I changed our cat boxes pregnant with all 3 my kids. They just fine. If worried wear mask and wash hamds.
You need to get rid of him.
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Maybe instead of changing liter you should change boyfriend’s
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Your seriously comparing yours cats to your unborn child lmao… the man takes care of his sick mother so how could you try to say he wouldn’t care for his child??? You need to stop trying to make this man care for your cats, either give them away or wear a mask and gloves like everyone else said before he decides to leave you!
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Take care of your own cats, I had to with all 4 of my pregnancy, take the box’s outside put a mask on wear gloves change liter and done
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I know plenty of people who changed cat boxes while pregnant just put a mask and gloves on wash ur hands afterwards. The cats are yours not his and comparing the cats to your baby is just wrong
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It’s only risky if the cats are allowed out of the house, if they are indoor only cats then you can change the little cause they aren’t exposed to the things that can hurt you. Put a pair of gloves on and take care of it.
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Your cats not his responsibility. Grow the hell up
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Hire somebody? Has he ever changed the litter?
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Cats smell. Id refuse as well.
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You shouldn’t worry about changing the cat litter, you should worry about changing boyfriends.
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Girl bye they are your cats not his🤣
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Is this the only hang up he has? I mean maybe he genuinely can’t stand it. Not abnormal to have an aversion to animal crap.My husband won’t come near my feet, he hates feet. I won’t touch raw meat. We all have funny boundaries and it is not out of disrespect.
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Cover your face and hands and clean it. You were cleaning it fine before you got pregnant so keep doing it. It’s not new thing to expose yourself to so just do it. I cleaned my cat boxes both pregnancies same as I did before and after baby was here. You can look into self cleaning ones of you have the $$ but again you still have to clean what is scooped. You could also look into disposable cat pans and put one Inside your old one (make sure the one you put it in is a good size) and replace it when its dirty. We do this with our cat boxes and honestly it’s so easy and not as much cat litter on the floors as there used to be.
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He has a perfect right not to change cat litter since it’s not his cat. He didn’t have a perfect right, though, to impregnant someone outside of marriage because he DOES have a responsibility to her and the baby. You’re not going to get rid of your cat, and he’s never going to change his opinion about this, so it’s time to think about going separate ways, but not before you get something in legal writing for support. The taxpayers shouldn’t have to support his baby!
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Faith Plumbtree Cat litter is pretty volatile to those aren’t pregnant. Especially if it’s that scented shit. I hold my breath changing cat litter not because the smell but it burns my lungs.
Dump him , through him out with the cat litter!
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To find a friend to change cat litter is hard to do
Keyword “MY” cat litter! 
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I wore gloves and a mask when I was pregnant to change litterboxes.
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I changed to litter boxes with all my pregnancies I just covered my face and made sure to wash my hands really good after.
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Wear gloves and a mask you’ll be fine.
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And the cat comes on your bed and licks it’s a$$ leaving all the litter on it anyhow, along with residual footprints from the box , climbed on your kitchen counter and you probably ate 1000’s of hairs by now, you want a pet deal with it.
Instead of being worried about who changes the kitty litter you need to throw the whole man away
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They aren’t HIS cats. And you said he doesn’t even like cats (despises them, in your words). Get over yourself and take care of your own damn cats, pregnant or not. Or find them a better home. And there is absolutely NO comparison between a cat and a child. Bit nice try.
So you haven’t changed it for 24 weeks
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I cleaned cat litter everytime I was pregnant x4, and all my baby’s were born healthy.
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I’m sure there’s cat little that you can get that’s safe during pregnancy.
Get over it! Cats are nasty and gross. You’re already trying to find something to bitch about that is unnecessary. You should know by the way he cares for his mother he will care for his baby also. Stop trying to make problems for yourself that are not there.
I struggle so hard with the I can’t do it because I’m pregnant excuses. I’m not married worked full time and did everything alone pregnant. Girls these days 
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It can cause birth defects to your unborn child
Your cats, your responsibility. Did he say he would do you it, before or after you got pregnant? Has he ever changed it? Why would you even compare cat crap to your baby.
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Shouldn’t the DESPISE CATS be ringing a bell to you?? My boyfriend got both of my girls cats and he absolutely loves them, takes care of them, bathes them, gets them treats. As per the girls he’s great with them. The oldest one (16) lives in his own world but the little one (8) adores him and him to her as well. He feeds her, takes care of her while I’m at work, takes her to the park, reads with her and is always making sure she wears a sweater when it’s cold outside. As per me, he’s amazing! Loves me, takes care of me when I’m sick, watches out for my health and always checks up on how I’m doing at work during the day. HOWEVER, He has NEVER changed the cat litters (YES… 2 of them) now just because of that I’m not going to turn around and dump him . Just change the deam litter yourself and stop complaining and being lazy THEIR YOUR CATS LADY!!! plus he already has a big plate on his hand and by him taking care of his sick mother Shouldn’t that tell you he’s already a great person?
