Imagine the person (single) you love most asking you these questions. What would you tell them to do? Hint: dude’s a LOSER! no man in his late 30s should be living with his parents and not have money. Pressuring you into marriage after a month of dating and openly disrespecting you for wanting to wait.
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I was stupid and a 30 yr old man told me everything I wanted to hear and me being divorced and hadn’t really been with a man that treated me so good. He lived with his mom and uncle and worked for the family company and I found out later he had kids and had a warrant out for his arrest for strangulation to his ex and the list went on after I investigated . Red flags was there and I was blinded , he did use me and is running from the law now and probably using another woman . He also gave me a fake last name.
One thing he didn’t get from me was money , he tried so hard to get me to sale my part of land I had and truthfully I believe God helped with that . Cause I am fixing to be blessed and that guy want be in my life to slither his way to take the blessings I am finally going to be awarded . I worked hard to let any man use me are steal from me . I have a wall up and a man will have to prove his self to get me to let my wall down for love again …
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Stick to your gut feeling
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Sounds like a manipulative control freak. I would run the other way and find somebody who cares about the things you want.
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He sounds very needy,
Take your time to get to know each other before you make a commitment
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All I gotta say is it’s been a month. Tell him either wait or find someone else
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Don’t do anything that you really don’t want to do.
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You don’t sound very happy and you two are definitely not on the same page. You would be the lucky one to let this one get away.
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Take things slowly…l think you already feel pressured
I’d drop him and find a new guy one that is more like you. It seems to me like he’s trying to use you to get somewhere in this world.
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Ok, I only got through the first few sentences and you were describing what happened to me 14 years ago and it was the biggest mistake of my life. I have been paying for it ever since with my child stuck in the middle with a narcissistic alcoholic. Please and I say this with every fiber of my being and my soul for you to run, run as fast as you can and never look back. If a man is in love with you and wants to marry you always make him come to you where you have a support system. I really hope you listen, I didn’t and now my daughter is also paying the price for my mistake.
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Drop him! You haven’t been a couple long enough to fall in love much less get married. He’s trying to lure you in.
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Yeah that’s wayyyyyyy too much. Personally, I’d probably ghost him. This is not the one, stop wasting your time and move along
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Run away from this guy as far as you can!!!
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Girl you know what to do!!! RUN as fast as you can!!!RUN RUN RUN and keep on running!!!
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He is not the right man. The right man wont pressure you like that. Seems like hes waaay to pushy. Tell him to find someone else if he wants kids that fast
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leave now. I promise there’s someone wayyyy better for you.
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Can’t he move to your town?
Run. This one sounds like he is coming to the end of a “5 year plan” and just wants check the boxes on his list. Gross. Run far away.
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He’s being pushy… don’t give in…do you,I don’t think he’s going to hang around long enough to accomplish those things you have ask of him… You didn’t mention why he’s living with his parents at his age…???
He seems immature for his age, no wonder he still live with his parents, no car and work for them. you love him teach him to be an adult first, make him understand rasing kids is not easy when both of you got little to offer it’s not good idea, grow together make money together buy house or rent house make him try to pay bills with you together in this you’ll know how he is in comes with money, do not ever live with in laws no matters how nice they are, their house their rules and your move will be limited and everyone will meddle in both of your decisions.
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I don’t know how much bigger and brighter those red flags can get. This is him trying to control you then gas lighting you. “RUN! run away Simba and never return!” Only time I thinkScar is correct
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No need to pressure you into moving, let alone to get married. He is so far from being ready. You are your own person and have your own dreams! Don’t bend to him.
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Too many red flags. You need to tell him it’s not working out and leave the situation before it’s too late.
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Ya I agree run like hell and don’t look back because all he’s going to do is keep pressuring you until he eventually gets what he wants so run run run
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Don’t ever stop your dreams period. They are not worth it.
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Sweetie you know the answer …follow your gut instinct, what’s meant to be will be 
Run. He has got enough red flags to be a carnival. Just save yourself the time and stress and cut ties now. It has been a month. Common!
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Things been to change alot first or u will hate
Find someone else. Hes very unreasonable and rude. Marriage is something TWO people decide after getting to know each other. Not jumping into and kids OMG that’s for sure aTWO PERSON THING.
NO LADY RUN. Don t waste you re time
Some of these are just so outrageous like how can you ask some strangers this with a straight face 
One month… he’s not the one hun. The one will support your dreams and cheer you on. Glow don’t worry about him. Better move on before you get more feelings.
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Run! Don’t see him again!
