Just support her? It’s really not hard.
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You love your child whoever they are, you support them that’s what us mum’s do 
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Is she happy? Is she being safe? Ultimately, this is all parent’s hopes for their children. My fourteen-year-old son came out 2 years ago. I support him 100% and always have. I support him because I want him to be happy and this is what makes him comfortable and happy. I don’t care who he chooses to love. Being supportive doesn’t always mean agreeing.
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Just love her like you have been doing . She’s still your daughter. She’s still the child you raised and took care of . Just support her and let her know you are there and will always be there when she needs someone.
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Support her. Your child is more important then anything.
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There are religious gay people. There are gay religious leaders. People are born who they are. It’s not a means to hurt you. Using religion to invalidate your child’s feelings will only hurt your relationship with her and her relationship with religion in the long run. Support your child with no “but the insert holy teaching says this”
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Ur “ways” may be set but hers clearly are not. She’s really young and learning her ways. Try to be supportive. Be proud of her and urself for her opening up and being honest with u, u have to be a great momma. I’m sure she knows ur views so it took a lot of courage for her to confide in u.
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I wouldn’t read too much into it right now. When my daughter was about 13 she told me she was bi as well. It was just a phase and she is now 16 and it’s all about the boys
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Momma Ashley Rose any advice?
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I love how someone asks for help and gets criticism.
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Don’t use your religion as a weapon against her. Calling her a sinner is tantamount to rejecting her. I recommend supporting her 100% and denouncing the aspects of your religion that would make you question supporting her. It’s not really supportive or inclusive to say things like, I don’t agree with you but I love you. Or you’re a sinner. Or it’s not for me to judge. You might as well just reject her. Conditional love isn’t love.
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Do you want her to be happy or not? Is your religion more important than your child?
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I’m going to be that person but is your religion more important than your child? No? Then stop worrying about your religion. If your child comes first then leave the religion aside. Do not bring religion up in talks about her sexuality. Don’t mention that it’s against your religion for her to be bi. Treat her just the same as if she came up to you and told you she had failed a test.
Learn about her sexuality. Ask her questions about how she feels with it. If she ever brings a girlfriend over treat it just like you would her first boyfriend. Don’t freak out about it. It’s not a big deal. Accept that she’s her own person and your views and morals will not be the same forever. She may find out later on that she is simply bi curious or that she is full on lesbian. Does that matter that much? Does who she loves affect your life in any drastic way? No? Cool then drop the drama and be happy for her. It took me 14 years to finally come out to my mother and that was simply because I knew she’d react weird and possibly freak out about it. Her actual response was a lot worse than if she’d have just slapped me upside the head 
If your child comes to you about their sexuality or anything else that’s a big deal to them and you react badly or freak out or make it about you, they’re less likely to go to you in the future when they truly need you. Learn about her. Learn from her.
Do not let religion and other people’s opinions cloud your mind. Your child trusts you to be able to open up to you about her sexuality. Please be open minded with her and let her talk about how she feels.
Most of all, love her anyways. Her sexuality doesn’t change who she is. Who she’s attracted too doesn’t change her personality. What she does in the future behind closed doors is nobody’s business but hers. You judging her and being upset will only make it harder for her to open up in the future. While it may not be what you wished it is what it is.
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You support her and love her as if you would if she was straight.
Support her. Your child is more important than any religion
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Use your religion to remember not to judge her and love her for who she is 
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If shes happy…support her decision …and thank the almighty that she has confided in you…your religious views are yours and to be respected…and she has done that by opening up to you…
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She is only 13?! Sex shouldn’t even be on their mind. It could just be a phase and/or attention seeking. It is against God though, and I don’t think he’d appreciate you encouraging it in the name of “acceptance” that’s the devil’s current playing card to “accept” filthy sins. Keep praying this shall pass.
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We have a saying in our house “If you’re not dating for marriage, you’re dating for breakup.” If my kids find someone they want to pursue, I have them put that person’s name in replace of “Love” in 1 Corinthians 13. If they can say that person fits in there perfectly, they are all right in my book. Gender doesn’t matter. My kids will love who they want, that is their choice and it is my job to make sure they know how to be treated and can pick a wonderful partner for them. As a Christian mom, that is where responsibility is.
