My child keeps sneaking out: What should I do?

Any chance your close with the girlfriend and/or parents?! It would be ideal to sit down with them as a couple. Maybe reach out to the girlfriend and offer your 2 cents as a woman. If they’re serious enough about each other, there’s not much you can do, he’ll find a way to see her. Be supportive so he knows he can come to you. Set boundaries for everyone. Good luck mamma :two_hearts:

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And pregnancy scare ? Educate them he will do it regardless if u want to or not

If this were my child (I have a 16 yo boy) I would take his phone and possibly his TV. Alarm on the window and possibly taking his door off the hinges. He needs to earn everything. As long as he is fed and has a roof over his head he should be good.

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Talk to your kids be open we where all teens before don’t act perfect

Life360 on his phone so you can see his location at all times. If he turns it off, then you turn the phone off.
That’s my suggestion.
Educate him on sex, SAFE sex. Buy him condoms. Discuss with his girlfriends mother about having her put on birth control.

I would put a tracker on his phone

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I hate to be that person, but call the cops. My sister and I snuck out many times. It wasn’t until my parents reported us as missing and getting I trouble with the law that we stopped. My parents did not press charges.or anything of that nature but we were told they could list us as unruly children and send us to a juvenile facility. We were made to do community service and attend a local program in our county. But neither one of us ever snuck out again after that

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Put alarms on windows and doors or camera with motion alerts on them around your house.

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If you haven’t already, speak to.the girlfriend’s parents. Maybe they’re unaware about the sneaking around at night. They’re either both sneaking out and meeting somewhere, or he’s sneaking into her house. You can all work together to put an end to the sneaking around. Can you put a tracking app on his phone? Maybe an alarm system on your house? You may need to have a few sleepless nights so you can catch him sneaking out and immediately stop him.

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Maybe he needs to see a therapist. Sounds like his risky behaviors are symptoms of something bigger – maybe depression or anxiety. He is at an age where it is normal to start to push the boundaries more and explore who you are. Maybe finding some compromises hat still allow some exploration but put boundaries in place, too. Best wishes!

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I would have a frank conversation. “Look, I totally understand that you want to do x, y, z, but I am really worried about (insert natural consequences). Can we figure out how to do this safely?” Growing up in a strict home did nothing except make me sneak around. I had my son at 18. I’m trying to set clear boundaries with my kids now so they are normal by teens, and be honest.

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We have a alarm system, and cameras, and we have a rule to put up all electronics at bedtime! I also have a tracking app on my oldest phone (younger ones don’t have phones)
I have a 14 yr old boy a 12 yr old boy and a 10 yr old boy and pregnant with my 4th boy! I’m 32 also.

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They did come out with birth control for guys recently. I was a bad kid. Did all this an more at his age. I had my first kid when I was 16. My best advice is to get him the birth control an sit down an talk to him don’t yell scream nothing like that. Just try an see where he’s coming from. My oldest never snuck out on me. But I found talking to them an trying to understand where they are coming from gets you further. Get a alarm system or even camera’s on the house. They’ll notifies you on your phone that some ones out there.

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Just put a tracker on his phone and see what he’s up too. At that age they will do whatever they want no matter what you say. It’s definitely tough!

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I would install an alarm system on the doors and windows. If he opens them, it will set the alarm off. Just don’t give him the code to deactivate it. I have access to it on my phone so I can turn it off and on whenever I like. I would also suggest maybe some counseling. Maybe there is something else underlying that’s going on and maybe he’s not able to talk to you about it.

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Alarm system?
Hell, with a pregnancy scare already, make him camp out on your bedroom floor at night.

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They sell alarms for outside at rural king any movement sets them off. Hide outside where I can’t see it. It worked for me no more sneaking out I moved it periodically.

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He wasn’t at a buddy’s house, he was with his girl. Talk to her parents cause they may not have caught on to what she is doing (either sneaking out to meet him or sneaking him in). If she is sneaking out to meet him, maybe point out to your son that her sneaking out in the middle of the night could very well put her in mortal danger. If he cares about her he should think of her safety and walking alone at night is not safe.

