My bf goes over to his baby Mumma’s house to see their child or picks up for his week on and she dresses like a sleaze or puts on what he likes… And made the comment along the lines of “ oh hope your gf don’t get mad” I appreciate he tells me these things so I tell him I’m uncomfortable with it and want him to say something to her to stop. He wants to just ignore it and “save the peace “ this thing is vile… and has I’ll intentions. I trust him. But at the same time you just never know… thoughts ?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My boyfriends ex dresses a skimpy when my boyfriend comes around
Why not call her out on it. Go with him and when she dresses like that call her on it
She is doing it to piss you off. Ignore her. He doesn’t want her or he wouldn’t be telling you.
If he’s wanting to ignore it to not cause problems I would understand… be happy he is being upfront and honest about what goes on over there when he’s getting or seeing his child…
Go with him dressed classy.
Maybe that’s just how she dresses?
You can’t control what someone else wears. You say you might trust him but if you are worried she would “take” him because of an outfit then why be with him anyway? If you really are this insecure, don’t date anyone with kids. He has seen her na*ed at some point so what’s the big deal about seeing her with clothes on.
Honestly. I would just shrug it off. No use of making it more drama with kids.
Definitely don’t give her the attention she’s wanting. But also, maybe it’s just how she dresses on her kid free weekends? The worst thing you could do is feed your jealousy/fear/worry into this situation. I agree with him ignore her, show her behavior doesn’t phase you because that’s how secure y’all’s relationship is.
Don’t bother saying anything. You can’t make her change her own outfits.
Just go with him and if you want to be petty just dress se*y yourself.
I wouldn’t fret too much because of the fact that he does tell you and is honest about it.
If you trust your man leave it alone. Calling her out may make the coparenting harder for you BF. In the end she’s the one looking like a fool
Go with him… dress in what your bf likes and then when he’s loving on u and not her… she will get the hint…
Ride with him. You can’t control how someone dresses
You all can’t tell the woman how to dress in her own house. He should just continue to ignore her or put a look of disgust on his face. You going or addressing it is just going to let her know that she is getting to you.
Sorry but it’s none of your business how she dresses. She is her own woman. Wether she has I’ll intentions or not. If you don’t trust your man just say that
If he comments to her to stop etc may likely fuel it ignore it can’t control what others do.
They obviously broke up for a reason, if you trust him what’s the issue? Do not call her out on it and going with him isn’t going to make a difference. Get over it. They have a child together and again, are no longer together. He’s with you. He clearly still has the option to be with her if he wanted to and is choosing not to. So Be the bigger person and ignore it.
She’s trying to cause issues and wants to know that it gets to you. Just leave it be. Let her be. It’ll piss her off more than saying/doing anything.
I’d just keep the peace for the kids because at the end of the day it’s gonna hurt them more then it’ll hurt you adults, be the mature person.
Also at the end of the day he’s still with you & not her.
She wants this to cause issues
She can wear whatever tf she wants to. She’s not coming for your man, they just share children and you’re being really insecure. If you really truly GENUINELY trust him you have nothing to worry about.
Like it or not, you can’t dictate how his kids’ mom wants to dress. Also if he likes it, that is an issue of his, not hers. She can wear whatever she wants. HE owes you commitment, not her, if what she wears make him tempted or you insecure that’s a problem of you and your guy.
Go with but dressed up cute and classy
By her making the comment about what she is wearing means she is trying to cause a problem and knows what she is doing. But what did he say to her when she said that? Hopefully he is defending you. But I would go with him and dress classy and be confident because you trust him
You can’t tell people how to dress! LMAO!!
I would never give her the satisfaction by acting upset, let her look sleazy.
Umm he tells you to make you jealous!
She’s doing it to piss you off. It’s working.
As an adult she’s going to do what she wants. He can have a conversation with her to make it CRYSTAL clear the way she dresses, flirts, or tries to have sex with him or get him back is only doing the opposite and won’t work the way she thinks it will. Of course he has to mean it and say it with conviction. If you trust him, trust him, but the more it bothers you, if she knows it does, the more she feels she’s winning and may even make more attempts just to cause arguments in your relationship.
So you pick them kids
Yikes to all of this.
You don’t trust him if you have to add “you just never know.”