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Support her anyway. Nothing comes before your child not even religion.
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By supporting her you are condoning what you know is a sin. You can’t support that but you can still love her. Love the child not the sin.
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Pray! My youngest daughter (16) came to me and told me the same thing. All I requested was no pda but other than that she could come to me if she needed to talk,etc. It lasted a little while & it eventually turned into she basically likes boys. I personally think she was trying to find herself. I understand you are deep with your faith & I applaud that but you may need to give your daughter the space/love she needs so she can understand her feeling & find her own faith. You are a bigger influence than you may know 
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She is your child and though you may not agree or be comfortable with it, ultimately she has to be happy in her skin living her life. I have a 19yo who came out in 7th grade to me. And just had a name change legally and has become nonbinary and wants to have breast removal. So there is weekly counseling for a year with a specialist before I will allow it as it will be happening while living under my roof. I am doing what I can as a mother to be supportive even though I don’t completely understand. My child needs to be happy first and foremost. The world is a hard enough place to be without the support of the ones that should love you unconditionally. Also my 20 yo daughter is bi. I have a 30 yo son who has been married with children. Don’t try to talk your daughter out of it. I thought maybe it was a phase but offered support and waited it out to see, and it isn’t a phase.
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“kinda set in my ways” aka closed minded… the way you feel about your husband, boyfriend whatever. she feels the same feelings but for both men and women its natural her brain is just that way because as i was always told growing up “god made you exactly how you are and he never makes mistakes” this is literally how she was born with this type of set up in her brain just as you are heterosexual. leave your religion out of her personal feelings of attraction they have no place. my dad’s Christian always has been always will be so we dont get into relationships of same sex because he feels weird about it though he doesn’t judge or want anyone to be unhappy. he still loves me and shows it every day we just dont bring religion into relationships/attractions. we crack jokes at eachother ill comment on a women and he’ll give me a look but i know he is OPEN MINDED and not set in his ways. his faith is strong and he believes in the word of god yet he wont let that stop him from educating himself and evolving every day so he can better understand things. I’ve also explained a lot to him about how i feel about people romantically and it helped him understand more and see the lack of “sin” in it. so i think you should talk to people who are not straight and willing to educate you. dont debate dont defend just listen and try to educate yourself and understand maybe do some research on the human brain and everything that goes into creating the attraction people feel (straight or otherwise). and please dont treat her like anything is wrong with her shes done nothing wrong but take a huge scary step telling you something that cause lead to her feeling so much shame and hate. she’s your baby she is absolutely PERFECT just the way she is. dont tell her its a faze leave your religion out of it just love her as you always have love her how you believe god does…
All you can do is love her the way Jesus loves you. That’s what my mom had to do when I thought I was bi around the same age. To some it’s a phase to some it’s a lifestyle but regardless the Bible says to raise them up in the way they should go and when they’re old they won’t part from it and I believe that fully. You don’t have to support her decision to still show love. Good luck!
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Support her, you don’t have to follow every word that’s in the Bible to a T. If you don’t support her it could tear your relationship apart
Just ask your self this one question. Do you love your daughter less than what you did before she told you she was bi?
God is with you and for her no matter their sexually we are all par of him, and he gave us the power to love, it’s the world who have made us think differently.
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I’d let her know that no matter who she loves, she’s always be your daughter. And that since this is new to you also for her to maybe help you be supportive.
You can both do this together.
Ask her if there are things you can do to make her feel more comfortable. Thank her for coming to you about it as that takes so so so much courage.
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Don’t be judgemental! Love, ask questions with love!
I grew up in a very religious household. I’m over 30, married with kids and never came out to my parents because I knew they would never speak to me again. I’m glad your daughter is comfortable coming to you, but she’s only 13. She’s finding herself, just so happens gender isn’t a limitation on her journey of love and self-identification. Regardless of who she dates in the future you won’t want to know what happens in her bedroom so it won’t matter if you don’t make it matter.
