I Need help! My 3-year-old WILL NOT sleep in her own bed! My son, who is almost 2, has no problem sleeping in his room in his bed. But my daughter screams and screams till she makes herself sick, or she will wait till her dad and I fall asleep and then get in our bed. It wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t a every night thing and I am 7 months pregnant. She is a very aggressive sleeper kicking, swinging arms laying sideways etc. I’ve tried everything from letting her decorate her room to laying with her till shes been asleep for a couple hours, nightlight, noise machine, movie etc. Any help/advice will be greatly appreciated
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You could try a cot? Put it on the side of your bed.
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Put a bed in your room for her or a mattress on the floor
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I’ve tried everything as well and my daughter is 4
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I blame girls 
- my boys were both amazing sleepers bed by 6:30pm and slept through not a peep unless unwell - this daughter of mine … I have no words
She’s 5 and still doesn’t go to bed easily ( up and down till gone 9pm sometimes later) and often wakes up in the night or sneaks in our bed - when you find the magic answer tell me!
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Keep putting her back no matter what. Be consitant.she will get it eventually. Just keep putting her back.even if you are half asleep just get up and put her back in her own bed. Talk about too b4 bedtime. Offer rewards in the morning once she gets it. You really really have to be consistent tho.
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My very independent and strong willed 3 year old is doing the same. It started when Daddy last January went on a deployment and I was a couple weeks pregnant. Daddy has been home since June and her brother is almost 4 months and she is still here a year later lol. I’m guessing it was just due to all the changes so we are just letting it be for now. I figured once we get the baby out of our room it will be easier to get her in hers. Our 7 year old likes her space 
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It’s a comfort thing. Some kids just don’t like sleeping alone. I struggle to sleep if hubby isn’t in bed. Kids are the same tbh.
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Sensory Scout makes really great stretchy sheets or weighted blankets that helped my oldest who was a really crappy sleeper for like 5 years lol
Lock ur bedroom door
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Try promising a small reward if she spends the whole night in her bed. Like pancakes for breakfast or something
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Let her sleep with you. Sounds like she’s fixing to get less time with you.
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Same problem with my 3 and 5 year old and I’m 7 months pregnant too. I just let them. They wont be little forever and they’ll stay in their own beds eventually. Is it the most comfortable? Umm hell no lol. But to me, they just grow up too damn fast anyway. 
Try a toddler weighted blanket!! My almost 3yr old had the same problem when my second son was born. We got him a 3lb weighted blanket off Amazon. He’s stayed I. His bed since!
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My daughter is 3 and usually we watch a movie and fall asleep, my husband will take her to bed when he comes to bed and she spends the rest of the night in her room.
The reason we started this was bedtime was awful and she would scream/cry until she made herself sick, she just wanted mama.
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That’s such a hard habit to break. Couldn’t break my son till he was 6 or 7.
Does she use her room during the day? Does she play in there independently? She could be uncomfortable or scared?
My daughter is 3 and just started sleeping in her bed but her bed is still in my room…(I will work on moving her in her room in a month or so) It took time to get it to be this way tho it does not happen over night… Alot of long crying nights but I just consoled her but didn’t give in.
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I have laid with all my kids while they went to sleep. It’s best to move out within 5 minutes of her falling asleep. Then she’s in a deeper sleep.
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Have you tried leting her sleep in the room with brother?
Have you tried a weighted blanket? I heard that does wonders for some kids
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I wish I could tag you in the Supernanny episode I saw today. You just keep putting the child back into the bed. Sit in silence in the room with your head down. Don’t say a word just every time child gets out out them back. Slowly move ur way out of the room I’m sure u can find it on youtube
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Make her a pallet in your room and tell her if she wants to sleep in there then this is where she needs to sleep and wrap her pillow in a short with your scent on it for security it worked on our babies until we just quit and now it’s not an every night thing it’s more like 3/7 nights
Start by sleeping with her for a couple days, then sleep in the floor next to her, then, move further and further away until she’s on her own. That’s what I did and my daughter was the exact same way!
maybe try a toddler bed in your room beside your bed
I would be sleeping on the couch if it were me
My 3. Year olds bed is in our room. I was a terrified kid growing up and always needed to be in my parents room. I just remind myself she will someday be way to cool to want our comfort. I understand it’s uncomfortable but maybe compromise. Maybe she is feel jealous with the new baby coming. Trying putting her bed in the room and hold her hand before she sleeps.
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Its not gonna be easy but each time she gets out put her back in without talking to her. Don’t give in. Be consistent. It may take a few nights but she’ll learn.
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Maybe move her in her brothers room? Just for sleep?