If you have to ask, there’s your answer
Sounds like he’s manipulating you with triangulation. He’s trying to make himself seem more of a catch to you and make you feel like you’ve got to fight for his attention. Red flag
Just let her make a fool of herself…. If you trust him then there shouldn’t be an issue…… he has no control over the things she does…. Especially clothing she wears.
There’s absolutely nothing you can do.
My fiance’s ex wife is the same so I dress sexier since she has supervised visitation at the park n we have to be there for it … it’s funny how jealous she gets just fight fire with fire sweetie
She’s gunna dress how she’s gunna dress and it’s not worth her getting mad and then keeping the child away from him if she’s petty. If you trust your man you shouldn’t be worried.
Yah id just ignore it. She’ll dress how she wants and to ask her to cover up more cause your uncomfortable is odd.
If he isn’t into it then how she dresses truly shouldn’t matter.
Oh… let him say something and she will ramp it up!! Just what she wants, a reaction from the “new” gf. Don’t be that person. If he wanted her, he would still be with her. If her dressing like a sleaze gets him back in her bed, then he was never meant to be in yours.
What is his reasoning for even telling you? To make you jealous? If there was “nothing to worry about” I don’t even understand why he would tell you? Seems all it causes is drama for you
She’s doing it to get under your skin.
She is jealous of you so she tries to make you feel the same way .it’s working! Compliment her and don’t let her know it’s disturbing you.
It seems he didn’t mind much cuz he then had his bff to lean on in the afterlife
The show should’ve made Caroline marry Alaric
If he says something she’s going to only be worse
I would ignore tf out of it. If you trust him that’s all that matters. She makes no difference. He seen her in all that shit before and he still domt want her. Hes with you. If you cant trust him to co parent and only co parent you should not be with him.
Get rid of the BF…why he starting trouble by telling you anything she “may” say. How do you know she even said that… you’re going off of what he said. I wouldn’t fall for it and I turn and walk away.
Well at least he is seeing his child a lot don’t make the effort. I mean all you can do is trust him if not that’s another issue. If he wants to ignore it to keep the peace for the child then good on him as he is thinking of his child
He’s open about what happens so what’s the issue? If he was interested he probably would’ve done something by now anyway. You can’t exactly say she must wear a certain outfit or dress a certain way just when he comes. I think your insecurities are showing here and you need to address them. I think you rocking up with him to grab his child wouldn’t be the best idea either. I think that’ll just cause problems for him and the child.
You’re better off following his lead and ignoring her. Or if she says “I hope gf won’t get mad” bs just get him to tell her to stop being childish. Because that’s what that is.
In the end. Ignore it. She’ll want it to get to you. If you show it isn’t she might stop or lose interest in trying to cause issues with you and your partner.
I’d be insulted that HE ever wanted THAT.
She’s wanting to get under your skin… don’t let her know it bugs you.
If you trust him it shouldn’t matter what she wears.
He can’t tell her how to dress🤦♀️
This has nothing to do with you
He can’t control what she does, he wants to keep peace with the mother of his child so he can continue to be active in his child’s life and he’s being honest with you and keeping communication open with you… sounds to me like you should find a way to settle your mind and trust your man… since he hasn’t given you any reason not to
He can’t tell her to stop lol she can wear whatever she pleases. You have to have trust girl.
Maybe you need to start meeting in a public place like a police station parking lot for drop off/pick up
If you trust him why did you make this post? Maybe she is genuinely concerned you’re gonna be mad? It is hoe season so this doesn’t seem out of the norm… not to mention? Is she answering the door in nothing but a see thru robe? Or is she in just a hella cute mini skirt and a crop top? I need more details maybe pictures either way I still think you need to chill out and worry about the child and not the mother. Grow up or don’t date someone that has a kid
Just ignore her. He’s with u and u trust him so she can try all she wants but nothings gonna happen
Dude…you can’t tell her how to dress. If you trust him, then why are you so worried?
I’m sorry but he has absolutely no right to tell her what to wear… If you trust him you have no worries about how she dresses
If he wants her, he was never yours just walk away.
He’s telling you so you trust him and some believe her.
That’s just letting her think she won and it’s bothering you. If y’all ignore it and laugh it off, it’ll show her better than saying something. And if something does happen… then he ain’t the one
You saying something will only make her do it more. She’s not gonna so oh I understand.
