I am not looking to be told I need to leave him or that he’s not a good man. Please, I’m just looking for a little bit of comfort. My fiance is in jail rn for a VOP for a possession charge of fewer than 20 grams of cocaine. He was arrested in Delaware and extradited back to Florida just today. He has a long track record of being in trouble, but I guess what I’m trying to find out has anybody had any experience a husband a friend a relative or something being in jail, and how long should I expect him to be in there?
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He’ll likely be there a few years if he’s got a track record of it.
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Probably on and off his whole life. If you’re willing to deal with that then that’s on you…
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Theres a FB page for that.
Depends on the severity of the charges. The fact they had to extradite him back to florida from Delaware. Theres a lot
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My sister and her husband were sentenced to 3-6 years for meth charges.
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Long track record? He’s a loser that won’t change
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With a past he’s looking at a minimum of 5 years…
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Long enough for u to get birth control to not bring kids into this life
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I’m just saying, don’t expect the behavior to change. It will most likely always be this way. In and out of jail. Cocaine is cocaine regardless of the amount. I think u need a little reality check.
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Personally less cocaine off the streets. These drugs are killing ppl and your worried when he will be home thank you state boys. My home state.
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He will likely get years, and chances are great that it won’t be the last time. You should want more for yourself and your children.
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I would recommend speaking to an attorney.
A few days if he snitches 
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Well it’s hard to say not knowing the full extend of his record but if hes been in legal trouble consistently I’d be guessing at least a few years for that amount and the fact they actually did extradite him.
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“I am not looking to be told I need to leave him or that he’s not a good man”
Y’all can’t mfin READ? 
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Go
Go
Go
Go
Go
Away
Been there
Cut your losses and run
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If he went to jail for fewer than 20 gs of coke yeah he aint getting out especially if they took him to florida and if he has any type of warrant or charges in florida hes most likely aint getting out
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Apparently you don’t think having drugs or doing drugs is a big issue … therefore this probably isn’t the best place to ask for advice …
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“He has a long track record of being a dead shit but don’t tell me to leave him please I wanna suffer” is all I heard
Every sentence is different, but I’m gunna say it anyway, leave the dude🤷🏼♀️
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Long track record and cocaine. Girl bye
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YEARS cocaine is a serious charge. A friend of ours is doing 10 for less than a gram of meth . I mean my significant other did 5 months for driving on revoked.
He isnt your husband. Run.
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If you want to be stuck waiting around for someone like that that’s on you. I would honestly be mortified to be associated to that. But to each their own. You deserve better. If he’s been in and out of trouble why would you want to put yourself through waiting for him to get out of jail multiple times. You could find a nice person who can actually do things for you and with you and create memories with. If this isn’t his first time in jail/prison I doubt they’ll go easy on him.
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Because he had a history, so likely not his first offense he may be looking at a while. Although it wasnt a large amount its a serious drug…
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Dont u think u and ur children deserve better than someone who has anything to do with hard drugs like cocaine?
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Long track record 
so you knew what you were getting into??? Well personally I would move on while you have the chance. Hopefully no children are involved because he is most likely facing a few years
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Well his history certainly ain’t gonna help him🤦🏼♀️
I wouldn’t be planning my wedding for a date sooner than 2025. That’s For sure
If he’s got a record, he could possibly face a longer sentence. Sooo you might want to take a good hard look into this with a lawyer…
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By the sounds of it a very long time
You should want more than this for yourself and your children. The fact that you dont want to leave speaks volumes about you.
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The don’t tell me to leave posts… and then cocaine…what do you expect to hear
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5+ Years assuming y’all are from Delaware and he is serving time in florida. They won’t let him out of state. He’ll stay in jail until his trial date before serving his time.
If you live in florida he can released on bond before serving his time. 28 grams is considered trafficking and holds a minimum 3 year sentence. Since he has a record expect 3+ years
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Jesus. Ask Google. I’ll say it too. Leave him. Eventually you’ll be behind bars with him if you don’t
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THINK ABOUT YOUR KIDS
this is NOT the future for them
no matter how many times he says sorry
HE WILL NOT QUIT or “change”
You cannot and will not convince him to change
Save yourself the heartache and trouble
Move on
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No conjugal visits since you’re not married.
Theyll keep hom for awhile esp of they extridited him… Maybe it will help him sober up. Just nc there is a track record doesnt mean he camt change
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Find a man who isn’t a DRUG dealer, especially if you’re a mother! Wtf
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How much of a history? 3 drug charges? If so habitual look at 15 years
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I mean I could see not having an issue with marijuana (I don’t personally think it’s a “drug”) but cocaine? Girllll…grow up. Is this the life you really wanna live?
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Depends on previous offenses and if he scored out for prison. I’d say year and a day at the least.
Almost positive cocaine is a federal offense. And with a violation of parole my guess is he will be there awhile, but every state n every judge are different.
