Girl tell him bye. Let your bro stay. He prob does more than ur bummer ass bd anyways.
Iād pick my brother before any man any day
You did the right thing
People like him always have to make it seem itās not them at fault but the other party to put them on a guilt trip. Donāt give in. I know what thatās like. Tell him to get stuffed as well as lost.
I would kick him to the curb!!
Control freak sounds like to meā¦
Narcissist n y cant ur brother go into the kitchen
Best decision youāve made in 10 years is ending it with him. Tell him he needs to move out and get on with your life
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Babe ā¦ Iāll tell you now I let my second cousin come stay and within days my marriage was falling apart before three weeks was up me and my husband who have a very strong healthy marriage wasnāt talking and my husband even threw the word seperation around granted we didnāt have issues beforeā¦ so we knew the issue was the family staying hereā¦ But if there is underlaying issues you got to decide whatās best for youā¦ And if him not being there is best for youā¦ then maybe your brother being there is a blessingā¦ The world has wild ways of opening our eyes to the things we miss ā¦
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Baby daddy needs to go. Blood is thicker than water. If your brother needs u be there for him. Setting up a camera so he donāt go into the kitchen, how do he expect him to get a drink or something to eat that he pd for. Water is free lol .
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Get rid of the idiot . Guess who the idiot is! You guessed it.
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Get rid of your childās father. He sounds crazy.
if you ended things with babyās daddy why does it matter what he says and why is he still in the house? Get rid of him and keep your brother as long as he lives up.to your agreements.
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Girl kick him out! Or go get a place with your brother. Heās blaming your brother bc you were brave enough to end it with him over his bs. Isolate you and you wonāt be so brave. Heās the one you broke up with so dueces to him
just leave him to think what he thinks. youāve ended it, so what he thinks really doesnāt matter. your brother is your family, if you choose to help him then that is your decision to make. your fella says he wonāt change? donāt take him back.
Youāve done the right thing Iād of kicked him to the kerb years ago, your brothers paying his way so why wouldnāt he be able to help himself to the cupboards heās putting food into. Iād definitely stay out while you can and just try and move on, like youāve said yourself heās never going to change! And tell ya one thing if my brother was still here today Iād choose him over any man! Xx
He sounds like a big baby
You arenāt wrong. The babyās father is controlling, unreasonable, and trying to manipulate you. Your brother lives there. Why canāt he go in the dang kitchen?
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How someone younger doing better then him around the houseš¶
Kick that pos to the curb and roommate with your brother. He seems like a way better person the your baby daddy
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If this has been going on for almost 10 years, why would you even question if youāre wrong for feeling this way? Maybe you should do what heās accusing you of, and pick everyone else over him, because he sounds like a douche! Your brother is young and has his whole life ahead of him. If you can help shape him into a better man, do it. Thereās no hope for the baby daddy. Tell him to kick rocks!
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Sounds like q real ass to me. Wth he canāt go in kitchen. I could see your bedroom and his.but the kitchen. Get out heās nuts take your brother with you
That type of man Iād pick everyone over him too. 
Honestly, you donāt see many 19 years doing what your brother is doing. And honestly I say your baby daddy is a joke. Baby daddy to the curb & less of a headache.
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Whoās house it is would solve many issues. If itās the baby father/ bf what Evers house then you and your brother should get your own place. If itās yours then kick him out. Sounds like bd wants to kick him out to isolate you and force the relationship. To me family is there to help one another. If he has a problem helping family when they are up holding their agreement then he isnāt the type of person I would want in my life b
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I think think you already know the solution sis you just need some encouragement thatās all.
Who sets a camera up to see if someone goes into a kitchen? Lol. To eat? It makes no sense. Please tell me you went off on him.
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You are wrong to keep being a doormat for him.
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Ummm is he not allowed in the kitchen? Sounds like a controll freak.
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Wtf? Canāt go in the kitchen when heās paid rentā¦toss bd to the curb. He sounds like a total control freak! Pfft be done!
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He sounds ridiculous. You know what to do.
Girl you should have left 10 years ago!!
Sounds like to me he donāt care what you think
Get rid of the baby dad asap. Hes a psycho. Your brother is your blood at the end of the day
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Kick him out. Keep your brother.
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Why couldnāt your brother go into the kitchen? Your bf sounds crazy. I know you say you ended things 2 days ago. You need to make that stick. Stop talking to him. If he wants contact with your kid he can go through the court. Keep a record of what he says & does even if doesnāt seem like it matters. It can back you up for requesting a mental evaluation if he would seek custody or visitation. Get a lawyer if it comes to. Right now just stay away from him.
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Control freak and boyish like
The babydaddy needs to go. If itās your house, kick his a$$ out. If itās his house, you and your brother should get a place together.
Your brother lives there with you but he wonāt let him in the kitchen?? Thatās insane. And spying on him with cameras is an invasion of privacy and very disrespectful. Also it seems your brother has been very respectful and more than helpful. Iād say he has more right to live there than the babydaddy does and he seems much more mature.
Daaaang, I would always pick my sibling over a man like that. ALWAYS, and UNAPOLOGETICALLY! Iāll be damned if my family canāt go in my kitchen, that man has control issues and the fact that your questioning if your wrong is wild, and just proves he has you all the way fucked up. Get your mind right before you go fucking up important relationships in your life over him.
The real reason he wants you to get rid of your brother is that heās controlling & emotionally abusive. Abusers isolate their victims. They donāt want others to see how they treat you. Itās easier to gaslight & manipulate you without others. Keep your brother close! Get rid of your ex. Donāt allow him near you, your home, your child (unless he gets a court order then hire an attorney) etc.
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Family 1 st unless they do you wrong but if heās paying to stay there and helping you different story
Oof get baby daddy out if yāall not together anymore.