You won’t convince him!
Get a n95 mask and wear gloves and shower right afterwards. I changed my boxes while I was pregnant. Inside cats don’t carry toxoplasma. It’s only if they are outside as well. And if you think of it this way. If your cat does have it. That cats paws are contaminated and is walking all over your house anyways.
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I wear an N95, goggles, hair tied back, gloves (switch as soon as I’m done), and wash my hands immediately. Then i shower and change my clothes immediately. When he gets home from work he takes the bag to the trash. He would do it but he works and I can’t wait all day 
I always look like I’m about to perform surgery. #StayingPrecautious
ppls attitudes on here are disgusting
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I cleaned my cat litter boxes with each pregnancy, my kids are fine.
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Maybe you should have waited until you and him were married and knew each other better before getting pregnant. Then you would have known he was the type not to change it.
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Mine doesnt either. And he lives here. He works all day tho. So i dont blame him. Plus shes a kitten and gets it all over. He helps sometimes. But its mostly me. I cover my face and wash very well.
I got tested for the titers for toxoplasmosis when I was pregnant and had already had it so my dr said it was fine to keep changing it. Maybe check into that so you can do it yourself
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I changed liter my entire pregnancy. Use a mask and gloves, and change th box frequently
The parasite eggs take 5 days to hatch, if you change the litter more than once a week you don’t have to worry about the larvae.
Cat liter is gross and I don’t blame him for not wanting to change it. Those are your cats, you change it
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You can use gloves and do it yourself it’s not a problem I’ve done it whilst pregnant when we had 2 kittens x
Toxoplasmosis usually only happens to cats that go outside. I understand your anxiety about it though. Maybe a friend or coworker could come help you
Why do people think it’s okay to push their pets on others? Just because he doesn’t like cats and doesn’t feel responsible for your cat doesn’t mean he won’t be an amazing father. If it bothers you so bad, find someone to keep your cat until you have your baby. Or find a high school kid and pay them a few dollars to come change it. Or get a mask and do it yourself - I did that with my second and what do you know, she turned out just fine! Don’t play with the cat poop or eat it, just bag it up and wash your hands real good and wear a mask.
Literally do research on it and put the facts in his face, if he still tries to say that it’s wrong (because he knows so much) then I would look at other things in the relationship and see if there are anymore flags, because that’s a big one. If he won’t do it for your and your baby’s health, at the very least do it to make things easier for you
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In my experience, if they don’t like cats they never will. Your cats will always love you no matter what. Boy friends come & go.
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Cats not his but the baby is so maybe he will be a fine dad
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.You better get rid of that stinker….What other things will he no do to help you and the baby. Wil he change a stinker diaper or feed the baby. The first time the baby throws up n him he will not help with the baby Tell him to hit the road
You can also catch it from pulling weeds and stuff from flower gardens if neighbors cats use them or even yours, I caught it from my flower bed when I was pregnant
Not everybody likes cats i would not have one but my daughter has 2 and feeds a stray.I like them in other people houses.Maybe he is not a cat lover.Its your cats you look after them.
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In my experience, a partner’s unwillingness to help with pet care when you are pregnant is a pretty solid predictor of how much he will (not) help with parenting or house work, or anything when you are ill. I did my own litterboxes, with the appropriate precautions as others have noted above.
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Sounds like you picked a real winner. Next he’ll refuse to change diapers. You go girl
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I had to give my cat back when I got him during our pregnancy.
My guy wouldn’t change it either. He also didn’t think I’d go get the car that day after he flippant said yes. Smh. It also turned out he was allergic.
Amazing dad tho. No correlation. 
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You sound like a narcissist. Have fun co parenting.
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This should tell you something about the boyfriend!
He needs to go
And Humm I changed cat litter when I was pregnant
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He sounds ridiculous. You can wear a mask though.
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Get a mask and gloves and change it not a big deal your boyfriend not be an animal lover or like cats I know mine doesn’t and if I did get any he wouldn’t want anything to do with them.
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Put the cats outside
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Suck it up, Put on a filter mask if you are concerned. We of the older generation did it and had no issues. It’s cat poo, are you going to stop going to the bathroom yourself while you are pregnant?
Show him pics of babies who are fighting for their life after getting the bacteria in some cats excrement. Their skin falls off it’s so very scary.
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Change your own liter. Wear gloves and wash hands after.
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You actually can change your cats litter as long as you do it safely. All you have to do is handle everything with gloves and wash your hands thoroughly afterwards. I worked at a vet clinic for 10 yrs and all the staff that were pregnant handled cats and their litter all the time using proper precautions.
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Put on a mask and gloves… you can change it yourself… even if you’re pregnant… take the proper precautions… you will be ok.
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Sorry, but they’re your cats, not his…
Get a automatic litter box.
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Mask and gloves… Problem solved 
I don’t think this went over as you would have liked 
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Is your cat up to date on shots and been checked out by a vet to make sure there are no infections? You’re only at risk if the two above do not apply.