With priors, an extradition warrant… You may not be the one saying goodbye, but it will probably happen. That is some serious time.
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please you’re wasting your time. Hope he’s sent somewhere with conjugal visits. If he gets out in 7 years he’ll just be back at it again.
Join diary of a junkie ita a group youd get better aupport then these judgemental asses
U will be alone for many many years stay with if u want get married maybe that prison aloud sexs with married people I dunno but I couldn’t do it he such a negative person I couldn’t be around that or have children worh hom but ur choose ur life
Hes gonna be in some major trouble. I AM SO SORRY you have to go through all this. I know what its like to love some one with addiction problems… its not like we can help it either… but unfortunately this appears to be the rest of your life.
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“I am not looking to be told I need to leave him or that he’s not a good man”
Please marry this man as quickly as possible so dcf gets involved and someone decides to put the children first!!!
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Look on the county website you’ll see dates
20grm w/ a history. Any amount of coke is a felony so the fact he has a past & he VOP your looking @ 5+ for new charges plus all his back time
Also GET OUT. If you don’t then eventually his shit will get your kids taken away.
Couple years or more unless he’s a snitch then he’ll be out soon
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Considering he has a track record and has been expedited, he will probably go before the same judge that told him, “If I see you in my court room again, you’re gone”! He’s probably not getting out anytime soon. You have to decide if you want to continue that loneliness of him being in and out of jail or being there for a long time or if you feel you deserve a fresh start 
That’s a choice you may need to think long and hard over!
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If he’s in in out of jail. And he has a record it’s just a matter of time and he’s gonna do years. Buckle Up Buttercup Its Gonna Get Bumpy!! 
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Well, since you’re okay with your boyfriend distributing cocaine, I am getting you yourself, are a drug addict as well. There is no way to justify his actions, even if it was just “less than 20 grams of cocaine”. Plain and simple, he is going to be in there (rightfully) for a long time since he has a long record lol you should want better for yourself and if any children are involved, your children.
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Girl you know what you should do that why u told us not to tell you to leave. Either ur okay with him and drugs or your doing them too either way he’s going to be locked up for a long time 20 grams of cocaine is a large amount. I pray you get a better head on your shoulders and get out
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U came to the wrong page with this issue lol…why would u want this lifestyle in your life is beyond anyone’s comprehension
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3.5-100 grams is a minimum of 38-46 months alone. Now hes also VOP and has a track record of drug related charges. He will probably be looking at anywhere between 10-25+ years
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Addiction is a disease and shouldn’t determine the type of person he is… I know people addicted to heroine but they’d still give me the clothes off their back. These people need our support and not be shunned because of it. If he’s willing to work towards being clean there should be no judgement towards you for supporting him
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Some of y’all are rude as fuck! Girl I had an abusive boyfriend an he was in an out of jail for drugs an violating is Probation. I would say for his record, Violation of his Probation an the cocaine. He may do up to 2 1/2 yrs. It depends though. Girl if he goes off to jail you need to get your priorities straight an not have babies around someone like that. I don’t know the whole story but someone who’s got a track record like he does isn’t good. Good luck doll
Sounds like u don’t want to leave
“HeS a GoOd MaN, hE JuSt HaD 20g oF cOcAiN”
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Who cares dump his sorry butt. Why hang with a druggie in jail for any length of time.
Depends how many other charges he has. My friends ex-husband is in prison for 25+ on his 3rd drug offense. So be prepared for a long road
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Feel free to PM me. Been there!
Talk to his public defender or lawyer.
Get in school
Get an education or some type of training
Sounds like he was taking care of you with drug sales
Get away from this life
It only ends in jail or death
Drop him like a hot potato and join a church
Life goes on and it does get better
Sometimes people don’t know how bad they’ve got it until they are shown other options
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Why would you subject yourself or your children to that ??
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Having a husband that does/did drugs is something that you will have to live with for the rest of your life… whether he gets clean or not. I have been dealing with my husbands addiction for the past year. As far as jail goes and wondering how long he will be there, I would call the jail he is in and ask to talk to someone about all the details and they can help you from there(whether there can be a bond, how long he will be there, etc.) There will be a lot of questions you might not get answers to until he goes to court. In the mean time, I would call around and try to find an attorney for him and really think about what you want for him and you in the future. My parents got involved and it was either my husband get into treatment, or my son and I leave. You may not think about it this way but you could be putting you and your children’s( if you have any) lives in danger. CPS could get involved. I am so sorry you are going through this. I’ll keep you in my prayers. If you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to message me! I know how exhausting and heartbreaking it can be.
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If they took him to Florida, hes definitely has a felony warrent. With a long track record I would say years. At least a year if not 3-5
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The 0nly experience you need is this one. Walk away, no, Run. You deserve better. WHY hang on to this relationship? Its circling the drain. Raise your standards you, raise your lifestyle. He’s a loser.