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Take him to speak with his gf and her parents make a compromise I had 4 sons and trust me sweety there isnt alot to do but work with him through this time my sons were allowed to have their gfs to sleep over I know crazy huh but lets face it wouldnt you rather know the kids were safe using protection under your roof etc? Yes if course there were rules in place etc but seriously the more you fight the more he will rebel my sons are now young adults and guess what they all work and I still have no grandchildren so try and ease off with him and instead work with him :heart: good luck your going too need it lol

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The joys of having teenagers …hes 15 and has a gf. Maybe a family meeting with both parents and teens…her parents know she had a pregnancy scare im assuming …talk to them like the young adults they are and set some boundaries you can all live with…

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Hear me out… therepy. Family counseling, parenting classes. I mean you obviously can’t control him, so try just understanding him. Get a hold of her parents and make sure that she’s on BC or something. You don’t want to get all “crazy” and push him away instead of getting him to trust you and what you say. Rebellious kids will Rebel even more when you try to put a leash on them.:v:t4: I’m out.

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Remove his bedroom door, put alarms on the windows, take all of his electronics. Make him earn these things back. If it continues to be a problem you might want to make him sleep with his dad for a few weeks. He’s 14 and smoking weed!!! As a substance abuse counselor, I can tell you that marijuana is terrible on the undeveloped brain. Doesn’t seem to have serious effects on the adult brain. Research State Dependent Restriction and you will learn the damage on the youth brain.

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WARNING TO ALL PARENTS
Beware that your child may have more than one phone – taking away the one you know about may not solve that problem.
Also, be aware that many new game toys have internet capabilities and your child can chat through the game system.

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Do you know anyone with an infant or child under 12 months? I would say have them babysit maybe. That was a good birth control for me as a teenager. Didnt have my first child until 37.

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I had my window screwed shut and lost my bedroom door. My mom figured if I couldn’t be trusted with privacy than I didnt deserve privacy. Not saying its the correct way, but I stopped sneaking out.

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Put an alarm system in. Take away all electronics. Make him earn things back. Hell…take away his door. All he is entitled to is a roof, food, clothes and a bed. Make him earn that trust back. Not gonna lie, it’s a hard row, but you do what you have to do to keep your kid safe.

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Strict parents=rebellious children.

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Anything these people are saying won’t help… if hes sneaking out to see his girlfriend, just let her come over and let them be alone for a bit, I feel as though you dont let him see his girlfriend as often as he wants or else he wouldn’t be wanting to sneak out… I honestly think hes rebelling because he doesnt see her… have a talk and set boundaries but please let him be a teen and explore things( ie having a girlfriend, being able to have independence ) I hope all this came out correctly !!! Please don’t get cameras or alarms, your only going to make the situation worse for yourself… and him in the long run because he will feel targeted and violated as though he can’t ever do anything without being watched

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Security system, escort to school and home. Talk to the gfs parents. Take the phone. He is 14 he doesn’t have to have one. He is heading down a path that is gonna lead to fatherhood. At 14 he should not be having pregnancy scares. If he still has free time and energy to try and sneak off put him in sports or get him a job. This is just my opinion but 14 is to young to even have serious relationships like that. They are to immature and hormones are in control and they are not gonna think straight. I have a 14 year old and if he even thought about sneaking out to have sex me and his dad and our extended family would be having a very long conversation and he would not be getting any privacy at all. Even his door to his room would be gone. As a parent we have to do what is best for them so they can have the best possible future. Even if it means they don’t like us half the time.

Seems to be in his dna , lol you had him at 15 lol teapot calling the kettle black .

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Ok so first you need an alarm on your doors and windows. They can be bought pretty cheap on amazon. Second, you need to put a tracking app on your son’s phone and tell him if it gets deleted he will lose the phone. Those are the best pieces of advice I can give you.

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Sit him down and have a heart to heart talk, tell him WHY you don’t want him sneaking around at night. Maybe let him stay out later on non school nights IF he is honest about what he is doing and who he is with. Make sure he has condoms, even if she is on the pill teach him he still needs to use them, we all know one missed pill can mean pregnancy. He also needs to babysit a newborn or two for a few hours so he has a better idea of how much work they are. He has already tried pot and started having sex you are not going to be able to stop him unless you lock him up, but taking the fun out of it by allowing these things under certain rules like no pot on school nights may make him lose interest. Be open and honest about things you did as a rebellious teen, you know he will get drink promise to be understanding and always be there for a safe ride home without punishment. Remember the between child and adulthood stage is hard showing live and patience will bring you closer.

