Wear a mask and gloves or get rid of the cats
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Get him to come to a doctor appointment and bring it up with the doctor so the information not just coming from you, it’s not that you don’t want to do it but it unsafe for you to do so. You could also spend more to get the disposable ones so you throw them out instead of cleaning them, it would cost more but less time spent cleaning it therefore less contact.
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Changing the cat litter will not harm you or the baby. Wear a mask. He hates cats, they are your cats, so clean up after them every day so there won’t be a problem. It has nothing to do with how he will treat his child.
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I wore a mask and gloves when changing my cats litter while pregnant
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You’re comparing how he takes care of YOUR cats to how he will take care of HIS child? HUGE difference there. I’ve had cats all my life, through all of my pregnancies. I’ve always changed the cat littler because they’re my cats. Put a mask on, change the litter and learn to pick your battles.
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Looks like you must make a grown up decision. Like you did when you got pregnant. Your baby comes first now and it is not up to anyone else.
Put a maskand gloves on
Boyfriends with husband benefits.
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Grow up and clean your own cat litter. Like fr 
Toxic.
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You cant find someone else to clean them.
When I was pregnant I took care of my cat too because my BF also did not like cats. I just wore a mask. This was in 2019 before we all had masks.I was mad about it too. But I promise you I didn’t lift a finger when he asked for any kind of help with his dog or anything. I hold grudges. A day will come he will ask for help with his mom or whatever & that’s the day I’ll tell him. “ just like I figured out my cat litter during pregnancy you can figure this out too” this is my toxic trait I don’t let shit go. So that’s what I would do. He’s got a “wait- for-it” from me
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If they are inside cats - you’ll be fine. And quite frankly it’s not his responsibility whether he knocked you up or not.
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Being pregnant doesn’t keep you from cleaning cat litter and they’re your cats
Use a mask and gloves! You’ll be fine!
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I wouldn’t take care of the cats either. Clearly you had those cats prior to your relationship. It would be different if y’all were living together, and got the cats together. But that’s not the case. What are you going to do when he’s at work all day, and the baby has a blow out? Call him at work to come home and change the diaper, because he helped make the baby? No. You’d man up, and change the baby. The same stands for the cat box
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you can’t either do it your self or forget trying to change him…I’d be concern how he will treat the cats if you start to live with him a cat can live 20 plus years.
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He doesn’t live there and they are your cats. I can’t see how you can compare cleaning a poop box every day and taking care of his daughter….that’s kind of a jump don’t you think. Maybe you need to hire a cat box cleaner or re-home your cats because they seem to be a issue and having three of them inside is a lot of poop to deal with and a new baby is a lot of work as well. I really don’t blame him. I love my cat but I wouldn’t want to clean up after someone else’s and it’s a every day thing. 
Happy changed litter with both my pregnancies and had multiple cats. My kids are just fine. Gloves and a mask go a long way!
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Looks like it’s him or the cats, if he doesn’t like cats he’s never gonna move in anyway.
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Stop being a princess and glove up, put a bandana or N-95 (
) over your face and change it. Just wash your hands well afterwards. It’s not a big deal. I did it with both pregnancies and we are all surviving
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Put on a mask and wash your hands when your done. He’s right they are not his to care for.
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Use a mask and gloves, I think it is inconsiderate of him, I’m sorry. You’ll be ok just be careful with it.
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Wear gloves, wash your hands after. You’ll be fine.
Um get rid of the cats then??? Duh? Am I missing something? When you have kids, you will have to make a lot of sacrifices in your own life. It’s hard but worth it. I would never want my newborn around pet hair or cats that can scratch and get in the crib and changing table, etc. I can’t stand the ammonia smell of litter boxes anyway and wouldn’t want it around my kids. Also, he’s taking care of his sick mom and supposed to take care of your cats? What?
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They arent his cats. I kinda get his point. But yeah just plug your nose and you can do it. I did it when i was prego. And like they are saying if its an indoor cats then its fine. But dont be mad at him. I dont blame him. This says nothing about hos parenting. Dont look into it so deep.
