I came across this on his debit transactions because he signed into his account on my phone. On January 28th he paid someone $16.05 to someone! He denied it until I showed him his transaction history and then claimed he didn’t know what it was. He will not tell me what he paid a girl for, and I KNOW OnlyFans is free to create an account. I wasted 8 years of my life for this kind of behavior from my ex-husband! My trust has now been broken, once again. I don’t understand why he did this…? I am VERY upset!!! I have cried my eyes out and the thought that he even did this. If I were to create a page and I post nudes/videos, he’d be upset that other men were paying for them! I don’t know what to do and I don’t know if this kind of behavior was okay in previous relationships or not but this crossed boundaries, IS NOT OKAY WITH ME!!! I don’t care about porn, but actually paying someone, when I’m your fiancé and can get whatever for free… HURTS!!!
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Clearly there’s some trust issues. I don’t agree with what he did but if you felt the need to look at his account you obviously already didn’t trust him. I have been with my fiance for 12 years and even though I have the password to his account I NEVER look at it or feel the need to. I’d say you both have some things to work on. Maybe try counseling. Or move on if you don’t feel you can trust him.
Idk if the punishment fits the crime?!! I mean maybe he’s paying for a subscription…to be fair I’ve only heard of ONLYFANS, and it being choice over porn. I mean he’s a dude, your just had a baby maybe not able to give it up just yet:woman_shrugging:t4:. But if he didn’t literally put his dick in a female…then I feel like your doing the most,and it’s not worth throwing away an 8 yr marriage. Either your problem is he’s looking at other women or he’s paying to look at other women? Both are two separate issues that could be fixed (maybe)with a conversation or maybe watch it with him …might enjoy it, spice 
shit up some boo?!
So you’re ok with porn where SWers are more often taken advantage of and or it’s posted without consent(pornhub), but actually paying the SWer directly for the same or similar content is a problem?!? That’s a but hypocritical. I have no issue with porn and have told my SO that as long as the OF acct is not if someone he knows in real life, I would rather he pay for a subscription there than exploit the pornhub industry. And holding on to this since January? Either get over it or end things. Holding on to this will never allow you to be happy….
Was it just 1 transaction? If so, maybe he was just curious. Talk to a counselor and try working it out if you want to be with him.
Hes paid a sex worker to do a specific thing for his entertainment. Weather he touched her or not is irrelevant.
He’s either paying for a monthly subscription or a special content thing he saw advertised. Either way he’s paying a specific person for content. If he lied about it he knew it was wrong and that you weren’t okay with it. Anything that breaks boundaries within YOUR relationship is wrong, regardless of what other people think. He lied so he knew it was wrong, don’t feel bad for your boundaries and move forward however you feel you need to girl. It’s also super concerning to me that he did it AND lied about it. Didn’t even have the nerve to own up to it😒
He’s shopping for more in someone else… move on
It’s a monthly subscription fee. What’s the point of having an only fans if you can’t see any of the content?
Also, not all of the content on OF is strictly for sexual purposes (not that there is anything wrong with that). Trailer Trash Tammy has an OF account 
Only Fans is merely a safe haven for people who have been increasingly pushed out of traditional social media platforms due to censorship and vanilla attitudes.
Very disrespectful honey. You definitely deserve so much better than that sounds like he’s still fishing to me good luck
Couldn’t agree more with what you wrote and how you feel about it all… I’m sooooo sorry you had to go through this…Take care of YOU and that baby:heart:
baby needs a happy and healthy mom:two_hearts: stay strong mama you got this 
Ummm well I just had this issue earlier this year on my card. It was actually a fraudulent charge. He may not actually know. Myself and my bf had to switch all our cards this year due to fraud at various times. Neither have had a problem in 20 months years.
It’s crap ! Great to see you have standards and some morals ! Best put a stop to it or go ! Some men can’t even … without it the people in this world are so ok with whatever ! No respect at all! These comments make me sick ! But if your fine with porn it’s the same
He’s looking at pics and videos. It’s not like he’s meeting these girls. Someone needs to stop being so emotional over literally nothing.
How much did he get for $16? That’s not a lot to be crying about. It could be worse, the could’ve went for coffee.
Girl, If it were me, Id make an only fans of my own, post some risque photos and let dudes pay for it, and then tell him, you can pay me too, and then send him packing…
You went back that far… there’s already issues then…. Ditch him…. HEAL YOURSELF FIRST……
I personally am not a fan of onlyfans, my husband had an account at one point in time for watching/paying for content. He no longer does. My dislike for it was expressed, and he deleted his account. The way I feel about it is if he continues to do it after your dislike for it was expressed then I’d say leave mama.