Wake her up and have her go in her own bed. She’ll get it eventually but you can’t give in.
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Do Not put in Brothers Room why punishe him for her behavior
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Some time an aquarium that they can see from the bed helps.consistent bedtime and routine ,tuf love.when she cries go back in the room tellhe again that you love her but it’s bedtime lay her down cover her up and go in your room turn on some music.
Two out of 3 of our kids always did this. So we made a floor bed. You don’t have to sleep in your bed, but you aren’t allowed in mine.
So they’ll still come sleep in the sleeping bag in my room beside my bed without waking me, they’re just there in the morning.
We tried everything we were comfortable with, and this works the best.
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Keep putting her back in bed. She will eventually just stay. Or u can give her melatonin to get to sleep and hope she stays asleep 
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My youngest brother did this and my mom had to do what others are suggesting, pick him up and put him back in his own bed. He would throw a huge fit and sometimes sleep on the living room floor out of spite but eventually he realized he wasn’t going to get his way and started sleeping in his own bed
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What kind of bed does she have? We had the same issues with my daughter in a toddler bed, we got her a twin and put a bed rail on it and she does much better at night
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All 4 of my kids went through this phase. The only thing that ever worked was allowing them to make beds on my floor. Once they started to complain about the floor being uncomfortable, or my husband or I waking them up; (by watching TV or waking up early) I’d move them to their rooms. I allowed them to have sleep overs in each other’s rooms on the weekends for movie nights. They would swap rooms and making it fun made them more comfortable in their rooms. They quickly learned that their rooms were better than mine.
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Same boat 
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Do you know if she is getting scared or just doesn’t want to sleep in her bed? My son started to get scared of the dark despite a nightlight. We got a seasonal febreeze bottle with a unique design on it and called it his “magic scary spray”. Anytime he heard a weird noise or got scared, we would let him spray his closet or wherever he wanted and he would go right back to bed.
I know how hard trying to get a little one to sleep in their bed is, good luck!!!
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Toddler bed in your room. If you wake up and they are in your bed just continue to move the to toddler bed everytime.
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Leona McGoldrick bed on the floor for Callum?! 
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Went through the same for years from birth actually tried everything spent so much money on sleep therapy but eventually at the age of 8 years made a bed on the floor many times I found my daughter in the floor in my room in the morning not very much now very occasionally and my daughter is 17.
Some really creative ideas. Honestly, wherever you all get the best night’s sleep is what will work for your family RIGHT NOW. Don’t worry about 6 months or 2 years down the line. If she will sleep in her brother’s room happily, let her. If you need to stay in her room until she goes to sleep, go for it. If she is okay sleeping on your floor next to you, have that be your plan to get you all through.
My kids coslept with me and eventually moved into an older sibling’s bed.
All of my kids now sleep in their own rooms and we are all very close.
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I put a child door knob safety cover on the inside of my boys bedroom door. So they can’t open it. They gave up and stayed in bed! I have my bed back!
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Put Her in her room and shut the door. She can’t get out. She ways to throw tantrums, whip that ass.
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I’m in the same boat and she’s almost 4 with no end in sight. The screaming is incessant until I tell her to come out to the couch. It’s so bad. I’ve been sleeping on the couch for 2 years now with her.
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When I was a child I wanted to sleep in my parents bed until I was like 12. I was scared of my room and no matter what my parents tried, I always ended up in their room, in their bed. So, my mom bought me a cot and when I got scared, which was pretty much every night, I slept there. I felt safe and my parents had their bed. Maybe she is feeling unsafe and I know she is only 3 but try talking to her. See if you can get to the bottom of why she doesn’t want to sleep in her bed.
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keep putting her back in bed if she escapes her room but don’t say anything when you do. don’t give in. first night sucks, 2nd night better, and by 3rd night its much better.
A weighted blanket helped us a lot! And we use the Hatch night light.
Start with making her sleep on your floor, then her floor, then her bed. Or lock your door lol
Daniel Rees the same our problem with Allie 
Mine slept in my bed till they moved out on their own. It was where they felt safe. If she sleeps on the floor with you leave her. Like my mom said to me, how many 16 year olds do you know that still sleeps in their parents room?
Have you tried a weighted blanket?
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Try to have her sleep in your room on her own mattress, blankets or spleeing bag. That is what we suggested when our special needs daughter wouldn’t want to sleep in her (with sister) and she wouldn’t sleep on the couch either. She is a teen and still on our floor and sleeps on her favorite blankets.
