I have been through this more times than I care to remember…since my granddaughter, now 14, was 3. Only it was my sisters kid with lice, who knew she had it and just didn’t think it important that I should know.( I have custody of my granddaughter) hard as it was, I had to keep them separated until I knew my niece was treated and lice free. My husband and I took care of our granddaughter’s lice. I was never more angry at anyone
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My daughter got head lice from a friend a few times and my daughter has the thickest hair ever I put a stop to her hanging out with that friend real quick and guess what no more lice getting rid of lice is a pain and a headache not worth it. I’d say no way
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Offend her mom. 
But really, talk to the parent and let them know and maybe even off some advice maybe she’s struggling her self . Where she getting it from? My daughter had it twice and it ended up eventually becoming we couldn’t go to my friends house cuz it was her sisters kid giving it to her sons I was watching and visiting. Sucked but couldn’t risk it till it was allll gone.
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Have her wear a shower cap lol
Nope, unh uh, nada!!
You are just going to have to bite the bullet and ask.
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What you do is call the other kids mama … and say hey I’m so sorry but I just found out my daughter has head lice and she might want to check all their heads … kind of make it sound like your daughter may have passed it to them and offer to come check for them if they don’t know what it looks like … someone that has never dealt with it may not know what it is … and by the way the best way to get rid of it is with the green dog shampoo and use it just like the bottle says for treating dogs best damn thing I ever heard of for lice and it works great and cheaper then rid
Just treat her hair too when she comes over too
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I have been treating my granddaughter for 2 years now. We don’t get her often. But when we do, we can’t enjoy the visit between treating and doing the whole house washed. It’s just sad how it’s not taken more serious
Tea tree oil #1 for that
Also some shampoo has it
I’d just treat the girls hair when she’s over. There’s some brilliant fast working lice treatment now.
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You could sp ak to the mother. If you don’t want any confrontation just tell her you’re has had lice and you wanted to get he the heads up to check her child as they had been together. X
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That isn’t offending her. It’s part of life with kids. Call her tell the mom the truth with compassion. Tell her to check her before bringing her over. Then when she comes over you say to her I l’m gonna double check again because me and your mom want this to end for you guys. You would be surprised that your stressing for nothing.
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Kids not allowed momneeds to know and get n;
No she can’t come over until she is lice fee bottom line
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Be honest with her mom ffs
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Shave her best friends head then dip in disinfectant and give her a shot
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I would talk to the other mother… Also, I wouldn’t t let her go back over until the other mother acknowledges the problem, gets on board with you, and treats her entire house and family. I would also do head checks BEFORE anyone from that family comes into your house. If she doesn’t want to work with you on getting the lice cleared up on her end, well then you have done all you can do and unfortunately, your daughter won’t get to see her best friend UNTIL her friends mother takes it seriously. That’s on her if she doesn’t, not on you. Unfortunately, the kids don’t understand. That’s why we step in… Good luck!!
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I think you know what to do. You need to discreetly talk to the friends parents and let’s them know what you use on your kids hair and how you wash everything and hope that they sort her hair otherwise your daughter needs to.make new friends or you will be defleaing everything and everyone every week
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If the child is continuing having lice, the problem is bigger then you see it. I would not allow my child to be around someone who is constantly sick
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To everyone saying to treat the girl when she comes over … that is not okay! It is not your child. I would call and talk to the parent and offer to help. Some people have chemical reactions or allergies and doing the treatment could end up with a crap ending if she is one of those children.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My daughter wants to hang out with her best friend but she has lice: Advice?
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I would talk to the other mama. Seriously. I understand getting out of the house, but lice is something that can infect entire classrooms and schools. I wouldn’t mind invite her over until her whole house has been confirmed lice free.
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I’d flat out ask, it’s your house and it’s a fair question. Her mom should understand. No one wants to deal with lice.
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Be strong Mama just not worth it. Been down this road myself. My daughter’s friends mom kept saying she didn’t have lice but she came to our house and while they were standing outside I looked at the little girls head, not even close up and I could see them. Nope not today girly. So I called the school and they got after the mom. So she never knew who reported her.