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It depends on his record, and how many charges hes found guilty of. Ni matter how long hes in for its likely it will happen again because he will most likely get probation whenever he gets out. Every phone call costs a ton of money, his canteen is expensive, it all sucks. Possesion of cocaine is a third degree felony so he could face up to 5 years for that given he doesnt have any priors but you said hes got a long track record for being in trouble so Id expect longer…
A long friggin time…he made piss poor decisions…so he is gonna be gone…my question for you is if he is your husband or fiance or whatever aren’t you supposed to wait regardless…are you asking to see if its worth waiting
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If you think about your future kids and yourself first, you would leave, you have been really desensitized…hello cocaine! This drug changes people and it’s not safe for you to stay.
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This is a mom page… so you have kids and a SO that’s into drugs which is not a world you want to throw your kid(s) in. It’s gonna be a while, don’t wait for him.
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Could be a while my dad was pretty bad growing up DUIs possession domestic what not he changed for better now that he got off drugs and quite drinking but it took my dad loosing me and my sister for him to grow up and be sober
Well they extradited him which means it won’t be for just a couple months that’s for sure. It would be a waste of time and money to extradite for minor offenses. And it’s not just about the new charge. He violated either probation or parole, you only said VOP. Which means he will most likely serve the remainder of that sentence and his new charges. You say “only” 20 grams like that’s nothing but 20 grams of coke is quite a bit. That’s not a simple possession charge. The best advice I have for you, which you don’t want to hear, is RUN! Run as fast and far away from him as you can because sweetie he isn’t going to change.
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Florida does not play when it’s drugs!
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You will get sick of living like this and leave him…hes a loser…you deserve better and definitely ur kids to…get rid of trash…
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20 grams is definitely prison time. His sentence will depend on his record along with lots of other considerations. So, uh, yeah. He gone.
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This is not worth a comment
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You really wanna risk possibly losing the custody of your kid(s) for some drug dealer? ok sis. You either don’t care about your kid(s) or you already don’t have custody of them.
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WTF did i just read… SMFH
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Im surprised they extradited tbh that’s a fucking haul from Delaware to Florida.
Depends on lawyer , depends on prior convictions, was he charged with intending to deliver . I would talk to a lawyer not Facebook 
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He’s a bad egg RUN! He is going away for at least 5 years RUN!!
You will have no life RUN!!
He will constantly blame you for his mistakes because you let him RUN!!
RUN and keep RUNNING it’s for your peace not his RUN
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Are you high rn? Is that it?
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Ye hes going away for a long time. Cut ur losses
I’m gonna assume your a mom. If you are and standing by a drug addict like this then you are choosing a man over your children. He has a long track record and isn’t stopping. But no no he is a good man.
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I think it depend on prior charges, the state you live in & if he has good behavior well there. And I am for one to advocate for you to help him get through it. Now is not the time to even consider leaving him. He needs you the most right now. Not all relationships or ppl are perfect. There are gonna be good & bad issues in a relationship but I also believe ppl should learn from their mistakes & not want to put his ppl (you) over & over into situations that doesn’t move you both forward. God luck to you both & I hope he knows you support him but it can’t continue to make setbacks. I would think you would want to move forward happy & on a nice direction! Best Wishes for a happy future.
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she will learn or end up right with him
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I wouldn’t wait but thatsme🤷🏼♀️ if he wants to be fucking around getting in trouble w the law and not thinking of his family hell nah.
It’ll be a long time, I’m not sure how long. Since you didn’t say he sells, I’m guessing he is on drugs. Someone I know who was on meth as an adult I think has been in for 7 months for his/her longest stay. I don’t know the quantity, though, so it’s tough to say. I also don’t know if you get more or less time for cocaine vs. meth.
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He is probably going to be doing a good amount of time. Several years I am sure.
Not looking for “leave him” but that’s what you’re going to get.
Especially if you have children. You really want to raise them around that?
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The fact that he does hard drugs, long track record, you have kids and don’t want to hear “you need to leave him” just says a lot about this whole mess…
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Real prize thr…
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Depends on his charges hopefully long enough to dry out
So before I got my life together I spent my fair share in and out of the system for similar charger. A VOP he should wait about 30-40 days to be sentenced. I saw that he was arrested in Delaware that’s where I’m from and they are a lot more easier than Florida. If he got intent to distribute he’s screwed… there’s nothing you can really do until he’s sentenced and once he’s sentenced that’s when you make up you’re mind it a lonnnng road having someone important to you incarcerated. You have to think about you and your children. He won’t be able to support you what so ever. He will be asking you for money for commissary and to put money on the phone to talk to him. And if he’s in Florida those calls can cost up to 3-5$ for 15 minutes.
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My son’s father was in and out of jail on drug charges. He wasn’t there physically, emotionally, or financially, and passed away almost a year ago from drugs. It will 1000% start taking a toll on you. You need to think about what’s best for you, as he clearly did not.
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You guys are so heartless… and we wonder why we have such a problem as addiction…
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