn’t intentionally directing it at you. Attack it from both angles ask him what’s on his mind or how you can help… and tell him again how he can help you if that doesn’t work seek counseling and if you still no improvement you may need to reconsider your marriage especially if he isn’t willing to put in the work for you!
You have to have a good talk with him. Tell him what you need to feel loved. Don’t hint, don’t be shy about it. You have to be extremely blunt and leave absolutely nothing out.
I have to admit, I’ve been on the other side of this. I was so busy with work, kids, managing two hockey teams that my poor husband had to sit me down and tell me that I am not affectionate anymore. I honestly didn’t even realize it until he spelled it out and told me what he was missing from me. We still had sex at least 3 times a week but it was the affection he was missing.
Sometimes, I still have times where I get busy with life and remind myself to take those extra few minutes a day to connect with him properly. It has made a huge difference.
I don’t understand the sarcastic or laugh reacts for an eight year relationship. If this person said they were married they would be getting a totally different response, I think.
Eight years is long enough to notice a difference in behavior. Some of it might be natural, though… the longer you are together the less you feel the need to take advantage of every second to express yourself. That doesn’t necessarily mean the love isn’t still there.
If you are very worried that you are losing your attraction to each other, maybe couples counseling could help?
I’ve been with my husband 12 yrs, romantic kissing really only happens when we are actually having or leading up to sex. We do t make out for the hell of it. My husband is not a hand holder, yeah we lounge around and snuggle when we watch movies but that’s about it unless we are in bed. This is a natural thing that happens in all relationships at some point.
He still smacks my butt or hugs me from behind in the kitchen but then he pecks me on the cheek and is on about his business.
I’ve been with my husband 16 years. My husband doesn’t leave without kissing me. He feeds me, holds me, keeps me warm, holds my hand, tells me he loves me, tells me I’m beautiful, grabs my butt at any given moment, all the forehead kisses, he fills up my car when he drives it, he is my biggest supporter! I say all that to say this!!! Our kids are 7 and 12!! About 2-3 years ago he came home and said he was going to make a change. Our marriage was NOT where it needed to be and we did NOT put each other first! A husband leads the relationship, a wife acts according to her husband’s actions and follows his lead! (A good wife anyway) HE had to make the decision to make us better!
Just remember you can get a dick and a paycheck anywhere! Your husband is supposed to be your best friend!! After the kids are grown it will just be the two of you! Are you gonna be happy or miserable?
Me and my partner went through a rough patch like this you need to put your foot down and tell him you want more physical attention you want those cuddles etc or your just gonna be miserable and leave , also I do believe you have to have confidence in yourself in order to feel loved gotta love yourself first buy some new underwear do it hair makeup and flaunt that sh*t they also like it when your unexpected so spice things up maybe X
I’d suggest relationship counseling.
12 years and 4 kids later for my partner and myself, I hear almost daily that I am beautiful or sexy from my partner. We kiss, hug hold hands wherever we are. It sounds like you both need to have a proper talk about this. I fully understand insecurities after having kids, it is something that changes a woman and your man should be made aware of how you feel, not just ignore what you’re feeling but help improve the relationship. Communication is the key.
Give him a BJ randomly.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years now (so long that “boyfriend” sounds weird but “husband” is just so not the right term either but ANYWAYS…) and we aren’t that affectionate with each other🤷🏽♀️ I just had our baby eight months ago and my self confidence is in the tank too. We don’t hold hands or PDA or anything like that but we never really have. But it works for us. He has other ways of showing me he loves me. Like surprising me with a table cloth and potted flower he got me from his late night Walmart trip, just because he knows I like them. Some guys just aren’t hard wired for affection but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you
Learn each others love language
Share what your love language are and give examples
Go on dates and make more time for eachother
Sounds like your relationship has hit a stalemate. Find a baby sitter cook him a romantic candlelit dinner and be his dessert. His response will tell you all you need to know
Pay attention to what he DOES-not what he SAYS.
You deserve to be loved how you want to. You should not settle for a peck on the cheek. That’s not a lover. That’s a roommate
Lord I’ve been in loveless marriage for several yrs now. It doesn’t get any better , but it could be worse
My boyfriend goes threw these phases. It sucks big time! We have fought about it many times!
I just go with it and eventually it passes!
