I’d try talking to her mum and if she doesn’t do anything I’d just treat her hair and your kids and put stuff in to keep them out … i know she’s not your kid but easiest way i can think of where its a win for both kids… an old friend couldn’t afford the treatment stuff so I got it for her … nits love clean hair I k ow that much
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First of all, clean and nit free are not mutually exclusive. Have you tried talking to the mother of the other girl. Maybe she doesn’t know how to rid her house of them. Maybe there’s something else going on and the family needs real help. Braid your daughter’s hair and put it up tight. Let them play outside and tell them no hugging or playing dress up.
I don’t know how true it is but I was told to keep the hair with a lots of oil in it you won’t get them I raise my 2 girls and 4 granddaughter never had a problem with the people in the school use to get them but they did not
Find a new friend for your daughter. I know it’s difficult to get rid of it but every mom needs to do her part.
It is so hard ( and expensive) to get rid of these little bugs.Maybe you could ask the mom of her friend if she needs help to get rid of them.If your able to help I’m sure she could use it.
I used to pour vinegar on my first graders long hair. Everyone else got lice but she escaped
Ask the girl if she knows she has lice. Then ask her to have her parents treat it. If they don’t have the ability to do so then buy the stuff and do it yourself. Maybe notify the school nurse to assist you.
The mom of friend should be nicely told what’s been happening & tell her how you got rid of lice & how many times after your child or her child were together & always after your child went to her house. If she can’t afford lice rid meds be a good friend & help her purchase it—May save you money. Also tell her lice endanger the health if not gotten rid of permanently. It could be her child got it from a child outside her home. If everyone affected doesn’t get rid of lice you & they will just keep having the infestation. Sorry I had that problem! Until solved keep your child away from friend. Explain to your child why & tell her it won’t always be that way—interest her in a new best friend.
Just say NO. Call the mom, tell her what’s up and you’d love to have her daughter over when she’s gone at least a month (or whatever) without having lice. Anyway, why the hell would she let her kid mingle when she has lice?! No. 
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Not in your house. If your daughter, and her alone, plays with her (outside only) her hair needs to be braided and tucked up if long. Or keep it short and pinned back. Get tea tree shampoo and wash her hair daily with that when she bathes or showers. Or just say no. Is her family aware that she has lice? Has the family been treated? If they are clueless, then they need to be clued in.
My son was in a class with a girl who had lice all of.1st grade and some.of.2nd grade. The school even sent.home the lice magnifying light thing so they could try and get it from her ass length long hair. Well after about 2 yes of this and her giving it to a ton of.kids in school the school finally took action and told them to call an exterminator… thier house was INFESTED with lice ! This is.why they never could get rid of it in her hair. I think 3rd grade was the first year we didn’t get a lice letter weekly. 
I would suggest they bomb thier home and call an exterminator
My daughter got lice from school at age 6. I checked hair every day out of fear. Caught it early and found out kids share the class headphones…the classroom problem ceased when the headphones were removed from the environment. Some kids were always covered in them but didn’t get to gift them to others
I wouldn’t let my daughter be friend’s with her anymore !!! Hairspray repels lice ……
I would check her friends head and send her home if she has lice. I would feel bad for the girls because it’s not their fault, but lice isn’t easy to get rid of and I would refuse to continuously deal with it for the sake of someone else’s feelings.
Why don’t you talk to her mom help her clean your daughter’s friend cause it is embarrassing
Amy’s car her mom her mom’s friend that her daughter has a license in her hair the only way to hang out so you could clean the hair out
play date out of house. when you get home throw the clothes away and douse her from head to foot for any infection. keep the shoes but all else stays outside for awhile or in the trash
I found out the best way to treat this disgusting problem. Is not to beat around the bushes. Send the lazy mother a text, n let her know why her liced daughter is not allowed in your home… If your daughter is bore, she can find a way to entertain herself. Your job as a mother, is to make sure our children, have the basic things in life. N protect them from any harm. It is not fair or normal, to have this lice friend disrupt yours n your children whole life. Learned to say NO. Cus NO means NO. N stand your ground. You’ll see after a while, how things get better, n easier. N you n your children can have a more peaceful happier life:heart: Good luck:pray: n you are doing the right thing, by keeping the lices away 
Hairspray your child’s head ….
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Maybe let them hang out in a public place- like a park or restaurant or something. Then when she gets home clothes go straight in the washer, shoes sprayed down, car sprayed down (just in case) and straight to the shower to wash her hair. Might use the vinegar mix as well.
Just a suggestion until you are darn sure the friend is lice free. I have been down that road and I don’t blame you in the least bit. That crap is expensive, time consuming and miserable to deal with. Good luck I hope it works out!
