‘Leopards; don’t change their spots ! In the words of ‘Will Robinson’, ‘warning,’ warning’, ‘warning’ !! Danger !
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Put a mask on and glove and dump that pos
If he doesn’t like cats then you can’t make him 
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It’s not about her cats guys, it’s bout his baby…
Ugh the negativity here…
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I think it’s a tad silly that you expect him to come into your home and car after your animals just because YOURE pregnant. You are pregnant not incapable of handling your own responsibilities—
You asked, he said no. That should be the end of it
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Run away from this relationship
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its called crystal litter a mask and gloves also changing litter isnt dangerous if its in a well ventilated area and the cats are strictly indoor
Your cats, your responsibility. Put a mask on and just get it done. A baby is far different than a child. And if this is the only thing that he doesn’t do for you, you have it made.
It sounds like he already has a lot of responsibility between himself, his mom, you and now your baby.
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Chances are if you have been around cats growing up, you probably have already been exposed to toxoplasmosis and it won’t be a problem for your pregnancy. But still be prudent, put on a mask and wash your hands after changing the litter box. There may be a test by now to determine whether you have had it or not. If your guy is not a cat person, don’t put that duty on him. But, he just may grow to love your cat.
I changed my litter box for all 5 of my pregnancies. I just wore gloves and washed my hands right after
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Hopefully he will help with diapers
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I used gloves and a mask all 3x I was pregnant. I had no choice because I lived alone.
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Wear a mask do it it ur self and be ready for when the baby is born because it will be the same thing he won’t help at all 
His reasoning wouldn’t apply to his baby because it will be his, so it’s not a fair comparison. That he takes care of his mom shows he has at least some sense of responsibility and caring for people. The question might be what other chores or hobbies or pets would he not care to support (for you, for the kiddo)—-may want to talk to him before getting more pets or seeing what he would be on board with supporting you with. For all I know he may just not want anything to do with cats and hope you give them up or get into another kind of pet. Could have been scratched up real good or otherwise had reason not to like them.
You could print out an article on the science you are referencing? I haven’t heard of it, get his thoughts and (gently, no need to yell or guilt trip, get his honest view) if he wants to risk what it would expose his child to? Or look into alternatives for cat litter that aren’t as bad for pregnancies like others have suggested?
Could also see about ways you can support him, ways to make the relationship more mutual or maybe trade some responsibilities—-more mutuality and less trying to bend your way 
or tell him how sexy you would find it and feel free to reward or appreciate him if he does it, maybe acting like he can melt you like butter if he does 
. Could also consider different pets, start finding them homes and seeing if the two of you have any common fondness for any kinds of pets. Or let the cats be outside more?
Anyways hopefully enough food for thought to at least try changing something, could always get more feedback from there
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Lol girl those are your cats not his
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Wear a mask and gloves and do it outside. You can’t change a selfishness.
- It’s fine to change litter if you wear a mask and gloves.
- They’re your cats, therefore, your responsibility.
- Comparing your pets to your shared child is like comparing apples to oranges.
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I changed my cats boxes when i was pregnant for both my kids
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Forget about him changing the litter, just do it yourself. And while you’re at it forget about him, I would say that is the best thing you could do for your well-being. Good luck!
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Put your mask on and some glove’s? Change the litter! Wash your hands and take off the mask! You’ll be fine!
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Tell him to get lost! He sounds like a selfish son of a gun.
This kitty litter thing? It’s a clue for you to see? He will not be changing any diapers! To be fair? I never knew any man? Who actually scooped the litter box!
Simple answer is you choose to have cats and expecting him to tend to them means you will expect him to be a servant. Complex answer is he has to take care of his mother, so he doesn’t want to risk taking something home and killing her because of your choice
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My husband wouldn’t change mine either when I was pregnant. There is actually a test your doctor can do to see if you are immune to the disease caused by cat feces. I changed the litter with both my pregnancies
Stop trying to change him. Instead show him the door and how to use it. YOU get some rubber gloves and change the litter.
