This kind of makes me question how you will be toward him after baby is born. Just put on some gloves and change the litter. It’s not fair to be pissed at him for not doing it when they aren’t his cats and you know he hates them. Babies are way different than cats lol
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Suck it up and wear a double mask and gloves. You aren’t going to change his way of thinking, remember that regarding other issues too!
Your cats your job change the litter with gloves and a mask you obviously close to keep them in your care while pregnant you need to care for them just like you will with your baby mate
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First of all they are your cats it’s not his responsibility, secondly put on some gloves and mask and change change the damn litter yourself.
I had no idea so many people didnt know that it is dangerous for a pregnant woman and her unborn child for her to change the litter box. It literally has nothing to do with being helpless…you need to educate yourselves about toxoplasmosis. Google it people.
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First question…how compatible are you two if he “despises” cats and you obviously love them since you have 3? What were you planning to do? When he’s not with you who changes the litter box? Either sit down and speak with him about how his refusal bothers you and listen to him explain why doing it bothers him. Negotiate. If that doesn’t work either take care of it yourself with proper precautions, get rid of the cats, or get rid of him. I personally will NOT take care of anyone’s litter box because I can’t stand cats. Then again this would been discussed at the beginning of the relationship.
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I changed cat litter with all four of my pregnancies. You must be s first time mom. Gotta get over the mindset that someone needs to take over your duties just because you’re pregnant. Do you eat processed foods, drink tap water, get vaccinated? All of those have been proven to be more of a risk to yours and your babies health.
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I’m guessing it’s your first baby which is why your so worried. You have a few options here instead of fighting with the boyfriend. You can pay someone to come twice a week and do it, you can get a self scooping litter box that will scoop until the bag on the side is full (you will have to add litter and throw away the bag) or you can do it yourself. The hardest part of having a baby and not being married is that it is your cats and your life. Without sealing the deal you can’t really depend on others 100%. Good luck and make sure to find a way to take care of those kitties or find them homes.
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You can’t. Move on he’s never going to be the person you want him to be. He’s only going to be who he is.
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If you cant do it and your pregnant, and he wont help. I would get rid of the cats and him.
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Wear mask 
and gloves 
and wash your hands 
with 
! They are YOUR CATS 
not his and I’m sure you knew this before you got pregnant! Why are you comparing your baby 
to your cats ? Don’t judge your boyfriend because he doesn’t want to mess with your cats! Besides he can’t be all bad if he’s taking care of his Mom! Just because you’re pregnant 
doesn’t make you anymore special than the rest of us Mom’s! So if so unhappy 
get rid of him or suck it up and deal with cats as you did before!
I’m sorry but put a mask on and change the litter box common sense. It’s not that bad. It’s not his cats. And if your having a baby while living separate he is not your husband. Not his responsibility. Sure it’d be nice if he did but clearly he doesn’t care if you got pregnant
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I mean they are your cats. Buy one of those masks and some gloves and do it
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Your cats not his can’t get mad about it and your comparing him to not willing to help you with your cats to hoping he help with baby. There’s different there lol just put on gloves and mask and change it! Not that hard! I hate when female is pregnancy as an excuse. If so get rid of them cats!
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it isnt your cats or litterbox that are the issue, its him. If he wont go out of his comfort zone to change litter, what will he do when faced with spit up or dirty diapers?
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Your cats your problem sounds like your controlling and bossy
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Wow. The comments on this post are toxic as fuck. I have 2 cats and my man changes the liter for me. Not only does he know its dangerous. But i also cant tolerate the smell. And the deal for me getting the cats was for me to do the liter. Then a couple months later i got pregnant again. Hed do it if he cares. I would suggest putting it some where you dont have to smell it on a daily. We have a small closet type storage room upstairs and thats where we put ours. I would get a good mask and gloves and i would just dump it and refill.