There was a period of time where the circle of people our children spent time with got lice, so after it happened we all checked heads before even letting kids in the house. It’s always a good practice to communicate with the parents of the kids your children spend time with. Then when these issues come up it’s easier to have the conversation.
i had it when i was younger my mom use gasoline i think it burns little but goes away all never comes back
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Sadly, lice is quite contagious. Maybe you could meet for a play date at a park??? Then, come home and do a
lice shampoo just in case. It is said that product in hair does help to repel lice. It is a tough situation.
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When it went around school, I always pull my daughters hair back in a ponytail and pinned it up and put alot of hairspray on. She never got lice
Approach the mother if any of mine caught head lice I would say it to all the parents. We all treated the kid’s together. If she does noting then tell her untill she does her child’s hair you won’t allow your child over
Ask parents of any of your children’s friends who want to come over or where your children want to visit, about their current lice treatment and prevention situation and share what you’re doing. Let them know you’re having this conversation with all your children’s friends parents so that all of you are better equipped to deal with this by working together and sharing tips and successes so it doesn’t get spread around repeatedly through school and households. Good luck!
I would temporary really tell my child that she cannot play with the other child. And during that time. I would call the health department and ask them to do a home check because of the lice situation.
Be honest and upfront with the mom. You cannot go through it again. If the child still has lice then you just cannot allow it at this time.
It might be in how you address it with the other mom. Maybe she needs advice or help. Sometimes it’s hard to know what’s going on unless you ask and the way you ask could make all the difference in an insult or a friendly offer of help.
Nothing is going to prevent head lice and it sucks to get rid of on heads and everywhere else. Speak to the mother and let her know that YOUR daughter had a bout of head lice and ask if HER daughter has signs of lice because YOUR daughter would like HER daughter to come over. Put it on you if you can…I know how expensive and a pain in the a$$ head lice can be. This is what I would do.
You have to be honest with the mom &just ask. Have you gotten rid of the lice.
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In this instance, I don’t think it offensive, you have to protect your household and others around that come into contact with you and your kids, Id tell the mom that
Talk to the parents if the child is continually having lice and if you notice others have, then unfortunately someone could contact CPS and report about the childs lice issue, but if the parents cant get rid of the lice and the child continually keeps getting it then the child could become anemic. When school starts back and the child continually has lice the school could report the parents for neglect as they see it as an infestation and if its super lice a dr can write a prescription for the lice shampoo. Until the lice is gone and they have it under control I wouldn’t let the child come over or mine go over there, explain to your child they understand more then we realize and if they don’t like lice they will understand why they can’t have their friend over. Yes we have dealt with it in the past and I tried one of the online remedies to get rid of them in the hair and it worked, for awhile after that tea tree oil went into her shampoo and luckily never had an issue with lice again.
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Ask the mom anyway! Dont take any chances! Best way we killed them when my granddaughter got them was to dye her hair. Worked wonders!
I’d have a conversation with the parents as awkward as that is
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Offend her she should have never let her child come over with lice and to do it twice. Nope. I would ask and maybe even check as bad as that sounds it’s too hard to get rid of them and keep cleaning everything for weeks
how about suggesting a makeover night and wash all the kids hair but use the medication for the lice on her friend she will never know the difference and pick a nice day when you can do it outside. Maybe the mother can’t afford the treatment. I know I am to soft .
You could call the Mum and say that lice are going around, does she realize. Then try to make plans together to get rid of and prevent more infestations?
My 2 daughters, with long hair would sit and play in the bath, with conditioner in hair and me combing. I did it at night and first thing in the morning. Shower caps helped over night. Hot wash and dry everything. I got rid of them and used, leave-in conditioner a lot. Never got them again. It was part of a weekly ritual, checking, comb through conditioner, rinse, then use spray in conditioner
My child had lice in grammer school no matter what I did it kept coming back I spent so much money . I took my daughter to the doctor they said to mist her hair and clothes with the lice spray out of pure desperation I tried it and it worked I worried about it never bothered her but I just misted it but this was 25 yrs . ago .
The best solution I was told Lysol the yellow colored one full strength put on hair leave on 25 minutes then rinse…
Just be up front and have a grownup conversation. Tell her mother the situation. Maybe she needs to be told. No maybe obviously she does.
Tell her mom nicely to clean her kid.hair.next time use mayo Dawn dish soap works wounders
I so feel for this woman. My stepdaughter had lice and we had visitation so imagine that one. It went on for years. Its horrible and they really do t do anything about it because it a “childhood thing” when it is INE if the most pain in the butt Thing to deal with. Your just gonna have to be blunt and to the point and say something
Shirley Barnes-she’s not obligated to tell us how they got lice at Dad’s, and she didn’t say Dad gave it to the kids. If they didn’t have lice before they went to Dad’s and had it when they returned, then they contracted lice while under Dad’s watch. And who knows how many kids might be at Dad’s house or who he let the kids play with. Did he remarry, have a live-in with kids? There are a myriad of possibilities.