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You will hear worldly non-faith based opinions and biblical faith based opinions. Since you’re rooted in Gods word, then focus deeply on what he says about this type of situation, pray and seek guidance with your church and pastor/priest. Coming online to ask for this type of worldly opinion can be misleading.
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Im just wondering what religion says that bisexual people should not be loved and accepted
Just love her and don’t make her feel bad for living who she loves.
I love that you want to support her!!! That’s all that matters!!! She is your daughter if she loved sports or art it wouldn’t make you love her any different! Love her no matter what! And support her! She only gets one life to live, don’t make her live it feeling guilty and like a bad person!! You supporting her will help her have a happy and healthy life! If you don’t support her it will effect her negatively forever. Just remember that. It’s your baby love her no matter what.
Literally just treat her the same as you always have
She is still exactly the same person I dont see what the deal is?
Process your feelings with someone else. This isn’t about you right now and she doesn’t need to think her mom doesn’t support her. I applaud you trying, as a bi woman myself, my mom was the same way but she never ever made me feel like she didn’t support me. She just made it known she’s learning too and doesn’t love me any less.
What’s more important? Your daughter or your religion? Any religion that is against a type of person that isn’t hurting anyone doesn’t seem like a good religion to me.
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I really dont understand why yal are giving her hate cause she was raised that way. Shes asking for help on being a good mother and to support her child instead of shunning them!! I wish more parents would
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Remember God loves everyone and judges no one. In the Bible, He tells us to love more than he tells to do anything else. Do that 
she’s not asking you to be bi with her, just love her through it all.
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Decide that it’s not your place to judge. Love her, support her and let God be the judge of how she lives her life.
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Choose your daughter
Personally I don’t think anything has changed. She is exactly who she was 10 minutes before she came out, 10 days before she came out, she is the same. Treat her the same or love her even more for having the courage to come to you. (My 24 year old nephew hasn’t came out to our family because he doesn’t want to disappoint his grandma because she is so religious. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told him to live his truth. Grandma already knows and she loves him unconditionally but he is still afraid to say it out loud to us for fear of being judged.)
She is the same child now as when she was born.she is your flesh and blood and remember God loves all no matter what. This is all between her and God. Who is to say how anyone person interprets Gods word. Only one judge in this world and let her desl with that judge. Always love your child. You won’t regret it.
First I’m so sorry for some of these replies. The writer never said she didn’t love her daughter anymore. She DOES love her daughter and wants help navigating this new territory for her. Unless you have a spiritual relationship with Christ and have experienced the peace that comes with that it’s not ok for you to shame her religion anymore than it’s ok for anyone to shame someone for their sexual preference. While I don’t personally agree with homosexuality or bisexual, I love people for who they are, how they treat people, how they carry themselves.
To the writer:
Just be honest with your daughter. Reassure her of your unconditional love for her, let her know it’s something you don’t understand or agree with but you’ll always love and support her and that she can always come to you, regardless. Pray for God to give you peace and help you through this new stage of life and how to handle it. He loves you and he loves your daughter.
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God loves us no matter what. What she does behind closed doors is her business between God and herself. No one else. It’s not our place to judge. The only people that can cast a stone is someone that is innocent. Love your daughter like God loves all of us.
Love her no matter what. She’s still the same person and that will never change. Be grateful that she came to you. It must have been very hard for her. Take her in your arms give her a big hug and kiss.
You need to be there for your daughter. I came out to my mother 16 years ago, and she’s never accepted it. Always makes me feel ashamed Bc in her day, it just wasn’t acceptable. I can tell you, that if you don’t give your daughter 100% support, you’ll regret it.
Just love her & treat her as you always have, before she came out to you. Coming out as bisexual doesn’t make her any different of a person as she was before she told you. Once you can do that, you can begin to dig deep and figure out why you even had to ask this question.
I am religious as well and I am against it, but she’s your daughter and regardless of it being wrong or right in Gods eyes, I don’t believe you will go to hell for loving her. Just tell her you are uncomfortable with it because of your beliefs, but you love her regardless!!
