I would be suspicious
Yes but I think otherwise, you maybe be happy at this moment but in a long run what he reaps he sows , of course I hope note to happen to you, anywY stay happy it won’t hurt you
Sorry if I say this, my opinion
That would be unfair and any woman will doubt if her partner won’t allow her to use his phone.
Your mistake was giving him anything he hadn’t given you first. Men respond more to us doing less
You already know the answer. Listen to that little voice inside your head that’s screaming at you right now…
Why would you need his password? If you don’t pay for his phone I don’t think you need it. Doesn’t mean he is hiding something. As for social media commenting or liking a picture of an ex is not a big deal. There are ex’s who continue to be friends after a breakup.
Change your password. End it.
My god, are we down to this bullshit now? This page is called Journeys of a woman. Not petty sneaky crap from people who obviously have a shitload of growing up to do. All I’m reading in the comments here is basically stooping down to his level and fighting fire with fire. Get over yourself people.
I think the issue is boundaries and trust. It is important to set boundaries in a relationship which it appears he’s done with you. You have to respect that and cant assume that what his boundaries are is the same for him and vice versa. He may not be cheating but it seems as if you dont trust him. Your lack of trust in him has you paranoid that he’s cheating. This will be the demise of your relationship. Without trust there’s no relationship.
Yep he’s hiding something or someone. My husband gives me his phone whenever i want. I don’t go through it bc i know what he does and who he talks to. He sees my phone and goes and check everything which i don’t care bc im not hiding anything.
U don’t need it! I wouldn’t give mine
He’s hiding something Accurate psychic solutions
Gut instinct go with it !
Change your password on your phone and don’t let him have access to it anymore!!!Period. If he has a problem with it, oh freaking well. I hate to say it but the chances of him doing something he shouldn’t be doing seems VERY likely. There is obviously something there he doesn’t want you to see. Put your foot down woman and let him know you won’t tolerate his bs anymore. Your phone is none of his business and he should be able to trust you. Although going through each other’s phone is not healthy, if he wants the password, then he should also give you his password. End of story.
I agree with Sonja… you DO NOT have to have his password or complete access to his phone. Especially since, as you stated above you don’t care to go through personal things on his phone? If you have your own phone, why do you feel the need to use his? You do not need to know about everything little thing. Lock your phone with a new password, and move on. This is not something to end a relationship over.
I refuse to spend my life looking thru some cheaters wallet, his phone, or checking his odometer.
If you suspect him, and he does not satisfactorily assure you…HE’S OUT
No, he doesn’t need to. If this needs to be something you can’t get over, then sure, leave.
i stopped reading when I read that your bf doesn’t want to give you his password.
I have never once thought to ask my boyfriend for his password and he has never asked for mine. I have no reason to go on his phone. If it were even a concern, I wouldn’t be in the relationship. This comes down to trust. You don’t trust him. Why are you with him? If someone I was dating insisted I give them access to my phone, I would end it. I have nothing to hide but I’m not about to allow someone who doesn’t trust me to invade my privacy. Your need for control is something you probably need to get control of.
Yup, shouldn’t be a problem if he has nothing to hide
Sounds like you have trust issues. Maybe you should take a break and work on that otherwise they will ruin this relationship and any other one that may follow.
I dated my husband for 2 years and even now he has a password. I don’t ever ask him for his password cause I trust him .The times I have needed him to unlock his phone he does not hesitate and unlocks it for me to use…I don’t know what he has? And I really don’t care. If you can not trust who your with? You shouldn’t loose any energy on them.
Just the fact that you are feeling the way you do makes you self centered and not truly in love with the man if your that protective. Just be open minded and know that you don’t own anybody and no one should own you. Don’t make live more difficult than what it has to be, live and love life, If your spending and investing the time that you should with him he will always think twice before being tempted. Just love and let yourself be loved. Whats your zodiac?
Have you stop and that the reason he doesn’t give you his password is because in his mind you’re just BF and GF and in these time everyone store their live on there phone (I.e. banking and other personal information) now what if you have his password and you break up, can you image the damage you can do to him? He’s just protecting his future.
I consider phones private but being this much secret, and that he deactivated (big here) it means its something he hides.
It seems like this has pretty much always been the situation and you accepted it from the start. You can leave if you’re not happy but from now on you need to realize YOU set the standards for how you are treated. You have a child together already so honestly all these tiny relationship issues should of been solved like…before you even dated. Or in this case not dated and avoided this entire situation.
Um no that’s not cool. If he’s got nothing to hide then why the secrecy with the password?
Wow I feel the same way at this moment.
You should have his password! If he has yours then you should have his! Thats a red flag hunny…like the others have said on here change your password and when he gives you his then he can have yours.its that simple. Good luck.
Just because of a phone you are letting him go. What about the child in your belly? You are one hell a irresponsible mother fucker. You don’t deserved the child. He can turn off his Facebook n ig. Which he should not that already proven he love you and don’t want to see you unhappy else why hazzel with all this fuzz
People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing… I think you know that he’s hiding something.