If I want it fixed sooner, when he is stoned he is more open to conversation and it the only time we can talk deeply without a blow up with what each is saying
That’s marriage/long relationship unfortunately
Yo my marriage is the same way only the roles are reversed 
Relationship have ups and downs, highs and lows. Really try to express your self and plan dates for just you 2.
Maybe complaining about it is a turn off for him? Try flirting with him. Grab his ass, hug him from behind, tell him that he looks handsom. I always greet my husband as handsome. He might reject it at first but keep doing it. Once he feels loved maybe he’ll start showing it too.
My marriage is going through this immensely right now.
I don’t feel wanted, loved, or recognized anymore.
I just feel like he’s dad and I’m mom. He said he’s not affectionate anymore because he doesn’t feel respected or treated like a man and if I didn’t have our baby on my chest all day every day then maybe he’d try more.
It HURTS. We haven’t even slept in the same bed in over 4 months…
I’m so lonely that I go hide to cry almost daily. I just want to feel loved… Like I matter. Like all of my Mommy duties is ATTRACTIVE to him.
I don’t have any advice honey… I just wanted to let you know that I understand completely.
A sexual is something to look into…
I feel this so much me and husband been together for 9 years and we constantly fight about the affection and not having any romance I feel its cause we have been together for so long that we lost sight of the reason we actually got together u just feel like your two people living in the same house I’m sorry your going through this but your not the only one hope it gets better
Talks cheap. Actions speak volumes
My bf doesn’t kiss romantically either, it bothered me for a long time, but I eventually got over it. Thats just not who he is, but for me its not a deal breaker. If it really bothers you, maybe he isn’t the one. I think there’s things in relationship that are give and take in regards to what your willing to give up or deal with.
No way, been together 17 years and married for 13. He still calls me sexy and hits me on the butt, kisses me and vice versa…Gotta keep the spark alive! We purposely gross our teenage boys out by how much affection we show each other … 
I know it’s hard sometimes with kids and busy lives but try just telling him how you feel or start doing those things yourself and see how that goes…
Check his phone history. I went through this for years with my ex. I found out he was getting attention somewhere else.
Sounds like my ex. Stopped like a light switched just turned off. It won’t get any better.
If it means this much to you, let him know. Figure out if this is a deal breaker for you. Communication is key and if he is unwilling to change then maybe it’s time to leave.
Everyone’s love language is different. I’m not an overly affectionate person but my husband is. We work on it. Meet in the middle. If this truly bothers you, open up to your SO and communicate your needs. Get his perspective. Then figure out what each can do to meet the others needs. Sending you lots of prayers and hugs 
I’ve just realized I’m asexual. Read up on it…it might help
These comments make me so sad. Loveless relationships are so normalized and we’re just told to give it time… it’s just not right. Y’all should not have to stay with men who don’t want to show you affection. If you’re feeling this awful about your relationship it’s time to start thinking about packing up and moving on. After the spark fades for somebody it’s usually gone. They never get better. If you’ve already brought this up numerous times and still gotten nothing, stop talking about it and do something about it. Either tell him that something needs to change or you’re out 
your love language is important and your partner should never feel like they don’t still need to work for your love even after years. If he’s already acting like nothings wrong then chances are he just doesn’t care enough. The only thing you can do is either deal with it or move on. A relit cigarette never tastes the same.
You are his woman and the mother of his child, if he can’t make you feel loved and secured in your role, especially after you’ve expressed to him your feelings, maybe he’s not the one you want by your side
Work on yourself, getting your self esteem back and learn your worth. I think you’ll find if affection is what you want, then you deserve better.
It honestly sounds like maybe he is dealing with some depression of his own? I find myself pulling away from affection when I am depressed. It could last months, even years.
He’s likely getting it (and giving it) somewhere else… it’s time to part ways.
I’d talk with him about it before making any decisions from talking to us. The problem lies between you two. But if your willing to talk to him and be open and honest about how your feeling and see how he handles it from there. Best wishes.
I feel this extremely. My fiance and I have been together 11 years and this was one of our biggest arguements. If definitely effects my self esteem and mental state. I’m trying to be more understanding that everyone loves different but it’s really hard =( I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. I hope things get better for you.
Honestly, any time I’ve ever experienced this in a relationship it was due to him getting attention elsewhere. Not saying that is the case for your situation just saying my experience. Try and if it is rejected then I would probably move on…
Maybe he’s dealing with something. Plus everyone’s love language is different, and can change as the years go by. Think of all the things he does for you in ways that aren’t affectionate. If you can name a few, he still loves you.