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There’s a podcast/ blog called Blue Babies Pink that tells the story of a man who was raised in a southern Baptist home (son of a preacher actually) , who finally comes out. I think you’ll find it helpful (he also has resources for parents).
What’s more important? Your daughter or your religion?
The fact that she came out to you at all, knowing that your religion teaches to hate her, is amazing and a sign that she has love and respect for you. Just give her love and respect back, and don’t mention your religion in regards to her sexuality at all.
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Support and love her. That’s it.
Don’t “Bible beat”, as some of my family says. Address openly that it is against your beliefs, however, leave it at that and tell your child they have a right to be happy. A lot of people in my family struggle with this same internal dilemma due to one of my family members being bisexual and in a current relationship with a woman. If this helps, here are some different ways different people in my family handle it and the outcomes.
Member #1 always brings up that it is against their beliefs and continuously tells the bisexual member that they are going to hell. From a religous standpoint, member #1 feels to be showing love by caring for the eternal soul of the bisexual member. This makes the bisexual member uncomfortable and feel dismissed and degraded due to her lifestyle being treated in such an harsh and hateful manner.
Member #2 has a policy, be who you are, but I don’t want to see it. This member is more accepting but does not want to see (for example) the said bisexual member kissing another woman while at member #2’s home. Though it makes both feel more comfortable it does create a boundary between the two.
Member #3 seperates religous belief from their relationship with the bisexual member and participates in open discussions and allows them to practice their sexuality freely. This seems to make both members more comfortable.
In the end, you and your child’s relationship is unique and may need individual adjustments to make you both more comfortable. Create a comforting, honest, and understanding enviroment for you both. It may be difficult to adapt but in time it will become easier. I wish you both the best of luck.
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My sister is bi. Nothing has changed. I have met a few of her gfs and i treated them like i would a friend or her boyfriend
My grandparents always told me that God always loved people different from himself and so that’s why you should do. Just because your daughter is different from you and it’s against your religion you still live her for being “different” you’re her safe haven and she would of never told you that she was bi if you weren’t
Do you love her any less then before you know now … that’s your answer
It is not about your religious. it is all about your support and love your daughter no matter what. Please accept your daughter and show her how much you love her whatever she is…
Everybody wants to debate about this but this is this child’s SEXUAL preference. Does she even know this? If she’s not old enough I dont see why people even stress about it. If your daughter was 20 I’d say yes you need to love her & accept her regardless but until she’s at the age where she’s ready to act on her preference, it’s irrelevant
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If your religion tells you that you can’t love your daughter for who she truly is, then you need to find a new religion.
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I love how open you are to learning to support her. 
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If you have to question supporting your daughter on something she can’t control you are a pos
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Easy! She is your flesh and blood! Support her and continue raising your child to be the strong, loving, respectful and kind person you have always wanted her to be. It will be alright. Take care xo
You just love her like you always have. God didnt tell you to judge… not even your babies. Family supporters are very important. Can also look for comm. Groups for parents they can giveguidance too.
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First and foremost, thank you for trying to be supportive of your daughter. Most strict and religious parents dont. The biggest thing here is support and respect. You dont have to accept that she is bisexual but you must respect it. Most people dont realize that the less respect people get, the more resentment they get for that person. I told my mother I was bisexual at 13 and she didnt speak to me for 3 days. That was a very tough thing for me to go through. However, I am also more aware now and realize that I was not bisexual, I was bi-curious. Once I experienced a relationship with another woman is when I realized it wasnt for me. This may be what your daughter is going through and if not, that’s fine too. Love the sinner, hate the sin. Just go about your life as you normally would and try not to dwell on it. After all, her being bisexual really does not have any effect on you or her day to day living.
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Same thing here. I told my daughter that i love her the same i always have. I do believe it’s a sin, but we all sin. Bi people feel judged for their sins because the sin is out there for everyone to see. But i told her that her sin is no different than mine or anyone else’s. In the end the only sins i need to judge are my own. I just want her to be happy and remember her faith. Which she does.