To be honest you won’t be able to stop him from becoming a parent at a young age. My sister got pregnant at 17-18 had her baby. Of course there wasn’t no disappointment with my mom. Ya her dad was kinda upset (my step dad). And of course I got the blame for her getting pregnant. But just cuz he still a teen. And going out isn’t going to stop him from getting some one pregnant. If he does. Well I mean it’s life. Just hope he graduates. That’s what we’re pushing my sister to do. And we’ll i didn’t get pregnant till I was 20. Weather your ready to be a grandma or not. It’s gonna happen either way. Just keep that in mind. And once that life comes to this world your not gonna regret it. I know cuz my mom loves her grandbabies and is spoiling them to the max.

Can you read his texts?
Who is initiating the meetups?
Is the gf controlling him with sex?
It’s she a good person or manipulative?

I definitely would lay all the cards on the table … Don’t hold anything back when speaking with him.

Communicate with him. Don’t be angry, exasperated, upset, disappointed, uncomfortable, or any other negative emotion when you do so. Approach a conversation with him when you’re feeling relaxed and open minded, and ask him questions in a way that doesn’t seem like you’re “grilling” him. Ensure he knows that whatever he tells you he won’t be in trouble, that you’re only there to listen, understand, and maybe come up with solutions. Why does he feel the need to sneak out? What is he doing when he does sneak out? How is school going? Has he been feeling overwhelmed or confused or restless lately? Just some examples of questions I’d ask.

I’m almost 30 now, but I started doing what he’s doing at the same age. I didn’t fully understand why, but I wish my parents would have had the awareness to just talk to me like a person and help me navigate what I was going through and how it was impacting my behavior. My parents loved me, but they never took the time to truly know or understand me. I’m betting that’s what your son needs from you right now.

As for sex? Just give him a big pack of condoms and personally? I’d take the girlfriend to get birth control if teens are able to get it in your state without parental consent. It could be dangerous for her if her parents find out she’s sexually active, we can never know how people will respond to things that are still considered taboo and “sinning”, but she deserves protection just as much as your son needs her to have that additional protection.

Talk to God girl and pray I do all the time.kids think we r so hard on them when we only want to protect them.kids r hard on our hearts and always worrying and the long sleepless nights .they will understand when they have kids of there on.

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show him videos of screaming culicy babys and show him that a real man when u have a kid gets up with his wife or gf any time the baby gets up, show him that kids get rashes and show him a shitty diaper that will change the tune im sure

I’m a young mom so it’s easier for me to understand but my kids are also young so I haven’t experienced this yet and won’t for a long time. But controlling your kid will just make him sneakier especially if he’s already sneaking. Probably should try being more open to him about it and less controlling. As hard as it may be.

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Speak to the parents. And put alarms on windows and doors. Ring doorbell…

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like take him to a relitives and make him change an explosive diaper trust me

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I’m 30 and will be a grandma in 4 weeks am so stressed over it but can’t do much about it no advice because I was dealing with the same thing tell my daughter got pregnant

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You’re smart to be concerned. Teens don’t realize how their choices can affect their future- as well as yours-and could start a downward spiral. Both of my grown daughters look back at their first loves and cringe now, but at the time it was the end of the world when we put restrictions on them. Install an alarm on your house (all doors and windows) and arm it each night. Don’t tell your son it’s because of him-make it about safety/crime.
Talk to the parents of the girl. If they’re having sex you’re not going to be able to stop that. The next best thing is to make sure she’s on birth control-not what most parents want to do, but imagine the consequences if she were to become pregnant.
Sign him up for programs, camps, sports-things he is interested in doing that will teach him a skill or keep him busy.
Have him get a job-especially if it’s something he enjoys doing. He won’t have time to see her, he’ll be too tired, and he’ll be making money which he should be saving for the future.
Have him enroll in extra credit courses that will count towards a degree.

I would get with the gf mom and both of y’all set up something for volunteering with a daycare or even a nursery in church. Let them deal with some screaming babies and let them see that it’s not what they see on tv. My teenage girls want nothing to do with sex not just bc of their raising but bc I worked in a daycare and had them come volunteer there to see what babies really are and now I babysit at home. Maybe speaking with a police officer if y’all have a good friend could help on the other stuff to put the perspective in their heads on the evil in this world today. U might sneak out and be picked up by a stranger on the way! I don’t sugarcoat things for my teenagers bc I want them to be aware of their surroundings. I would maybe set up that life360 on the phone and if they turn it off at any point just let them know that is it u lose that privilege.

