Momma’s I need your help desperately. I have a daughter who will be two on the 17th. She NEVER sleeps. I mean, never. She gets up at 330 in the morning and will be up all day until bedtime, then right back up at 330 the next day. She may take a one hour nap sometimes, but regardless of a nap or not, she will still get up at 330. This momma is running on fumes, and I feel like I’m at my breaking point. Help, please
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Hire a sleep consultant
What time is she going to bed at night?
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What time is bed time?
Put her to bed later
What time does she go to bed?
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Girl, I feel ya. My oldest daughter started her terrible 2’s when she was 9 months old. That’s also the exact time she stopped taking naps. Even before then, she would take a 5 minute nap (not kidding) and be awake for 5-10 hours. Thankfully, I lived with my mom and she would take over so I could sleep. I wish I could offer advice but all I have to offer is the understanding of what you’re going through. Good luck!
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Take her to the doctor there is a condition that causes that… not a major one so dont panic
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Try having a color coded analog clock. So she knows when bed time it over. My mom did that with use and it worked really well.
I feel your pain! My oldest did this until he was 4.5. We would average about 4 hours of sleep, and he woke up constantly through that. We finally figured out that his tonsils were too big and were obstructing his airway. So once we had those Taken out it helped. Melatonin on occasion is also a life saver.
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Sometimes a chiropractor might help, talk with her dr, childrens melatonin might help too.
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Try putting her to bed a few hrs later.
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Extended release melatonin
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The more they sleep the better they will sleep. Don’t be afraid to make her nap through out the day. Stay consistent. Lay her down every night at the same time she will go into a routine.
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girl i feel ya, my sons never been a sleeper. we tend to skip naps now and he went to bed at 830 we thought we’d actually get a good night sleep. nope. he woke up at 130 til 730. then i ahd to wake him up at 930 to go to daycare. i warned rhe teachers ha
Had the same issue. My daughter now sees a sleep specialist. She started around 9 months and is now 3 1/2. We’ve tried all kinds of stuff. Eventually they referred us out to her specialist. She has to have 5mg melatonin every night until she turns 4 and then do a different approach to it.
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My daughter would keep me up until 7am. It was rough so rough. Your pediatrician may let you give her 1 mg of melatonin. Be careful not to give her more than 1mg. A lot of melatonin comes in 10mg which is the adult dose. They make them in chewables too. Sleep when you can mom. It will get better. Lol. I never drank coffee until I became a mom. Maybe you can take Melatonin too so you get a deeper sleep while she lets you. They don’t make you sleep drunk the next day if you know what I mean. Good luck! Prayed for you!
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You have to sleep train them. & I dont mean cry it out, but a steady routine that you stick to every single night.
Have a snack & drink. then have a warm bath with lavender, get a nice soothing light, maybe a lava lamp & very low soothing music, pick out a good long book, in which you read a few pages every night as she lays in bed. (this will make her look forward to getting in bed to hear her story).
If this doesnt help her stay asleep, put a baby gate up on her doorway, make sure her room is safe to play in, & let her play if she wakes up at 3. That or grab her & turn on the tv & lay down with her or you lay down in same room while she plays.
Also try upping her activity during the day. Play outside, go for walks, have her help with household chores such as carrying laundry, wiping down cabinets, little things she thinks shes helping but actually burning energy 
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Yes see Dr check ears thoart try soothing baby bath and lotion stick to a schedule feed her later some kids require less sleep it seems why some sleep 10 hours and some not at all hard to know some don’t nap do you have play pen let her be occupied there I have a friend her daughter plays for hours in room is 6 now rarely sleeps had tubes in ears and andoids out that helped some its frustrating be patient
Take her to the dr, he can prescribe sleep med or send you to a sleep dr.
How about before you give your child a pill ( melatonin) get her off of drugs. Take away the bha’s , bht’s , food dyes and preservatives. All that crap will make your child hyper and will effect her sleep. At least try it for a month. Than go back to and see the difference. Our kids have been filled with so much chemicals since in the womb its ridiculous, then we can’t understand why they can’t sleep, sit still in school, and are labeled problem child. Today solution give the child meds just add to the problem.