Maybe get rid of the cats sis. Youre complaining but theres a simple solution. Not his animals not his problem
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I would also like to remind you that I change the cat litter all the way up until the day I delivered and we didn’t have any issues
Lady put on a couple of mask and clean that mess yourself. I’m with your boyfriend cats or 
and you have 3? YUUUUCK
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Girl get rid of the 3 cats and 
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I changed litter for a ridiculous amount of cats while pregnant. I just wore gloves and a mask.
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You will be fine changing the litter. I mean you already live in a house with all the cats and their litter boxes… And gotta remember you touch the cats and they walk all over you to probably soooo and they walk in the litter box with thier shit… In all reality… Just saying.
I have 6 kids and have always changed the litter box. It’ll be okay, just wash your hands really well and try not to touch the feces.
As for the boyfriend, that’s most likely going to be an issues, he seems selfish and not willing to help… it’s only going to get worse.
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Put on a mask and gloves while changing the litter. It’s honestly not his responsibility to care for your animals just because you are pregnant. Y’all don’t even live together I could understand if y’all did but you are responsible for your own animals/house hold until that changes just because y’all share a child doesn’t make you entitled to make him clean up after your animals. Grow up.
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Put some gloves on and do it yourself
Wash your hands after
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Well, first, he is an A**, get rid of him. Second, I bet you have a large supply of facemasks from the “plague”. Wear one of those to clean the boxes.
It’s the dust you inhale while cleaning out the boxes that carry the bad for baby stuff in to your system. You just need to not breath that in while cleaning and you will be ok.
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Put a mask on while you change the litter… simple.
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They are YOUR CATS. plus is no big deal as long as there is ventilation and you put a mask on when changing YOUR cats litter. Now if it’s laziness you can give your cat to someone you trust who will care for him.
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Men are notorious for being dramatic when it comes to simple, easy tasks and anything that involves cleaning anything. Brace yourself, plenty more of that to come-just wait til’ someone throws up. I changed the boxes throughout all my pregnancies, just mask and glove up. Not caring about your well being…well…think about that portion for a long time…hrrmmm
Get rid of your cats or take care of them yourself. You know very well he don’t like your cats, so how could you even compare that to a baby?!?! 
Cats are bad to have around newborns anyway
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Get rid of the cats or put the in a place that will mind your cats for you. You should not ask him to do it if he was not doing it before and you should be understanding to his wants or dislikes as you want him to be towards yours. & No being pregnant does not give you a pass to neglect your responsibilities.
What are you going to do, if you got pregnant again while having this kid? You will still have to be an adult and care for your responsibilities. You are wrong for coming here to make him look bad over not doing for your cats… now if you came & said he don’t go to doctors appt, and has said no he won’t move furniture, carry heavy bags then we all could understand you and feel bad…
who cleans your tub? Who sweaps and mops? If your doing that then you can get a chair and sit down & mask up & empty it yourself.
Try to put the box up higher, cats jump & there are also cat automatics3lf cleaning litter boxes… Lastly if your Hight risk you, need to get you a letter from your doc and apply for home care services… He is not you, your, cats are not his & by no means should you be trying to force it on him… Some women are working during their whole pregnancy so I am sorry I lack the empathy your looking for… it’s is the feelings for you! and it’s the principality for him, you are discarding… he said NO how abt you try to respect that…
Now if you can find a sitter or someone you can pay to do your job the problem is over if not do it yourself or give them up…
If my response is not liked by trollers, keep it pushing because there was a questiotrolleys, here for the public to weigh in on & I did,
so let’s not be in our feelings… N E 1… By the way Happy Mother’s day to be.
Girl put some gloves on and wash ya hands
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Some of these comments 
Acting like changing the box equates to lickin’ a turd…
Get rid of the guy 
looks like you’ll be doing everything anyway.