Her parents need to be talked to first. She needs to be on birth control. Shes a minor, don’t give her a choice. I’d do the depo shot if it was my daughter. They may also not know what shes doing. Alarm on the door, lock on the window? But I’m the ass parent. I’d be sleeping in front of the door.

I mean when it comes to weed I wouldn’t be too bothered I was smoking it at his age… I was also having sex at his age but I went on the pill… I would have a conversation with her parents about putting her on the pill and using protection and educating him on STIs… might also help if you and her parents both talk to them together… alarm or no alarm if he is going to sneak out his window he will

Alarm on all the windows and doors

Chain him to the bed

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You were 16-17. What should your parents have done?

Talk to the girlfriend’s parents

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When my daughter started having sex, I took her and bought her condoms. I didn’t want the boy to say he didn’t have any. So, if you have to “supply”, do it! Are you allowing them time during the day to spend with her? I would invite her and her parents over for dinner and a chat to set some boundaries… But I am not going to lie. I installed cameras and a house alarm to which her code did not work after 10 pm (her curfew).

Do you have a friend with an infant or small toddler? Send him to her or him for a weekend he will smarten up real quick.

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My kids didn’t
Do this but , this happened to my son . I think it will help . He was about 17 and a friend of his had a baby at 17 . She had to work and couldn’t find a sitter so she asked him to babysit . Best thing for birth control ever ! He came home and said seriously that he was exhausted and couldn’t even use the bathroom without binding the baby ! LOL . He’s almost 29 - no babies yet !

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You can get inexpensive alarms for doors and windows.

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Give him advice and hold him accountable for his actions since you understand the rebellion phase. Buy him condoms and give him the cost of raising a child the monetary and non monetary cost loosing his teen years to work and possibly never being able to move out bc of child support if she decides to break up.

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Get an alarm that will go off when a door or window opens!

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Download the Life360 app to keep up with his location.

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My dad nailed my windows shut :grimacing::joy:

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U can get little alarms for on windows u should get one scare the shit out of him

I am clueless myself. If your husband is putting in the effort with you to help correct his behavior the battle half won. We had a daughter with similar issues who disobeyed all the rules stayed out till 4 or 5am missing and skipping school. The list goes on. My husband would not help me with her behavior and he actually encouraged it. We almost got divorced over it. This was a child raised in the church and got hunged up with the wrong person. I barely got her graduated from high school. I pray everyday for her and always have and will. You need to talk to the girl’s parents and get them to put her on birth control pills. You can’t stop the sex once they get a taste of it keeps going. My sisters convinced me to put my daughter on them I asked my daughter to ask me when she became active. I don’t believe in teenage sex myself but it happens. We went through family counseling you can try that too.

I would get an alarm and keep the control pad in your room, only set it at night and put a sensor on every door and window that he could get out of

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Maybe more after school activities and a part time job will keep him busy and tired enough he won’t be playing games because he’ll be too tired and too interested in making money.

My dad put bars on my window. A few friends of mine have alarms that are extremely loud that sound anytime the windows or doors open. You have to have one on each individual window, though. You could make him sleep in your room and put the alarm on the door so he can’t get out.

Super strict will help!
Hubs is prior military maybe thats why it works with us.
My husband will be firm with our 11yr old and she knows what to expect. For the love of god he is 14. He was 10yrs old 4yrs ago. Make hard ass rules. Take his door off the frame. Take his phone.
He wants to escape and act like that. Well pal you’re a kid and now youre in time out.

Times are different I get that but if I had tried that I would of got my ass busted. Literally.

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I don’t know if you have already but buy him condoms. You can’t stop him from having sex but you can try and make sure it’s safe.

If he is your oldest, I would make a suggestion for the younger children. Do not for any reason allow them to have boyfriends or girlfriends even if they are young and all they do is hold hands. allowing it early on sets the stage for having more serious relationships at to young of a age. Encourage hobbies instead of relationships.

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Hormones in FULL SWING!!! gps on car or life 360 on his phone. Hide the app

Maybe he needs a little more freedom. Weekend home at a certain time. If you meet parents of kids maybe he can stay out later if you pick up and drop off. Punishment if break rules. It might work but it might not. Always buy him condoms. I’m waiting for my son to start . I don’t encourage him having sex when he’s older but I will give him all the safety precautions he needs. A new box of condoms on the nightstand when he comes home from school. Encourage him to ask you for more when they’re done.

