If they (friend&family) don’t treat then no one gets to visit
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I say no but calling cps is not the answer would you ladies want cps called on you
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I don’t know how old your daughter is. But when mine was 8 she had really long hair. And she got them pretty bad I combed them the first time but she got them again. So I took her for a haircut they would not touch her. Told me to comb her hair with the shampoo and buy a box of coloring the color of my daughters hair and do that. I did and she didn’t get lice again we would color every 6 months.
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Tell them they need to take care.of there lice problems or your kids can’t be around hers
It’s okay to say no to your children.
It’s also okay to tell another parent that their child has lice. Use your words.
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There’s preventative shampoos available. But tbh, be the parent and say no. Or treat the friends hair.
Why is this even a question!?. Unless u like doin all that stuff u mentioned, wash, sprays, treatments,etc then it would be a definite, NO.
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id seriously call the mom its happened twice
Easy answer (NO) then tell the parents. Not that hard, ur a grown adult handle it like one
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Do. Not. Call. Cps. This isn’t abuse,
Lice can be super expensive to get rid of. If her friend is low income, mom may not have had the resources to get rid of them.
Lice has nothing to do with cleanliness.
You can tactfully say, "hey, last time kiddo went over, she had some lice. I know those little buggers can be hard to get rid of! Have you been able to get them gone? Can I come over and help or do you need anything? " that’s helpful, not confrontational. If it’s a money issue or just not knowing how, I’m sure mom is embarrassed enough. What you don’t want to do is traumatize a child by needlessly involving cps and making their life worse.
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Try apple cider vinegar mixed with coconut oil next time. All you gotta do is heat both together on a stove but dont get it too hot and put it on the little ones hair and put a bag on their hair. It suffocates the lice and the coconut oil helps pull the nits out
This happened to my 7 yr old twice. She got it from her cousins, last summer. I was not happy cuz it’s so time consuming, and the supplies are not cheap to treat it. I would call the mother and ask if it’s been taken care of, before she comes over.
I would talk to her mom. Be honest. Best policy
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It’s time to talk with friends mommy. They could just be passing it back and forth and she’s going through the same thing you are. TALK! BE A GROWN UP. Simple. I never said no to playing just braided hair and loaded down with hair spray. If mommy friends work together y’all can fight it off. It could also be super lice and need a prescription treatment that’s what finally worked for us. Please just say hey can we talk? And go from there no pointing fingers
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Make sure u use the medicated shampoo. My neighbor wouldn’t use it on her daughter and kept trying natural methods and we were fighting lice for months.
I would FLIP if my household got lice twice from a friend. The answer is heck no to any hang outs until she’s able to be lice free. And I’d have already spoken to her mom about this. Lice is no joke and I wouldn’t risk my whole family getting it again!
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Talk to the Mom about it. It might be uncomfortable for you and embarrassing for her, but you need to talk about the situation.
Just tell her mum. Can’t stop kids playing over lice. Mention it first before a blunt no.
Obviously you all caught lice so it’s good opportunity to bring it up to the mum, mention she may have lice as you been dealing with a lice problem yourself it’s easier when it’s discussed together.
Not even at the park…
Does her mom know? Maybe her child got it drom somewhere else and doesn’t know. Don’t be rude at the approach and have a talk with the mother. Maybe she needs help.
If they take offense to asking if she is clear… then she’s not allowed over. Simple
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I’d ask her mom if she’s been treated. Braid your daughter’s hair in pigtails, and wrap the braids up in two little balls on top of her head. (Think Star Wars, only where her pigtails are). Then spray with hairspray, if you have rosemary oil or a rosemary plant, add that to her hair. Lice HATE rosemary. Then let her play. I wouldn’t let her spend the night until I was sure she was clean.
Don’t let her hang out with her. If I where you this would have stopped the min I found out about the lice. Hell no. Call cps while your at it. Her parents are neglecting the poor child since this keeps recurring.