Been with my guy for almost 20 years…what this means is the honeymoon stage is over. Kissing and hugging and touching all the time for years makes it unexciting anymore. He can love you with all his heart but once the thrill of being inlove declines the desire of it declines also. It’s Normal and why divorce rate is so high. People want the inlove desires to last a life time but it never will. Also maybe how you feel about you isn’t attractive to him anymore. Get your self confidence back and see what happens
hope all is well , i love you honey . wish the best for you , and your family . hang in there . things have a way , of working it self out . i wants youns to be happy
Emotional abuse is what it is becoming. You’ll get real tired of it. Do what you need to do to feel attractive. For yourself. There’s no use trying with him.
Ok… I’ll be the odd one here. You guys have been together 8 years. He’s comfortable. You need to tell him flat out that you need more affection, you feel like the spark is going/gone.
Just because he isn’t affectionate does not mean he is cheating or looking or whatever else has been said here. It happens. It’s oddly common in longer relationships.
Make an effort on your part and tell him what you need in return. Men are dense.
Could it be he is giving his attention to someone else? In my experience when a man shows no interest in you anymore it means he is interested in someone else… Me and my husband have been together for almost 6 yrs and we have always been super affectionate towards each other even after having our 2 girls.
You really need to communicate your feelings to him. He might not even realize that things have changed in your eyes. I’ve been with my husband for 31 years and sometimes things I think are obvious aren’t to him. It’s normal for things to simmer down when everyone is comfortable after you’ve been together for a while.
He may not be cheating but you are cheating yourself out of the type of relationship that you deserve
after awhile romance will die down a little, but it doesnt mean it has to stop completely… but dont torture yourself wondering if you are good enough. if hes not giving you what you need its cause he’s putting his attention on someone else. call him out on it. he’ll probably have some lame sob story to “win” you back or sympathize. i dont understand how you can say you love someone without showing any type of affection. whack. 
My man was like this but than we talked about it and he didnt know it was such a big thing for me. So maybe just talk to him about it before jumping to conclusions
Love gets very comfortable as a relationship ages…step back a bit…dont initiate…be busy doing other things…see if he comes to you
When this happened with me and my fiancé, I realized that I needed to focus more on myself rather than us. If you are unhappy, find something that makes you happy and do it. Figure out who you are and what you love. Self love and confidence is sexy. I would say focus on you and see if the romance gets better.
Some men were never shown affection or love as a child and as grown men dont really know how to show those feelings my man has never been overly affectionate the first year of us dating he was more so but I feel like all men put more effort in the beginning then once they feel secure in the relationship they revert back to what’s normal for them which is less affection my man is 10 years older than me and was raised where if your a man you dont show emotions and affection his father was a very hard man and they were disciplined harshly to the point where even as a young boy having strong emotions was considered a weakness and he wasn’t even allowed to cry never got shown affection from his parents even his father wouldn’t let his mother “coddle” or comfort him… its sad and a challenge making him understand how messed up and wrong that was and that we r not raising r kids the way he was raised I kiss my kids little boo boos and comfort them all the time and explain to my man how it’s sad his mom didnt do the same for him and that it’s not weakness it’s how it’s supposed to b he does try to work on things he has definitely gotten a little better with showing more tenderness to our children and isn’t as hard as he used to be but he only gives me the traditional peck on the lips before he leaves for work and when he gets home he is not into tongue kissing and says he isn’t a teenager having a make out session that he is 45 years old and this is how he is so really it comes down to you and if your ok with it or not I had to get out of my chest about it cus it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with him and how he was raised
I think most relationships go through this. Alot of people get “used” to always having someone around so they don’t be as affectionate as they used to be. My man and I are like that too and we’ve been together for 8 years too. But for me, I know what I have to offer so it doesn’t affect me to much and I do the same thing to him too. As long as we still enjoy each other’s company that’s all that matters along with loyalty and compassion. I used to feel the same way and we’ve had a rocky past too but just become more loving to yourself and the rest will be revealed to you.
I hate to say this, and I hope people don’t think I am being mean because I have experienced it.
He may not find you as attractive as before. Some people change how they see you after a baby. Some men love it and others don’t.
It’s happened to me. I gained weight and no matter what I did. He did not look at me the same. It fucked me up pretty bad mentally. Yes I lost weight, he liked it but I didnt like that I sacrificed my mental health to the point it made me depressed.
