If your cats are indoor only then the risk of toxoplasmosis is almost nonexistent. Wear a male and gloves if you are worried, but I don’t think you should be. That being said, your boyfriend seems selfish and you’re probably looking at life as a single mom.
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Cats that aren’t his and a human child that is his is totally different. Also, people have been changing cat litter while pregnant since cat litter was a thing. The difference between now and then is that NOW we know that it could potentially make us ill and so we should take precautions. Wear gloves, cover your nose & mouth (most of us have face mask galore) and then wash your hands when you’re done.
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I changed my cats litter pregnant just put a mask on so you don’t inhale the dust you’ll be 1000% fine…not to mention you chose the cats not him. Literally caring for a cat and a baby should not be compared…
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Buy a litter robot. It’s what I did. Easy to dispose of the bags after a week.
If your litter boxes are disgusting already, I’m sure the feces is tracked all over the house already.
The likelihood of your cats having killed a rat with the parasite and ate it, while being indoors is extremely rare. Cats are not born with it. The parasite only needs the cats digestive tract to reproduce, it won’t survive in a cat or human too long.
Use a mask, gloves and lots of soap afterwards.
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I wouldn’t change it either.
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I changed my cats litter with both my last pregnancies. My last being twins had no issues. Put on a mask and gloves
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Idk what to be more shocked by, the lazy shitty boyfriend or the people in comments shaming original poster for asking her bf to change the litter. Maybe it’s a low chance to get sick but the point is being considerate and not dick head. I’d be concerned for his mother as well and how well she is being taken care of if he doesn’t even wanna clean a litter box, and even more worried for the mom and baby . Sounds like you got a sissy boy of a baby daddy.
Ummm…to avoid all the drama/problems, I’m pretty sure u are just not supposed to breathe in the little dust particles from it. So just do it urself and treat it like covid, mask up maybe twice, and wear gloves if u have to…then wash ur hands good and u should be fine. Maybe turn ur head and hold ur breathe for a quick few seconds…good luck
Wear a mask, wear gloves and wash ur hands. Don’t stress urself out about cat crap while ur pregnant. As long as he changes diapers eventually…
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Literally you’re not allowed to touch it at all… show him articles that explain that the bacteria in the feces, and there fore on the cats is dangerous and could lead to miscarriage if not dealt with appropriately.
If litter sits more than 1 day/ 2 tops it has the chance of developing deadly bacteria.
FU*K all the people who are saying just wear gloves… and get it done… if you have no other options. Gloves. Masks. Long sleeve shirts, it’s transferred by touch so on your skin. Change twice daily and it will avoid bacteria. But really you should call a friend or a cleaning service to come help with litter boxes. We have a company in my town that will come change the litter if you set it outside. Look into it. I’m so sorry.
But yeah have a serious talk with the dad… he doesn’t sound like he’ll be a big help. But Goodluck!
Are they his cats? Change the litter yourself and take care of your own cats. I despise changing litter, his only responsibility is your baby.
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He’s right they aren’t his cats. They aren’t his responsibility they weren’t his choice. So find another way
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Get rid of the damn CAT! YOU WANT TO END A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE BABY’S DADDY OVER A DAMN CAT!!!
Wear gloves and a mask. That’s what I did when I was newly pregnant and helping my older sister after her surgery.
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A grown man changing a litter box for his pregnant girlfriend?? Y’all act like it’s a death sentence for him to change the litter box!!! Stop defending him!!! This is why some men have stayed babies…smh… Tell him to change the litter box or he can stay home with his sick mother…
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Dump him. If he won’t help with the litter. Will he help with the baby? Will he live with his baby ??
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Take care of your own cats, pregnancy isn’t an excuse to throw your responsibilities onto someone else. They’re your cats, not his. Put on a mask, some gloves & get to work.
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Nah, you have to do it. As suggested; mask, gloves and wash. It’s no worse than them coming for cuddles when it comes to germs. He takes care of his mother… he’ll take care of the baby too. I don’t allow the cats I’ve had to use the indoor box unless the weather is impossible, they are old or injured. They can go outside just fine and honestly prefer it (as long as they are fixed and vaccinated they won’t wander far. They all have claws for emergencies) My last cat lived 23 human years but spent the last 2 years using the indoor box daily before he passed only going out to lay in the sun on warm days. My current cat hasn’t used the box regularly since he was a kitten except during snow or rain storms. (maybe 3 times??) I clean it as soon as I realized it was used. They never have to tip toe through the pooh drops. That’s just gross.