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My boys school constantly sent home lice notifications - I asked my hair stylist what was the best way to prevent them getting lice and she said to use hairspray - so every morning I sprayed hairspray on their hair and we never had issues.
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I had to have a conversation with another child’s mom and let her know that I know how hard it is to battle ice but unfortunately unless I check her child’s head because of the previous incident that they wouldn’t be able to play closely together. Because you just can’t afford to keep doing that over and over and over. But I would also ask the mom if she’s low on resources I need help fighting the situation. And if she said yes she did need a hand I would maybe reach out to some Churches or places like that and just help her battle the situation so she doesn’t feel embarrassed, more like you understand how tough it is
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Start rinsing all your heads with a solution of vinegar and water. I did half and half. Lice dont live in it. I would do this last rinse after every shampoo, for awhile anyway, I would check the girls head before she ever stepped foot in your house. If shes got the lice, either treat her or send her home.
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Offend away and tell her. Maybe she’s naive maybe she doesn’t realize it. Too many variables and not too long ago there was a story in the news about neglected children with lice and one died!
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You don’t want to offend her mom? Tell her mom you are going to do a lice check before you allow her daughter to come into your house. I’d do it before she gets away from the car. Her mother certainly doesn’t seem to have a problem offending you.
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Remember, It is not the kids fault, so do not say any of this infront of your child or theirs… The mom needs to get on that. Offer to help. She may not have any idea how too. Buy a shower cap for yourself, and go help the mama. Bag up everything and have her take to the laundry mat, while you help clean the kids and house.
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I wouldn’t give one hoot if the other family finds the question offensive. Fighting lice is awful. You don’t want to deal with it again. Just ask
Also…the darn things do not like tea tree oil…I would put it in your daughters hair just on case. The very end of school my son brought this to our house. He’s going to school smelling like tea tree oil for sure.
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Absolutely not. I would have a talk with the mother also. Maybe she doesn’t know how to clean the whole house, wash all bedding, clothes, literally EVERYTHING has to be treated. You have to stay on top or the cycle just starts over. This can become a very serious issue. If her children are left untreated or not receiving sufficient treatment-this is Child Neglect. Protect your kids, ask the mom if she needs help/education, call and make a report if it continues.
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It’s not just giving shampoos and dealing with hair. It’s furniture, bedding, stuffed animals and even the car. I had four kids and they never got lice but had lots of teacher friends who did.
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Lice are an unpleasant fact of life. It’s nobody’s fault and does not indicate a lack of cleanliness etc. hopefully each time your family was afflicted, you let the mother of the friend know. So now all you would have to do is ask the mom how the lice issue is going and find out if the child and household have been treated. If you’re satisfied with mom’s reply you could allow the child to play, if not, thumbs down.
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Sorry Offend the Mom. My curly headed daughter had those once. Never again. The mom may not understand or be able to do anything to help herself. Alert the school as well if they attend the same school. Its not to be mean but its a health issue that must be taken care of.
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The malaleuca shampoo prevents lice. My daughter had very long thick hair, and kids kept getting lice at school. Luckily she never got lice after we switched to this shampoo for this exact reason. Now it is very expensive since it’s all natural
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I was the lice kid growing up.
My friends mom said that she was doing her daughter’s hair and did my mom mind if my hair was done aswel.
She did my hair as soon as I walked into her house.
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Lady Bugs leave in conditioner. It’s cheap on Amazon. It prevents lice from sticking in their hair and the love don’t like the peppermint smell, so they actually try to get away from their hair. I use it for my kids when they go to school.
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When I caught lice from my friend, my mom said that was it, no staying over there anymore. I would be speaking with the girl’s parents and say there is an issue and they need to work with getting it under control
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Maybe the mom dosen’t know what to do to get rid of lice .Why don’t you tell her
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Offend her mom… IF SHES HAD LICE THAT LONG THEY WILL BURROW WHOLES IN THE CHILDRENS HEADS AND LAY EGGS AND IT BECOMES IMPOSSIBLE TO GET RID OF WITHOUT INVERNESS A PRESCRIPTION MEDICATION…
if the lice is being untreated this long there is obviously some sort of neglect going on and needs further investigation…
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I hear you sweetie. My daughter’s got it from their step sister. I would work on getting rid of it, but the next time they had visitation with their dad, they’d come home with lice again! Over and over for at least 2yrs this went on. His wife wouldn’t take care of their daughter, she had it nonstop for 2yrs. I really couldn’t afford to keep treating my girls. I would tie their hair up and beg them to not share pillows or brushes or get too close to her. It was a struggle for years. No matter what I said. I think when I threatened to not let them go back, he finally did something about it.
