If he will lie about this and delete texts and calls from/to his Mom, what else will he do behind your back. He has already perfected the skills, so another woman would be just as easy to hide from you.
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You doing too much…leave that man alone. He’s grown!!
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I get it ur pregnant and u want him to sacrifice too- what’s so wrong with vaping? It’s actually safer than giving u second hand smoke. Just let him do it it’s a habit sure I’m sure u have habits too. But ur making him hide it from u because ur getting crazy over it. U can’t make someone stop a habit if they don’t want to. I say back off it’s unnecessary drama and he’s gonna do it regardless.
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If this is your biggest problem….I really feel sorry for the control you are trying to exert over him. You shouldn’t even be giving a grown man a “rule” to abide by just because you don’t agree with it. Is he 12??? Time to grow up ma’am.
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Most men lie. Most of the time, it is to keep from hurting their wive’s feelings. Some of the time, it is because they are messing around behind your back. Sometimes, they lie for no reason at all. It doesn’t make sense, but it is true. My husband lies about the dumbest things. I think he learned as a young child to keep from getting whooped by his mom who was very strict. For the men who don’t lie, this does not apply to you.
Jeez oh 
get a grip. It’s a vape! Hardly the crime of the century.
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This just shows you how he feels about your worries. When people show you who they are, believe them.
Lmao ur j shitty that ain’t u dont take it out on man’s cos u can’t vape 
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It’s not his fault you can’t control yourself and stop vaping. There’s no reason you should be mad at him for doing it just because you can’t…
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Wow- control much? Leave him alone.
Ok so because you can’t, you’re trying to force it on him to, yet be perfectly fine with smoking…if someone doesn’t want to quit they won’t. If he wants to vape he should be able to without it causing a fight…
Wow
Come on
This is drama that really doesn’t need to be on the internet.
So what he vapes
But then again you find a vape under your bed and the excuse is that it’s someone’s
Ding ding wake up there’s your RED FLAG
I understand. Don’t let these other people make you feel bad. It’s hard being pregnant and you need the support of your SO 100%. We have to make so much sacrifice. They can handle one little sacrifice we didn’t make this baby alone lol
Wow, she sounds like a super fun person to be around! Good luck with that one, dude.
Let it be! One day he’ll see the light, take care of you give him permission to do it in the open !
Geez, I honestly don’t know why people make big deals. If he wants to vape, let him vape. Your whole status is why he lied. He knows how you’ll reacted.
So because you can’t means he can’t! That’s dumb. As long as he doesn’t bale around you or the baby why complain. You sound controlling
So because you can’t means he can’t! That’s dumb. As long as he doesn’t vape around you or the baby why complain. You sound controlling
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Be glad he ain’t doing a lot worse
At least he ain’t smokin crack 
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You can’t force someone to quit a dependable habit. They have to want to quit themselves.
You being upset are your feeling. Also something that can’t be controlled.
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Its a vape not a crack pipe leave the man alone
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It’s definitely hormones. I vaped my entire pregnancy and my baby came out fine. I know you don’t vape. Your fiancé does, but it’s harmless. If it helps him relieve stress, let em vape.
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Are you seriously that dense? Dump the jackass liar.
Oh wow befor having kids grow out off being a child
U really need to grow up befor having a baby for sure who cares about a vape the man will run befor u no it how childish u are
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No you’re not wrong. He should care more about you and the baby than some disgusting habit. I made my husband quit smoking by the time baby came. He had a choice, either us or his smoking. He chose us and hasn’t smoked since. It’s not your hormones, he’s being an ass
Hes an adult? Because if hes grown, why would you think its ok to make him stop?
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Just because u can’t doesn’t mean he can’t that’s insane!!
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"you know what? I know this isn’t you talking, it’s your hormones, but I would just like to say, “**** you, hormones! You are a crazy bitch, hormones!”
I see no problem. As long as it’s not around you. If you make a huge deal it’ll just make him resent you and he’ll become more n more secretive. I understand why you’re upset but come on now, is he still being supportive? If so then try not to make a huge deal of it before he starts lying or hiding other things from you. It’s the hormones that got u trippin girl!!
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He’s prolly smoking from stress and you acting like that is guess what? Stressful 
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In the politest way, it makes you sound a tad controlling…if he’s grown and he’s not doing it around you then at least he’s being respectful of you and the pregnancy x I’d let it slide xx
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So I think the real issue here is not the vaping. The real issue is the lying, sneaking around, gaslighting behavior. If he’ll do these things over something so simple as vaping then can she really ever trust what he says or does? He has broken the trust bond and that is a very difficult thing to overcome in a relationship.
