I need advice! I’m in a semi-new relationship, I’ve been staying at his house most of the time. He has two indoor cats (that he’s obsessed with) which is cool because I am an animal lover as well. I noticed right off of the back that his house had a urine smell (but I just thought it was because of the litter box). The rest of his house is clean, and he’s a clean person. Then I was getting ready for work one morning after he had already left and one of his cats starts peeing in the sink! And then, about a couple of days later, I did some of his laundries and put it on the couch for the time being, and the same cat comes and pees right on top of the clothes! Also, today I got out of the shower, grabbed a towel, and it smelled so bad of cat pee. I’ve mentioned this to him and made small remarks about the urine smell, but he just kind of shrugs it off. I’m super disgusted and obviously hate the smell. I’ve tried to put that cat outside during the day, but he just lets her right back in. I’m to the point that I don’t even want to stay here anymore solely because the smell… but he wants me to move in full time. I love this guy and want a future with him, but I can’t live in cat piss smelling house, especially if I have to worry about every piece of clothing or towel I use. What do I do!? Has this ever happened to you?
Just be up front to him about what you’ve seen the cats do and it’s a deal breaker as far as you moving in if he can’t get the problem fixed… Have him take them to the vet
My cat started doing this as soon as I brought my son home from the hospital… it’s a jealousy thing, probably since you moved in, he feels like your infringing on his space… it was tough to break… we had to be careful about what we put down where… we had to keep bedroom doors closed… it’s a pain in the neck!
Make sure the cat gets medical attention to be sure it doesn’t have a UTI. It could be behavioral though. Sometimes cats are really sensitive to change and newcomers in “their” house. Has it been going on since before you moved in? If so then it is more likely medical. If the cat isn’t spayed/neutered they are also more likely to mark their territory. I’d look into those thing first. I’m a licensed vet technician
I’m confused. This is a new relationship and youre already trying to take over and move in??? Weird.
Ask yourself this- do you want to live like this forever or at least until the cat finishes it’s life? I’d maybe tell your boyfriend you refuse to live like that. If it costs your relationship, then it might be best to move on and find a guy who doesn’t allow something so gross in his home. I don’t know why in the world he would expect you to live like that, but that’s terrible. Also, what would he do if you ended up pregnant? I heard you can’t change the cat litter when you are pregnant, so the cat peeing all over the house is an absolute no go!
There are a few things that can be going on, the cat is upset about you being there and getting attention, the cat is mad at your guy, or there is a health issue with the cat. Cats are notorious for bladder crystals and infections, most don’t get enough water and the dry food is not really good for them unless they get wet food also. I suggest taking the cat to the vet to make sure there is not a medical issue. To rid the cat smell in clothes add in a cup of white vinegar in the rinse cycle. For furniture and carpet look for an enzyme cleaner. I have an 11 year old cat when she is mad at someone she pees on their dirty clothes or clean clothes, she hated my ex because he would chase her off of me when I was holding her because she wanted too much attention, while he was playing video games.
Yes! Honestly, some men just don’t get it. Maybe he can come to your house instead of you going there and when he starts asking you to come over just explain it to him again or maybe you can get one of his family member or friends to help explain it to him.
If he won’t put that mf cat out, Run.
You’re gonna have to tell him that. That you love him and want to move to the next step of your relationship, and you love his fur babies but before you can live with him y’all have to explore some options for getting kitty cat to go in her litter box. Make sure he knows you don’t think he’s nasty, the smell is just potent and it’s hard for you. Open and honest communication will be the best course every time. I hope y’ all can find a solution that suits you both.
Is the cat fixed? Could be marking its terroity with you being newly there…
My cats will pee in a clothes basket if it is left on the floor. Same for a cardboard box (my kids like to use them as toys and color them ). If towels are left on the bathroom floor for too long, those risk getting peed on too. It was even worse before they got fixed. Now, we just make sure that stuff like that isn’t left on the floor. And yes, sometimes stuff like this can be a sign of uti. I’ve had mine checked though so that’s not the problem. They’re just assholes. I’d tell him that if he wants you to stay, then the issue needs to be addressed. No one wants to be in a house that smells like cat piss.