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Naw’ll. Take care of your own at all cost. Now that being said if you consider the little girl family then help the moms take better care of the daughter.
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Be honest with mum. The child must be in discomfort too so needs to be treated.
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Just ask. Whenever I found out my kids had it. I let everyone know that we had been around. It’s a pain in the ass and I, personally would not get offended if someone asked me.
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I had a friend that always had lice when I was growing up and my mom just set a rule that due to lice going around the schools that before anybody came over they had to have a lice check. This way nobody felt that they were being pointed out and we also didn’t have lice come home.
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My daughter’s bff back in elementary often had lice and they both had long beautiful hair. After trying so hard to separate them I decided to talk to the bff’s parent and I ended up treating both. It was worth the expense and effort. The girls enjoyed being together and it was much less work for me in the long run.
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We would play hairdresser and dress up when the kids got together with a particular friend. I would take all the clothes and wash them. I would check her hair and wash with special shampoo she never knew
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There is really no way to keep from offending the other parent However you need to talk to her and explain why the kids cannot play together if she is not treating the lice they blossom and grow so her home would be infested. If she has been treating the house them maybe she would love to here anything else she could to get rid of them maybe they do not have enough money to treat them if not maybe someone could help Be firm but considerate so maybe y’all could work together to solve the problem. You have to protect your family. But hen school starts back here you go again
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OMG. I’ve been in your shoes. I know the horror of literally washing anything and everything that fit in the washer. Shampooing and reshampooing every head in the house twice. Picking eggs from long little girl hair to keep from having to shave her head.
Being until the wee hours cleaning and washing and then getting up and going to work. No, I’m sorry maybe talk to the girls Mom first but no, you can’t play together. I’m so sorry.
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Might ask the other mother if she is getting a new brush or “cleaning” the old one. She might be recontaminating with older brush
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I’d worry if this friend is getting treated for the lice and figure out how she is getting it so often. Talk to the mom cause your part in it is protecting your family.
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If it was my child that had given lice to your child I’d want to know. Yes I’d be abit embarrassed but I’d be happier you told me so I could deal with it if she hasn’t already done so.
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Honestly after respectfullySpeaking to their mom if it continues to be a problem that is something I would report it. It’s sad to say but that little girl is obviously very uncomfortable. When you’re that age you can’t take care of it yourself so it is there for the parents job to do so. If the mom knows she has lice and isn’t taking care of it that’s pretty neglectful
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I know tea tree oil shampoo and hair products can help prevent lice in the first place. But if the little girl is in your home you can get it just by that! I would mention it to mom. Let her know you just got rid of lice in your home and you wanted to give her a heads up bc they hang out. Then ease into the conversation. That’s insane though that poor kid has to be feeling torture by having lice this whole time!
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Nicely explain to your daughter that she cannot until the lice situation is taken care of. It might not be nice to have to tell her this but she’s given it to your family one too many times. But why is that girl having lice so often? Wonder if her house is not clean or maybe she’s getting it from another friend or neighbor? Maybe speak to the girls mom. It’s a touchy subject but maybe she doesn’t know. I don’t know. I’m baffled at why is she getting it so often from same kid.
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Ask the parents of this child if you can check there hair and Treet if needed
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I think I would tell the other mom that you have had a lice problem and just want to make sure you don’t get it again,maybe she has had it too like you my granddaughter got it at pre school took the whole summer to have it gone then a niece when down south and her daughter got it I was babysitting her I told mom not to bring her to me tell they were gone.
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I would contact child protective services, if her mom will not treat her for lice, that is child endangerment, can cause many different problems if not treated.
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Use the shampoo for lice.