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I would put my child’s hair up and in a bun or put a hat on her and I’d just do a treatment on my child’s Bestfriend 
and when she got picked up I would let the mother know , that I did a treatment and maybe to check the other kids if she has any and just have a small convo about it. I wouldn’t be bitter about it , lice fucking sucks but it happens “it takes a village to raise children” and sometimes moms are just to stubborn to ask for help.
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Nope. I had a cousin who gave my kids lice multiple times and I spent hundreds treating their hair and tried shaving, sterilizing my entire house and she KEPT giving them to them. Confronted her parents, they didn’t seem to care so I had to cut off contact. Sometimes you have to be harsh. She wasn’t doing anything to treat her own head and I had to put a stop to it because my kids were missing days at school because of it and going through it over someone else’s negligence.
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Use lice repellent spray
Tell the other parent.
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I would talk to her mommy, nicely & just say our kids somehow keep sharing lol and also my kids had them a few years ago & apple cider vinegar and a shower cap works wonders!! It even dissolves the nits so u don’t have to worry about accidentally missing a couple while combing out hair and getting reinfested. I spent a ton of money on shampoos and even got a prescription from their pediatrician & nothing worked. The dr said lice are becoming immune to a lot of our treatments.
Do not do it!!! Noooooooooo. Quarantine the child!
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Do NOT let her come until a dr has checked her head !
Talk to the mom. Besides you & your family getting lice, school is starting soon. If she brings it to school, there will be a pandemic of lice & if the kids find out who started it, she’ll be made fun of & bullied!!
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talk to the other parent nicely about it …we had a family with such a bad extreme case of lice…my daughters best friend …so l had several lice episodes too. Her hair was soooo full of eggs it was double its volume!!!..l still cant forget it …l got the treatment and did her hair myself outside on the balcony. We were horrified!!..those poor kids without a mother,she was mentally ill and died from breast cancer.The father was scruffy and unkempt …the house was soooo disgusting you would never have a coffee there or go to the toilet …l got them into cleaning up the garbage bags piled onto the back veranda…they took trailer loads away .lt was something DOCS wouldnt come down hard on. Those poor little kids …So l was firm towards the father and didnt dance around this issue
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Tell the truth to the mum and say it how it is. Offer to help pay for lice treatment if you can afford it, and give tips. Something isnt happening right.
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Tell the mom your daughter had lice and since she was playing with the other child the mom may want to check her. Dont play a blame game,just let it be known that your house hold had it and it would be wise for her to make sure they dont.
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Some of these comments are disgusting. It’s all part of being kids if u can’t understand that as a mother then I feel sorry for your children 
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If it also took you two months to get rid of u must not of been treating the hair right in the first place and maybe other children or family members had them too.
Explain to the parent and your daughter maybe about not hugging or something simple but I wouldn’t be stopping the friendship
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Use repeller and wash the little girls hair as soon as she gets there.
Keep her hair up the whole time she is in your home as well. As soon as she leave spray the house.
I had a friend in school kept giving me lice. I was never stopped from playing with her. We asked her and she said her mom would get the shampoo but would make her do hers and her sisters hair herself. When we found that out we talked to mom. We offered to treat her and her sisters heads if the went half on the lice shampoo and combs. She agreed we had a slumber party and treated heads and every ten days for a month we did this. Simply to stop passing it back and forth. We all 4 had fun even if we did treat hair but not being able to be her friend bc of something as treatable as lice would have made me be mad. And her feel helpless. She couldn’t help that her mom was too weak to treat her head. Before saying no talk to mom. See if there is more going on.
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Id tell her u will wash her hair and clothes before she does
Personally, I’d alllow her friend over.
If it effects you that much, talk to the girls Mum about cleaning her hair, or ask if you could clean it?
Also talk to the children about keeping the distance to minimise the risk of the knits spreading to others.
Yes, knits are a nuisance but there are things you can do to help the situation that doesn’t include isolating your children from their friends.
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Why don’t you ask the kids mum if it’s OK if you decide lice her?
Um offend that mom lice is a serious issue if not dealt with. Poor little girl!!
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No. No contact at all until there is zero nits left.
I would speak with her mom. I saw a news report the other day where a little girl died from lice infestation because she was already anemic and her folks were not treating it. 