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You should’ve got rid of the cats before you gave away your cat. Your cats just like your ceewchie is your responsibility. Sorry you bf isn’t apart of the cat ppl. Make sure the next one is since you just insist on keeping them.
Just use gloves and wash your hands after changing litter, you don’t need someone else to do it especially if they don’t even like cats!
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Quit being a crybaby!!!
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Put a mask on, wash your hands throughly, and leave his ass
Most inside cats do not carry Toxoplasmosis.
Wear gloves and a mask,is what one doctor told me.
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If you did it daily the risk is super low. The longer the feces sits, the more at risk you are.
Also wear a mask while you do it. It’s the scratches that will get you in all honesty. They scratch your skin with litter on their claws
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I feel his pain…I won’t deal with litter either…when my husband’s cat was still alive, he changed the litter. He had the cat before we were together and I expected him to take care of it if he wanted to keep the pet. It’s reasonable for him to not want to do it.
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your cats clean their litter yourself, it is BS that it is bad for you while pregnant if it is done on a daily basis. there are litter pans that are almost self cleaning on the market today clean them yourself or get rid of the cats!!!
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I got lucky my mother in law luckily does it for me currently 35 weeks pregnant
Stop being dramatic just do it yourself…wear gloves and and a mask, make sure you wash your hands 
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Don’t blame him, board them
And be careful when baby comes home
I’m not a cat person so I would definitely not change cat litter. Sorry I’m with baby daddy on that one
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So he isn’t meant to be your BF much less the father of your child, he never liked or grew to like your fur kids. Also is this an indication of how he will be as a father, with kids there are many unpleasant tasks you have to do but you do them. I’m not sure how you thought you guys would work out long-term. Or I suppose you could give up your cats (right now you are fine, put on a mask and of course (as I hope you already were) wash your hands after changing the litter and you will be fine. However, it sucks you can’t depend on him to do it down the road when you get really big and can’t bend well.
I was heavily pregnant while in a hands on school where we had to clean the cats area. I just wore a mask and gloves. Changed my shirt and washed my hands after. It was fine.
Ditch the jerk! Find a neighbor or friend to scoop & change the litter box.
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Wear a kn95 and wash your hands. I hate litter and this gets me through 
Ummm change it urself smh or GET RID of them.
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Toxoplasmosis parasite only starts growing on car feces after 5days. Change the litter daily, wear gloves and wash your hands extra well afterwords making sure not to touch your face.
Sorry but he doesn’t even live with you, they aren’t his cats even in the slightest. I don’t think it’s fair to assume he won’t make a good father 
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I don’t think you can make someone who doesn’t like cats care for them, and I believe he will tell you to just get rid of the cats if they’re that much of a problem I on the other hand I’m a cat lover and a dog lover and he may need to do this just to get used to the poop otherwise I don’t see him having a whole lot of interest in changing his kid either which he better do whether he likes it or not. I am sure that’s not really good advice but that’s how I would lay down and dude you need practice, just tell him that. Nobody ever said I was any good at giving advice I’m just trying to think out of the box?
I know that this is not normally a guys world but both of you need to grow the hell up! The bf is a selfish ass and to the pregnant girl…they are your animals to take care of and the toxoplasmosis can be transferred to his sick mother. Get a damn mask and rubber gloves and change that crap on your own! Children having children this is what’s wrong with people these days. SMFH!
They are YOUR cats. Wear gloves. Change the litter. Wash your hands. You’ll be fine. Him not changing YOUR cats litter does NOT mean he wont be a good father to his child 
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You should have atleast 1 litter box per cat. Pay someone to come change them once or twice a week.
Wear gloves and wash your hands thoroughly. Toxoplasmosis is in the cat feces. Don’t touch it with bare hands.
As for baby daddy if he wasn’t a cat person before he’s not going to be one now. He should help you and if he does other than care for your cats then just do it and move forward.
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Get rid of the cats bc they should not be by the baby anyways!!