That would be a deal breaker for me. I couldn’t live in pee. Think if you have kids someday. Pee everywhere. Ick.
1st off you should not be breathing it.and it is nasty for it to pee in the sink
You need more than one litter box in seperate parts of the home. Make sure the cats are fixed as well. This is probably a dominance issue. Could also be a sign of a uti
That cat is most likely doing it cause it’s mad that you are there taking his attention, that doesn’t make it ok but it is something that can be worked on.
- make him take the cat to the vets, can be a sign of UTIs in cats.
- get some of the carpet spray from pets at home or somewhere similar that takes the smell out of the carpet (it has something in it that breaks down the proteins that then attracts the cats to pee there again)
ensure there is always a clean litter tray (and always 1 more tray than there is cats 1 cat = 2 trays, 2 cats =3 trays etc).
and just be honest with your guy (maybe he’s embarrassed or become immune to the smell… cats can be trained prior you rule out any illnesss) maybe a feliway too?
Take the cat to the vet and have them looked at. Usually cats go outside of the litter box due to UTIs or other health issues. I also think it’s very wrong of you to kick the cat outside and then get upset when he brings it back in. You call yourself an animal lover, but I don’t feel like you truly are. An animal lover would get the kitty checked out, not get rid of it.
female cats do this when they reach their first heat. get her fixed and it’ll stop the problem. she’s marking her territory. like you said, you’re new and the cat is like, no, he is mine:rofl:
Then leave him …and go somewhere else…if he is obviously obsessed with his cats…just leave him
Are the cats fixed? When my cat went into heat for the first time she started doing that. I got her fixed and she stopped asap. You can get a urine detecting flashlight and spray that cleans up the smell as well as deters them from peeing there again.
Maybe get the cat fixed, clean litter box more. Or have more litter boxes available… or take cat to the vet might be something wrong.
Could be a UTI, take kitty to the vet and switch to wet food if on dry. And of course get kitty fixed
Smell is disgusting and never goes away…not like dog pee.
communication! Talk to your partner!!! Tell him it’s serious enough for you to consider not moving in. We can’t help you with this one. You have to talk to him. His cats might trump you on this one. Especially since you said youve mentioned it before.
I have had cats all my life and my 12 year old cat pisses behaviorally. If the box isn’t to her liking or if you leave clothes or anything by the box or if she’s pissed. Could be medical could be behavioral but maybe get it looked at
I have a friend whose car did this… cat just needed a bigger litter box
Deep clean the entire house with an enzyme removing cleaner. Put litter boxes in multiple rooms even 2 in their favorite room. Putting them outside won’t help them learn indoor behavior. Get them both fixed if they aren’t already. Keep the litter boxes clean. Cats don’t like a dirty bathroom anymore than you do.
Miracle spray from petsmart
Via her/water and baking soda works too on those spots
Have him get two litter boxes
Changes to pellets Pine scent
Purina tidy cats kit works great
Overall it could be behavioral
Won’t know until he gets his cats fixed and vet check with more litter boxes
Obviously wash the carpet
And tell ur bf it’s a sanitary issue and I may be fixed.
If it’s a behavioral thing it may be those cats don’t like u and r trying to annoy u enough to end it
I had a cat that hated my kids and would pee and poop near their stuff
When ours did that it was because he would pee so much that he’d “fill” the litter box due to diabetes
Cats gotta go or u go.
Ok we have 3 cats. All are fixed. Cat #1 usually goes outside to do his business but if he cant and the dog (who he hates) is in the house he will go in the bathtub. Cat #2 is special needs she is bulimic and has no self preservation. She will literally sit on an air vent until she burns then stay on the thing. Constantly binge eats then pukes. She also constantly licks herself to the point of sores. Vet said nothing is actually wrong with her she is just dumb. Now to cat #3 his name is monster and it’s a very good name for him. One of the first nights I stayed with my SO it shit in my hand while I was sleeping. He is a very territorial animal. He likes to piss and shit in other beds. Now that we have gotten to know each other I give him treats occasionally and love on him he does better. He is an attention whore. Also if the litterbox is not cleaned on time he will start acting up. We have two automatic cleaning ones. We have to change the litter every two weeks any longer and he will piss on something he is not supposed to. Good luck with the cats and talk to your partner.