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Why not create a “beauty Sleep Over” give the girls make overs with face mask, paint their nails and dress up their hair. Put the head lice treatment in the shampoos and conditioner that you use on the girls hair. Just ask the mother first to make sure she’s not allergic to any products.
This way your not embarrassing the mother or the girl.
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You haven’t mentioned this problem to the child’s mother? What is wrong with you?
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I have gone threw this and honestly i just ask if i can treat the childs hair because its not the childs fault they have them.
I would talk to the girls mom in private to not embarrass the girl…
Maybe treat the little girls hair and to protect your daughters get some rosemary detangle spray and shampoo and conditioner…we used to have this same problem with my girls friends. Thjs is what we did because we battled it for so long. It was horrible at their school once we did this tho they haven’t gotten it back.n
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I would treat her hair soon as she gets there and throw her clothes in the dryer that she brings
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Face time or video chat or
Not until her friend gets rid of them. Lice is such a pain in the ass to get rid of especially with a family of girls.
I would just tell my daughter…
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Tgel shampoo kills them
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Be honest. And then check her before allowing her over. My friend puts her friends kids directly in the bath every time becuz she just couldn’t rid them.
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Tea tree oil mix it with your conditioner… My kids have been lice free since 2009 no matter who they are around…
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Naw sir! Hell to the naw
Talk to her mom about it.
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Many moons ago I had an old school beautician tell my then sister in law…to do a vinegar/water (same temp as bath/shower water) rinse.
So basically she used a small cup poor in white distilled vinegar filled it the rest way up with water and rinse after shampoo 2-3x a week.
Do they go to the same school? Report it to the school, they should have a no lice policy otherwise sent home till treated, also tell the mother of that child its effecting your household and cant continue having her daughter interact with yours until she is treated also if someone can find the article of the child who died from ongoing headlice and give that, to that mum to read it maybe a wake up call, if she isnt bothered by it I’d reported to child first (if in Australia) or alternative child protection agency as this is a form of neglect it could be a one of many issues at home, alarm bells going off in my head reading this!
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I use fairy tails spray in my kids hair every year when school is in. Never had any issues with it. I bought it at Walmart. They have shampoo as well. Doesn’t smell the best but it does the job to prevent lice
It does not help to treat the little friends scalp of lice as you are advised to do.Lice do not choose heads.Those little rascals go everywhere and they joyfully increase like a veltfire.
No,…the friends Mummy must understand to keep her home and family lice free just like you are doing.Invite the little friends Mum for coffee at a Café and not your home.Speak to her in a kind way.Give her advice what to do and tell her that it can happen to anyone.Your daughter will be better off not to have her friend at your home untill this lice invasion has been cleared.Spray your kids with a mild spray against lice…not the baby…when going to school.We all had the problem.All the best.⚘❤
Tell your kid hell no!!
Also put Mayo all over the head and wrap it up until the next day then wash, and then use lice comb and it will be gone. This was the ONLY thing that worked for me as a kid when I got it
I know whenever I was growing up I had gotten them repeatedly because the mother had talked to my
Mother and she told
My
Mom she had gotten rid of them but she hadn’t because she didn’t believe she had them even though she was the only friend I was around ever because we were basically inseparable I would say to let the mom know but approach it gently
You need to talk to her mom about it. She clearly needs some sorta help getting rid of them
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As a mom of four girls, that’s a big HELL NAH!! When mine got them we battled them for almost a year… they would go 2 weeks at the most and then they would get reinfected. I refuse to go through that again lol. I did everything but burn our apartment down. … I would blame it on the need for social distancing and let them zoom video call daily or something like that.
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Say no. End of discussion
Hell no keep her away
Maybe talk to the mother & offer to help her rid her daughter & home. I had this happen when I was younger. I kept getting them & we finally figured out where when I actually SAW the lice crawling on my friends scalp!!! My mom call the mom & she freaked out screaming they didn’t have lice. I hated to lose my friend, but I hated the lice treatments more!
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Put goldbond in her hair. Makes it look oily but it doesn’t allow them to stick to the hair.