You deserve more than a man who only sees his needs and not what he has and what it’s doing to you
Okay, I know nothing truly about onlyfans, but isn’t it just personal porn 
like you tell them what to do. Interact…blah blah. Still porn. Your boundaries weren’t set clear enough. Set them, move forward, if he crosses again, then know you can do and deserve better
Some guys just wanna see what’s behind the curtain and can’t handle being able to see for a small fee.
Women know this fact and exploit it for financial gain.
If he was getting together with the woman he looked at, he wouldn’t pay to see her.
So the silver lining here is that you know he didn’t have physical relations with her. The proof is that he paid to see something that he wouldn’t have had to pay for, if he saw it with his own eyes.
Trust. Now that’s a completely different subject. One for another time. He lied. I’m sure you have too. The sad part is, he wasn’t even smart about it. So there that.
I would be most offended at the fact money would be spent on that rather than, food or diapers for a baby… perhaps address that with him. That makes him double scum
Girl I got some letter that my man used that crap …
now I trust my man and I know he haven’t don’t anything like that …
See if is some type of spam
I hope it is spam
Maybe he has a kink he is ashamed to share with you…
By now I think you know what your heart and head wants. That was almost 10 months ago… I’d ditch.
FYI: He sign into his account using her phone. Not snooping. That’s how she found out.
my thing is this if u knew he made an only fans why not bring it up then only people who doing that is to make content or to buy it i don’t see why u waited to ask him he definitely in the wrong but the red flags was there
These women are brutal and rude. Don’t listen to that. Especially if you feel y’all have a healthy sex life, hes lying about it which he knows it crossed your boundaries.
Even if he didn’t know it’d hurt you that bad he should have just admitted it and talked about it.
I agree with you. I let mine watch whatever porn or I watch with him very sexually active after 10 years. But I did say nothing personal. Just like you! It’s the norm boundaries is say and common sense. He disrespected you. You can handle that how you want!
I personally would warn him and have him say the truth with his chest this time.
I think the premium snaps, cams and live videos and only fans is too personal. I wouldn’t allow it either. Y’all need it talk about this if you want advice that’s all I can say. I’d talk about it and set clear lines in the sand with him. I realize that’s hard to do when he’s being a liar to your face. It takes two to work through stuff.
Make a choice. Forgive or walk away. Simple as that
You obviously already have trust issues or you wouldn’t have looked to begin with. Be glad it was on $16 and move on & work on your trust issues.
Ok given that onlyfans is literally just people on the internet…I would say this is the least of your worries. If you want to leave just leave but using this as an excuse is nonsense.
I noticed that men aren’t always attracted to their pregnant so which is messed up. It’s nothing you did and I would wanna know who the whore was. Smh
LEAVE. HIM. Don’t waste any more of your time on shitty men who don’t deserve you.
Only fans isn’t only porn, just saying
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So should Porn. That is worse
Other one I will # just shake my head.
Get tf over yourself! It’s no different then hopping on pornhub for content except he’s paying his money for porn. At the end of the day he still loves you you’re just hella insecure.
Grow up and raise the baby with or without him but move on
There are more than just girls selling pics on there…
You know exact what to do
Girl create you account and make some moolaaaaa babyyyyyy
If this goes back to Jan and we are in Sept… U carried this BS to to long. The only 2 choices u got… Is get over it or move on !!! Pretty much shit or get off the pot girl. I don’t mean to sound mean but COME ON !!!
He used Ur phone, wtf
January 28th and you’re still holding this against him??? girl either ditch him or forgive him 
#drama
Lol that’s a monthly subscription fee. Source: I have an onlyfans.
All I’m going to say here is the fact that so many people are attacking the person that posted this is disgusting. She came here for advice and this is what she gets?
Make your own only fans. Get some spending money. Have a nice little nest egg built up. Don’t tell him nothing. When you get tired of the lies and disrespectful behavior from him…leave. Don’t say anything. Just go.
Yikes. I would give zero craps as long as we actually have the funds secured for said expendeture.
I would actually prefer only fans to traditional porn due to ethical reasons. But to do this so close to a birth when it’s clearly something not okay with both partners, that is so sad. 
The lying is the worst part of this imo. Don’t fucking lie dude. We know when you lie. We might not know what the truth is, we might not have evidence, but we know when you’re lying.
Sometimes men act like fools around the time a baby is born. This isn’t to excuse it. It’s super shitty. In fact, it’s the worst possible time for a man to act like a fool. But its so incredibly common there has to be something psychological at work.
I don’t have a lot of advice, just sympathy.
I am pretty open minded, but I draw the line at sexual interaction between two people. I don’t care if they’re sending him pics, videos, going live - if you are speaking to a woman and getting sexual gratification from her then we just may not be compatible. I’d rather be alone.
At first I thought he joined OnlyFans to perform, lol
Imagine if he spent 16 bucks on a content creator but wifey decides it’s instantly just on some hussy hoe without knowing facts