I did EEGS (brain waves) while in the medical field. When I saw they had lice, cancelled the study and told parent to buy the shampoo for lice.
Also she needs to get a new best friend if the mother doesn’t fix the problem.
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Protect your kids. Tell them to treat their kids like you have. Simple.
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Simple, talk to the parents if they can’t afford it. Tell them you if you can help them. But they need to check each other and themselves. Been there done that. And I had an in home daycare, treated all my kids and husband. Had to go to mom’s to be treated.
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We had to deal with that my husband ex wife woodnt take care of it so every two weeks we got the kids. We had 3 times. That was enough. So when they wood come over there cloths wood go off outside. They wood get treated and take a shower. And there cloths wood be washed. Never had it again. Wood spray every thing in the house with Lysol a few times a week. The girls mother just don’t take the time to deal with it.
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I remember yrs ago when my younger sisters had lice my Dad called his Aunt an indian woman and she gave us small bottles of oil of sassyfras It worked its kind of like tea tree oil she said to wet the hair pour in the oil and wrap the hair in a hot wet towel for an hour comb then rinse The lice and eggs turn black My Dad even washed all linens pillows etc
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You can do so nice and clean by use the same thing you wash your daughter hair and was her or call her mom and tell her that you find it in your daughter hair so she can check her daughter hair …if she ofend then you will have to stay away from her
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I wouls suggest letting the other mom know that your family got lice but now everyone is lice free. And of if friend comes over that u will be checking and treating her to be on the safe side. Yrs ago this lady i was friends with, her daughter used lice shampoo everyday so she wouldn’t get lice.
A quick shower using treated lice killing shampoo first thing at your home. Hand her a towel a little cup with the shampoo in it and send her to the shower. It sounds awful but it is what it is.
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Check with the mom if anyone in her household has it, absolutely not!
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I would tell the child’s mom that her daughter would have to be treated before coming back, or you treat the kid yourself.
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Just say no ,not being mean because you are the one who has to do all the cleaning and you need to do what is best for you and your family.
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Here’s a true story long ago. My daughter is grown now I would say about 3 grade my daughter had this child in her class gave her lice I handled it she got back in school fairly quickly next yr same girl was in her class guess what happened lice again but this time I got it from her and my son was not spared it was horrible so b4 home rooms were given out in 5th grade I went to her school I went to her school and warned them if they put that child in my daughter class and she got lice I would sue the school district. Well it was enough of a threat she was moved to a different homeroom
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I’d call CPS. Lice can be fatal. There was a post going around fb recently about a little girl that died from having so many lice. I rem when my granddaughter had them & you are right, they are really alot of work to get rid of
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Honestly if it’s happening multiple time that mother isn’t properly dealing with it and who know the conditions of the house. Definitely ask the questions needed. If she gets mad then she is embarrassed and not willing to deal with it and I also wonder if cps should he notified. Lice happens! But multiple times isn’t ok.
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Talk to the other kids parents and offer to help them treat them and their house for lice. If they are not willing to work on this then maybe your kid needs some new friends
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Ask her mom. You are not being mean by asking. Lice are nothing to play with. I am a Cosmetologist and Cosmetology Educator and I would ask to be sure.
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I would just explain to the mother lots of kids get head lice if you don’t use the product properly and redo in 7 days it will keep coming back they do have a product in Australia made from oils it make the head an unpleasant breeding ground suffocates them.tie long hair up spray with hairspray helps .Hard to control if only one parent is doing everything right . I’d treat her my self and just tell the parent you were doing all your kids did her too as she had live lice and tell her to check her other kids .good luck my daughter had lice at school and kindy lots of times .I’m a hairdresser so it was a night mare
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Well make sure the friend is treated and not let them play together until they’re gone
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Olive oil in hair let it sit over night with a shower cap or bag on head then rinse wash it out and then comb and dry hair. After hair is dry use a hot flat iron on hair it kills the eggs. My daughter had lice so bad I tried everything nothing worked so I called the health dept and this is what they did I never had a issue after that. She is 22 and still uses the flat iron
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Getting rid of lice is an ordeal. Not just getting them out of the hair and clothes…but beds wrapping pillows and mattress in plastic…spraying furniture cleaning carpet… My granddaughter had stuffed animals that we bagged for at least two or three weeks…I would have a talk with the mama…she needs to get rid of her pests and not in your house…
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How about this Mom has a talk with the girl’s mother and offers to take her to a salon that specializes in getting rid of lice? (Unless, of course, she no longer has it). After all, this is her best friend!