Baby daddy is trying to control you. It will never stop so you have to stand your ground NOW!
Why wouldnāt he be allowed in the kitchen? I get people out stay their welcome but your brotherās paying his way and doing his share of housework itās not like heās just lying around. If itās over then Iād just straight up tell him yous arenāt together anymore and if you want your brother there then he stays
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Lose the baby dad and keep the brother for as long as he needsā¦ Heās being respectful, helping out, and keeping to his promises. Your baby dad needs some work and he sounds like the one that will never change 
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You are absolutely not wrong for being upset heās treating your brother like a pile of shit when heās been nothing but respectful to yāall helping pay bills and everything so baby daddy has to go immediately you deserve better well good luck
Wtf is it a crime to be in the kitchen guess I best leave before the police come knocking
No he sounds crazy you should let him go and ur brother stay
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Baby daddy seeās you and baby brother can make it with out him. He also has to be nice when brother is around. Yea time to go.
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You left him I thoughtā¦leave it that way and give him da boot!!
Baby daddy seems super controlling. I donāt say that lightly, girl run.
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Your childās father is a narcissist and youāre in a toxic abusive relationship. He wants to isolate you from your family and gaslight you.
No your right - sorry it took 10 years to learn he isnāt going to change.
Keep the brother, get rid of the crazy bf
Who cares what he thinks ?!?
Pick someone over him !!!
He sounds not good for you !
No one can blame you for making a better choice for yourself!
Sounds controlling to me. If he REALLY loves you he should love/support those connected to you ESPECIALLY if itās your brother and he is trying to do better in life. He is doing his part to stay in your home and thatās that. Brothers are forever and boyfriends can be temporary so thereās that!
Let him go! He sounds controlling and immature
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Heās not allowed access to the food Iām assuming ?
poor teenager.
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Be sounds bitter and manipulativeā¦ā¦ run
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He sounds very immature, insecure and a bit unstable. Heās not going to understand or believe anything you say until he gets help.
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Fuk that , id of left him too
Yes he is abusive to you and he will never change. Kick him out and live with your brother.
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WHY did it take 10 yrs. to wake up ???
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"My childs father thinks I pick everyone over him " is not a question.
Sounds like you should pick everyone over him.
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l get paid over $135 per hour working from home. l never thought Iād be able to do it but my buddy makes over $16347 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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Good for you. Good for you for picking ANYBODY over your ex-husbandā¦ he sounds like he just needs to grow up. Go now, and be happy. Donāt listen to his lies
Keep the brother. Leave the baby daddy. 
Why canāt he go into the kitchen?
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First of all you said you both āwelcomedā him into your home. Doesnāt sound like your BD is very welcoming to me. As a matter of fact, itās sounds like heās a jerk. I mean a camera to spy on whether or not the guy goes into the kitchenā¦really 
what if he wants a drink or something to eat for goodness sakes? Whatās that all aboutā¦does the poor guy have to ask to eat or get a glass of water 
. I feel bad for your brother and I think your man is nuts!! Your brother is doing his part and sounds like he respects you more that your man does which the jerk is probably jealous over. He knows you love your brother and heās an ass so to be able to continue to treat you bad he wants your brother gone. Iād tell the jerk to kick rocks for sure. Youāve already dealt with the A hole for 10 years too long 
Aww heās a cry baby. Girl get rid of him and be happy 
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l get paid over $135 per hour working from home. l never thought Iād be able to do it but my buddy makes over $12792 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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Drop him choose your brother
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Seems like u kicked him out 10 years too late. Keep him gone
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I would go ahead and pick everyone over him. He sound immature and controlling. Feel free to kick him out and keep the brother.
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Just ignore his baby tantrums and jealousyā¦
What did your brother do in the past that would make your man so suspicious? What expectations does he have of your brother? Is bro actively looking for work? Did you both sit down and create the ground rules for Bro together or did you decide unilaterally? Do you enable your brother?
What are the reasons you broke up with your BF? So many questions and sides to issues.
Immature and jealous,make a decision ?Do you want to live with that for rest of your life
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l get paid over $125 per hour working from home. l never thought Iād be able to do it but my buddy makes over $11388 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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Shut the door and donāt let him back in heās a control freak 
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You bd is TA.
BD is a controlling POS.
l get paid over $125 per hour working from home. l never thought Iād be able to do it but my buddy makes over $19110 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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Sounds like a control freak to me !Who cares if your brother goes into the kitchen is that off limits ?
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Brother lives there and isnāt supposed to go into the kitchen? Nahh, big ole red flag. Kick BD to the curb!
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Ask him if he would like to wear diapers because heās acting like a baby !!!Also tell him to get a Grip on himselfā¦
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Youāre choosing yourself. And that 100% ok.
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Sounds like you need to pick everyone over himā¦ including yourself!!! Kick that one to the curb!
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End it and dont look back
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I went through something kinda similar, but not completely. I had to choose between my sister and my husband/baby daddy. They had conflicts and stuff like that happened between us. At the end of the day, my sister is my sister and I did above and beyond for her. She ended up passing away after I left my husband because of others things, and stuff like this. Iāve never been happier that I did that either. You deserve to choose yourself, and your amazing for being there for your brother. Itās probably hard for him to have asked for help and definitely if he knows someone feels like that towards him. Sending good vibes youāre way, you got this mama 
Let him be upset, sounds like a jealous cry baby to me. Move on!
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Kick your husband to the kurb
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He should be an adult not a cry baby
Sounds like heās a dick head you can do better
No you are not wrong
Whats wrong with going into the kitchen?
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He sounds like a narcissist who doesnāt like outside eyes in his home.
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Wait so he canāt eat unless yāall are there? Iām confused
Bd can go fuck himself always pick family first
Kick him to the curb you deserve better know your worth Mama