Suck it up buttercup, wear a mask and gloves. You will be fine. As for not sure if boyfriend can care for baby, leave him or teach him. It’s up to you.
Get up and change it
Kinda making a mountain out of a mole hill. Those are your cats, not his. Mask and glove up and change the litter. Seems to me you’re unnecessarily testing baby daddy. Don’t create extra drama over such a minor issue.
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This is an argument? I mean there’s a lot of pregnant women that change litter you’re not really supposed to my question is and it’s none of my business if he lives with his mom taking care of her what are you guys going to do in this baby does come are you eventually going to live together and with his mom are you going to be able to keep the cats? I don’t know
Clean it yourself just be sanitary about it.
I cleaned the litter box and changed out cat litter my whole pregnancy. My kid turned out ok.
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I changed my cats little I had 2 cats pregnant and washed clothes and hung the on a line outside.
If he’s taking care of his sick mom wouldn’t that be a better indicator of how he will treat his kid
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I woudlnt change it either. You cant do it then get rid of the cats.
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You can’t change him nor can you ‘make’ him care. He apparently doesn’t. You may as well just suck it up or get rid of him … I would get rid of him.
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Your cats your responsibility just cause he doesn’t like cats doesn’t mean he will be a bad father and if you thought he would be a bad dad why get pregnant by him 
mask up and clean up your cats mess if you was single would you leave it:woman_facepalming:t2:
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Take care of YOUR cats
Not a big deal and
It’s not the end of the world:roll_eyes:
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It takes alot of work to take care of a sick loved one. I would look at that with admiration. Him not cleaning the litter box is not a reason to be upset. Put on a mask and gloves and wash yourself afterwards and you will be fine. In a perfect world that may be so but if you don’t have the means for that to happen it’s time to do it yourself or rehome your cats. These may be his last moments with his mom and he will have forever to be there with you and baby. Kind of being selfish in this way of thinking.
Sorry to say… I would not have a girlfriend that had cats. Cat boxes make me vomit.
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You really can’t change him.
You need to suit up, mask, gloves and get it done. Breathing in the stink from the soiled litter is not good for you either. And if he hates cats, you have three, I don’t know if you’re ever going to cohabitate together peacefully. This is a small issue, but it could become a major one.
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Unfortunately some people are pos. I had to change My own too when I was pregnant. My mom or bf (if he was there) didn’t do it. But that was price i paid to have my fur babies.
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This has got to be a joke. Just because he won’t change YOUR cat litter he’s gonna be a bad dad 
#FixItJesus
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You chose to have three cats you take care of them
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If He carED He’d take you to Moms. HES HIDING SOMETHING . CHANGE THE TYPE OF LITTER YOU GET THERES A DUST FREE ONE.
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Not his cats, not his responsibility. Put a mask and gloves on ams change the litter box and then dispose of the waste and wash your hands. Not that big of a deal.
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That’s your problem not his!! I wouldn’t change it either (I don’t have cat(s) cause I can’t stand a cat. Plus there nasty. They climb on your counters & tables 
they are your responsibility not his!!
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Your going to be changing more worse than a cat box after that baby is born , suck it up or get a new man
Y’all are crazy in these comments. My question is that his baby? If that’s his baby, home boy needs to step the fuck up and help the child of his mother when she can’t do certain things because of said pregnancy. Y’all sound pathetic telling this girl it’s her fault or not his problem. They’re quite literally going to be a family. A cat box takes like 2 minutes to clean. If he can’t spare two minutes to do something important for his child’s mother, then I agree with her, how will he treat his own kid when it’s actually here? Y’all are wild
Just wear a mask when changing it.
Mask and glove up- and take care of it. Your cats…… I can’t stand cats either. You can’t compare a cat and baby sorry.
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He must not care about you or the baby very much, make him your boy friend for a long time!
I changed the cat litter through all 3 of my pregnancies. My oldest is 52 years old. They all came out just fine.
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Google it and show him.
Or just do it yourself. Just wear disposable gloves and wash your hands with soap and water afterwards
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I changed mine when I was pregnant. I just wore something over my face and washed my hands obviously.
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Sounds like he’s a spoiled momma’s boy who is used to getting his way! He should absolutely help you for the sake of your child! But you should get used to the fact now, that more than likely he will expect you to do everything for your child that he does not want to do. It’s not always 50/50. The best thing for your health right now since he wont help is to get rid of the cat litter completely! Turn your cats into outside cats or find a friend to foster them for now. Fully expect to take care of the baby 100% on your own. He will probably be too busy playing video games or whatever he enjoys doing. If your going to be with him…accept it and let him try to show he cares in the ways he thinks are okay (better than nothing) and just suck it up. You’ll never change a momma’s boy…she ruined him. Once she is gone…he will expect you to pamper him like she did.