Talk to him trust me if he loves you he’s gona choose to fix it or get rid of animals , a guy that loves really loves u , always tries to fix problems not create them
Toss the whole man in the trash (with his pissy pussy) & find a man with a dog!!
You have to sterelised/spayed his cats in order for them to stop peeing everywhere.
Get a vinegar mix with baking soda and spray it over the area that it peed.
Sounds like the cat needs a vet visit. It could have a infection causing it to pee places other than it’s litter box
My cat was wild before he was neutered. No problems anymore.
My one cat wont pee in the litter so I have a dif litter box I put chep or old towels in and she only pees in there , she # 2 in the other box with the other cats , I have two reg boxes they pee in one and poo in the other ( they did this on thier own ) but one peed on the towel on the floor so I just started putting her a special towel box and no more issues. Its worth a try . Use a towel it already peed on to start .
Take the cat to the vet as she likely needs to be spayed
He needs to clean the litter box more often or there is a medical issue. Cats are smart. The cat is trying to tell him something.
Do they need to be spayed or neutered
Cats sometimes do this if they have a urinary tract infection
Call the vet. It could be a medical issue. Also multiple litter pans. Should have one for each feline. Also, but the litter boxes in quiet areas. Cats get spooked easily. If a cat is stressed due to changes in its life, could cause a few medical issues as well. However, call the vet to make sure it’s not something medical. I work at vet clinic and we see cats with this issue a lot.
Personally I wouldn’t put up with it.
My first guess is that it’s behavioral… they don’t know what to think with you being there and taking attention from their daddy Give them as much love and attention as they’ll accept, and look into spaying/neutering (will help with the territorialism). But that’s just my guess, from the outside looking in… I see others talking about UTIs or other health related issues, so that’s always worth looking into as well
My daughter had a cat that would piss on every towel he could get to, took it to the vet no issues with him, had him nurtured that didnt help, finally he just had to go. If you put Arm & Hammer with white vinegar and regular detergent it will refresh the clothes and towels. Good Luck
I have been reading all the comments, sometimes a healthy cat will pee everywhere. In those cases, it’s usually the cat feeling threatened by someone or something. It could be as simple as a animal coming into their yard and that make them feel threatened of it being in there territory. The cat may also be a non confident cat. So in my opinion, if it’s not a medical issue you may want to seek advice from a cat behaviorist.
If the cat is not going in the littler box more than likely something is wrong. Tell him to take it to the vet! My cat did this & she ended up having pancreatitis
I mean you can get pretty sick from cAt urine. That’s a no go for me. Find a new man… haha
Get multiple trays cats don’t like using the same tray. Eliminate anything that he can have access you. Spray pepper in the sink. Don’t clean with bleach the ammonia increases the smell of the ammonia in cat pee. Don’t leave washing out
I had a cat that was very rebellious and when my boyfriend now husband would come over he would pee in the areas of the house he was at. I found out that my cat didn’t like him and was trying to mark is territory. Maybe she doesn’t like you in her home just a thought
I would definitely not be putting someone’s cat outside with the risk of being responsible if it doesn’t come back or dies out there. There’s no reason to do that. He needs to bring the cat to the vet and get it fixed if it’s not fixed but just overall checked out regardless because most of the time when cats Pee on things it stems from a medical issue or being in pain. Buy a pheromone spray and vinegar to get rid of the scent completely and it should get the cat to stop peeing in spots
There’s a difference between peeing and spraying. If he’s not nueterd, get him fixed. If it is pee, some cats are weird about having an absolutely clean litter box. I have 2. One will pee on the area rug or towel in the bathroom if the litter box isn’t to his liking. Also a medical issue will cause them to pee everywhere. If it’s territorial, it’s more likely spraying. But I’d definitely have his health checked out, could be serious. Tell ur bf if he loves his cat, to get him an appt asap to rule out and health issues and to get him nueterd if he isn’t already.
Cats dont like to use the same litter
We had this issue with one of the cats we have! Thankfully we broke it. We paid to get her fixed, bought a second litter box as she is not one for sharing with other cats! Deep cleaned the whole house and bleached the spots she peed and she hasn’t peed anywhere but the litter box since!