After only a month and he’s pressuring you to move towns and marry him- that’s waaay to quick I suggest that you get out now cos things will only get worse x
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Huh uh girla, he hit a bonus with you and wants to trap you and then hand all hus burdens over to you. Leave this mampara
Well a month isn’t long enough to really know each other to me if he wants to marry you its a form of control I’d not want to marry someone like that
Kids after 1 month talk. Lol. And he is cheap… pass… he should be engaging you with a beautiful ring when asking for your hand in marriage. Seems he wants a breeder. Tell him time to see other people
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Well, that just fortells your future with him. Dont do it!
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Cut ties now! Get out before it’s too late.
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Omg run I couldn’t even finish reading this 
tighten up them laces don’t move to his town 
Dating a month ago….RUN GIRL!
Red flags…he’s a narcissist. RUN
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After only a month and he isn’t stable…sounds like he is desperate for a sugar mama.
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You better Nope Nope Nope yourself right outta there!
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I have found counselling with a counsellor I am comfortable with or I get through word of mouth to be a big help.
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Girl don’t. He wants your success
Huge red flags hope you really consider these comments
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Girl run!! Never be with someone who doesn’t respect you.
Ya. That’s manipulation. I mean my ex. Would tell me if I left him. He kill himself. I mean ya I was scared to leave him. I wanted to. But like you. I felt pressured as I had no choice but to stay. But then when I was tried I told him I didn’t want to be with him. As much as he told me he kill himself. I ignored that. And call the cops. All I could do was put a restraining order on him. Mind you we only dated for like 2 years. But when I wanted to leave him. He asked me to marry him. I just couldn’t. Cuz of all his jealousy.
If you feel pressured to get married it won’t last so just cut your losses
Please don,t do it. He is 30 and doesn,t own a car or house. DISCONNECT WITH HIM ASAP.
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Nope !!! Just… NOPE !! DO NOT … I repeat… do not move in with him… ( and his parents ??) At least until he has a job, car, place of his own and a glimmer of growing up. He sounds like a spoiled brat. Concentrate on YOUR business and if it’s right, it will still be right next year.
his parents will eventually die he is looking for his next home and care taker.
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You have known for a month? I stopped reading after that. This is red flags to me I would definitely pass and leave.
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F*CKING RUN!!! No question! He will steal your dreams! Don’t do it!!! Do you Boo!!! And don’t feel bad about it! You should never feel pressured to get married or have a baby, that is not love. I hope you get out. Don’t let him try to manipulate you any longer. Sending you strength and prayers 
I feel like this is a troll post because for a smart as you sound why are you even questioning whether you should be staying with this person or not? Fkng RUN don’t walk from that man. 
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First off, don’t let anyone pressure you to doing something you don’t. If you’re not ready then you’re not ready. Yes age play into pregnancy and risks so that it is something to consider but to me a month is tooooo soon! I feel like he is trying to get a sugar mama or something. I would let him know you’re not ready to get married, move in with him, nor have a baby. If he doesn’t like that, then tell him its over. As for moving in with him, too soon as well. If the day comes y’all do then let him know you don’t want to move there. Be firm and stand by your word.
Don’t get married, stay single enjoy your life.
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Girl get the hell outa this “relationship” !! It WILL only get worse once you’re living with him.
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run in the other direction, these are all red flags. You will find someone who wont push you an respect your boundaries
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This is a hobosexual. A person that starts a relationships with somebody to have a roof over their head and stability. So you’re going to be the adult with a job and car and responsibility. And I hate to put this bluntly but you don’t screw your mama. If he is pressuring you after only a month to get married start having a family run!
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I would leave him, the right man will come along sounds like it’s all what he wants not what you want.
A relationship is about both people, just follow your heart and soul, don’t get sucked in by him.
Be yourself live your life, then like I said the right person, will come along, and cam turn round and say am glad I waited.
Block this bully and live your life.
He’s a boundary breaker.
If he’s pressuring you to do huge things like marriage and babies after only a month he will probably be pressuring you to do anything and everything for the rest of your life. Is there something you have that he wants? He sounds very entitled, wanting you to move to him, etc probably wants you to live with his parents and dull your existence to revolve around his needs. Cooking, cleaning and baby making, all while working part time to supplement his low income.
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Girl keep your dream keep you he won’t be able to have a relationship that doesn’t go his way so keep doing your life and let him fit with you not the other way
Dont do it. You have only know him a month and hes already getting frustrated with you? Girl you need to Run and run Fast!
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Give this one a miss. There are many more out there to choose from.