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Good luck getting him to help with the baby
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I mean, yeah that’s crappy of him but he also doesn’t even live with you and honestly the health risk is higher when leaving the litter uncleaned. As long as you are scooping daily it is not really an issue as it takes at least 24hrs for the spores that can cause toxo to be released into the air when disturbed so just scoop the poop right away and wash your hands and it’s all good. You’re actually much more likely to get toxo from fresh produce than from a well maintained litterbox, especially if you’re cats are indoor only
He doesn’t even live with you they are your cats. And he doesn’t like cats on top of it. All these people saying he won’t help with the baby that is a load of crap. Cats and kids are two different things. Y’all go way too far with stuff
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Wear a mask wash your hands and dump you BF
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Sounds like red flag to me
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He should care about your well-being and plainly does not. That’s something to think about. Since he is clearly being an a$$ please wear a mask and wash your hands well and you should be ok. God Bless
Omg!! He won’t take care of YOUR cats? What a douche bag. Leave! Red flags!! 
ffs take care of your own damn cats.
Lol you can change your cat litter. Everyone saying get rid of him over this is hilarious. He might be one of those guys who is incredibly hands on with his children. You can’t base what kind of parent he will be over something like this. Maybe she is milking the whole I’m pregnant and helpless thing. Hell I was still doing yard work and detailing cars at 7 months old. You just have to take safety precautions. You’re pregnant not disabled.
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A wise and now older German man once told me that every parent should Before they have a child have a pet for a full year and watch and see if the both owners of the pet look after their pet in Every Way and if you see a couple not doing a great job looking after their pets then , it’s a good sign on what sort of parent those people will be . If they treat their pet the Right way they will both look after a baby the right way but if they neglect their pet in any way that’s a good sign they won’t be great parents . I have watched this myself in the ensuing years and now 40 years later I completely agree with him ! If your boyfriend does not have enough empathy for You while your carrying his baby how much empathy will he have for the child ? That’s my question And surprisingly some pregnant women can’t bring themselves to do a number of things they normally do without problem but when you’ve got your head in the toilet most of the day and night then of course you are not going to want to do something that makes your stomach turn . It all boils down to respect and compassion
Rubber gloves an a mask thats it
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For those of you who don’t know cat poop can be harmful if a pregnant woman gets sick while she is pregnant. I did not have a cat at the time of my pregnancy but I had it before I got pregnant and the levels were going down. It can be bad for the babies
Is this scaredy cat dad to the others children, no matter his status with them, I suspect there is more going on with this dude than what he claims. Is mom that sick? IS she a danger to you and you children? Something is not good or right with the situation.
Sounds to me, you need to get rid of the cats.
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Put gloves on and a mask . Not everyone likes cats let alone cat liter. You’re pregnant not helpless . It’s 2022
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For the ones saying get rid of him he won’t be a good dad …
I have took care of babies … toddlers… teenagers …
Elderly … from birth till there last breath and I love each and every one like there my own
But I do not like animals … I’m not gonna be mean to them by no means but I don’t want any I have to take care of …
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Girl, leave. As fast as you can. If he dont care about ur well-being or ur animals hes not going to care about the baby or help at all. You deserve better than that.
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Simple do you love your boyfriend if so get rid of the cats he has already told you he doesn’t like cats if not you take the risk in doing it yourself just saying
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Get rid of the cats then or get rid of both make life easier
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I agree with the above post
Girl, put some gloves on and change the litter. Wash your hands thoroughly afterwards. They’re your cats and you said he despises cats. As for everyone saying he won’t help with the baby IDK. Surely since it’s his baby he’ll help. I mean, some people just don’t like animals.
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I don’t blame him… I wouldn’t change it either! They’re your cats! Put on a mask & gloves & change the litter yourself! Comparing him (who despises cats) to how he’ll be with HIS own child is ridiculous!
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Seriously? They are your cats lol. Grow up. If ur seriously worried put a mask on. Ur worried about HIM?! I’m worried about you princess.