I love this question and can’t wait to be able to sit down and read the comments. I too have went through this and it is so hard to know what to do.
Let them hang out together outside and keep a safe distance. Tell them you’re worries about covid.
Diatomaceous earth powder worked for me and my foster kids. We all had it about 2 months.
Make her wear a shower cap at all times
My brother had a friend who every time she came over she’d give us lice. We’d let her know how to get rid of them and what to do to to clean. No matter how long she’d stay away she’d always have lice. My sister and I have always had long hair. Which makes it hard to get all the eggs/bugs out. We’d spend a ton on lice shampoo and everytime she’d come back we’d get it again. We finally had enough and told her mom. Her mom kept saying they’re all gone and cleaned. They never did. So we’d have to check her head before letting her in.
Lavender and tea tree oil add 6 drops each spray in with water everyday lavender they can’t latch on their eggs if she did end up getting it
Personally I’d have a conversation with her mom.
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This is tough. I actually had the same problem as a kid where me and my best friend kept passing lice back and forth 
I think what you really have to do is get in contact with the mom and approach this problem together. Have her and all her kids over (outside, works great cause it’s summer!) and treat them all together. Have an open line of communication and tell the friend’s mom if you guys get it again and ask her to do the same for you. Tackle it as a team so your kids don’t have to go without each other and so you can also stop playing lice tag lol
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Nope! Meet them at the park, and say you are canceling sleepover or visits until your all covid vaccinated.
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Be honest check her
If lice sorry go home
Fairy Tales rosemary repel!!! Works wonders!!! It awesome prevention and plus it smells good too
Have you contacted the kids parent??? I feel bad for the kid
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Just tell the Mom you and your family have suffered with lice and you wouldn’t mind her daughter coming over if you can check to make sure no lice.If they are poor you mind but lice medicine and give it to them.
Get one of these! Got mine from Amazon.
Put lavender in your shampoo and conditioner bottles should help your family from catching it
I would want to know if my child had lice so I think you should definitely address the issue with the parents. Also i used to babysit a girl who had lice and i ended up treating her head and picking thru it myself and let her parents know so they could take the proper steps so she didnt catch it again.
Put lice shampoo in detangler and spray on hair daily. Used this and it worked wonders when my kids were in prek and a girl in school always had lice and the mother wouldn’t do anything. The school could never get ahold of her mom to send the kid home because her mom shut her phone off once kids went to school
Both times my daughter had lice, it was treated within a week. Idk, maybe we didn’t have that super lice stuff but I treated her and sat for hours on end for at least 4 days after, going through her hair and getting out eggs. I wouldn’t let her go somewhere or have someone over I know has lice. It’s not the end of the world, but it takes so much time getting rid of it.
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I would definitely be calling the parents up because it’s not fair to you or your kids
I’m going through the exact same thing. Friend keeps getting treated and seems ok for awhile but it always comes back. I’m at my wits end
Girl be honest about yea the girl mom may get upset or she may understand
Also you dont just treat the hair it they could he attached to anything fabric in your house e.g clothes, towels, hair brushes, hair ties, pillows, blankets, couch, carpet, pets etc…
Wash everything in hot water with tea tree oil, spray anything you cant wash with hot water and tea tree oil, flea treat ur pet too! And always use lice prevention spray in hair every school/daycare day!
Nahhhhhh bed bugs and lice are like the vermin that haunts my worst nightmares. We threw away our whole living room over bed bugs, and dealt with lice for a few months and I had to treat 3 kids, two which weren’t even mine. Noooooooope
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no in less the mom wants to help with the cost of all the cleaning supplies and help clean i would say n o
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Is this a joke? You can’t decide whether or not to let your child play with someone who has lice…
Meet at a park for a picnic instead.
Just wait till she goes back to school. It’ll come back
I had a friend like this when I was in elementary school she gave me lice twice and the last time my mom treated her hair too (with baby oil and cling wrap) then went to her house and found out she lived with her elderly grandparents that just weren’t able to treat it (low income)so she helped them and neither of us ever got it again… long story short there may be other factors involved and to try to be kind they may just have hit hard time or just uneducated in how to take care of it.
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