All you people bashing her realize that there is something called toxoplasmosis from cat poop right? That’s why she is wanting him to do it. It is potentially life threatening to pregnant women. Sheesh.
I use to use the pan liners that look like garbage bags. Hold my breath and scrubbed my hands afterwards. My son is 7 and gifted. No harm done
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Gloves on and mask up, do it yourself. I don’t know anyone who had to change cat litter when they’re pregnant. Their partners do it for them but just wear a mask or glove.
if he cant change some litter hows he gonna change a poopy diaper
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I changed mine for 2 pregnancies, and we’re all good you’ll be okay 
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So because he won’t take care of animals that are NOT his, this some how equates to how he will care of a baby he made? Oooooookay. Parenting with you is going to be an absolute blast for him. 
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If possible, a pregnant woman should not change the cat litter box and should avoid contact with cat feces. Ideally, another household member should change the cat litter box.
What’s best for Mom and baby is boyfriend or someone else do it. It’s sad he’s not willing to put you and baby first.
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Get some protection and get the job done. Everyone will be happier including the cats!
I wouldn’t either. Him refusing to care for CATS THAT ARE NOT HIS, DOES NOT DETEMINE THE FATHER HE WILL BE.
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Are you helping him with his Mom? I don’t see the red flags in this just because he isn’t changing cat litter! He’s taking care of his mom which depending on the situation can be a lot in itself! They say you can judge a man by the way he treats his mother. The only red flag I see is the need for independence!
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I changed my cat’s litter when I was pregnant.
- not his cat so he’s right 2) yup he probably won’t be the best dad or partner to you. 3) most cats don’t have toxi, it’s your cat, either you get rid of it or shhh and clean up after it on your own.
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Maybe time to rehome the cats ??
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How do you think single moms do these duties? I hate litter boxes and even When not pregnant I wear rubber gloves and a mask. Also the pallet cat littler is better and doesn’t have as much dust.
Mom of 3 here! Change my litter box every single day !
It’s not gonna kill ya!
Just don’t play in it, or eat it!
Wash your hands! (Which you should be doing when you aren’t pregnant!)
You will just fine!
You are overreacting … Like alot !!!
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I changed litter boxes my whole pregnancy all 3 times. My first pregnancy my actual job was “pet care” at a pet store. I went in before the store opened, fed animals and cleaned cages… Mask and gloves and wash hands after. 
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single pregnant women everywhere have changed their own cat litter. Wear gloves and a mask and you’ll be fine. I did it and had no issues.
Him “despising cats” may be an issue later on if you plan on keeping your cats. Personally that’s a red flag for me based on my experiences with guys that hated cats.
Girl put a mask on and stop
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Wear gloves and a mask 
you’ll be fine.
I’m so sorry he isn’t supportive of you with this task while you are pregnant, and yes it is definitely a
red flag that he won’t help you or baby once baby is born. I hope that isn’t true, but I’ve been down the same road as you before. If you can afford it, I highly recommend getting a Litter
Robot cat box.
Reduces number of times you need to change the litter box and no scooping - just mask up and glove up to change out the litter bag and
replace with a new one.
I used Costco kitchen trash sacks for mine and it worked great.
Good luck with everything and I recommend supportive counseling if his lack is support extends to more
areas than the litter box.
I mean it’s your cat it’s also not a life or death situation I’m sure your fine changing litter like a lot of us did during our pregnancies
Drop him like a hot potato…ill drop everything… she is my heart and soul walking outside of my body
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It’s like you don’t know google exists. Get medical data. 
Also, a mask and gloves.
Ew I wouldn’t either, they’re your cats. You do it
If you where a mask your fine I have 2 kids 2 cats and a dog I changed my cats liter all through out my pregnancy
wear rubber gloves if your that worried but it will not hurt you!!! you can buy a automatic litter remover tray-- bags it for you check it out on Amazon
If they are indoor only, and don’t eat mice, there’s a very slim chance they will have toxoplasmosis to begin with. It would be nice if he would do it, but don’t rehome the cats just because of this. I assume he will love the baby more than he likes cats. Wear gloves, wash hands, you’ll be fine.