My daughter slept in our room till she was about 7 
, she was a restless baby would wake around 9 times a night in her cot,
From the time she could climb out of her cot she would always come in our bed so i use to put the mattress on the floor at the side of me she was fine then… I tried everything but it didnt work in the end as she gets older she will stay in her own room xx
Feel ya girl! Following. Hope you find a solution that works well for y’all.
Have u tried giving her some melatonin to help her sleep? Give it to her 30 mims before bedtime then go lay with her in her room while she goes to sleep that way she thinks ur w her also give her a special or favorite stuffed animal she Can cuddle w her my 3 year old (now 5 ) was the same and wouldn’t sleep through the night until I started him on melatonin he then got used to the schedule and seeing how he woke up on his bed and now we have no problems didn’t take too long either
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My 2 year old is this way, and my 1 year old sleeps just fine.
I put a toddler mattress on the floor next to my bed. Then slowly inches it out the door about 3 inches every night. he is now in the hallway right outside our door and does just fine. Even stays in his bed until I get up!!!
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Does she have a night light? In not get her one. Also have her pick out some new bedding for herself. And remind her that she a big girl and needs to sleep in her bed. Also make a new routine, food, bath, read a book. Also some melatonin might help
Lay down firm rules. Stick to a daily routine. Lock your or her door. And understand, some times you have to just let her scream it out. Right now she’s manipulating you and she knows she can get away with it
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Have you tried just letting her sleep with you and when she falls asleep have your husband put her in her bed? That might be the easiest way for now… good luck with that… 
Talk to your family doctor about melatonin before going out to buy it. We did for our son who is 3 as well. 3mg sheets that dissolve on the tongue
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My kids were all different in this regard. For my oldest who like to sneak in every night, I made a bed on the floor beside me with a sleeping bag & pillow. Then if he wanted to come in that was where he had to sleep. He was able to be close to us & we got to sleep comfortably without being kicked. He was about 3 at the time & I was pregnant.
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Maybe a reward system if she sleeps in her own bed for so many days etc… She can pick out a treat or something or gets a sticker?
Look up Super Nanny on tinternet. She has some fab techniques for getting Littlens to stay in bed…
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Lay next to her and sing a song until she fall a sleep then you move
Ok so don’t mom shame me but my parents would take women’s nylons and tie them to our ankles… and tye the other half to our beds… we could only get so far:rofl:
It worked… I would just play with toys till I fell asleep… it took a month before they quit doing that… BTW they had 5 kids and I was the youngest…
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Can’t give you any advice my 2 year old won’t sleep in her own bed and cry’s till she pukes so I’m sorta shiiiiiit out of luck myself
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What about a weighted blanket?
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What about giving her something to cuddle with that smells like you?
Mom of 4 and my now 12 yr old was the same way at that age. Consistency is key. Make the rules and stick to them no matter what. Even if its a pain in your butt! I would just bring him right back to his own bed and eventually he just stopped coming to my bed
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Get a big bed … I did well I had to lol
It’s all about sticking to a routine. She gets out of bed put her back in it. Our eldest daughter who is almost 3 we had a few times where she wouldn’t stay in her bed. We would just get up and put her back in it. Eventually she just learned to stay in it.
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Keep putting her back. Every single time. A few nights of torture and it’ll stick.
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Just leave her to cry she will get over it eventually
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My sister’s pediatrician told them to lock their bedroom door when they went through this. Just a thought, maybe try an unusual bed. Like a teepee style round bed that hangs from the ceiling and swings. Or maybe a loft bed or a hammock.
But you have to be consistent. If she climbs in bed with you, once she’s asleep, carry her back to her bed. Try giving her a cup of Valerian root tea before bed to relax her. Just a thought. Hope it helps.
Go out and play and tire her out and feed her properly so she sleeps heavily ( does that sound right) in deep sleep she will not wake easily. Once its consistent and her body gets used to it it will stop
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I ended up getting my daughter a trundle bed. I slept in there till she learnt to sleep through the night, she is 6, some times I had to pretend I was sleeping in there and then sneak out. She now will sleep in her room on her own, and bed now comes in handy for sleep overs
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Put a safety door knob cover on the inside of her door, so she can’t open it. Helped with ours and she doesn’t even attempt to get up in the middle of the night now. It’s only been about 3 months and it’s been wonderful!
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My kids have a child gate at their door, they play till they got tired the get into bed, never had an issue with coming to my bed
Lock the door! Baby gate, something to keep her out of your room the. Switch it to keep her in her own room.
I sat in the room until mine fell asleep, sometimes I would wake up at 1am with a stiff neck & others my husband would be waking me up to go to bed 
you HAVE TO stick with the routine that she has to go to bed, tell her close her eyes, rub her back or head & pray she falls asleep. Eventually she will get the point. GOOD LUCK!!!
