My daughter going into 3rd, is placed in a gifted and talented class. When we walked in, her mood immediately changed from excited to nervous. The classroom was in a far away hallway at the very end of it (no big deal) but when we walked in, there was nothing “fun” set up. Nothing fun or happy on the walls. Just very serious. She didn’t know anyone I’m guessing since she’s now in g/t and not in a regular class. But she doesn’t want to be in this class at all and I don’t know if I can take her out and request to change classrooms or have her try it first?Any one who’s been in that situation?My sons going into 2nd, and we met his teacher who will be on maternity leave so he’s starting with a teacher we didn’t meet or know. Just unsettling but not a huge deal. Just looking for advice/ suggestions
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My daughter is nervous after meeting her teacher: Advice?
I wouldn’t change classrooms it’s teaching her to judge based upon looks and if you judge and change because of what you think, you could be missing out on the best year ever. It’s normal to be nervous. Validate that. But don’t change her classroom because she is nervous. You are setting the foundation for your child. If you allow her and yourself to change something you know nothing about and just judging or because she’s nervous that is what she is always going to do. Quit jobs etc.
I’d go and change her only because it’ll effect her all yr
Let her try. We always push our kids outside their comfort zones, unless it’s hurting them emotionally, mentally or physically. This will help her be in uncomfortable situations and learn how to make the best of it. If it continues to bother her, then visit the topic again.
Ask the teacher why so boring?
I’d at least have her try if she gifted being in regular classes might be even more boring for her
It’s going to be a totally different setting because it’s a gifted class. But pulling her out it’s not gonna help her in the future
Try looking up if the teacher has an Amazon wishlist with exciting classroom options. This may be a first year of this grade or in general so the teacher may not have a lot.
Have you, or has she met the teacher yet? If not, maybe see how that goes. Maybe the teacher is planning for the kids to pick stuff out to personalize the room?
If the vibe is bad, I’d let her switch.
Hating school and having anxiety in 3rd grade isn’t worth any g&t. She can always do that later if she wants to.
Signed, former g&t kid with life long anxiety. Lol.
She is just adjusting to new and more of a challenge for her… where she was a STAR always before cause of her intelligence… give her time she needs the mind to be challenged and have an opportunity to have equals intelligent children around her.
Good time for her to build on her focus then fun times later
No 
shell be fine. Every child’s nervous I’m sorry. Plus reality setting in too
Let her try it out. As for the empty walls- sometimes teachers wait to decorate using kids work once the learning activities occur. Might not be so blank all year. For G&T especially, the change in approach might be part of the curriculum.
I would keep trying that class before switching just cuz the room is set the way it is doesn’t mean it’s gonna be a mean teacher or anything like so I would give it a chance and with your son sometimes that happens with dealing with a new one cuz original one is on paternity leave that doesn’t mean anything against that teacher I would at least give it a chance with your daughter cuz she could meet some new friends and feel better about having friends in the class and who knows they could grow up to be best buddies from here on out so my opinion and like I said my opinion is I would at least give them teachers chance to see if it’s gonna work out or not and if it doesn’t switch her classes good luck mama sometimes it’s best to give ppl a chance instead of judging off first appearance of them:ok_hand:
let her try. life is uncomfortable sometimes when it’s necessary and she needs to learn that. she’ll benefit from it in the long run
Switching is dependent on school policy. It’s best to ask asap. My son couldn’t get moved his 4th grade year because we waited too long. His teacher was horrible!
let her try, and keep communication open between the 3 of you . it’s a new concept to adjust to.
My mom I think requested I not be in it. I didn’t want to be in the gifted classes. As an adult I think I should have just done it. I was bored in regular classes and wasn’t challenged enough. I got into trouble because of my boredom as I got older. Your kiddo though, as all kids are different, do what you think is best for her, even if she may not agree
Yes, you absolutely can request her to be put back into a regular class which at only the 3rd grade I would highly suggest. It is a LOT of pressure on a third grader to ALWAYS. have to perform PERFECT. And your right they take it seriously and they do not add “fun” to it. To me it is too much to put that pressure on a 3rd grader. And as for your son, if he tends to have anxiety or change is hard for if you can request a different teacher, one that will be there all year. I went through maternity leave of a teacher with my son. He has anxiety and I knew the change of teachers would be hard for him. So because of anxiety and emotional reasons they switched to a different teacher. Please listen to your daughter and don’t push her into something she is not ready for. It is very easy for her teacher to give her extra work so she’s not bored in the regular classroom. Please advocate for your children, you know them best!!