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i went through same thing she was up at 2am fell asleep at 7am. had see specialist i had to go backwards around the clock get decent sleep had kinda lock her in her room. i went from 2am to 11pm to now 9pm and up at 6-630 also give her melatonin when goes to bed .and when she started preschool it helped to because it whore her out.before started all this i did normal schedule bath 7-8pm bed at 8-9 and we were getting up at 2am then was falling asleep at 7am when needed to get up.good luck . maybe a melatoning and a lavendar bath or something to try at normal bed warm milk. just thoughts
Try melatonin 5 mg chewable at about 7 pm
Please ask her doctor about melatonin. 2 might be to young but I have a Three year old granddaughter her doctor put her on it and it worked.
My son was the same… lots of outside fresh air and running will exhaust him.
Everyone will say no that’s not enough but if you actually do it you’ll be shocked… I have 4 kids total and taking out electronics cuz of how stimulating it is… TV phone and tablets… changing to outside all day flipped my whole house around. Riding bikes just running outside. Some kids just have more energy then others.
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I really hope all of you feeding your kids melatonin researched like crazy before you did… I understand ‘doctors’ recommended it but seriously it changes your kids body. Once you start their bodies stop making so much. Please do your research your doctor doesn’t always do what’s best for the long run.
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Mama i feel ya. My daughter has never slept. But if it help with she hit 2 year and 3 months she started sleeping from 1am to about 6am but no daytime naps so getting a little more sleep.
Liquid melatonin!! Run don’t walk to get it. Promise it will help you mama. Of course pass it by your Pediatrician
Saw a specialist with our non sleeping daughter who referred her to be tested results were she has A.D.D. And is just on the autism’s spectrum . Followed the guidance they gave me and helped some finally put her on meds for A.D.D after trouble in school for 3 years and magically everything started helping and changing . Now she goes to sleep easy peasy.
Scary… have you tried making her tired like playing games… Or maybe she’s having nightmares at that specific time… like pray give her a rosary to put on
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I had a wind down routine with my babies. A bath always helped. Make sure she’s not getting overstimulated right before bed; I turn the t.v. off a solid hour before bed. Put her in bed, darken her room, and read to her in a soothing voice. Then tell her it’s time to go to sleep. Routine is key.
Do what your pediatrician advises. What is not good for one child may be good for another child
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My son is 2 almost 3, he wakes up at 3am when his dad goes to work. I usually just give him a banana or something with some water and have him go lay back down. Maybe she’s hungry in middle of the night.
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Melatonin ? Heavy meal before bed time and a long bath have worked with my baby.
My daughter did that. Finally about her 3s her sleep started to regulate. We tried bedtime routines and such and no matter what we did she still did not sleep. Every child is diff. Her pediatrician said we could give her 1 mg of melatonin but we felt she was too young and didn’t give it to her. We got through it tiredly. Maybe have someone watch her for a few hrs so you can get a good nap in. Do your best, were not in a competition but we’re all rooting for ya. Hang in there momma.
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This could just be a phase that she will grow out of. See if someone can watch her some so you can get some rest a couple times a week maybe and that can refuel your batteries.
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Put her in bed with u and no nap
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Please dont use melatonin. I used to on my oldest and regret it so much now. Shes 13 and it completely screwed up her up. I wont go into details but all these moms swearing by it…I thought it was harmless too and I wish I could go back in time.
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Do not drug the baby like some have suggested here. She needs more play time outside running around. And maybe take a walk before bed to tire her out more
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Stop letting her take naps do not give her melatonin because her body will get used to it and eventually she won’t sleep at all so I would try taking away her naps play with her hard as you can try to get her into it good sleeping habits
My son didn’t sleep through the night till he was 32 months he was up 6-8 times a night and naptime was always a fight. I started a strict routine and stuck to it and I started telling him what we were going to do the next day or after his nap which was very life changing for us. We met with a pediatrician about ASD and mentioned it and she said that it eases kids minds to not have to wonder or stress about what was going to happen after sleep time. It’s a tough road but it will happen eventually.