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Oh that’s horrible. He’s not a very good boyfriend. Are you sure you want him around for your baby?
I would run.
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You need a new boyfriend. He clearly won’t accept your cats should y’all ever live together.
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I’ve had 4 kids and always had cats wear a mask and glove dump in the trash spray it out outside let it air dry and put it back inside with some litter wear a mask cause the dust can cause breathing issues you can only get toxoplasmosis if you are touching it or ingesting it hope this helps (drs tend to scare you)
It’s called get a mask then you can change it. I don’t see where you asked him nicely to do it. It sounds like you need a chill out pill. He is right, he doesn’t have to deal with them. So get that butt up, mask up, clean up, throw away, toss out to trash can.
Get a self cleaning litter box that will minimize the exposure to the cat feces. Either way wear gloves and wash you hands after changing the littler box.
Wear a mask. or maybe hire someone just to change the litter or maybe a friend can do it. Taking care of cats and kids are 2 different things.
I’ve never heard of not being able to change the litter because you’re pregnant!! Where in the world did you hear that? The litter is not your boyfriends responsibility, it’s yours!!!
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Im not here for his energy. You are carrying his child… he could change it for you for the pregnancy.
If he can’t even do this for you…you are setting youself up for a long time of disappointment.
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i dont think its the fact of ‘just the kitty litter’ its the fact he wont do something out of kindness for her. whether you all think its fine or not you do get warned about it from your midwives and doctors. i wonder if he does anything else nice for her?
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It makes me wonder if you had other children would he not take care of them also because they are not his?
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For Pete’s sake Just mask up put some f’in gloves on and change the damn litter. If you can’t take care of your animals how you suppose to take care of a kid? How are you going to be with a human being to take care of… ?
There’s so much misunderstanding about this. You can change the litter. I did the litter for my cats during both my pregnancies. Wear a mask and gloves when you scoop/change the litter, and wash hands properly. You would get sick only if your cats became infected and you ingested their fences/litter. Talk to your doctor and your vet for proper info about Toxoplasmosis. You can get it from eating infected meat and veggies too. Wash your produce and cutting boards/knives well. Be diligent with cleanliness. It’s more common in outdoor cats due to hunting prey. Scoop litter every day because if the feces were to be infected it would be contagious after 24 hrs or longer. I would scoop into compost bags so it’s easy to discard. Your doctor can do bloodwork to see if you were infected before pregnancy as then you’d have immunity. Also the riskier period for infection is 10-24 weeks.
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I changed the litter all the time during my pregnancies. I also ate deli meats that weren’t cooked, lots of seafood and had caffeine. All my kids turned out just fine.
Mask and gloves and you will be fine- I’m a vet professional and had to do it will all of my pregnancies
Wear gloves and a mask. Look Into getting a new litter box that automatically bags it. I wouldn’t do it for you either personally.
I agree he is a jerk!!
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Wear a mask and gloves to change their litter.
Yea…you’ll have to toughen up to be a parent. Improvise and take care of it. Best of luck. Wear a mask, handle the task.
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Tell him to get lost because he might not want to change diapers
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doesnt matter whether you did all the risky things during your pregnancy that you were warned about and your kids ended up ‘fine’ is not the point. thats your choice not to be ‘safe’. cant expect other pregnant women to be like stuff it, karen on facebook says its fine.
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all these women saying they did it in all their pregnancies, what were your partners doing?
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Toughen up clean the litter box…daily. It will take less time to just do the task than complain about someone not taking care of YOUR cat. As far as he goes, what are you doing to help him and his mom in poor health?
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Y’all are missing the point. If he’s being this petty about changing the litter, knowing she’s worried about it while she’s pregnant, then he’s got to go. Why are y’all making excuses for these cry baby ass men to get out of everything?
To automatically expect you bf to change YOUR cats litter is absurd. Wear a mask gloves and wash your hands. You are not handicap clean the boxes yourself. Him not cleaning YOUR cats litter box has nothing to do with being a parent.