I used to do the same thing, the only reason I would sneak out was because my mum would make me come in early and refused to let people come over and stay the night that I hung out with. Granted he is young, but sit down and talk to him, maybe let him invite his girlfriend round to stay over but make sure he has protection. He is going to carry on finding a way and/or having sex one way or another regardless of whether you allow it or not. But wouldn’t you rather they be safe and inside your home where you know nothing bad can happen to him. Take the time to get to know his girlfriend too, there’s no point in taking away electricals because all that will do is make him resent you and he will just carry on as soon as you give them back. He’s growing up and needs a little freedom but it’s better to have him safe inside with freedom to have his girlfriend round, although still with certain rules etc. My mum done everything to stop me sneaking out but I still did, nothing stopped me. If she had let me have a little more freedom and got to know people I was with them I think she would have handled it differently. Parenting is hard and we are all still learning no matter how much experience we have, don’t overthink, just try and reason with him x

Hmmm… I’d talk to him about birth control and the reality of being a teen parent. You may not be able to control everything but you can open his eyes to that.

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There is a mom on TikTok. Her handle is alisonsaidno and I really love to hear how she parents and what she does for her kids. She also has answered questions about how she handles her kids going out and curfews and stuff. It makes a lot of sense, I feel. Maybe check her out if you have TikTok.

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As much as you want to prevent him from making “bad decisions” ultimately it is his life and choice.

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Maybe talk to her parents about them being sexually active. I was a teen mom and it’s because my dad wouldn’t let me get on birth control and we had the condom break 1 time. That’s all it took. I think all you can do is educate on how to be safe with sex and encourage him not to do drugs. That’s all you can do.

When he sleeps pull up a cot in his room. When he leaves dress in your bathrobe go with. He will think twice

Maybe… u had him when u were v young and if u think it’s not a wise thing to do, tell him about it. Tell him why u think it’s not so advisable. Tell him about ur worries like the financial issues and his education issues etc. Talk to him… keep doing it but don’t blame him don’t put him down. I think educating him in the best way is the best u can do. If he don’t get it, there is no way u can enforce rules, tracking devices etc.

Wish u luck.

Would get window alarm and buy a large thorny bush and plant it right outside the window :rofl:

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New home alarm with contact points on the doors and windows. Don’t tell him the code. Once it is armed, no door or window can open without it going off. And turn on location sharing in Google maps so you can always locate his phone. If sharing is turned off you will get a notification that he had stopped sharing with you. Warm him, if it gets turned off he loses the phone.

Hello… You have a problem with the social laws in American society. There are strict laws that restrict fathers and mothers from interfering in the lives of their children… In Iraq, for example, things are very different, the son may become 40 years old, and the father has the right to interfere in his private affairs if he sees a mistake or A problem and the son will be accepting and listening out of respect for his parents.

Get a alarm system for the house and dont give him the code.

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Not going through this, but if i was, i would make sure he understands his girlfriend is welcome at home, and for a sleepover. I would make them food, snacks and not intrude. Wouldnt you like him to be safe at home ? This way sneaking becomes pointless. You can’t stop him anyway. If you get close you can advise in a smooth way :blush:

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He’s 14 , living in your house for free is a gift. You need a better punishment and wake up call before he sneaks out and gets in a bad crowd and arrested. Set alarms , nail windows shut , ground him . No phone, no computer, no freedom ! He wants freedom , make him work for it.

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Get an alarm that only y’all know the password to. That way any windows or doors open will set off an alarm that will notify the alarm company, police, fire department. Let that alarm go off and let him watch all of them pull up and have him explain why the alarm is going off. I PROMISE you it won’t happen again.

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You voice your opinion and let him know what your concerns are…and if he does different then if he gets in trouble or gets caught getting into any trouble …he will have to face the consequences…be it the police or another kids parent…

Okaaaay, some of these comments are blowing my mind. I was the bad teen. Almost anything you can think of, I did it and half of these suggestions were tried with me and just pushed me further away.

