My daughter is mixed, how can I do her hair?

How curly is her hair momma?
The curls need moisture. We use a variety if products to retain moisture.
I have two girls with two different textures and we have always wore natural and protective styles. I have a knack for braiding but have asked women about ideas of products and what not. They have always been helpful.
Watch YouTube or other videos on styles. .it will take time but you will get the hang if it.

Also, Please allow her to embrace both cultures.

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You learning how to do your biracial child’s hair will never be seen as you being disrespectful. What I would and have done is take her to a black salon. Ask the stylist if she would be willing to help you learn how to do her hair. Get product information so you can purchase the correct products for her hair type. Next talk to the women in his family ask them to help you. You could also do a Facebook market place ad asking for someone to help teach you how to take care of her hair properly.

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YouTube! There are sooooo many tips and cute easy styles!!! Also find out her hair type!!! This will help you find the best products for HER hair!

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Do your baby’s hair unapologetically. I would never worry so much about offending the next person at th expense of my kid who is the same race as the person offended

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Well this post shocks me I never knew of white passing ppl and also very very white ppl ? To much black and white in this post very racial … and the only thing here that was relevant is the hair … was it necessary to describe in detail skin tones ? White passing ? … You could have said you have a mixed race child and need tips on hair do’s … not being nasty just for future … Don’t let the colour worry you so much

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I’m Polish Ukrainian.
I give you full speed ahead with using any braids you want, it’s our culture for eons.
All that matters is they grow up really fast, so forget everyone else & focus only what matters.
Kind people will help you, but there’s always people who will find any excuse to hate, so
Stop worrying about offending anyone & enjoy your time with your daughter, this time will fly by far too quickly with the never ending mom role, so enjoy every bit of it!!
You don’t want to look back & remember thinking of complete strangers with unkindness in their hearts instead of being fully present for this time in your lives

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Try toddler hairstyles or hairstyle for toddlers page

When in doubt ask the other person involved is my moto.

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I prefer jojoba oil to conditioner.
Cornrow type braids are time consuming but easy enough to do. I prefer a middle size to the tiny cornrows. It takes less time but holds for a while. I did 6 to 8 braids and it lasted a week. With practice 6-8 braids takes about 20 - 30 min. There are special products, a type of hair wax, that help keep it in longer but I didn’t use those. It takes practice to not get them overly tight. The woman I learned from called it under braiding. A native American woman taught me in the states and an African woman gave me some pointers here in Europe.

Feel free to message me if you have questions.

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You tube will have a lot of tutorial s

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If you don’t get anywhere, but smart-ass answers, I have 3 mixed nieces and I’m sure they would love to help you on any way they can. Just DM me if you still need help. Love your baby! Ignore miserable ppl!!!

I say if anyone would get offended,then to hell with them, you do what you think is best for your child…

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Braids are in every culture, stop the madness and crazy thinking and do your kids dang hair :roll_eyes::roll_eyes::roll_eyes::roll_eyes:

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As a biracial woman, I applaud you for trying to protect your child’s hair. I wish my mother would have learned. Instead she used relaxers, which damaged my hair for years.
Please learn to braid. Learn to twist. Learn it all! You’re being an amazing mother, so don’t let anyone try to tell you different.

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Serum is a go to product… I get a bit of humidity in my hair and look out X

You can’t really offend anyone by doing your child’s hair in braids! They are amazing and I honestly love them. You are turning braids a racial thing when they aren’t and shouldn’t be… maybe once upon a time they where but time has definitely moved on and I’m sure a lot of people have to.

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I highly recommend this book. I’m glad you’re trying to get educated on the subject rather than dismissing it. Curly hair is no joke, I speak from experience. Teach her to love it and embrace it. Life will be a lot happier for her if she loves the uniqueness of it. I used mousse to keep my hair under control.
Don’t worry about offending anyone. Just say your child is of mixed race.
Curly Girl: The Handbook Curly Girl: The Handbook - Google Search

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I don’t know if you have tiktok but there’s a mom on there named Tatiana and she does her daughter scarlet hair and shows her journey learning. Maybe you could check them out some. They are a beautiful mom and daughter bond I love watching. They are all about beautiful strong affirmations to be comfortable in their own bodies as well which is inspiring to watch.

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Take care of your family and raise your daughter to know she is beautiful and can rock her hair anyway she wants.

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YouTube… seriously, you can find out how to do anything on there

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Just do your kids hair how they want! People need to stop this culture appropriation bs. A hairstyle should not cause people to be upset that’s just common sense.

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There are YouTube videos you can watch or ask one of her Aunties on the Dad’s side sure they will love to help you out if not go to a hair stylist they can show you

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Tahlia Marshall … ideas ??