You need to haul butt. You will end up being held back and being the bread winner.Think of yourself Your business .He sounds like he is looking for somebody to support him and the heck with there Goals .be smart haul ass…
Lots of red flags. For sure its not for love. Run
Sounds like you already gained a child there.
If he’s like this after a month I dread to see what being married to him would be like
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I’m gonna translate your post back to you, except this is going to be the real version of him instead of what he’s telling you.
“Hi! I’m divorced because I refuse to grow up and be an adult. I live at home with my parents and don’t have a car nor any money, because I don’t even have a real job. I just said I worked for my parents because that sounds better than the truth, which is I refuse to get a job, but I say “work for my parents” because they have the audacity to expect me to pick up my own dirty laundry and clean up after myself and take out the trash and other chores because I live here rent free and have made no effort to change this. I don’t have any hopes or dreams to change this either unless I can manipulate some gullible and naïve woman that I think is desperate enough to jump at the idea of marriage and kids, but mostly because I’m sick and tired of my parents telling me I need to grow up and get a job and be an adult. So what I’m gonna need you to do is fall for my bs, or else my plan of using you won’t work. If you don’t immediately jump, I’m going to use anger as a manipulation tactic to try to wear you down because I don’t think you have any sort of boundaries and I don’t respect you. Hell, I don’t even respect myself enough to grow up and try to do better for my own self. That’s why my marriage failed, but now that I know you’ve been single for so long but are successful and working hard and have hopes and dreams, I see an easy target and I need someone else to mooch off of, because my parents are really cramping my leeching lifestyle. You sound like the perfect victim to make my plan work. So, are you in or not? Oh that doesn’t sound good, well then, I’m going to make you feel bad for not wanting to take care of me like I’m a helpless infant. The audacity of you to have goals and dreams and to be working on them instead of doing for me really pisses me off. I hope you feel bad. I mean don’t you really want a marriage and child, so you have to do it all while I do nothing to contribute to this fantasy I have where I get to take it easy and you do all the work? Honestly, I think you’re desperate, maybe even stupid enough, to fall for this. I really hope it works… for me, but I don’t really care what you want or what might make you happy, because I’m putting in as little effort as possible, but it’s hard work to get other women to fall for me when they find out I’m still living at home with my parents and don’t have a real job nor even a car. I mean I have absolutely nothing to offer except being a burden and abusing you emotionally, so what do you say? You in or should I continue looking for someone else since you’re not feeling comfortable with all this?”
Seriously, that’s all I took away from this. Please think about what you’d tell a friend or anyone who came to you for advice on this exact same issue. You’d tell them to run like their hair was on fire, so that’s what you need to do. Tell him you’re not on the same page in life, never mind you’re not even in the same book in life. He’s a walking talking pile of red flags. You seriously need to cut this dude off and block him in every way you can. This won’t end well if you don’t. It’s only been a month and you’ve only seen him twice. You didn’t say he was coming to visit you, and likely can’t since he doesn’t even have a car unless he’s borrowing his parents car, and that alone speaks volumes if you’re having to make all the effort and spend money to travel to see him. Trust me, no self respecting person who really sees a future with someone would try to start off any relationship and jump to marriage and kids without having something to show or offer or some sort of plan. He’s not even trying and it’s shows. That’s exactly why he’s divorced too. She realized she married a bum and divorced him. You’d be wise to be done with him all the same. By the way, expect him to get much worse too. This was just a tiny taste of what’s in store, and the worst part is, this is the stage they call the honeymoon phase, where when you’re dating someone you’re putting your best foot forward to try to impress the other person. There’s absolutely nothing impressive about anything with him according to the details you’ve shared. You better run before he tries to trap you. It’s free to run right now. Marry him and try to divorce him, and guaranteed he’ll take as much as he can from you, including your business and the profits. RUN!
Run… he is toxic… u will not be happy with that man.
Run and fast! It’s OK to talk about what you want in the future(marriage, kids etc) but to want it straight away after a month is a bit weird…you barely know each other. Me and my partner spoke about serious stuff b4 we even met lol but are sensible and have children to consider,jobs etc. It all sounds a bit rushed to me,I’d be very careful x
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Yall have been seeing each other for a month and you already can’t agree on major life decisions such as marriage, kids, where to live and money?! I’d move on. If you guys can’t agree on atleast one of those I don’t see how this would work
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Nooo thanks to that one
You have a good head on your shoulders. You know what you want. Stick to it. Don’t let him pressure or manipulate you.