Me personally would probably wait to see how it goes. They can change her class at anytime in the year!!
Perhaps teacher has plans for students to do special things for room etc.would wait
before making changes…
Talk to the teacher first. Offer your services to make it a more inviting place, for smart kids. Maybe take a pole and get the kids to vote on a theme. If you can’t do that, at least make the suggestion to help your daughter before you make a move.
Good luck. I thrived in my gifted and talented class in elementary. I hope it works out.
Maybe she’s going to have the kids help her decorate.
I have always been ‘gifted’ before there was the term ‘gifted’- and all that stuff of color on the walls seemed babyish and distracting to me, but to each his own. We used to , in Parochial school, have levels ‘first group through third group’-- I was always in #1 First group. The poor children labeled ‘3’ third group were struggling in all their subjects and they used to make us in the first group ‘teach’ the third group kids! I kid you not. I remember going over reading with a kid.
My daughter went through the same thing in the middle of last year. She was very nervous at first, she went through the classes. I can honestly say shes not so excited to continue them this year, but she is willing to try. She’s going into 3rd grade. If your not happy with the classes or how she feels about them you have every right to remove her. God bless and good luck.
Give it a little time for acclamation. Then if you see continued concern talk to the teacher and or guidance counselor. It might just have been first days jitters. 
Don’t do it! She may be very smart but not mature enough. Let her be a kid. I’m 100% positive they will let you put her in a regular class room. Q
Gifted class was the best ever for me.
Honestly have her try it out for a few days to see if she likes being in that class, and if not then it shouldn’t be a problem to have her switch to a different one or back to a regular class
Some teachers feel that decorations are distracting. Others don’t decorate, because they say it’s not within their budget. Either way, I personally don’t agree with it. It makes classrooms feel cold and uninviting. I don’t really know what can be done about that part of it. With the maternity situation, maybe make a point to stop by school one afternoon after class to meet your son’s new teacher so you feel more comfortable?
Kids adjust so quickly. They need to at least give it a try for a couple of weeks.
See if you can put her in regular classes but also have her do one or two gifted classes a week there on a one subject or two this way and she enjoys the gift of class you might go fall on
I would have her try but contact the school asap and see what the process is to put her back in regular classroom so you know how long it will be. No advantages to being in gifted class if it’s causing anxiety and stress.
Many Many years ago in High School, they started a gifted program and I was put in it. It was actually the first time I really had to work in school. I learned to like it and by having to work,. I learned how to study for future college. Third grade might be a little different tho
Have her try it for at least a month.
Talk with her in the morning and see if she will give it a week if she still doesn’t like it ask her why and maybe you and the teacher can come up with a solution or maybe the teacher hasn’t had time to decorate yet
So , you want to take her out because the classroom doesn’t look like a circus 
The classroom decoration is up to the individual teacher. The most fun and exciting teachers my kids have had have been the teachers in the advanced placement classes,regardless of how “plain” their class may be. The teachers were almost always leaps and bounds better than the teachers my other kids have had. Judging a teacher based on how they decorate their class is wild to me. That’s the same as you being judged for how you dress, or the car you drive, or what kind of bag you carry (or if you don’t). Give the teacher a chance, see if they encourage your child to learn, and grow. See if they help your child when they struggle, and encourage them not to give up.