If you have African American friends ask them to teach you! You can start simple with ponytails as you practice you will be like I did that!! You just have to try and not give up. YouTube didn’t teach me, my mom did! She has 8 kids all a year apart and 6 of us are girls! A single mom doing all our hair for school NOPE we had dolls lined up she made us braid their hair until we got it Then made us braid each other hair for school!! I love her for that​:heart::heart::heart: good luck

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i would take her to the salon so that it can be done properly the first time & let them suggest hair products for her hair type. i’m mixed myself & not all products work the same for every mixed person since we all don’t have the same type of curl patterns & such.

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They’re braids and she’s poc, let them think whatever they want

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Also, YouTube is amazing for showing videos

You tube look up Brad Mondo he is great for all types of hair

Pretty bad that doing a child’s hair has to be considered racist……

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I had braids and I’m white people need to stop making it about color

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You tube or Take her to a hairstylist that knows how to do her hair and ask if she or anyone she knows is able to help you learn. If people get offended by you learning, that’s on them

I had just dyed my hair before then so I had some on scalp but it should not be about color of skin

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You need to stop worrying about offending everyone and do what’s right for you and your family. YouTube is amazing for learning pretty much anything. I’d dive into tutorials on there.

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Anyone can do braids anyone can wear braids . braids aren’t just African American culture . :expressionless: 🤦 Please don’t ever repeat that to your child

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Where do I start? Most of the time when people say their biracial child is white the child is fair, not white passing. I too have a biracial child. Second, she is a POC, braids are fine. Last YouTube, your husband’s family, black friends or black salons can help you style her hair.

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It is her cultural right and your right to learn what is necessary to teach her her culture. You do what you feel is in the best interest of your child and do not worry what anyone else has to say from their judgement pulpit.

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I have 2 cousins who I see as my little sisters. They’re both mixed. (Mom white and dad black) I helped do their hair growing up. Please make sure you keep her hair moisturized. Put grease on her scalp, heat protection if you straighten it.

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I love that you are asking for tips! I dislike that there is any kind of anxiety, for you or your child over hair. I hope a wonderful person takes you under their wing, gives you the best of information, the two of you need to know.

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Buy a mannequin with baby girls hair texture . Find some google videos n practice :heart:

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I notice there’s a fashion for ‘natural’ black hair. Probably kinder than styles which pull on the roots and clouds of naturally curly hair look beautiful. What does she want?

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Are you serious??? You’re worried about “offending” black people by braiding your child’s hair but not by taking one of their men?!?!! Btw since when are braids only for black women/girls??? Walk your a$$ into a black hair salon ask for help and I can guarantee you they will teach you and not be offended. :exploding_head:

White passising is extremely offensive to me, not sure why it really, really bothers me. I don’t know if I’m reading too far into this but being a white mother of 5 black children, it sounds almost as if you WANT them to pass for white as if you are throwing shame on the fact that they are BLACK. The only way your children will " pass" for being white, is to another ignorant white person. Anyone with sense, will know your mixed children are not white. Your comment about them passing as white is reason number 67,895 million its so embarrassing to be white. Maybe you don’t realize how racist your post truly sounds.

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Those of you who are saying you’re offended by her saying her child white passes. Are in just as much denial as people who claim racism doesn’t exist. I know for a fact the mean things that are said about. WW who wear their hair in braids and the same is said. When they try to comb their children hair in certain styles that look similar. To how little BG wear their hair I assure you. The author meant no I’ll intent but this is something she has experienced. As for the author get real familiar with YouTube. They even have videos that have fake it till you make it braiding styles.

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The Mullet is all the craze

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I didn’t know braids were tied to one culture. Do your babies hair however you want babe, the fact that you even want to learn her culture speaks volumes don’t stress about what small minded people may think or say.

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Ok what is white passing ? And poc?

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Whoever posted this PLEASE feel free to message me because I have so much to help you! I am a white girl that is happily married to a black man & our two beautiful girls get their hair done by myself. Between Pinterest, YouTube tutorials, & his family sending me suggestions I have learned so much! I also have a manniquin head that I practice braiding on & I continue to grow in my skill of braiding. I have always believed its so important to embrace my girls black heritage :raised_hands:t3: that being said, they would never pass as white & will always be viewed by society as a black women, so i embrace it, love it & read so many inclusive books for them. (Have many suggestions, again my inbox is open for you)
I have never upset my husbands side of the family by braiding, If anything they have been so encouraging and happy that I am engaging in embracing how to braid & doing so much behind the scenes work to learn how I can help my daughters be confident in their hair & culture. Protective styles can be very simple & easy (again I have many suggestions I could send) & they do wonders to protect curl patterns & I would be happy to give my incite. I have spent literally hundreds of hours learning & it has been such a fun experience for me, & the hours I spend braiding my girls hair is hours of bonding for us.