I know from experience a momma’s boy will drive you crazy. You either deal with it. Or run like hell!
I changed my cats litter the entire 9 months I was pregnant. Get over your self and stop being lazy.
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Yeah I hear you. I refused to change it and made him look at it until he finally would do it about three days after I asked him to. So he finally got into the habit years after the kids left home because i told him I couldn’t clean it because I could still get toxoplasmosis for the rest of my life 
Think he would change it. Pretty sad. Sorry to hear that, guess mask up and wear gloves, hopefully he will help you with that baby when it arrives.
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I also pointed out that those cats that sit on him have litter box paws. Lol
I was single and pregnant and had no choice but to scoop the litter box. I just wore gloves and washed my hands really good.
And good grief just because he won’t scoop a litter box doesn’t mean he is going to be a bad father 
I understand. It’s not so much he won’t do it for you it’s the fact you want to be cared for,for him to acknowledge that it isn’t safe for you or the baby,and as a man and father of the child he is supposed to be yalls protector. It’s the BIGGER picture. I would be upset too.but it definitely wouldn’t be a deal breaker. I would just tell him that it hurts your feelings, especially if he isn’t showing you in other ways that he’s going to protect you and ease your mind when it comes to potentially sacrificing yours and the baby’s well being. Also your hormones are everywhere right now, so I’m sure you’re in your head about this. Just talk to him. If he doesn’t change his mind about changing the litter. Maybe just every once in awhile. Then you need to get a mask,some gloves and wash your hands really well afterwards. And don’t let the litter box get too “used”.
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Just wash your hands after you change the cat poop. It’s really not that dire
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I hate cats too, so I agree, not his not his obligation. Cat litter for my is gross…. If you say it’s dangerous for you to do, either rehome them or hire someone to do that part for you. Also mask and gloves work, my BFF has done all 4 of her pregnancies with cats and her husband hadn’t had to to touch the kitty litter stuff at all.
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Comparing your cats to your future baby… I mean seriously!? They don’t even compare.
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Wear a mask and gloves and wash really good when done
Wear a mask and wash your hands. And dump.the manchild
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I changed mine, just wore a mask and washed my hands really well afterward
I change my cats litter every pregnancy. Never gotten that disease they talk about. Just wash hands after. Dont want to do it,don’t expect someone else too. Shell out the money for a self scooping litterbox.
Wear gloves and a mask. You can get blood tests to test for toxoplasmosis, and indoor cats that aren’t allowed to hunt outside animals usually don’t carry the parasite.
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Your cat. You change it.
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Change your own litter
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You can change your own liter…not his home not his cats. You’re pregnant not disabled. I’m curious about how your home smells if you wait for him to come over to clean litter boxes.
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Selfish lol wow. Just put a mask on you’ll be fine
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I don’t like cats either and would not change the litter so either you do it or rehome the cats.
Wear kitchen gloves to change litter and dump boyfriend…
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Really , just change the litter , it’s not the end of the world , they not his he’s not cat person and your probably not gonna change that ,
Babe I think ur entitled
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Maybe he doesn’t like cats…i hate cats, so I can see where he’s coming from. Litter boxes are disgusting.
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I person whose taking care of his sick mom would be a good dad that’s for sure
But ur cats r ur problem n ur dumping ur issues on him
PLUS IF UR CATS LITTER IS DANGEROUS FOR U THEN SO R D CATS
Y R U LIVING WITH THEM WHILE BEING PREGNANT
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Change your own cats litter?? They are not his cats. Not his responsibility. Why would you expect him to if you are aware about how he feels about cats??
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The commentary on this thread is atrocious. Pregnant women should not change litter boxes. Good fathers step up and address the needs of the mother of their child as well as their child.
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My doctor told me all 3 times i was pregnant that masks cant always prevent it! And for how many people have utter disregard for her health and Common medical advisement is ridiculous!
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Get rid of the cats. They’re disgusting.
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Girl, you’ll be fine. Wear gloves and a mask and change it yourself. I had to it when pregnant and it’s not a huge deal.
Lol its not his job. They are your cats! Put on some masks and do it yourself.
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Like you said " my cat " it’s not his. Just change the box.