3rd grade is when academics become more serious. I know for sure in the state that I live in they can retain students starting in 3rd grade if they are reading below grade level by the end of the school year so that’s why the schools get more serious with academics in 3rd grade. That being said the room may be boring because the academics are more serious or because the teacher might be one of those who likes to display the students’ work on the walls so there’s lots of open space left to do that. I think you could let her try the class for a couple weeks and if it turns out that it is too challenging of a work load for her to handle you can talk to administration about switching her to a regular 3rd grade class. For the situation of your younger child having a long term substitute until the teacher returns from maternity leave you likely can set up a meeting with this teacher to meet them so you’ll have an idea who will be teaching your child for the time the regular teacher is on leave.
My daughter’s class doesn’t have a teacher. Every day the class leader changes. Sometimes they have 3 different “teachers” in a day. By “teacher” I mean it could be an actual sub, a specials teacher, para pro or even a lunch lady. I’m so confused as to how this class is going to learn anything. So I totally understand how you’re unsettled about your son’s teacher.
As for your daughter it’s going to be a change. As with anything different there needs to be an adjustment period. I wouldn’t pull her out of the gifted program. Give her time to adjust.
Teachers are decorating less & less. They are responsible for funding their classrooms. I’ve seen in the last 20 years that newer teachers have less decoration or “fun stuff”. They’re spending all their money on what they need to teach. Teachers that have taught for awhile tend to collect things through the years & decorate.
So your teaching her to run away from something in life she is in 3rd grade she isn’t 5 i understand things can be scary but u can’t let her run the rest of her life
I was extremely smart as a young kid. I could’ve skipped 2 grades. My mum decided to keep me in my grade and I am all the better for it. 
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I would ask to see if you can take her out
You can probably pull her out of gifted classes but then you might as well hold her back. They wanted to skip me a grade and my parents said no. I ended up being bullied by kids in that same grade who were jealous I was the smart kid. Skipping that grade would have meant those bullies wouldn’t have been in my classes. If you put her back in regular classes, she may also be bullied for being smarter than those other kids. Just something I hope you will consider.
Decorating… if this classroom is about the kids then the kids work will decorate it… you need to chill out on that…support her teacher and your daughter
Maternity leave… this is life teachers have kids and families of their own…its prob six weeks and your child will adjust…support your childs teacher and your child instead of complaining on fb…
Honestly you need to relax
Decorating comes out of the teacher’s pocket. She may not have had the extra funds to get all of the stuff she wanted. She could be new and was just making sure everything important was ready and plans on decorating later. Have your daughter try for at least a week or 2. Have her paint/color a picture for the teacher; maybe it’ll be hung up in the room.
And your son will be fine. The teachers I ended up with while my actual teachers were on mat leave ended up being my favorites.
It’s possible the teacher wants the kids to be involved in decorating. That way they can make it their own
My daughter is also g/t and I would have her start in the class they placed her in. My daughter is also in 3rd, and her teacher is new to the school. She was so upset she wouldn’t have a teacher her brothers had before her. The classroom isn’t plain, but it’s militant style organized which my daughter also loves 
g/t kids can get so bored in regular classes, they need to be challenged. My daughter reads high school level books and “See Spot Run” is boring af to her and she can’t make it in regular classes, she’s bad af because she’s bored. The teacher may not have had time to decorate yet, or maybe she has her students decorate. I’d definitely look at this as a “can’t judge a book by its cover” situation and give the class a chance.
I was in the g/t class in elementary as well. It was the same experience for me so my parents let me choose what I wanted to do. I chose to be back in a regular class. In middle and high school I still ended up in AP classes so it didn’t stop me from advancing in the future. My parents just let me be a kid and I wouldn’t take back that experience for anything
Switch her to the average class then.
I’d make her at least try it first 
it could just be nerves from being expected more from than before. I’d give it a month unless she REALLY hates it
Tell her to give the teacher a chance. My favorite teachers were the ones I was most intimidated by, in the beginning. She may be surprised.
It’s three weeks before some schools start if given the opportunity meet the teacher
I knew someone that allowed her son to do gifted classes but not a gifted school. He could socialize with anyone
My neighbors do gifted schools it’s fine and expected
Think about her maturity and likes where does she fit. But don’t let her dummy down Maybe a half day in each.
Why don’t you ask the teacher what her plans are. You are new and don’t know what to expect from a gifted class. Explain your daughter’s hesitation.