Ask the child if you can look her hair take comb you see if the child has lice. If so dont invite her inside. Dont let ypur daughter hang out with her. Have private talk with your dsughter.
If the little girl has had lice all the time, why hasn’t someone said something? I mean, that is child neglect.
You know what to do. You just don’t want to face the difficult conversation. Never mind all the home remedies. Not worth the risk. Talk to your doctor or the health department, possibly the school. Somone needs to deal with the mom who clearly isn’t managing things adequately. Could be a lot of reasons. Ignorance or inability to afford necessary care and/or relying on home renedies. Over the counter stuff usually doesn’t do a complete job. Medicated shampoos may kill bugs but they don’t kill the eggs even though the package says it will. It’s necessay to manually remove the eggs glued to the hairs or they’ll.just hatch out another new crop of bugs in a few days. You could risk
doing a close inspection of the friend’s hair before you let her in the house if you are prepared to send her home if necessary. Can’t imagine allowing your child to go into their environment again.
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Years ago we also had a friend come over l just washed there hair .And lined my kids up with the other kids .
My mom uses fairy tale spray and products from amazon and boo shampoo (from target i think) to repel the lice. Maybe try those for a but to help protect your daughter and talk to the other mom?
I would say to the child’s mum could you treat the headlice first please
Cetaphil is good to put in hair. It smothers the lice and makes getting the nits out easier
Sometimes the truth can he hurtful, but it’s better to tell her the truth than it is to keep the girls apart. Lice is hard to get rid of. They get everywhere!!! You just gotta say she can’t come over or her go over until the lice is gone.
Put a cotton bud in a bottle of tea tree oil and rub in through her hair lice do not like it x
You have to feel sorry for the child x
lice is a nightmare to get rid of it has to be a no until its gone. talk to mom maybe teachers and school might help intervene. if need be buy and give lice med and comb to mom maybe she can’t afford it
My daughter had a friend bring lice to our home twice. We were able to get it under control quickly, but the friend wasn’t using proper measures to to treat the problem and kept re- infesting. We don’t invite her over anymore.
Lemon juice deters them and you can also get a spray that killsthelice and eggs all in one treatment. Just spray it down let it dry done. Maybe keep it around and spray everyone right after she leaves to be safe
Confirm with mother that she is lice free before having her we over. Sorry if it offends parents but it is your right to be sure.
It’s not a shame to get it, it’s a shame to keep it.
Obviously, the other mother has either not been educated on lice control or just doesn’t care enough.
I would definitely do a head check before the child got out of their vehicle.
Talk to the parents and make sure they have taken care of the problem before letting her come over. My daughter and I had lice and it took us forever to get rid of it. I had to spend almost 200.00 and go to a professional to get rid of it.
Lady honestly contact the school nurse, get a third person involved. The parent of this child must be approached. If they had it that long then it’s time for them to be confronted. Social worker, etc. If that fails then talk to the mom directly. Leave the child out of it. Half way or ignore the problem is not an option.
Point blank ask the child’s mother if she is free from lice. It’s your house your family
A Pharmassve in the previous town we lived in, gave my dtgr a really strong solution for the same issue.
My grandtgr had long beaitiful, we had so much trouble, we asked Pharmsave, they understood our desparation.
I forget wat it was called.
It dried her hair quite a bit, but once was plenty enough. I kept botlle for years, i just threw it out.
They had to mix solution in store, price was very reasomable, we were so poor.
Also a headful of mayonnaise helps n hair is soft after, just fun to wash out.
I had that happen when my college age kid was in middle school. Same “friend” kept “spreading the love”. I developed a lice preventative spray. They HATE it! It is also a natural moisturizer, detangler, and leave in conditioner! None of my kids have gotten lice since! Msg me and I can send you some.
Omg My daughter had lice from a classmate and we couldn’t stay on top of it. So much work and very costly and if you have more that one kid I’m sorry I know how tough it is. They like Clean hair and everything has to washed in hot water. I hope you get thru this its time consuming and a lot of patience I would not allow her to go anywhere especially close to the friend who allegedly has it. Ughhh you have to be strong and you will get through this.
Lice do not like tea tree oil. Mix some into the family’s shampoo and use it regularly. It prevents getting lice
As a retired teacher our kindergarten kids got it every year.Call your kids school and ask what they recommend.
Lice are very tough to get rid of. I would definitely not socialize with the other family until they are 100 % gone.
Kindly advice your daughter and her friend to use Crusader Antiseptic Soap to be washing their hair. It will completely get all lice and eggs off. You will get the usage instructions on the leaflet.