I used to let my youngest fall asleep with me then bring her to her room. If she woke up and came back in, do it again, eventually they’ll figure out that they stay in their bed. Takes awhile but you’ll get there
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Not sure if this will help with her but I’ll tell you what I did with my 1 year old. He refused to fall asleep anywhere but in my arms. Sometimes fighting it until past midnight. If I put him in his bed he’d scream and scream. So one night I put him in bed and laid on the floor next to him pretending to sleep. He screamed until he’d eventually pass out. That’s when I’d get up and leave. I did this for about a week straight, same time every night. Now most nights I can lay him down and he’ll talk himself to sleep. Occasionally he’ll scream but if I don’t go in there he’ll lay back down after a few minutes.
Granted mine has a crib he can’t get out of but it might be worth a try. The first few nights are rough but it gets easier. Whatever you choose, make it the same time and routine every night.
Bribe her. No seriously I am a trained Early Childhood educator and I am telling you to find a toy she really wants and say for every night you sleep in your bed you get a sticker and after so many stickers you get the toy and if you start not sleeping in your bed the toy goes away. If the toy is not incentive enough find something else, every child had a currency.
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Every time she makes herself sick, she has to clean if up. Obviously at 3 you will have to help her, and then she has to get back in her own bed. Get a baby gate to her room if you have to.
Try putting her bed in your room. I had to do that with my oldest. He slept in his own bed but in our room for a while then we were able to transition him into his own room.
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It’s nice that the children have it off to spend time with them
Get like a small cot or pillow bed and put it beside your bed. She’s obviously scared for a real reason to her at least - I would want her to feel safe vs forcing her tp sleep in her own bed.
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I put a sleeping bag on the floor next to my bed. Pick your battles. Something is making her insecure in her room alone. Does she nap in there? If so, check at night to make sure there are no shadows from the street, leave a light on, leave the door open. Honestly, the sleeping bag is going to be the easiest.
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Have you had her tonsils/adenoids checked? Restless sleeper, moving, kicking, waking are not good signs because she’s not getting quality sleep that her little body needs. A lot of pediatricians are not trained in sleep, so seek out one that is. Is her mouth open when she’s asleep? Her mouth needs to be closed so she has proper tongue placement on the roof of her mouth. Not correcting her sleep now can lead to behavior resembling ADHD later. Good luck!
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Tough love And cry it out can be done at this age. Just keep putting her back might be draining at first but it works. After the 2nd time don’t say anything just keep putting her back.
We put a tv in my sons room with his favorite movies. He use to keep me up literally all night and I’d have to go to work the next morning completely exhausted. Ever since we put the tv in there when he was almost 3 it seemed like a miracle! He didn’t give us any more trouble about going to bed. I wish I would’ve done it sooner honestly
Buy a oversized stuffed dog…have her name it…come bedtime tell her doggy is tired and for her to rub the doggys back…they cuddle in her bed …she is warm and the dog feels like a person lying down with her…worked for both our grandkids !
My 4 year old and my to 2 year olds all sleep with me. Just injoy them they will want to sleep in there own beds soon enough they just feel safe with you just let them be little.
Kids melatonin gummies will help her sleep. My sister had the same issue and tried this. Her 5 year old takes the nightly vitamin and stays asleep in her own bed now.
Easy put a lock on your door so it locks when you close it that way she dont get in she will learn eventually
Some children have a harder time letting go of their parents and finding independence. You being pregnant could also be causing a rise in her clingliness. My younger son is and has never been clingy or a child that wants physical attention (I don’t like it lol), but when I was pregnant with the child after him he grew insanely clingy. My youngest is ridiculously clingy and has been since birth, she would cry unless I held her after she was born. She will one day grow out of it, like my others have, and while the sleep is better, you will miss them wanting you like some day. I let my youngest be clingy, because I see my oldest who will be in college soon and wonder where the hell time went!?
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Put a safety gate at her door and dont give in to her, I no it’s tough but dont give they will not actually bring them selfs to harms way, when she realizes that even tho she has made her self sick she wont get her own way she will stop. I feel awful suggesting this my son was such a easy baby/ toddler the radio or hoover always did the trick with him.
Oh jeez, I don’t have kids, but my godson was like this, and I lived with him till he was 8.
His mom and I did a consistent bedtime ritual.
Chammomile tea, a quiet conversation about the day, no TV or extra stimulation, and then up to bed. Things like brushing teeth etc were done earlier, so bed time was just about that…
It did work out
Good luck