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You can do it yourself. Just take it outside and wear gloves. 
it’s your cat and he doesn’t live with you. You just don’t want to take care of your cats. Maybe we should be worried about how you will treat the baby.
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I’m on his side with this one. And you can’t even start to compare his feelings toward your cats on how he may feel towards your daughter. Cat crap is disgusting. He may not even be an animal person. I sure wouldn’t want to live with 3 cats, so that seems like a bigger issue y’all should be talking about for if you plan to live together in the future.
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You should be worried… very worried. Get out while you can
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Wear long garden gloves and wash your hands after. If your cats are mainly inside cats you’ll be fine.
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Honestly it’s ur cats, I did mine while pregnant and my kids are fine…Put on a mask and you’ll be fine.
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So freakin’ sad. I see so many single mothers struggling, but their biggest struggle is trying to hang on to a man who’s not going to be there for them.
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Wow put some gloves on and a mask with your big girl panties and do it. They are not his cats nor his responsibility.
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Put a mask on, this is so petty. its’ your cats. take of your furbabies.
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Get a box that cleans itself. Next time, do better planning b4 pregnancy. That’s my advice.
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Y’all do realize Vets have debunked the myth that pregnant woman can’t have cat/change cat litter right?
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You can’t compare how he is with cats to how he will care for your baby. The cats are yours and he doesnt like cats. They are your responsibility not his. He doesnt even live with you and the cats and I highly doubt he agreed to get the cats. Just clean the litter boxes and stop being problematic over simple things
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I changed the cat litter through both of my pregnancies. I have indoor cats who are up to date on vaccinations. I still work a mask and gloves because the crystal litter I used to use was very dusty. I don’t use that anymore. I also used the litter liner bags so you just tie them up like a garbage bag and discard.
Mask and gloves… dump all put fresh everytime. It’s more expensive but less hassle when pregnant
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You can change cat litter if you do it safely.
They are your cats, change their litter. It’s not his responsibility, he doesn’t even live there 
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What’s concerning here is his lack of care for you. My question is….is his lack of care for your well-being a problem in other areas too? Do you feel neglected and uncared for in other circumstances with him? Or just specifically with the cat litter?
I’d be pissed too if my SO refused to help me with something that was potentially harmful for me and the baby.
You can, however, take precautions to ensure your safety while changing the cat litter. A mask and gloves for one.
This may be a bigger problem than just cat litter…that’s what I sense from your post.
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Honey, there’s no “convincing”, this man is showing you who he REALLY is… don’t blind yourself thinking one day he’s gonna magically change…
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Gloves and a mask I wear gloves and cover my face and I’m not pregnant. Being a mom is also about having to do the hard work all by yourself sometimes. You’ll have to do a lot of that. Your issues with him may run deeper than a cat box idk. I wish you luck.
The risk of toxoplasmosis is THERE
You can do it yourself. Just wash your hands
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Nothing wrong w cleaning your own cat box. I cleaned mine during my pregnancy.
Idk why everyone thinks females cant do shit pregnant. You can dye your hair too. In a well ventilated area.
Women have been doing this for years while pregnant. I did it without gloves for two children. I didn’t sit there and touch anything gross and washed my hands right after, every time. Your boyfriend sounds like a real gem. Good luck with that.
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I don’t have advice on him because he sounds ridiculous but i can offer advice on toxoplasmosis, as I had a stillborn from an illness in the same family as toxoplasmosis. Yes it can be that serious.
You can ask for a blood test to see if you have already been infected with toxoplasmosis, most people with cats who go outside have been. If so, you’re not at risk at catching it again as it lays dormant in your body the rest of your life creating immunity, the risk is catching it for the first time during pregnancy.
I would ask for the blood test to know how precautious you need to be.
I had gotten it done after my stillbirth and was immune to toxoplasmosis.
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Wear a mask & gloves. You’ll be fine.
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WTF? Sounds to me that uou picked the WRONG MAN TO BR YOUR PARTNER!!! Whats ur address ill change it for you.! Asshole
Wear gloves and a mask. My husband wouldn’t change my litter boxes either. He was the best dad ever and still is.
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I’ve never heard that it is not healthy for being pregnant I don’t know who told you that but that’s b*******
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Don’t try to change him. You need to dump him. Things will only go downhill from here.
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You can’t make him do anything. That’s the wrong way to go about this. You chose to be pregnant while you have animals. It’s your responsibility. If you can’t wear a mask and gloves while you do it, then hire someone who will.
Tell him the baby is his… he’s taking care of his baby by emptying the litter.
Get an automatic box
I’m sorry but that’s a huge red flag in so many ways, starting with his disregard for your health and ending with “he despises cats” 
…… unacceptable.
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Toxoplasmosis really only applies to cats who are outdoors and eat raw meat. After 2 weeks, they wouldn’t be contagious anymore. That being said, are you gonna get rid of the cats if you decide to move in together? Something to think about…
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