Yup…story book answer…sorry/not sorry. But I LOVE that you took the time to ask the question & were so culturally receptive to possible appropriation. :heart:

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I’m not sure why anyone would “wow” react to this. :roll_eyes: The bottom line is, if your daughter’s hair needs protective styles, then you shouldn’t feel guilty for doing so. You especially shouldn’t feel guilty for learning to do so. If you want you can message me, there’s a hair group I am in for mixed children, it has been very helpful for myself and my babies.

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Do not worry about upsetting people. You and your daughter will attract like souls by being yourselves. We have to teach our children to strike their own identity. How do we give the that example if you live to please others. If we are going to help our young find and strike their own identities; why not make it something…. Unique?

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My daughter is mixed, she has afro hair. I’m learning how to do her hair by following this lady on tiktok. She’s really helped me and by spending extra time doing my daughters hair, we have a closer bond now. It’s all about the right products to use :slightly_smiling_face:

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WTF is “white passing”!?

Here in Western MA it’s all a giant melting pot! You can’t look at someone and be like “oh his/her momma white and his/her daddy black!” We’ve got halves of black, Puerto Rican, Mexican, etc…

The real question is: who even came up with that phrase to create a divide?

Do your kids hair and stop trying to find reasons not to seems more like the issue… It’s braiding! You’re not worried about doing a Native American Indian based braid that is more culturally defined so why focus so hard on black offenses in braiding???

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I would say reach out to someone in her dads side for help on how to do her hair also her skin to

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Please don’t listen to the people that are calling you racist for saying your daughter is white passing. LMAO . You’re just letting them know she could pass for a white person, but her hair does relate more to a person of color. You just need tips on how to treat and do her hair Ok. Great. No big deal. You’re being a MOM!! a great mom at that. Also, If you were racist, why tf would you be married or have a child with a black man?? People can be so dumb sometimes.

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I do my daughter’s hair and my own. I am Puerto rican mixed me and all my kids just look white. I so braids and beads all the time in my daughter’s hair and I braid my hair with braiding hair. If you need help I am more then willing to help

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I’m white and I get my hair braided

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Why is being called white passing and not black passing? Just curious.

Hair is hair so you do her hair however she and you would like it x

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She should be able to have any style she chooses. Braids have been used by white people for centuries too. Just look at the Nordic culture. Besides you said yourself she is a POC so she has the right. And so do you as her mother to help her look and be her best.
Sometimes people really just take things one step too far.

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What??? No one can dictate who wears braids…and yes you should learn to do your child’s hair…

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Does he have a sister or someone you trust to learn from? That is how I learned. How would you offend someone for learning how to take care of your child’s hair? Baffling.

Learn what you want wear what you want hairstyles are not offensive for anyone to wear.

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stop thinking about everybody else. you cannot please everybody. do your white daughters hair how ever you would like. there are many tutorials on youtube to help you do your other daughters hair too, and if they both want the same style then that is ok. hair is just hair. braids aren’t just for poc.

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My daughter is mixed as well! I’m very white and her dad is very black, we both have curly hair so hers is crazy :rofl: We spray it with water, detangler, and put some curl cream in it! Sometimes I do buns, pony tails, or French braids on her :woman_shrugging:

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Girl do that baby girl’s hair any way you want it! What I’m the Hell is offensive about braids? No one gets offended about black ladies wearing straight blonde wigs!

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“WHITE PASSING” but POC hair !!! Wow

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This is a joke I hope?!

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The comments on this page sometimes = :rage::roll_eyes: people take offense to everything. We’re here to help this mama, not tear her down. Pull your head out of your bums, “white passing” in this situation means her daughter could pass as solely Caucasian. When in doubt mama, YouTube or TikTok. Or maybe even call up a Paul Mitchell school (or any cosmetology school) and talk to them, ask if they may have work shops or someone who may be able to give you hands on tutorials. Maybe you’ll start a whole movement. Good luck :heart: you can do this

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YouTube has tonssss of tutorials. You can literally learn anything you need to know on there. Just look up something like “how to take care of mixed hair” something along those lines

YouTube videos for tutorials

You are doing more than most moms with mixed kids you are trying to learn how to do her hair and teach all her cultures more power to your good job mama

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Talk to his family and ask them if they can help you? You can learn about moisturising her hair, different braids and styles on YouTube too

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Check out hey bambino on instagram. It needs moisture daily, maybe even twice. I spritz the hair with water mixed with a leave in conditioner then african pride daily hydration oil moisturizer lotion and seal it with almond oil. (All hair is different tho, i could never use this combo on my sons hair so finding out how pourous your daughters hair is will help) Silk pillows, silk head wraps in bed, non elasticated bobbles to prevent snapping and breakage. Have it cut every 3 months or so. Keep washing to a minimum cos it strips all the natural oils out the hair, when you do wash make sure to do a deep conditioning treatment. Let it dry naturally. Avoid products with sulphates, parabens and alcohol in. And just practice braiding. Practice practice practice. Braiding isnt absolutely essential tho, but moisture is! Also heat is not her best friend. For me it was a lot of research on you tube, instagram and the internet, and trial and error with the hair care products

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“White passing but hair is that of a POC”

We needed to know she was white passing because? :neutral_face: and if her hair grade/texture is that if a black person then your daughter is NOT white passing. She’s mixed and more than likely looks mixed.