My advice: toss a jar of condoms in the bathroom for easy access. Of course you wish he waited to have sex but he didn’t, so now it’s important to be safe. Going to his girlfriends parents will just make your son shut down and stop telling you things. It’s time to bond with the girlfriend yourself. Say hello to your new temporary daughter! Have her over for supper, watch movies, give them alone time in common areas, and get to know her too. Be able to be a safe place for them to spend time together instead of wherever they’re going at 2am.

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Life360… helps with cheating spouses and rebellious teens :wink:

Also just general safety.

I have a 15 year old girl and I have a 19 year old as well. Thankfully, I had gone through some things with my oldest that I was somewhat prepared for what to expect with my 15 year old.
It’s very hard situation to be in because you don’t want them to make a life changing mistake, but sometimes life experience is the best teacher.
Making her get a job and just reiterating the same things over and over again have seems to help some, but we still have a situation at least once a week.
Teenagers are so hard!!

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I’m going thru this same thing with my 16yr old daughter

get an alarm system and arm it before bed and don’t tell your son the code. This way if he opens a door or window to sneak out it will wake the entire house. Plus if you fail to disengage the alarm in time it automatically calls local police and might give him a double scare. Could also install locks on the inside if the house and on the windows that only you guys have keys to. desperate times desperate measures. :woman_shrugging:t4:

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Get an alarm. Tell his girlfriend’s parents if they don’t already know or warn him you will if he doesn’t knock it off. Get a find your whatever app. Tell him he needs to get a job. Consequences for sneaking out like no going out the following weekends. I did this stuff when I was younger and nothing deters those hormones but accountability and consequences.

Side note: if they’ve already had a pregnancy scare hopefully she is on birth control. Young teenagers and condoms don’t usually go hand in hand unfortunately and since they don’t make anything else for boys it has to be her. That alone would be a reason for talking to her and her parents. You’ll be the bad guy for a while but babies not having babies is the goal, coming from a baby who had babies to a fellow baby who had babies.

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If you find him out at night, call the police and have him picked up. That might scare him a little. And of course not good decisions, too young yet to make the right ones. They can but it’s not so easy as a teen. But door alarms and window alarms would make noise when leaving too. Police also play a good role to tell them what can happen when out and about without permission. Some cops are pretty cool and can scare them just enough to wake them up. Shame on the girls parents but if kids are gonna have sex, they will find a place.

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Honestly he has to learn consequences.

My parents locked me out of the house so I had to ring the doorbell to come in! They got at the completion of the crime! They also nailed my window shut.

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My kid did the same exact thing at the same exact age and we talked to HER parents so they knew it was going on and one day during summer when all the parents were at work, and we were all talking (the kids didn’t know, mind you) and we suspected they were together when they were told not to, her dad made a surprise stop at home and my son spent three hours hiding in a closet. That was the last time they did that shit ( lol OMGGGGGGG how stupid does that sound, of course it wasn’t) but we tried😂 and they’re still together two years later, great grades, great kids. Good luck💯

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Speak with him one on one about your fears and show him videos of teenagers who got pregnant early and what life is like for them. Be very real and open and express your hopes and dreams and fears to him. Speak with the girlfriend and her parents about everything in a calm and rational manner.

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Do you know the girlfriends parents well? I would be calling her parents, not my son, when I notice him missing. How is he getting places? Is gf house close enough to walk or is someone picking him up? Install cameras in the hall outside his room, by each exist door & outside. Set them on motion detection at night. Alarms on doors (install the cheapies on the outside so he can’t turn them off). No matter what you do you’re not going to stop him from having sex. As the parent you need to teach him as well. Talk about & provide condoms as well.

Oh Mama I’m so sorry you have hit the age of guidance. At this point in age all we can do is guide and advise because they think they have a mind of their own. I’ve gone through the teenager stage three times they managed to live through it and they’ve done just about everything that you said. It’s a hard one. I now understand why my mom said if you live to see 18. Just stay vigilant about the not sneaking out at night. And Lord I wish they would give a shot to boys for birth control.

Time to get a house alarm only you have access to :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Well coming here ain’t gone get ya nowhere , he’s only 14 a teenager, trying to make him do this or that ain’t gone do nothing but make him want to go even harder doing what he want to do

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You made also invite the girlfriend to the home to a certain point at night that she has a time to go home I found that was the way to handle both of my boys. Doors open all the time and I’d pop my head in every few minutes just to make sure nothing was going on you have to kind of trust them even though you know better

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