Tell her mom and recommend product to get rid of it. If they cannot afford it maybe help out with costs
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Tell the truth…lice are abundant and spread like wild fire from their house to yours and back. Talk to the Dr. or pharmacist.
Electronic comb for lice. Run it through everyone’s hair a few times a week. Kills the lice and eggs. Life saver.
Maybe treat the kid hair the have spray in stuff that better then the shampoo and do out side or so you don’t get in trouble let the school Human Resources know and they can help you out to. It’s not a bad thing or a dirty person thing. It might be the parents have no clue and if you bring it up like I don’t know if you know but I saw something in your daughters hair and I think it might be lice and go from there. And Paul Mitchell’s tea tree shampoo is suppose to be good to keep kids from getting lice kills it in 15 minutes so wash your kids hair daily with it
I would talk to the mom first before I said anything to the child. You can say, I need to talk to your mom before i say yes.
When the hair has styling products on the lice can not attach to the hair as well. The lice love clean hair as they can attach easily.
I had a similar situation with my son when he was a tween. Talk to her mom. If they can’t afford the lice shampoo then go ahead and get them some.
I would DEF talk to the girls mother to make sure their family is lice free. Otherwise NO DON’T let her come or let her go over there. Dealing with lice is awful. Been there done that DON’T like it
When my children were in school I geled and hair sprayed their hair. They never shared hats or scarves with others. I have been a Stylist for 4 decades. The cleaner the hair the easier for the lice to lay their eggs.
It’s a struggle for sure. My kids got it every time they went to their dads house. I was legally obligated to let him have visits but man it was a huge battle to rid the kids of the lice.
I would speak o the mother I wouldn’t let her come unless you are sure geeze you don’t want to go through that again
Make it a blanket rule. Explain to the girl’s mom what you have experienced and that no one is coming over without proof they do not carry lice. Make her understand that every child will have to do this, not just her daughter. If she is any kind of decent person, she will understand. I would.
It is a bad bad situation! Your whole family can get seriously infected and lice, left untreated can caise serious illnesses!!! Google Lice and see for yourself.
I feel sorry you are put in this dilemma… but you need to protect your kids first and foremost. It’s one thing not to know they had lice but you do now so say no to prevent them from getting it again. Call the mom and explain the situation, tell her you have 4 kids and can’t afford to go through it again and hopefully she understands. And who knows maybe the situation has changed at their home and they are all free of lice… good luck
sorry but I’m having a hard time taking this seriously. The friend has lice! Tell the daughter as soon as the lice is gone she’s welcome to “hang out.” Be a parent.
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Not worth it! Even if the girl was treated all it takes is 1 egg to be missed to have it start all over!!
Sometimes you need to offend ask then look if they are gone great if they are mad your health and life are important to.
Why would a mother who is concerned about her children have to ask? Use common sense.
Go and have a serious talk with her mom about the situation , and both of you friends Mom work together on this issues
Use pony tail, braid, se hairspray on your childs hair before visit.
Each time you have a lice problem politely notify the parent, maybe suggest a product they could use for there children IF (BE POLITE) they see a lice problem.
I would say I’m sorry I don’t want to hurt your feelings but when you are free of lice I would be happy to have you visit us.
Boys hair keep short. Can’t get them. Be nice ask her mother if she knows about them. Or ask the girl if you can do it.
They make a shampoo and a spray that is supposed to help prevent them from getting lice
Alot of people actually do Not know how to actually do a lice treatment (to hair AND HOUSE) BACK PACKS,ROBES,HOODIES,SOCKS,BEDS,SHOWER CURTAINS, EVERYTHING HAD TO BE TREATED AT ONCE, SEVERAL TIMES
In beauty school many years ago Phelps naphta soap keep hair washed with
Are you serious? What you need to do is call child protective services on your kid’s best friend’s parents! It’s not normal to get lice over and over and over again!
After lice is gone spray for them weekly for a month. Than buy some shampoo called “Lice Shield”…available alot of different places…its said to help prevent lice. Google it to read more.
It’s not offensive to check heads before reengaging in play dates… especially when you have just got over your 2nd bout with head lice… any mom in my books who gets offended by that is not packing a full string of trout… lights may be on but nobody is home if you get my drift… like maybe reconsider sending your child to her house and only having play dates at your house, the park or outside somewhere …. Just simply say WE need to do head checks before our kids hang out with each other because we just got over head lice in our home….hope this helps
Well you either need to check her outside your house or you need to go over and talk to her mother I sure would not put up with that again
The best solution for lice is simple. Vaseline. Just leave it one day in your child’s hair. Rinse it out and you will see. Never lice anymore in your hair.
Put olive oil on her roots and hair and put it in a ponytail then spray with a lice prevention spray real well.
You could say you heard it was going around, and ask her if she was aware of any? That way, no direct insult.
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