I feel like he told you b/c he wanted you to know and know that you can trust him. That’s good.
It sounds like you just need to vent because she’s being messy. Get it out and move on.
Why is he concerned with what she’s wearing? I wouldn’t trust him too far. Weird he makes it a point to tell you every time
You dont trust him. If you did you wouod not have posted. She is an ex for a reason just remember that.
Don’t allow her to get to you. That’s what she wants to do.
He can’t make that grown a$$ women wear certain clothes. He is doing right by telling you what’s going on. You have to trust him to do what’s right by you
Do you go with him to pick up or drop off? Do you actually see her dressing that way? Maybe that’s how she always dresses. If the answer to the questions is no, than how do you know he’s not just saying it to get your reaction? Some people get off on that. If that’s how she normally dresses, than she’s not doing it for him. Stop reacting to it and see what happens. Neither you or him can control how she dresses, but you can certainly control your reaction to it.
Say what ? You’re not her mom , you don’t get to tell her how to dress in her house. Stay in your lane.
You nor your boyfriend have any right to tell his ex what she can or cannot wear
Mind your business like your boyfriend seems to be minding his. If you trust him there shouldn’t even be a problem.
If she can make him break your trust by actually doing something with her then she should have him and you bow out because any man that can be taken should be had -
If he wants only you hers and anybody in the world can try 4ever and it won’t work. Balls in his court not hers or yours.
Ignore it and save the peace hmmm sounds like his trying to make you jealous
If you have to wonder about him he’s not worth it.leave now.
If he is Telling You, I Think he is Trustable
What can he tell a grown woman about her attire? Absolutely nothing. You need to relax and get ahold of yourself. She can wear whatever she feels comfortable in. You can simply stop focusing on her. Focus on you and your relationship. Stop giving her a reason to believe your insecure and bothered. Much peace and love ☆
I mean…he can’t tell her what to wear. So I’m not sure anything can be done about that. If you trust him, then that’s literally the only thing YOU have control over.
She’s getting the response she wants out of you. So technically she is winning in the game she is playing.
Ignore it and don’t play into it.
I’m not saying you can’t tell your bf it bugs you but also don’t add fuel to the fire.
Unfortunately you can not control what someone else wears. If she has ill intentions as u stated, she will still have the same intentions wether she answers the door topless or in a turtleneck sweater…work on your trust in your man…if he strays then he isn’t one for you.
He has to pick up his child and he can’t tell her How to dress soo
Leave it be…it’s more than rude but your life is better letting her dress how she wants
That’s exactly what she wants !! To make her uncomfortable lol don’t give her the satisfaction
You don’t trust him if you think she can take him if she wants to lol. Either you trust that he won’t be tempted by her, or you don’t.
Go with him to pick up his kid.
Him addressing it to her lets her win. Why address it? Let him ignore her efforts like a respectful man hes seemingly trying to be. If he had bad intentions, why would he tell you these things? If you’re worried about it, dress how he likes too and give him no reason to look elsewhere.
Just leave it be. It could cause problems with him seeing his kid. As long as he’s open and honest with you that’s all I’d worry about.
She’s just looking for attention and to cause drama… its her problem
The more you complain the more he will do it and she knows what she’s doing. Is there a curb close by you! KICK!!
You can’t police what she does in her house. You either trust him or you don’t.
You want him to tell her what to wear in her own house
“This thing is vile” I love it.
She’s trying to intimidate you. She wants to move on but she wants him to still want her. She’s a child, your man is pointing it out to you is him respecting you. If he brings it up she’ll only continue longer or be worse. They have a child together it’s going to be years of dealing with her… whatever that expirence is like. I think it’s more important you work on watering your grass and being happy with your man. he’s not worried about what he’s already had, they aren’t together now for a reason.
Number one a woman can wear whatever tf she wants to and that doesn’t make her sleazy. For two if that’s all it takes to make your boyfriend want to cheat on you than maybe you should reevaluate your relationship with your spouse.
She can wear what she wants, he is going to react how he wants. You can’t control either one.
Hate Woman like that! Ugg!
Ignore -SHES Notttttttttt worth your Energy!!!
Stay Unbothered, who’s he with & coming home to ??? End of story !!!
Yea, let it be. You can’t tell her what to wear