Change the brand of your litter maybe
As someone who has bred and raised cats for over 15 years, let me share a few nuggets of wisdom. Some have already been shared by others so I’ll just reiterate, others, I’m going to let you know come from cat behavior specialists. So either you can take them to heart, or you can ignore them and keep dealing with getting your stuff covered in cat urine. Your call either way.
Nuggets of Wisdom:
Cats are territorial of both places AND people, so when they find that a new person or animal has invaded their territory, they’re very likely to urinate on pretty much everything to mark their stuff to scare off the intruder (you) by basically saying “Hey, this stuff is ours, GTFO.”
However, from the sound of it, the urine issues have been going on since before your arrival, and therefore this leads me to believe something else is happening. Your new boyfriend has possibly done a rather ‘piss’ poor job of training the cats not to mark their territory on items and the environment. Hence why he didn’t seem to care about them urinating on his laundry or anything else for that matter…
Another culprit could be that the cats have not been spayed or neutered, and as any responsible cat owner should know, spaying and neutering your pets will significantly reduce the risk of territorial marking of urine.
Another possibility is that a UTI may be the culprit and the cats are in need of a visit to the vet and a checkup and a round of antibiotics to treat it, along with sterilizing the litter boxes and possibly changing the type of litter used. To remove the urine smell from fabrics and upholstery, vinegar or an enzyme cleanser (you can find these at any pet store or the pet section of Walmart) will do the trick. You can also pick up some spray repellent that you can spray on surfaces to deter the cats from going near to help train them not to go to while teaching them not to mark territory on everything.
Things you can do to avoid issues through this process:
Don’t put any laundry on sofas or couches, put it straight into the bedroom and then fold or hang and immediately put it away to avoid giving the cats the opportunity to urinate on it.
Catnip. Spray AND dried. I know it sounds silly, but spray the spray on furniture and sprinkle the dried stuff on the floor in areas where they liked to mark territory but you don’t want them to anymore and they will begin to associate the catnip with the area instead of the drive to mark territory, kind of like a ‘Pavlov’s Dogs’ training scenario.
Invest in calming pheromones for cats (you can find all sorts of different types online) and research why and how they work so you can customize what you are getting, but the idea is to create a calming atmosphere for the cats while you are there so they are less anxious and therefore less inclined to have a drive to mark territory.
Talk with your boyfriend about getting an extra litter box and possibly switching litter types to find one that makes those cats just absolutely excited about going to the bathroom in the litter box. There is a product called Cat Attract that you can order online that works amazingly well for this purpose if you want to do some research on it, and it is guaranteed to attract the cats to the litter boxes without fail.
Get those cats spayed/ neutered if they’re not already. Not just because it will knock down the urination, but because they will be at risk of reproductive complications, including cancers, by 6 years of age if they are left in tact since they are pets and not breeding stock.
And finally, because you are clearly asking for help and you are showing you care, the best thing you can do is to try to give them as much attention as possible to guarantee them that their place in the home is still secure, and that your presence is not a threat to them. That is a genuine concern for them and they will have a great deal of anxiety over their location in the hierarchy of their perceived ‘pride’ with the introduction of a new member (you) and that scares them. So make sure that you show them that their place is still secure.
Good luck, you can do this.
I have two cats and two cat litter boxes as they will not use the same box. There also picky on the litter They use… they only like Arm & Hammer multi cat or protection cover. Also there even picky to what kind of litter boxes, one has a full cover well the other likes there open litter box. Also try a scooping litter if not already using as some cats are very picky and won’t use a litter box that is dirty. I scoop mine out like twice to three times a day and fully change the litter once a week as my cats are very picky. Cats are funny and can be territorial they could also be doing it to be rebellious. Are they spayed or nurtured as this could be a problem as well. Having cats I wouldn’t leave plastic bags, boxes or any clothes of any type on the floor. This will help stop them also. Also there is a spray called natures miracle that you can spray or wash the floors, carpets with to get rid of the smell that helps stops them peeing in the same area.
