Why would you want a child with him?
please do not have a child with him. Do yourself a favor and move on before you end up pregnant with his baby and youâre stuck with him in your life. Find a man who isnât thinking about their ex.
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Are you just desperate? A sucker for less?
Ughhhhhhh move in mate! Like today!
I donât know who is laughing but this is not funny. She feels from this post like she is not loved. That he loves his ex still. I would say if he can not commit then leave. The heartache isnât worth it
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Tell him that train left the station. Time to move on
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Sorry this man has problems. Get away ASAP.
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Run chick run as fast and as far as you can
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He sounds like a d*ck!
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Do not have a child with him. Do get checked out for your peace of mind. You are a closet girlfriend, he doesnât want to be with you in public. I have been in that type of relationship and it is a dead end. Sounds like he isnât over his ex yet. AND why doesnât he want to be checked?? Does he have an STD?? Take care of yourself for your childrenâs sake.
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Sounds like a waste man
Tell him he breathed when with her so he better stop now! Sounds like a man child! Tell him to grow up and act a man
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You need someone in your life that shows you respect. This man doesnât seem to get it.
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A true partnership is give and take on both sides and a lot of compromise. If heâs unwilling to give and all he does is take you donât need him in your life. You canât pour from an empty cup you need someone whoâs willing to help refill your cup. Sounds to me like he ainât it.
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Every relationship is different. Why would you want your relationship to be like the o e he had with his ex-wife? Clearly that didnât work out. Focus on building your own relationship and not trying to make your relationship like a past relationship.
Maybe she was mean or hurtful to him about his cooking.
If youâve been together and both already have children why do you need to be tested for anything? If youâre cycle isnât regularly thatâs no reason for him to need any type of testing.
This relationship sounds way too unstable to bring a child into the mix.
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Thats weird as fuck. If leave
Sounds like he still attracted to herâŚYou need to find someone who would love to do things for YOU âŚyou are so worthy of thisâŚLeave this MF âŚand. Dont look backâŚ
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Why waste your time struggling something you will never have leave might hurt now but true happiness isnât with this guy now make your choice!!!
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Get out. What he used to do before he wonât now?! Rediculous. Has he stoped eating showering hobbies, etc? No, heâs just found a way out of being a responsible adult and contributing partner. Youâll turn into his servant soon. Heâll make it out like youâre the bad person for expecting him to pull his own weight. sounds pretty Narcisstic himself.
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But youâre going to continue to bring a child into thisđ¤Śđťââď¸
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Next time he wants sex refuse as he done it with her
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You obviously know his behavior is balogna. Why continue to accept it?
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Sounds like he isnât over her, you are wasting your time.
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Sounds like heâs really the narc. Classic triangulation
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Why are you even still entertaining him??
I actually married into a family of Narcissistâs and over the course of 12 years I have had the pleasure of learning all there is to know about this behavior and hereâs what I can tell you.
No amount of love in the world is worth what this behavior does to your mental state and from what you just described, itâs not the ex with the behavioral problem, itâs him. Please do not let this man mind fuck you into believing the ex is the one with the problem. Heâs clearly the one with the issue and you cannot compete with this. The best thing you can do for yourself, your child, and this crazy man, is to just leave.
Lord Child 
why are you still with a man that clearly is still in love with his Ex.
You need to come to terms with it and leave him.
Find someone that will love you and not give you lame excuses!! He sounds like a peach 
I think you need to decide if you really want a partner who refuses to do any normal home life or relationship stuff Bc of an ex. Do not have any children with him Bc heâs clearly not ready to really be with you. Youâre already off and on for years do you really think your relationship ship is in the best position to try for a baby? They donât help already strained relationships.
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Sounds like to him no one will ever replace or take her place in his heart.
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Some of these questions make me wonder about the well being of y women after hearing him answer to things in this manner why are u even considering continuing a relationship far less bring a new child into this relationship he obviously isnât prepared to wholly give himself to u so why would u step up to sacrifice your body to have a man that has to compare his last relationship as a guide as to what he is willing and not willing to do. Do better and respect yourself more cuz u cant be serious.
He doesnât respect you, so respect yourself enough to make a change
Hes too wrapped up in his ex and showing you that she means more to him than you do you need to run. If yall have been off and on already then I wouldnt even consider kids with him.
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He sounds like the narcissist. Iâd leave this relationship tbh.
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Please do not have a child with a man child. That is so immature and he is still under her spell. No youâre not wrong for how you feel. Heâs immature.
next time he wants sex say no thanks only my ex has tested that and it shall stay that way
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Oh honeyâŚget outta there. Why are you putting up with that garbage?
You need to sit down calmly with him and just ask him why is it that he refuses to do things with you that he did with his âexâ? There has to be a valid reason. Men are pretty simple people, in that what you see is what you get. By no means does it imply that he is still madly in love with his ex.
Make sure that neither of you has anywhere to run off to, so that you can really talk properly after it with no recriminations. If you feel brave enough and really want to lay out all your feelings then ask him straight out if heâs still in love with his ex and that you would rather know than continue living the way you are now. It is the best thing he could do for you if itâs true, even though it will hurt like hades. He owes you that.
Some men (and women) just donât like to revisit places that bring back bad memories, vibes or energy but donât like sharing it either because it makes others think that theyâre weak.
Maybe he is scared to have another child in case your relationship breaks up and he only gets to see this child half time as well. When you talk remain calm no matter what he says or how he says it. Acknowledge any and all his real and perceived complaints
You need to open up those lines of communication between the two of you and lay all your cards on the table, so to speak and hopefully everything will work out beautifully for you both.
Maybe even consider Relationship Counselling. Good luck