Get her outside and doing major activities all day. No naps. Keep her going. No electronics. She must stay active. If you go out, no stroller. Make her walk. Get a tricycle, let her ride a bike, play with dirt, run run run. Play in a park. Get to a community centers, go swimming, join classes so she has other kids to run around with. Cut down on processed foods and sugar. Feed healthy foods and try to keep away from sugar (unless it’s in fresh fruit). Dont give medication to make her sleep. Get her more active and cut out sugars and electronics. It will help big time
She’s probably not being stimulated enough during the day. Some kids take a lot of activity to wear out and shut their brains off long enough to get a full rest. Mine is 6 and just started sleeping with full day kindergarten and daily activities
It could be to much sugar in diet theres sugar in so much you have to read labels
Rules and toys …stay in bed ,play with books ,quiet toys in a special basket you put out after she falls adleep .sticker books ,flaslight maybe a fruit snack.kids cant help what there bio clock is so deal with it.If shes quiet for the week ,a cheap toy or outting.
Get your pediatrician suggestion she made be either over anxious or have what is that where they have too much energy try a little bit of hot chocolate with lots of warm milk in it before you put her to bed ice cream helps to
I really have no words of wisdom to tell you except talk to your pediatrician to see what he/she recommends! My oldest daughter was this way!! This was back in 1979, she had colic and things are so much more advanced now. I wish ya the best of the luck and pray that you find a solution so you and your child can get some sleep! 
I wish I had some words of wisdom for you other that you will survive this my second child never slept either we had to put alarms on every door and window by the time he was 26 months old, he was an escape artist to go play at the park at 2 am. That and having the most baby proof house in the world, he never had slept through the night as a kid as a matter of fact I don’t think he does to this day he’s 34 now. Hang in there momma is all I can say so sorry
Melatonin works great I give my 5 year it the 3mg one just enough to help relax her to go to bed an she been on it for a long while. I try that or ask ur doctor too. And as dad as testing for Autism they don’t do that until they are in Kindergarten which is 5 or 6 years old that’s what all the doctors have told me the child must be in school all day to get tested for that. Best of luck to u though went though that with my youngest she now in school all day an is almost 6 years old.
Start testing for Autism now,with her being a girl it’s a longer process. If Autism is at play none of the typical tricks are going to work. Knowing what you’re dealing with helps you to know better what direction to take. I sympathize and relate completely. Sending good vibes your way!
melatonin we have it but she may need a little bit more, or go to a holistic store and purchased some other type of Natural sleep aid for children, I saw some at whole foods store they sell herbs vitamins and etc and lots of organic stuff.
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I would definitely go see her doctor. Thinking maybe high anxiety. What’s her diet like? If shes watching TV before bed that will play a big part since it stimulates their little minds.
I guess a lot of factors would play in. Which others have already mentioned. I have 3 kids that literally can sleep through a lot of noise. And have slept for 3-4 hours at DISNEYLAND of all places. I didn’t have a set schedule for my kids with my schedule being chaotic. But they’re not 15,13, and 9. Healthy, smart, active… not perfect (there are or will there ever be perfect kids)
I would talk to the pediatrician about her sleeping pattern… every child is different so to offer you any advice would not be that helpful, imo… good luck to you and ask family and friends to help you so you can get some rest and ME TIME!!
Not a mom but a father of 3 . Have you talked to her doctor?
Wind down after supper. Establish a set schedule. Relaxing things in evening. Not full on playing. No sweets.
Buy a clock with a wake(ok to get up) light. I did this for my daughter when she was little 2 1/2 or 3 and it helped her to know when she could get up/leave her room. She was able to play in bed until time to get up.
Sports will wear her out or some kind of activity like dance, soccer anything to burn her energy
What time are you putting her to bed? Even toddlers are only going to sleep so long.
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What’s your normal bedtime routine ?
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Take her to her peditration