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Don’t get animals if you can’t take care of them
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Put on a mask n do it. They aren’t his cats and it is his baby. To suggest he may not be a good day because he wont change cat litter is a bit overboard…sounds like u might be a lot of drama…
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Literally your cat. He dont even live with you first of all and like that one lady said, you’re pregnant…Not disabled. 
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You’re cats You’re shit you do it
I changed kitty litter my whole pregnancy and my daughter came out perfect. If your scared put a mask on. Apparently you’ve been doing it anyway if he won’t.
How about you get someone else to do it for you. Quite frankly, if you can’t look after the cats, pregnant or.not, you shouldn’t have them
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But you’re pregnant for his child so he needs to do it for his child
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Your cats your responsibility! Are you gonna have time for 3 fur babies and a baby
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You can definitely minimise the risk by wearing gloves and hand washing, however there is still a risk. You and your partner are meant to be a team and you’ll need his support now more than ever. I hope he will be there for you when you need him.
Your cat , your choice of partners , seems like your life is about finding someones else to be responsible. I feel sorry for your pets and the baby.You obviously are so useless that you have to write about it. Another bucket of failure, go empty out the shit and take care of your own business.
You can’t compare changing a diaper to cleaning the litter box… I don’t own cats for the simple fact I find litter boxes disgusting… he has already stated he doesn’t like cats… why expect him to do this? They are not his. The baby IS HIS, very extremely different circumstances
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I used a mask 14 yrs ago to scoop when I was pregnant. My husband was always out of town. If the baby is his, idk why he wouldn’t take care of it
I don’t think it’s so much the task as he doesn’t seem to consider her or her health or her feelings. Changing kitty litter is dangerous to a pregnant woman. If she’s a first time mom, this could be terrifying. And just because they take care of a pet or a parent doesn’t mean they will be any kind of parent. My husband adored his mother and would drop anything for her. He adored his dog (he passed a few years ago) and did everything for this dog. It was a battle to get him to parent. He referred to it as babysitting anytime I left him with the kids. He did not do night time feedings or diaper changes and still doesn’t get up if he hears them crying at night. We chose to have them together but really I was the one that wanted kids. This doesn’t bode well for your relationship. If he doesn’t want to or doesn’t agree with something, he isn’t going to do it or be childish and half ass it. Make alternate arrangements mama, and don’t plan on him being around for much longer.
Tell him good bye or help you with your cats
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Honestly it pains me to see all the nasty messages towards this woman , saying how she needs to do it herself…”It’s 2022”. Truly, it isn’t a good idea for her to be doing herself. It sounds like it should have been a talk she and her boyfriend had before getting pregnant. Her asking if they have children is he willing to do this for a short while for her? But as it is, yes they are her cats but if he is got her pregnant, does he love her? If so, does he not love her enough to sacrifice a little to keep their baby healthy? Geez folks. There are some really self centered thoughtless people out there! If I had a female friend that was pregnant, whether I liked animals or not, If she needed me to come do it I’d do it. Out of love. That’s what people do for one another. My mother came and changed my cat’s litter for me when I was pregnant. If she has no one to help her-best thing I can recommend is to buy a litter robot. It’s self cleaning. A bit expensive but if you can’t care for them yourself, and can’t afford this, can you afford a baby? When you have pets they are a commitment like a child. They depend on you for everything. It’s an investment worth having. And it Will save time/later when that baby is here too
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Do what I did mask gloves and change it yourself I have 2 cats and had one throu 2 pregnancy
I think the problem is deeper and answerable by how does he interact with animals. Also if you’ve been to his place and his mum’s sick how the place and how’s she?
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I’m with your boyfriend, can’t stand cats, horrid animals, put a mask on and change the litter trays yourself.
Don’t try, kick him to the curb.
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A cat and a baby is different. In sorry but I’m not a cat person not saying I wouldn’t do it for my best friend but I wouldn’t expect someone to do it for me.