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Pregnant women aren’t supposed to change cat litter. If you’re alone then yeah mask and glove up. But she has someone who can do it. So why risk it.
When I hid my bun in the oven, I held my breath to change the cat litter lol.
I think most people aren’t aware of facts when it comes to this. Back in the day(when I had babies)there was very little knowledge or research about it and doctors would tell you you absolutely couldn’t…but now they know actual stats and the toxicity of it. Cleaned every day, there is very little danger because it takes days for the parasite to even begin to grow.
As for the boyfriend…expectations are more toxic than your litterbox is. You can’t expect him to care for pets that aren’t his. It is not an indication of the kind of dad he’ll be. Does he help you in other areas? That matters more than the one thing he refuses to do. Also, if he’s taking care of a sick mom, maybe he is tired and stressed…perhaps a little empathy, hey?
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I changed cat litter throughout my whole pregnancy . My baby was just fine. Just wash your hands (which you should be doing anyway).
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I mean I completely understand where you are coming from but I also get where he is coming from. If you have to change the litter wear gloves and a mask and wash your hands immediately after. Thankfully my hubby is the one that changes the box so I don’t have to
Either get rid of the cats or the boyfriend.
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The problem with this page is that so many people give their opinions and those opinions are taken as facts. People are saying it’s not a high risk of getting it, when there is a high risk of getting it. People say it’s not that serious if mom does get it, it can be very serious if mom passes it to baby. This is a huge problem.
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I purchased an automatic litter box. I put 5- 10 bags in/on the bin. Remove a bag daily & add litter. I had anywhere from 1-5 cat throughout all 3 of my pregnancies. I personally didn’t have any problems with toxoplasmosis.
Do it yourself .Lazy bitch . Your cats your problem.
My husband refused to do this when I was pregnant. He was such a dick. We are divorced now lol. Only advice I can give is do t be expecting too much from ur bf when the baby xomes, I’m sorry 
Wow are you in for some trouble Babe.If he won’t clean kitty litter.He won’t want to change pooey nappies .Wishing you well
Babies come before cats. they also need more attention than cats.A matter of priorities .
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It’s only dangerous if u don’t wash your hands after u change there litter tray and u could just wear a face mask if your that concerned and some gloves and do it yourself
Get rid of the cats. Maybe he doesn’t like cats. Poor guy
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If you are worried get some disposable gloves the kind they use in hospitals, also clean it regularly as what makes it most dangerous is the fact of leaving the cat poop in the box too long where parasites talksamosas began to grow. And with all other dirty jobs we do everyday; wash your hands just like your suppose to do after using the restroom yourself. Like my friend Ellen Harper suggest you could wear a disposable mask, which if you don’t touch it with the disposable gloves you could wear more than once. Gloves only once as what would be the need of wearing them more than once if your trying to protect yourself from something you don’t want to touch.
Get rid of the cats. Sorry, I hate cats, so this is personal. They easily smother infants in their sleep because they’re drawn to the smell of milk and will literally lie on a baby’s face or curled around them to the point that the baby suffocates. It happens too often. They’re also just really bad for babies to be around. On one hand, I do believe your boyfriend should be helping if there’s something which is a danger to you/your child, but I also understand his side of things. Like I said, I hate cats…
Wear a mask and gloves and use a litter scoop and wash your hands thoroughly… I’ve had 3 babies and always had a cat or cats… No issues… He doesn’t live with you, they’re not his cats, and by the sounds doesn’t like cats… So yeh he’s in his own right to not do it… Changing cat shit and raising a baby are totally different and just because he doesn’t want to touch your cats shit doesn’t mean he’ll be a bad parent… If you have 3 cats he doesn’t like and won’t help with, have you the conversation about what is expected when you do live together? Being pregnant with his kid I’d say that’s the goal? I’d be having some pretty serious discussions about expectations for the remainder of the pregnancy, birth, and then once the baby is here… Because it doesn’t sound like you’re on the same page at all…