I have 4 cats… 2 older brothers and 2 younger ones that I inherited when my aunt passed away. One of my older cats will pee on the bed, couch, chair, clothes piled in floor for laundry, throw rugs and the dog’s blanket. We cover the bed and couch with a plastic shower curtain, pick the dog blanket up at night and do not leave anything in the floor. We have large litter boxes ( 18 gallon totes with large opening cut in side). I found this cleaner on Amazon that is the first thing that really works. It is called Angry Orange. At least it will get rid of the odor if you clean and spray it on the spots. I have used the cat attract stuff in the cat pan too.
They are hos cats, why didn’t he take his obsession to the vet, he can’t be too clean if he enjoys cat piss on everything !!
They do that from being Stressed
Honestly I wish this was my biggest problem!!!
Take the cat to the vet to be checked out. If nothing is wrong, then consider discussing rehoming the cats. If that’s not an option he’s willing to discuss then consider finding a new relationship. You did say it’s semi-new and you’re already having a pretty serious disagreement over cat pee and pet ownership.
Don’t make a guy choose between his pets and you. Honestly I’d just leave. Call the relationship over. Done and dusted
The cat may have a UTI.
Not normal… My older cat started doing this when we moved I thought probably UTI but I’m pretty sure it was stress from the move he stopped after he got more comfortable and we always cleaned it right away. Female cats are bratty and are way more territorial than males I’ve noticed anyway . It’s probably just stress of you being there but I would take cat to the vet.
A cat will wee outside of its tray if it’s not clean!! my cat used to pee behind my telly and in my dining room as she’d marked her territory when we first got her. We tried everything but worked out putting pepper down stopped her( all carpets now replaced with hard floors) we’ve also replaced her tray with a hooded one for her privacy x
I have a female cat who does this no matter how often I cleaned her box. I couldn’t stand it & had to put her outside
The cat probably hates you an doesnt want you there so leave an dont go back. Problem solved and no more smelling like cat piss😂
I read this as my boyfriend pees in random spots… sorry snow here woke me up to early
Is the cat fixed? If not get 'em fixed. If it is fixed take it to the vet for possible UTI. Otherwise it could be doing that because you are there. Some cats are weird like that and mark on your things. I had a BF’s cat mark on all sorts of my items.
Honestly, if it’s something that the cat recently started doing, you need to see the vet. Many times, cats do this, when they have a UTI( urinary tract infection) or some other health issue.
That’s a hard no
If this is a new thing, it’s likely just marking territory as there’s someone new in the house. If it’s something that’s been going on for longer than you’ve been there, it’s going to continue.
Once a cat gets in the habit of whizzing willy-nilly everywhere, it’s nearly impossible to stop that.
That cat thinks that’s his house you are just visiting
The cat is most likely spraying his territory or has urine infection
Sometimes they want a clean litter box or maybe they are jealous . I would talk to their vet
Try getting a couple more litter pans if you only have one, also whenever my cats have gone outside the box it was because of a uti or urine crystals.
They like clean litter boxes. Also, if its covered that can be an issue. But a trip to the vet to check for urinary crystals or UTI would be best!
Our male cat did this until we started letting him spend most of his day outdoors. He is much more happier now and never pees in the house.
Have the cat checked at the vet to make sure there is nothing physically wrong such as a urinary tract infection
Male or female cat? Male cats will mark their territory unless they are fixed. From your wording this was happening before you moved in so I wouldn’t think it’s jealousy. We’ve had a few cats who continued after spay/neuter. When I found a spot, I would rub their face in it, say NO and then spank them. It usually worked & that behavior stopped. My cats would poop just outside of the liter box until I changed liter on a friends recomendation & they stopped so it could be the cleaning product scent
I did not grow up with cats so when I met my current husband he had 2 cats that were sometimes going outside of the litter box. First thing I noticed was there was only one box then I realized the box was piled with (you know what). Well it also smelled awful. He didn’t smell it because you get used to it over time and it was in the basement. I’m extremely sensitive to odors so I told him we would solve this issue and bought another litter box and cleaned them every other day. Cats do not like odors or dirty boxes anymore than you and I like a dirty toilet or stinky odors. They need clean litter and if you have 2 you need 2 boxes or as many boxes as you have cats. Once they start peeing all over the place you have a problem. Just like any bad habit it takes a while to figure out a way to change it. Place 2 boxes on the main floor and if possible a couple more where they seem to spend time. Close the bathroom and bedroom doors at all times. Do not leave clothes lying around anywhere. Do not leave clean or dirty laundry anywhere. You may need to remove rugs even. If he won’t cooperate then tell him he’s on his own (he needs to be retrained too if that’s the case)
Its territorial…cats like to be alone so when more then one lives together they start to do things like that to mark their area and their people.