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He’s a big selfish baby. My husband doesn’t like cats but he would do it for me if I were pregnant. In the meantime you can do it yourself. Just wear a mask. It’s fine is you are careful. Sorry your partner is so uncaring! That’s just plain mean spirited
I had my last babe 5 years ago and I still make my husband take care of the cat litter if it comes down to it get some gloves and masks for back up when he isn’t able to help.
How is he going to adapt when he’s with you permanently? Are you going to trade your cats for him? Not a match I would make.
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I’m a cat person, but you need to wear gloves and a mask and just get on with it. Or hire a neighbor kid to come every day to do it. Or buy a litter robot.
They are not your boyfriends cats, and he’s obviously not going to let you suck him into taking care of them.
While pregnant it is inadvisable to mess with cats litter, not even cats in general. You can try discussing that fact with him, or bring it up at a Dr appointment with him there. But, if he despises cats as you say then it may be better to see about a neighbor kid coming over and doing it for you for pay. Personally, I’d see about paying someone to help you.
Wear a mask and gloves you’ll be fine but he’s wrong for not helping you period
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Sorry to announce this to you… you have a little boy not a man on your hands and he will be no different with the baby than he is with your cats
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Time to find a new guy because this one is trash and a little boy who is irresponsible
Your pregnant. Not dying. Change the cat litter yourself. Hold your breath, wear a mask. Do the pregnant sumo squat and do what you gotta do. I have 3 cats and was a single parent. Like my mom always said. You made your bed, Now you gotta lay in it.
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My bf was the same. I just wore gloves and changed it outside and more frequently. Its not the end of the world if he wont change a litter box.
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Buy pretty liter and get over it. Or wear a mask.
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I changed cat litter when I was pregnant. Lol. But if he isn’t willing to help when there’s a chance to harm you then he’s not the one girl!
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Just give your cat away
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I’m siding with your boyfriend. I hate to have you get rid of your kitties but maybe you can find a temporary sitter for them.
Couple things with this. Your “boyfriend” is not willing to put your health and your unborn Childs health before his own pig headedness. How’s he gonna be with baby puke and shitty diapers and babies covered in poo head to toe!?!? And if he won’t even help change a litter box he isn’t gonna want to live with them either, are you willing to get rid of them for him?? And lastly he just sounds like a pre teen child with his “I don’t like it, it’s not my mess”, like really, grow the heck up. Part of being an adult is doing things we don’t want to but we do it for the sake of the person we love anyways. You may want to re think where your “relationship” is going.
The only way you can get sick is IF your cats are infected to begin with. Are they inside cats? Have you taken them to a vet to have them tested? Wear a mask and stop complaining.
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Um no girl, change it yourself they are your cats! You take responsibility for them.
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Not a good idea to get married to him
Stop trying to convince him to help he isnt going to change his mind because he sounds just a tad selfish…you would think if he realky cared about you and he knows about the risks with being pregnant and dangers changing the litter he would help you even if he doesnt like cats…so maybe his feelings for you and baby to be arent that strong…or he just has that mentality if it isnt mine dont ask me to help…hopefully he will be a good parent and also buy things for the baby like diapers and such so you arent tge only one spending money and doing everything …if not…only time will tell what your future with him will be like…
if you cant find a family member or a friend to help then wear gloves and double your mask…
My kitty litter box is in the basement but whew its strong smell when you disturb the litter…i now have been used clumping litter so i dont have to change the box as much …i buy those little baggies for cats and dogs at the dollar store and dump deodorizer…
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Your pregnant not disabled. Key word YOUR cats not his. Put some gloves on and a mask call it a day!
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They are YOUR cats from the way it sounds. You CAN ACTUALLY clean your own litter box. Use disposable gloves and wash your hands afterwards. But if your cats are indoor only cats you really aren’t at risk for anything. How will your BF help with the baby if he has to live with his mom??
JFC…it’s litter. You’ll be fine. Wear gloves and a mask. I would never get rid of my cats over stupid BS like this…
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I changed my cats litter when I was pregnant
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Switch to a tidy cat litter box. So much less work then litter.