I really wish people would stop having mixed kids with bimbos.

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Take her to a hairdresser who specialises in her hair type, I’m sure they’ve seen people of many cultures getting braids and won’t find talking to you offensive.

One daughters white, one Asian, step daughters half black. All 3 wear braids. Dont stress what others think, if you want to learn best way take to specialist hair dressers they will give you best advise on your kids hair. Afro hair comes in all textures, what work on one, dosnt the other. Once hair dresser seen hair they can advise best how to keep up with it and best way to braid etc x

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How sad are these times where you can offend someone by wanting to learn a hairstyle.
Because its only black? Is that right? If Beyonce can wear her hair white. Why can’t we have braids?
You sound like a.wonderful mother and ready to learn!
YouTube might help? I’m useless at braids :rofl:

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You gotta take care of her hair. YouTube saved my life. From co washing to styling to products. Because i had no idea. There’s even Facebook groups that helped alot. Otherwise i would of ruined that kids hair not knowing how to care for it because it’s so very different then my hair. Don’t worry about other people. If you don’t know, how will you teach her how to care for it? Start on YouTube!!!

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you will not upset anyone but the weak hearted learning how to take care of your baby.

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What is this… :see_no_evil:
She is YOUR DAUGHTER!!! If you want to braid her hair, BRAID HER HAIR! Your daughter IS your culture!! Offend anyone??? By what… taking care of your own child?!!

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I don’t think braiding your daughters hair is going to offend anyone…people of all ethnicity have been having their hair braided for decades

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Lol come on man just braid your kids hair, your hair, anyone can have braids.

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Join this group Children’s Natural Hair Care & More its such a good group with a mixed population all helping each other navigate our kids kinky hair lol! Good luck mama it’s a learning experience

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It’s ok to learn. You can’t be offensive when you’re being curious. Also. Even if she is white passing, she is still part black. That is no one’s business to judge her appearance and what hair styles she chooses. If they do, they are a different kind of ignorant. YouTube is super helpful and talk to a stylist the specializes in textured or curly hair.

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I’m sure whoever wrote this is wierd already coz the words she use to describe her kids race is off

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I watched YouTube and tiktoks and learnt how to do her afro hair I even brought a modeling head to practise on x

I never heard the term “white passing” in my life. What does that even mean? I’m Hispanic…braid my girls’ hair all the time and I honestly don’t give af what anyone thinks. They are my babies :woman_shrugging:t2:

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You can’t offend anyone using a hairstyle on a mixed race child.

I braid my sons afros all the time.

I knew how to do basic ones since I was little I don’t remember how I learnt those but I know there is tutorials on YouTube because I used YouTube to learn a few different hairstyles xx

I have 5 mixed children and learned to braid and do all kinds of great hairdos. No one will be upset about you learning to do your baby girls hair and if they are that’s their issue! Good luck! YouTube has a lot of great videos for beginners. :black_heart::black_heart:

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You’ve literally had 8years+ and should learn to care for your daughters hair. Theres an abundance of tutorials and self help groups.

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YouTube, practice, ask questions.

Braids are not just for black people. Braid your kids hair, who cares who you offend lol people are so sensitive.

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Hi hun, do what you think is right for your daughter, do not worry about offending people. We use the hair food conditioners in a pot on my daughter’s hair, she has grown it long which is easier to manage. Anyway feel free to pm me if you need any help.

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Baffled by some people that are offended by you not trying to offend anyone. :sweat_smile: can’t win for losing, right?

I am definitely no help in this category but do wanna say that you’re awesome for even asking for help because you obviously care. Lots of good advice here, too, though! :raised_hands:t2:

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Those braids are HER culture, and HER heritage correct? There are tons of videos on haircare for children of mixed heritage on YouTube. You need to learn how to take care of her hair and how to do her hair so you can teach her.

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Follow curly girl method on fb

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I braid my white kids hair! They love it :heart: x

Im mixed had really thick Asian hair was a nightmare for my mum growing up :rofl:

Braids are for anyone not a certain race my daughter is mixed and I do whatever I want on her hair she has very curly hair from me which sometimes she wants it straight and long because obviously the curls shrink whatever she wants I do and learn Google youtube now as far as texture goes idk but a great leave in conditioner will help detangle

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