If you want his password,be prepared for the consequences
As a dude. I’ll say this…
If he doesn’t want you on his phone, he’s doing the dirty
You need him to choose a counselor for you both to see and let the counselor help him to see another perspective and act as the referee.
Change your password for your phone.
Is this even a real question?
If you truly love and trust one another, there’s absolutely no reason you shouldn’t show everything to your spouse…period! Get out of relationship, never marry someone who is not totally open and up front.
Yes. I would be. I don’t know why you want to be in it but imo if he is holding it down like that knowing it bothers you then there is a reason he don’t want you in it.
Whats the problem? Just change yours and dont give him the password either, whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
Yes its safe to assume hes hiding something. It would be different if you guys were just dating casually, do you guys have a child together, and a home together. You guys have already made a commitment to be together. Ring or no ring. It sounds to me like you’re more committed than he is. I know you probably are completely in love with him, and I bet you are working very hard to take care of him and your family. That his behavior is pretty suspicious. You guys are together and you share a home, I don’t care about the what’s his is mine and mine is his crap. What I do care about, is that if he respected you and loved you with all his heart, it would be an open book to you as you are to him. You have every right and justification to be concerned, follow your instincts, I don’t allow anybody to Gaslight you and make you question or undermined your feelings. I’m sure this is eating you up inside. If you have the courage and strength to confront him, and tell him how much it hurts you, and I would muster it. If he continues to hide things from you after you express how much it hurts you, then he doesn’t love nor respect you. And don’t let just because you have a child force you to stay together. You deserve to feel safe, and that includes emotionally and psychologically safe. If he is still hiding things from you after you express the pain, then it’s time for you to leave and save yourself from even more heartache and heartbreak. Good luck
He’s 100 percent hiding something
I can promise you he didnt deactivate his social media…he just blocked you and any friends or relatives who may snitch on him! You already know your answer…but are you strong enough to do it is the real question!!
He’s hiding something. But even if he lets you have access to his phone he could still be hiding something.
As I believe it has been said above, it isn’t about having the password, it’s about him not just automatically sharing everything with you the way you do him. It is about being respectful of your feelings. If he truly loved you, he wouldn’t want you to be suspicious or worried or hurt or anything. When you love someone, you do everything to ensure their security and happiness, not the opposite. If you have a habit of “going through” his personal things and snooping, it is understandable that he would be skeptical of sharing, but he should still want you to be comfortable and not afraid of what he is doing, if he is not hiding something. This is not about you being jealous or self-centered, it is about you not feeling important enough to him for him to share everything with you. If you sit down and tell him how it makes you feel when he keeps information from you, maybe he will understand. If he doesn’t, then explain to him that by “not sharing” is in essence “hiding”, and you cannot be in a relationship with someone who is not in full disclosure. It will likely make him angry, but right now he is Gaslighting you, which is not healthy. Good luck!
You got mad Bc he liked a picture? Insecure much?
My ex husband did the same and why? Cause he was cheating and got caught & i filed for divorce! So glad i never had anyone’s kids. ugh girl RUN! Save yourself more heartache. Anyone that hides something is cause they’re doing dirty sh*t, straight up!
Been with my man for 2yrs and 8mos (and still counting). Never knew his password until now. I trust him that much that i don’t really care whether i know it or no. He doesn’t have IG and facebook for some personal reasons, i dont mind at all. And, if i need his phone he’ll open it for me. He knows my password, he can always use my phone anytime. He’s going to europe in the next couple days and he’s bringing my phone. We both agreed that cellphones are private thing, so we dont really check each others phones.
You are right to be concerned
It seems we are more conservative in the Northern countries…I have absolutely nothing to hide but I still don’t see a reason why my possible boyfriend should get my password, nor couldn’t I care less for his phone.
If you need to be suspicious, dont get into any relationship…if you get in one, then trust one another…which also means the right to privacy.
Leaving a guy you’ve got a kid with cause he won’t show u his phone…? Seriously…
This is why I don’t want no relationship cause this shit right here I don’t have the patience for
Oops your phone must fell in the toilet when you were taking a shower honey, that sucks…
My husband and I have eachothers passwords and free access to everything. Nothing is personal when you are in a committed relationship. It also helps if one is feeling insecure about things and wants the reassurance.
Dont let him use ur phone any longer…put a security code or ur fingerprint on it…then say oh sorry i locked it im no longer allowing you on it.cant be one sided. He makes himself look guilty. Im not saying go through peoples phones vut if u cant see his dont let him see yours…
He should show u what’s.on his phone or.u.have.his.password.if hes not guilty.there should be no qualms about it ask him again about it if he still wont.let.u in on his games.leave
Must be hideing something.
I don’t know why people are so secretive with each other if in a relationship, it boggles my mind. Almost 20 yrs with my husband and we don’t have passwords on phones and if I need a password he gives it to me. If this password lock is the new look of relationships, couples are doomed from the start. WOW Password lock yours (change password) and do with your phone as he does with his. If he has an issue, point out this is how he is with his. Either he changes or he accepts it, not sure if it’s a relationship I’d even bother with. Open communication and trust are key to a relationship, seem you both have neither. The biggest problem is bringing a child into all this mess, I wish you luck, truly you are in a pickle since you never knew your boyfriend and now you will share a child for life. WOW!