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Dude I wouldn’t change it either I hate cats
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So, but yes it’s recommended that you don’t because of the dust, so change litter…I have always had cats, even during pregnancy…did it myself and nothing happened…also drank Diet Coke the whole time…
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I hate dealing with cat litter as well and never wanted a cat. My ex wife begged me for a cat. Told me I would never have to change the litter. Wasn’t long after and I would ask her to change it becasue it stunk. She would let it go way longer than it should. So I ended up having to change it a lot. Either that or deal with the smell which is BS and the whole reason I didn’t want a cat. Woman have a tendency of getting what they want then letting men deal with the consequences.
It’s not safe, however, when you have no choice to do it, (like me when I was pregnant last), then you may want to wear an mask and gloves, it’s usually the dust that could cause a problem. You could also put an apron or something else to protect your clothing that could go into the wash immediately after changing the litter.
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Put a mask on, throw the litter away, then wash your hands . You should be ok.
So He lives with and takes care of His sick Mom and He’s supposed to change Your cat litter? 
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If you’re that worried, you could rehome your cats.
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Just put on a face mask and change it. Lord have mercy some of yall read way to much into very simple issues
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Wear a mask and wash your hands
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Cant force someone to like cats honestly, your using the cats as an excuse to get him do to things fir you. Not trying ro be negative. Also cats and babies are way different so to compare rhem to each other is odd, wear a mask and wear gloves. Just take safety steps and dont be stuburn about the safety part. Your cats is not his responsibillity they are yours. Also he will treat baby just fine, cant go based off how he doesnt like your cats
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Lmao!!! You want a maid and use pregnancy as an excuse. You can’t make up this garbage.
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The lack of common courtesy. Does he really love you is what i would ask? You do help those you care about. Its his baby too. Wheres his concern for the child? Sit down list pro and cons but either a long conversation needs to happen or hes gone. Who is going to drive you home from hospital after the baby is born. Start making plans if he doesnt offer then he needs to hit the road jack. But always pray about everything. He may just be overwhelmed with his mom.
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Wear a mask and gloves. Then find a new boyfriend!
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Hmmm… take care of his sick mom or change YOUR cats litter…Read the room hunny….Wear a mask an gloves and you will be just fine.
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First kid, huh? Put on a mask and wash your hands. Simple.
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I don’t mean this mean. But is it his baby? That’s what I’d tell him, “It’s your Baby too”
Get some gloves like the dish gloves and wear a mask. Next time get to liners with holes. Then you will only have to pull up the bag. But still wear the gloves and mask if you have to do it make sure you have the garbage can right there when you change it. That’s what I had to do. Sorry you going thru this, everyone must make sacrifices for a child, sounds like he doesn’t want to. Best of luck
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You are correct in believing. You can become infected with toxoplasmosis which can be very serious and fatal. My husband had this as a child and almost died. I have no solutions for if your boyfriend will be a caring husband after the baby is born, but they do sell self cleaning litter boxes if you are able to buy. If that is not an option, perhaps a friend would not mind caring for your pet temporarily. BTW not only pregnant women are subject to Toxoplasmosis.
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Wear a mask and gloves and wash your hands after.
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One it’s not his house, two not his cat. If it was Y’ALL’S cat that would be different. Wear a mask and gloves and wash your hands very well after. That’s what I did. My husband loves our cat but absolutely can’t handle a litter box. And this is what I did.
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Might as well start figuring out custody arrangements now, poor guy.
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I changed my cats litter with 3 pregnancies because my ex wouldn’t do it. I just covered my face. Then washed my hands after. I wouldn’t read into how it means to take care of a child he’s already taking care of his mother. However I wonder what else he won’t do for you in the long run. Not for the child but for you. My ex that wouldn’t change the litter was abusive. Maybe my first downfall was being with someone that didn’t like cats like I do. I’m with a cat lover and he will change the litter.
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Britney has a good solution , but how will it be with a dirty diaper ?
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How can you compare him not wanting to deal with YOUR cats to him not being a good father🤦♀️ Wth…
Those are YOUR cats…they are not his responsibility period…yes you arent supposed to deal with kitty litter while pregnant but thats on you to find a way to get the litter taken care of…its not his issue.Grow up lady you sound childish🙄
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