He’s unable to take care of himself. Doesn’t seem to have any life goals. He wants control over you. Children gives him some control over you until they’re 18. He doesn’t care about you, your dreams, your life. All he cares about is himself & that control. I’d dump him. Find someone who shares your goals for a good life. Don’t let this man bring you down.
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Late 30s and living with mummy and daddy - hardly marriage material is he…
My lreason is look after No1 first then you can look after No2-3-4 after No1 as finished building No1…
The fact your starting a business which I wish you good luck - It means your on the road to independence… Your late 30s go and find a, real man whom as is crap together… As for the celibacy tbh your going to find it hard to find a man who is willing to wait… I wouldn’t pursue a women whom is not offering the goods due to the fact that’s where most of the strong bonding is formed…
So stay celibate and build your business also take yourself out of the dating game to limit distractions. I did the celibacy bit built-a business… Now I am a sought after chappie… I also have the strong character to refuse women’s advances if I think we are not suited…
Like Oprah Winfrey would say, put on ur best sneakers and run. Anything manipulating, controlling and demanding is a red flag!!
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Too many red flags for what u wrote and I’m sure there more info u have just didn’t give run and tun fast far away
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Why is he divorced, I wonder and with his parents? Try asking him to find a job and home near to where you live and see his reaction. If he gets an ‘attitude’, then consider moving on. Don’t give up your life for somebody you hardly know, who has this attitude.x
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Late 30’s and living with his parents ?
That’s not the issue but is he financially stable ? He seems to be looking for a girl who’s stable already .
Run .
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Do people make these up
Or are they this clueless
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I think he’s going a bit fast. He wanted to move in together and I think he offered marriage because you said you couldn’t live with him or have sex without marriage. Ironically his words are the same as my husband used after a month. I told him no and that he was crazy, although I did say yes the second time he asked and we’ve been married over twenty years now. You are clearly feeling pressured by what is hopefully just enthusiasm. You seem to be the practical one here. The only big alarm bell for me is his desperate need for you to move to his town, although if he’s always worked in the family business, it would be difficult for him to give that up. He is also right that you shouldn’t leave having kids too much longer (sorry).
Huge red flags Make hi man X boyfriend now before it’s too late
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He obviously has a problem with not getting his way. RUN!
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Yikes on several fkn bikes 
after a month? Girl run, run far tf away.
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Major RED FLAGS, run!
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Don’t you dare not start your own business! Do you. If he wants you closer and loves you, let him move closer to you and be a man and move out of mommy and daddy’s. How can he support you and a child when obviously he can’t even live on his own yet? If he wants you to give up your life, he should be able to give up his there. Stay where you are.
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Having someone pushing you to marry this early on isn’t great for you. If he wants you to only relocate and never offered himself move over give your relationship with him some good thought!
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Your life will be hell love you don’t really no him be your own person be happy he’s already telling you what do .he’s not for you wait until Mr right turns up
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He’s already being bossy and wants it his way. He is disregarding your feelings. Start your business. Don’t relocate. He’s rushing things way too fas, if it’s only been a month. Do your dreams. Be happy. And after you start your business, then maybe you can start a family if you have time. You need to be financially stable these days , just in case things don’t work out.
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It’s been a month and he’s waving like 6,000 red flags! Run!
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Don’t do it .Sounds like he wonts to control you and your life just run.
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It honestly sounds like you only want this to work because you’ve been alone for so long. I can tell you right now it’s not love from his end. Someone that loved you would wait for you, listen, and respect your feelings. They would take what you wanted into consideration. This sounds a bit like desperation from both ends… dude is nowhere in life and you’re lonely.
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Don,t rush in to marriage before you get to know him he sounds selfish
He is controlling run
Time. To. Break. Up 
You seem like your the one with the common sense,and you know what you want and have a plan,and a future,and realize Inorder to settle down your going to stick with the plan,and it doesn’t sound like you’ve spent enough time together to get to know him,let alone jump into marriage with a guy who lives home with his parents and hasn’t planned his future goals,other then to start a family he can’t even afford to put a roof over…don’t jump at the first guy that comes your way,take the Time to get to know him,you don’t want to have to put you n your kids thru a divorce in the future,THINK about your future!
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Umm hes in his late 40s and living with his parents with no car??? Oh sweet girl run as fast as you can
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He wants to get you in a situation where he is controlling you, taking your dreams and money away. Trapping you in an abusive relationship by taking ur money and having children. Don’t do it!!! Purse ur dream of having ur own business. As you stated his is already being manipulative and nice loving side you see is fake,
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