He needs to go! Sorry but that would be a deal breaker for me. He is basically telling you that he’s hiding something by saying you can’t look on his phone. Plenty of good men out here. Leave this one in the garbage!
If you need his password in order to trust him, you already have issues !! Why can’t people have a little privacy in a relationship? You either trust each other or you don’t !!
Yes…all in one word. Dont waste years blaming yourself. Just get out of the relationship!
She’s the problem in that relationship.
None ya bis a persons fone is like there wallet personal
If you have nothing to hide you hide nothing… Girl you already know in your gut… Your instincts never lie you know that… Get out now
Trust me when I say he’s hiding something! I’ve been in the same situation in the past… You deserve better. Be strong and follow your gut cuz it will never deceive you.
People with nothing to hide…hide nothing.
Huge red flag. If u have nothing to hide than there’s NO reason why u can’t look at his phone. Get out while u can.
Those with nothing to hide, hide nothing.
Change your code!!! Same rules apply
U already know the answer to ur question get out while u can. Who knows wat else hes hiding
Trust your instinct …I agree phones have become our lives and if his not willing to share then i would question that too
Change ur code and stop letting him use it. See how he feels about it.
My Straight up answer is that if you need his password to begin with then that’s when I would question the relationship.
However,
If within a marriage that’s a whole diff ball game cuz in case of death the spouses need to know.
Change your password he is up to no good move on asap
He commented on and liked a picture of his ex so you got shitty. I hope it was a comment worth getting shitty over.
If he doesn’t let you hold his phone, hides the screen or quickly exits what he’s doing then he’s hiding something from you.
If he goes through your phone checks EVERYTHING (texts, call log, emails, dms, internet history etc) he is looking to see if you’re doing what he is.
He’s a little paranoid you’re doing it too because if he can and gets away with it then what’s stopping you.
Start treating him the same way.
Change your lock and when he asks state “I can’t go through your phone as it’s your personal property so therefore you can’t go through mine, this is a two way street you can’t have it one way and me the other”
Think about it properly because It can also go the other way and he could give you his phone and you don’t find anything because his deleted the internet history, text message and numbers on the call log, but his still hiding something.
He’s obviously hiding something
He is DEFINITELY hiding something! If you’re able to get out–do so now!!
I don’t even know him but I fucken hate him for that. Id end it too
My ex was like that, turned out he had around 5 other girlfriends. He’d also put men’s names on women’s numbers so if I saw the screen while it was ringing I’d think it was “Bob” or “Josh” etc. Total douchebag.
Clearly he’s hiding something.
He didnt deactivate shit
You know whats up
He probably hiding something
Is it really about the phone? Why stay with someone you obviously don’t trust?
That’s a wee bit controlling id get out
My most abusive relationship started exactly like this
Why should he have to…?
I wouldn’t give in to that demand myself, I have nothing to hide from my partner but I won’t forgive a lack of trust.
Where do you find these people? Change your password, leave the controlling SOB and take some courses in self esteem.
Not a good sign. Def a red flag
You’ve answered your own question. you know already.
It doesn’t matter if he will show you his phone. The red flag here is that you obviously don’t trust him. So the real question is, why are you clinging to a relationship with someone you don’t trust?
It’s his phone. You have no right to check his phone.
Trust is something you need to work at.
Nope! It’s his phone! If you can’t sit next to him and look over his shoulder while he is on his phone then there is an issue, if you can do this, then why do you need his password ???.Actually, if you’re THIS Concerned that you need the password to his phone, yoy already know there’s an issue
Everybody has passwords, and entitled to their privacy. If that’s a issue. There’s something not right. Trust is most important in relationship. If not don’t be there. That’s something that shouldn’t be a issue concerned about a password. Why do you want he’s password anyway? He won’t give you he’s password because you made a issue of him commenting on fb. I guess he doesn’t want dramas and you looking into he’s phone? Trying to keep peace with you. He’s with you right n with a child. Why you digging your only sabotaging your own relationship.think positive, be positive be love. Negativity will drive him away.
You already know it’s over. Get out.
It sounds more like you don’t trust him & if that’s the case then what’s the basis of your relationship?
Now if your gut is telling you he’s doing some shady shit it may be right
My advice would be to drop the phone situation, don’t even mention it again. Keep your eyes open, pay attention to everything because if there’s some shady shit going on it’ll manifest, you don’t have to go looking
On the flip side if it’s nothing then you need to search inside yourself, either trust him or walk away
Get password or phone goes in the toliet. He is hiding something. Chuck the phone and move the fuck out
Just go with your gut. .You know hunn (((huggs)))
Deep down you already know the answer…
He’s hiding all his other self that you don’t know about and apperinly that’s why he knows all YR business for the fact of his snickiness he knows how it’s done !! WHY CAUSE THATS HIS GET DOWN …SO YEAH THE DUDE IS DOING SOME DIRTY CRAP …DONT LET THAT ÷÷÷ CONTROL YOU …
He’s hiding something. And he clearly values that more than your feelings or the relationship. You need to find someone who is into you and only you. He’s acting single while in a relationship.