Fuck that.
Make sure those decisions come from you because he should love you both ways
Sorry sweetheart, but your love of self and happiness has to come from you first. He needs to be supportive of you. But you can’t look to him for your self esteem… relationships go through stages and over time it matures and gets comfortable and you have to learn how to be with each other through those changes, but it’s not going to always be the same. Work on you and if he doesn’t come around when you’re able to make yourself happy, then he’s not the one for you.
Whens the last time you guys have had a date night?
Things get so stressful in our house but we always try to set 1 night aside for just me and him…
Ask him if he is seeing someone else… im sure you know him well enough to know if he is lying.
Let’s just say…I have been with my fiancé for almost 8 years…our bond is stronger now than it’s ever been. I still get excited when he comes home from work (if I’m off that day) and I still get butterflies. We literally are always touching each other one way or another. Even if it’s just in passing. Stop settling for less and find someone who is gonna appreciate you and love you like you deserve…
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Unfortunately after being in a relationship for awhile some people just become so comfortable and used to it they don’t think they have to do those things anymore. Maybe start giving him random hugs and kisses and see if he does too
I feel this way so much i has a baby 2 yrs ago and then pademic and ppd hit i gained weight i have 2 beg for months for him to have sex with me he doesnt do anything loving anymore he turned ue now calls me names puts me down and when i talk to him about how not one day out of the yr he hasnt been mean he says i was nice on ur moms death anniversary he thinks he was joking but it hurt
Leave. I broke up with a boyfriend cause he wasn’t effectionate. He said he wasn’t brought up that way.
Love language test maybe and marriage counseling
This has been the case for every relationship I’ve been in, despite how much they claim to love you and need you and say you are beautiful. It’s a Mars/Venus thing. Men seem to woo you at the beginning, then feel secure that they have you, and don’t feel as much need to use affection to show you. They feel their loyalty is enough. Women on the other hand are very emotionally connected to everything and continue to need that constant reminder that they are beautiful, desired and worth making out with like old days. I would not take it as a lack of love on his part unless he is being unloving in the other ways he is acting, such as disrespecting you as a person or not being true to his word anymore. I wish men understood this about women, that we need affection to continue, not fade off. But remember that men are less emotionally attached to every move, and they don’t overanalyze as much as women tend to do. They are simple creatures. Man has woman, man loves woman. It may not be anything to doubt your relationship over, in the end.
If he isn’t willing to give the affection you’re asking for then you need to decide what to do next. Is this the relationship you desire?
I’ve literally been beating myself down over this exact same thing for a long time now. It’s our main argument. I’m to the point where I don’t hardly talk anymore and I keep everything to myself. Yeah it hurts me more because I prefer to communicate but communication never works. I just had a baby girl December 2019 but already had a boy in 2017.
My fiancé and I have a 4 1/2 year old son together. Before and during the pregnancy were great, romantic, honeymoon phase-ish if you will. But after the birth of our son I had PPD SUPER bad so that caused some issues and I still have struggles to this day. But I’ve found that the love was never lost it had just changed into a new different love of 2 extremely tired and over worked parents. We did counseling’s together and separate which helped us come back to each other with this new love. Relationships evolve and change constantly. That’s why clear communication and “I feel” statements are so very important. Maybe try to get a vision from his point of view. Especially if it changed after you had a child/Ren. Children can change things (more responsibility and more energy, etc). I feel like there’s still some hope to be had with your relationship. If you need to talk or want to hear my full story feel free to message me at anytime. I hope everything works out for the best for you all.
I’ve been with my fiance 3 years, just had a baby 7 months ago and I’m the one that’s less affectionate. I love him so much. He’s my world him and our baby. Lately I’ve been going through some inner growth and I feel out of sorts. But I feel no differently towards him, if anything I love him more. But I’m not as romantic or physical as I once was. Maybe your significant other is going through something similar. Maybe he needs time to bounce back. Speaking from the other side
Some guys are just that way.