And how he feels about cats doesn’t say anything about how he will he a dad. You sound absolutely ridiculous
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I was pregnant and had to change my cats box. I put a n95, gloves on, and was in a well ventilated area when doing this and I’m fine. Just had my son and he’s healthy. Sometimes you aren’t going have help 24/7 and need to do things yourself. Pregnant women who have no one do it all the time.
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Just change it and get over it
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I dont blame him , disgusting job for anyone
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Your dumping the littler in the trash not eating it you will be fine 
my ex husband was like that I just dump it with a mask and just replace it. Mask and gloves. We are divorced lol
So many problems I don’t know where to start. Bottom line is this is your cat not his. Take responsibility for it or rehome it.
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It’s called gloves and a mask
YOUR cats… YOUR job!!!
He is not obligated and should have to be forced to do so. You may want to have someone else take care of them while you are pregnant or consider having them adopted by someone else who can care for them properly.
Dude is not a cat person… that didn’t mean he isn’t a people person 
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Pay a neighborhood kid to change it
Is this really a question? Do not depend on another person ever put PPE on and get the job done
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I was pregnant with sick cats before surfing snd after I always changed the litter. If you’re worried about it, use a mask and gloves and clean it out. Afterwards, wash you hands. I’m sorry ylabout your boyfriend. If he won’t help you now while you’re pregnant more thank likely he won’t help with your child yous have. Also, If he really hates cats, more than likely he will try to make you throw them out if he does live with you eventually. My ex was nice in the beginning and then after he moved in with me and I got pregnant he started showing me red flags just like how your boyfriend is acting right now. Plus he is also verbally and mentally emotionally and physically abusive towards me right before pregnancy during and after pregnancy. I was 8 months pregnant when he threatened to throw my cats out. So after he left to go hang with his friends (which it wasn’t it was a girl he kept cheating on me with) I packed up my cats and put them at my friends house and then packed up the nursery and thr rest of my stuff and left him. It’s been about 10 years now and he is still abusive towards me through text emotionally mentally and physically. I really wish I didn’t put his name on the birth certificate. He doesn’t do much for our son. I do everything and he just shows our son that video games is a priority when it’s not. There is more to life than sitting being lazy and play video games all weekend. Please be careful. Don’t make the same mistakes as I did. I was in my early 20s. And I’m 33 now. I regret alot. I love my son but I should have waited till another guy better than my ex showed up.
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If yall lived together it’s one thing but mam those are YOUR cats and until you have a ring on your finger do NOT expect to be taken care of 
he takes care of his mom that seems like a pretty good indicator of his ethics
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I never asked anyone to change my cats litter box when I was pregnant. Your not gonna die. Really???
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I’m sorry but if he doesn’t live there and they aren’t his cats too then you have three options 1.wear a mask and gloves and change your cats litter boxes yourself 2. Put the cats outside and make them outside cats (potty train them for outside) 3. Get rid of them. Just because he’s your boyfriend doesn’t mean he has to change your cats litter boxes 
I mean I don’t blame him not wanting to.
Also stop comparing your unborn child to nasty smelly cats that says more about you verses him.
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When I was pregnant with my son I was still changing our cat litter and I was fine and my son turned out fine he’s 4 now and still doesn’t have any problems.
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Check CDC recommendations. As long as you wear gloves, take reasonable precautions, and don’t eat out of the litter box, you should not be able to get toxoplasmosis. No reason that he should have to come over to change litter. With a sick mom, he probably has enough on his plate. I would be more concerned about the fact that you two are obviously not on the same page when it comes to pets. That doesn’t bode well if you plan to live together later.
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Feeling privileged much?
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If your boyfriend is living with his mother and won’t help you while you’re pregnant, he isn’t going to change after you have that baby. It’s not about a litter box, it’s about how much he cares for you. Not seeing him helping when the baby comes. Seems you hitched your wagon to the wrong “ass”. Good luck.
Lol i always changed the litter while pregnant
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Well they are your cats not his. But yes they say not to scoop or change the cat boxes when you’re pregnant. But I always had to because I didn’t have someone else to do it. I spoke to my OB and he said to wear gloves and a mask while doing it. And to wash your hands thoroughly with antibacterial soap immediately after and do not touch your face or touch anything like the counters or any other surfaces before washing your hands.
So I would say to take care of the catbox yourself. Do you scoop the box daily? I’m just thinking logistically it may not be possible for your boyfriend to come over every day to scoop and change the box.
But I would also suggest sitting down with your boyfriend and discuss what both of your expectations are for when the baby is born. Who will do what and how you both will help each other that way there is no resentments and you both know how things are going to work going into it.
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