The first time I found lice I would have called the girls mother and said" I don’t know where our girls got lice, but better check your kids because they have been to the same places. " not accusingly, but helpfully.
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Talk to her mom. Lice is very common among school age kids. Explain how difficult it is to get rid of them and you’re checking to make sure none of her friends have lice.
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Being honest is the best and explain what you went through to her Mom if it was me i would understand.
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What is wrong with that parent allowing her daughter to bee with other kids right now. Protect yours. Can you imagine the people in her house probably all have it keep your daughter away from her and explain to her the reason why
Had the exact issue with my daughter… Her best friend always was riddled with them. I just did her friends hair every time she came over.
I’ve never had to deal with lice, fortunately. I have 4 kids so thank goodness. I had a friend come over when. I was about 19. She had me do her hair and I noticed she had a head full of lice. It was the only time I’ve ever been around it. I would explain to your daughter why she can’t come over. Let her know that it’s nothing personal.
I wouldn’t let her come over. When my kids were little they had these friends that kept sharing it back and forth, it was crazy. They’d all get rid of it and kept getting it back. Come to find out their friends mom had material seats in her car and that’s where they kept getting it from. As soon as she got rid of it in her car everyone was all set, no more lice
The truth! Be a good friend, save her the embarrassment of others finding out too, kids can be cruel and eventually they will begin teasing and harassing her and she’ll never forget she was the “lice girl”.
You can buy repellent that you spray in your child’s hair. Years ago my daughter got head lice twice from sharing hair brushes and ties at gymnastic practices. The coach would not check the girls and would not notify the parents. Was the only way she never got it again and nobody else in the family ever got it.
Definitely talk to her mom and see if her daughter is lice free. If she is then I think it would be ok but if she still has it then I would keep your daughter away
I had a neighbor kid give my child lice 20 years ago. And her parents didn’t treat her hair so I sat her on the back porch and did it myself. Sent her home with a shower cap and instructions on how to clean her room.
Just call the girlfriends mom and ask her if she’s treated her daughters hair, then go on to tell her what you’ve done with your daughters hair and the house treatments as well as the other family members treatments. If she’s done it all too she’ll say so, if she hasn’t, it will give her heads up on what needs to happen to get rid of those dang lice! And don’t let the girlfriend in the house until the mom confirms she’s been treated!
Buy a METAL toothed flea comb from Walmart put her friend in the bathtub as soon as she gets to ur house and wash and condition her hair. While the conditioner is in her hair use the metal flea comb on her and you will come out every single life that is in her head I guarantee it I have done this on numerous occasions for my children and their friends in order for my daughters to be able to have friends sleepover. They never got lice once I started doing that!! Good luck!
Ask for sure my kid had them I told my friends so they could check there kids it’s the right thing to do
My kid would have to fine a new friend, I am not going to have to clean and treat my family for lice. Back in my day you can get lice from coats in closet, send letters home. Have daughters wear hair up and spray it hair spray. Call the and explain why the kids can’t play with each other.
I went through this as well, you have to talk to the oarents… if they aren’t doing what needs to be done, tell her no. Sorry, but I did this forever…I it’s expensive an unhealthy to keep treating your small children…
I would have that uncomfortable conversation with the mom. That is an expensive problem & you don’t want to use those chemicals on your child. Sometimes you’re doing them a favor by telling them. That kind of stuff can lead to bullying in school. Good luck!
Ask the mother I would. That is an expensive little creature to get rid of. And if she is offended well she won’t let her kid come over and play. That should give you your answer.
I offer to do her hair.Braids styles just play beauty shop do theirs nails facial the whole spa thing .I would start with the hair if she had the lice I would give the kids lunch then I remember I had a doctor appointment or DDS appointment and say May be again in a a week or so we can see you then .