Check for a medical problem and make sure the cat is fixed. If everything checks out, then nope the heck out of there. No way I could live in cat pee and no way could I live with anyone okay with living in cat pee.
Try getting more litter boxes. We have three male cats and have four boxes. My cats also are picky about their kitty litter. They do not like the scented kind, like Fresh Step. They will only use Special Kitty Natural Clay from Walmart. It’s pretty cheap, too.
Take the cat to the vet. They could have urinary track problems. Cats will do this if they are sick. They are trying to get your attention.
Could be several things… cat could be sick because they will do that at times … is there only one cat box ? May need more than one … is it kept clean… did this behavior just start since you have been coming over or did this happen before? There are many reasons why… … are the cats fixed because a male that isn’t neutered will Mark it’s territory…
Are the cats spayed/neutered? Also trip to the vet for UTI’S or other health issues. Add another litter box or 2. We use Cat Spot litter for our 7 cats. Google it. It is great!! Made from ground up coconut shells and is very light weight. It is a little more expensive but you don’t get the 'litter box smell" if you don’t clean the box every day.
First off, how many litter boxes are there? In a multi cat household, there should be 1 extra box than the number of cats. Two, boxes need to be scooped every day. Does the cat have its claws? Sometimes declawed cats are sensitive to the litter and won’t use the box if the feet are sore. It wouldn’t hurt to have a vet check in case the cat has some health issues like a UTI or bladder stones.
Its a territorial thing between you and the cat. She’s also female She’s marking his home and him as hers. First thing to do is check and make sure she’s fixed. That’s why she’s peeing on things that are his. Most of the time females like males do this when they aren’t fixes and most often it’s spray not urine. Female cats spray just like males and it smells much worse then normal cat urine when it comes from either gender.
I’d just tell him you love him but y’all gotta figure something out about the cat or he’ll have to just be ok with you not living together.
Take the cat to the vet. I strongly advise against physically punishing them. It could be CRF, diabetes, bladder infection, a blockage if the cat is a boy…
Had an older cat that would no longer use the litter box. Put out puppy pads. Problem solved.
I would get another littler box. If it’s an older cat, there could be issues like diabetes. 2 litter boxes for one cat is the rule most times. Or. The cat is being territorial.
How old is the cat? As they get older they “forget “ their manners. I had a 19 year old cat that would look right at me, crap in front of the washing machine, pee on the pile of laundry and then go over and scratch in the litter box he never would have done that when he was younger. Kitty dementia.
he may have a urinary tract infection or doesn’t like the cat litter, try another one!
Could be a urinary tract / kidney infection. Take them to the vet ASAP. But they also may be upset that you have invaded their territory & are showing how jealous they are by peeing everywhere.
Our male cats did that and I couldn’t stand it! I ended up getting a second litter box and scoop it every single day and they stopped.
I use angry orange from Amazon and that stuff works. I have 2 cats, 3 litter boxes. Was training a puppy and accidents happen. Kills the smell. Spray it where you don’t want them to go. They are not fond of citrus . On the upside, the house smells great. I lightly mist the furniture and around the whole house. Check it out. Will not be without it.
I have 2 cats and 3 litter boxes (one on every floor) both cats are male. One fo the cats doesn’t really socialize with everyone in the house and mainly stays in his room. Once we moved the fish tank from the basement to his room he started peeing/spraying everywhere. As soon as we related it to the fish tank and moved it out the peeing stopped. This cat was familiar with the fish tank too, but just didn’t like it in his room. I’ve had cats since I was a little girl and this is the only cat I’ve had a problem with. He is neutered too and was cleared of UTI.