Yes I’m going through the same thing. Been 9 years together still unmarried… and we have a daughter who just turned 8. Anyway… we were very young when we first got together. I was 17. Ever since I had my daughter he’s treated me differently. I know he still loves me, he’s just the typical guy that doesn’t want to show much emotion. Now as in treating me differently I mean… doing all the things he use to do before I had the baby. Why can’t you still do those things like compliments and what not? Right? So I feel you. We haven’t been communicating good lately but I’m trying. I feel like communication is the best thing for it. I’m loyal and faithful but I have cut everyone off for this relationship and it has me begging for attention but from him so it’s just so difficult right now. I’m not a skank or anything like that. I hope someone understands how it is. I say we communicate the best we can and if we’ve been asking for long enough for things to change and he can’t do it then I guess we got to move on. Honestly…
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I am going thru the same thing my fiance and I have been together almost 2 years and we had a child 3 months ago, I noticed it while I was pregnant. I just go about my day I know he loves me he just shows it in his own little way.
girl you just have to move onnnnnnn. I know it’s hard because y’all have a kid and everything but it will just get worse. It will come down to cheating. I was in the SAME boat as you. For 6 years I put up with it. He changed. His personality changed. He started talking to me less. Come to find out he was going out at night when I left his house and “hanging” out. I let it go as if I didn’t care anymore and I started paying more attention and finally caught on. He was cheating behind my back. Literally broke my inside but I broke it off before he could leave me cause he would put all the blame on me. I waited 6 years for a ring but he always told me he wasn’t ready. Now he’s engaged to that other girl. She got what I waited 6 years for in just like a year. But it was worth it. Now I’m engaged and have a little healthy baby girl
Im going through the same thing. I have a great life knowing hubby still loves me but we have no sex life and prefer it that way
I am going through the same thing. I feel so unwanted and ugly because if it. I also feel lonely. My insecurities have also crept back up.
I literally just broke up with my boyfriend for that reason alone. I will not beg anyone to love me or show me love.
I’m having the same issue but my youngest is 7 but no love maybe 1 a month but that’s all he always tells me no or pushes me away I have put on a lot of weight since my youngest but I’m tired 2 I have 8 kids n 2 grandbabies but it’s been a mission n lot of work
Y’all need to have a good sit down and talk about it, couples counseling can help. My husband shows his love through acts of service but I’m definitely more of the cuddles and hand holding type. It’s important that y’all express what you need and revisit every so often. Life happens and sometimes one or the other slacks, or gets complacent, or your needs change. Relationships require maintenance, and they require sit downs so you know what needs fixing, what needs a complete overhaul and what needs a simple clean up or shine. You know your SO best, make it clear to him that this is an important conversation y’all need to have.
Communication is the key.
I feel you girl. You just described my marriage relationship to the T!!!
I have a 2 year-old with my guy and ever since I got pregnant he loves me more (clearly to feel her kick) he cuddles me when asked (he always has) and even in his sleep hes got be locked in a cuddle. I would try to talk to him and tell him what you need. My man doesn’t always tell me I’m beautiful but when my anxiety is turned on high hea there reassuring me. This took work. Like 3 years of it and its still a process now and we’ve been together for 4 years. I would work on it with him especially if y’all got a kid together. Love doesn’t come easy but with the right person it’s worth it.
I have the same exact scenario happened to me with my husband of 11 years. and now he’s my ex-husband. he cheated on me three times… Honestly I think it’s a sign that they’re not attracted to you in that way.
This may be the unpopular answer, but I’m in your shoes too. My fiancé and I have two boys (4 and almost 3) and we both felt like things sizzled out. Then we both had an “uncomfortable” talk about how we both felt… both feeling insecure with our relationship and not being so affectionate. Once we had that conversation, we both recognized and became attentive to each other’s wants and needs. Just food for tonight. Best wishes girl!
I absolutely feel this 100% were on our 3rd baby in 3.5 years and after my son it was great then after my 2nd baby it was good then she passed away and it hasn’t been the same since. He was looking up his ex girl friend on fb right after my daughter passed away. I was unsure if I could pregnant again because my period never returned and 3 months later I landed pregnant but it must have been a miracle because he barley touched me. He still barley touches me. I know if things don’t change soon enough I’ll drift away. I try to tell him but he never seems to care. Sometimes some people just can’t make it work no matter how hard they try. & you have to know when to let go and when to hold on. I feel sad because we have a beautiful family together and I love him so much but I don’t think he cares for me the way ill ever want him to. I know he loves me. it’s hard to explain. it’s just not same anymore when he used to tell me I was the best thing that ever happened to him and he loved me more then anything. I need to hear these things and be showed these things and not every man can continue to keep this love alive. & when it dies you start to drift away and once you drift away it’s over.