Your God tells you not to judge anyone and to love everyone. End of story
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I think you are in the right path in opening your heart it so refreshing to hear someone accepting someone even though they don’t understand something. One of the best ways that you can best support your daughter is doing a subject on the matter, educating yourself. Watch LGBT films , make friends with peopel in the LGBT, read articles, listen to some YouTubers coming out to their parents, read. It will be an eye opening.
Honestly I’d just say “ok; I am glad you feel comfortable enough to tell me this” and just not make any negative or positive comments about it. If she brings home a gf just don’t act any different then you would with a bf. you’re allowed to feel how you feel, just don’t try and force those feelings on your daughter.
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Just continue loving her. That’s all you need to do.
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Your daughter is your daughter. If that isn’t enough reason? Shame on you! You don’t stop loving your children because of religion.
Sounds like you need to find a different religion. God is not more important than your child.
God doesn’t care if you’re gay or straight. Kind of goes against the whole not supposed to judge thing right?
In my faith being Gay, straight or trans isn’t an issue. I don’t understand why the Christian or Muslim (you didn’t specify) faith has a huge problem with this? Its pointless to hate someone for leading a different life from you.
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Live her NO MATTER WHAT
Love and pray for your own strength and patience to give yourself a more peace of mind. Wanting to show her support regardless of how you feel about it, is already a good first step. And don’t listen to some of the people. You’re not a pos 
prayers mama
Being a loving & supportive parent has nothing to do with your religious beliefs. There are worse things you could be battling with vs which sex your daughter loves. As long as whoever your daughter ends up with is a person who treats your daughter with love and respect, shouldn’t matter whether male or female 
As a mother, we love our children unconditionally, just as God loves us…what does your gut tell u to do? Thst she came to you, tells me the two of you have a strong loving mother / daughter bond…she needs your support and love.please dont look outside for your answers, look inside yourself , God loves you both💜
Easy, your daughter is more important than a religion that says she isn’t. You love and support her because that’s what parents do.
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Just love her as your daughter
You treat her just the same as before you knew. . I hate how religious beliefs are a reason to treat your child any different. That’s your child no matter what. you love and cherish them. She is still the same girl you are raising still the same with everything. Her sexual preferences doesn’t affect you. This is her thing. Doesn’t change WHO she is. SO on that note I’ll pray for your relationship with your daughter.
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I’m about to get a ton of hate. Hi, I married a man with a lesbian mother, and trans brother (FTM). I do not personally support the lifestyles of these fellow humans, and I do not have to compromise my morals to appease anyone. You can love someone and be emotional support for someone without agreeing with their life style. We are all still God’s children. I was born and raised catholic , my children are catholic until they can make the choice of confirmation in the church. You can love your daughter, be there for your daughter, and just still be the mom you were before. As parents we love our kids unconditionally, that does not mean we support everything they do, if my son walked up to me high on meth it doesn’t mean I have an obligation to be pro meth. This is an extreme example. My mom loves her sons, shes a devout catholic, and they are atheist. You do not have to agree with your kid, but as their parent you are obligated to love your child. My mother was extremely upset when I fell pregnant at 19 un-married, she still drove me to my appointments, she still let me live in her home, she still bought clothes for her grandson, she still loved me and she still loves me and my kids. None of which were conceived while married. As Gods children, and as humans, we are to care for each other, caring does not mean compromise your beliefs, caring just means being there no matter what, a shoulder, an ear, and open arms.
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When in doubt I always go back to “love thy neighbour as thyself.”
Coming from lesbian women who came out when i was about 13 and am now married to a woman and have a daughter of my own. All your daughter wanted was to tell you her truth now all you have to do is love her unconditionally like every mother should when she gets her first heart break be there im sure she doesn’t want you to go to pride with her or something. just be her mom and lover her and be her rock to were when the world is against her she knows she has you…
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God is love… Simple as that…
Love and support her and be thankful she is open to talking to you 
Just love her, I understand you find it wrong, But it’s her choice if you want her to stay in your life just be their for her these are her decisions. Just let her know it will take time for you and she will need to be patient with you also you might not agree but you will support her decision. Do not judge its not ours to judge.
Religion doesn’t matter, your daughter matters. When you give birth it’s also your job to give unconditional love. PERIOD! If you don’t you’ll regret it forever. If you don’t you’ll damage her forever.
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I grew up in a very religious background and my daughter told me she was gay. I decided that she shouldn’t see me or be in a church that makes her feel like there’s something wrong with her. I even had family post bible versus on my post of her and I at a pride event. I will always choose my kids in anything. My daughter should never carry a burden like that or like there’s something wrong with her. Those that do that are not my family anymore. My advice is too chose. The religion will always make her feel that something’s wrong why her. Can you live like that?
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Prayers for guidance. It’s great that you’re reaching out for advice.
Let’s look at two scenarios: 1- you accept and love your child regardless of what her sexual orientation is. She feels accepted and validated. This gives her the confidence to come out to more people, some are accepting and some are not, but she’s got her mom in her corner so she’s resilient. In a few years she really likes someone and comes to you for advice and you are able to counsel her and you two bond even stronger. She starts dating someone. You worry, as moms do, but something amazing happens, your daughter is happy. She’s glowing from being loved. You realize that love looks all kinds of different ways, and you are happy for her. Scenario 2- You tell her you don’t want her to talk about it around you, you think she’s too young to know, it makes you uncomfortable. You are the first person she’s come out to, and she was rejected. Now she’s afraid to come out again and doesn’t for many many years. But meanwhile she doesn’t understand why you don’t accept her, why God hates her, why she has to be different. She goes through years of depression. Maybe she starts hurting herself, maybe she contemplates suicide. Let’s say she lives to adulthood. She likes someone. Shes afraid to tell you, so she doesn’t. She has unprotected sex and rushes into a relationship she isn’t emotionally ready for because she’s trying to fill a void. Eventually, after several years, she settles down with someone. They are talking about growing their family. The thing is, you are someone she isn’t sure she wants around her kids. She includes you to be polite, but there is a huge gap in your relationship that can never be resolved and now you are missing out on being close to your grandkids.
So what route would you prefer?
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Just support her? Im sorry but i just simply dont understand why this is a hard thing to understand. Tell her no matter what you will love her and support her. Invite her girlfriends to dinner, be kind to who she chooses to date. Donthe exact same thing you would if she was dating a guy?
The scariest thing for her was probably telling you and being rejected, but she still felt comfortable and secure enough to tell you knowing you’re religious…remember that. Love has no conditions period. Just love her and support her the same as you always have and educate yourself on the lgbtq community.
Do you truly as a mother love her any less??? Do you truly think as mighty as God is that he will love her any less??? I know it’s not easy and religion teaches us it’s wrong… however it also teaches us forgiveness, acceptance! Pray I promise you will find peace in him!
Get a new religion. You only have one daughter.
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Id choose to be there for her.
Respect her wishes.
Even if you are religious.
You don’t want her resenting you.
And not telling you anything
If you cant love her because of that, send her my way. I will never refuse a child.
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Just support her she’s your child no matter what, if you don’t like it then stop producing gay/ bi children.
Family over everything. Period. That’s your child. She comes first always. My daughter came out to me as gay years ago. Now is married to an amazing woman. I feel blessed every day that she had no reservations about coming out to me.
It’s beautiful you’re looking for advice that shows love and that you care! Pray about it and make sure to tell her you’ll never love her any less.
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Religion or not, if my child came to me with something like that, well looks like we’re going to a pride festival, looks like we will embrace every aspect to make them feel accepted REGARDLESS OF RELIGION AND OTHERS. Because at the end of the day, and this may be just me, my child comes before my family, my SO, my work, and god himself.
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Religion is like a butthole. We all have them but we dont have to make everyone look at it.
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Jesus made it simple. He commands us to love one another. What she does sexually is between her and God.
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In my opinion she is only 13 maybe she is just curious. She is too young to really make that adult decision