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Get over it he isn’t cheating vabing isn’t a big deal let him vape he isn’t prego u are and it safer then a cigarette and u sound controlling a bit seriously he has to delete his call from his mom that is wrong he isn’t doing it around you so be nice about it and it not a drug my son was born with heart failure I didn’t do neither my sister and mom who took care of him stoped smoking and got to vaping it didn’t hurt my son one bit and he was is on oxgyon tanks and no affence I’d vap to if u were being childish u would stress me out I feel bad for the guy
Yeah it doesn’t seem like a big deal but if this is a boundary you both agreed on in your relationship and then he actively tried to hide it from you and lie to you, it’s not okay. It’s not about the fact that it’s a vape. It’s about something you guys talked about and agreed on and now he’s going back on. Plus it seems y’all are very young considering he is getting his mom to buy them… I would cut the ties where they are because if he is going to these lengths over a vape I can’t imagine what he would do for something else he really wants.
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Oh my freaking Lord there is bigger issues out here
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Are you and him 12 years old? If this is causing you to turn to FB/Internet for advice, you should reconsider marriage for a while.
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I’d understand asking him not to smoke or smell like smoke around you because that can make it really hard when you need to quit but you wouldn’t “let” him vape? 
OK.
This a joke??? Really a vape? Dude is grown if he wants to vape he can vape. He has a mother and he’s grown so he can make those decisions on his own. If you have issues with him vaping then you are slowly pushing him away. No man wants to be told what he can and can’t do. You may want to chill out or you are going to run him off before your child even gets here!!!
This is all hormones hun, you’ll feel differently when you have the baby. At least he’s not cheating. Don’t stress your relationship over vaping.
He smoked when y’all got together? You can’t really make him quit. You should let have dated him to begin with…… he’s lying though. I couldn’t trust him anymore
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Lmao your hormones have gone crazy hahaha nawww poor dude he should hide them in a better place. Hes an adult u let him smoke cigarettes but not vape 
. The world has gone wild lmao. You give the poor guy reason to lie because your frantic behavior about vaping is kinda ridiculous he probs doesn’t want to upset you. Would you rather him smoke meth drink heavy or weed theres plenty of other things to complain about in life not sure if vapings one of them, don’t think it qualifies lolz.
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How selfish, its better than cigarettes,talk about control freeks !!!
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If all you have to worry about in life is your husband smoking vapes then you are doing well!
There is so much heartache going on in the world right now. Count your blessings.
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Wow so you want him to smoke instead of vape? Smoking is 95% more dangerous than vaping!!! I’ve seen the studies on it! There’s a lot of propaganda out there about vaping and it’s all originating from the cigarette industry to keep people smoking! And you “let” him? He’s not a child. Stop treating him like a child that you can dictate to and maybe he’ll stop acting like a kid trying to hide things from his momma.
If that is all he is doing, I’d relax. As long as he doesn’t do it in front of you.
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At least it’s not another woman. Omg i would love to have my man vape instead of all the things he does, which is wayyy worse
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“I let him” is a massive red flag, he’s an adult and you do not control what he does or doesn’t do. Yes, you’re pregnant, yes…you’ve probably given up a lot for your baby but to force someone else to is a huge no no. I get he’s the father and you would like to feel supported but thats just how it goes. You say he’s been gaslighting you…that’s a stretch if it’s only been that one time, I wouldn’t use that term lightly. Yes, he’s lied to you but perhaps that’s because he knew you’d react this way. At the end of the day, you have to make choices and you do so for your baby…so does he but it doesn’t impact the baby’s health so he’s less likely to feel the urgency or importance. Take a step back, analyse your own behaviour and realise he’s an adult that you can’t control. You can only control your own actions.
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That’s next level petty. “I can’t smoke so neither can you” fuck that
I didn’t even finish that lol. It’s vaping not crack. Let it go.
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Sweetheart this is hormones. Your literally going crazy and there is nothing that will take those feelings of frustration and feeling out of control away, unless you acknowledge the issue and apply yourself. Try coping skills that work for u throughout this pregnancy. Hes putting up with you because he loves you. His mom knows what’s up. He’s deleting messages probably out of love hoping when these hormones leave you (mine were immediate) won’t get that you will snap back to it. It’s a vape babe. You gotta get a hold of this issue you feel inside bc it can wrip your relationship apart. You used to be his easy going best friend and now your turning into this new mama bear. This is all normal. Just know you gotta get help.
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Bless you, you “let?” Him…whew
Hormones get off his back
I think that you should be more upset about him lying to you and being sneaky than him vaping…
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Hormones make us crazy lol
Vaping is better than cheating. Pick your battles. 
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Stop being a control freak of course he’s going to hide things from you. Just because you can’t doesn’t mean he has to stop everything also.
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All I have to say is your ridiculous. Let the man vape, geez lady. You sound selfish asf. Get over yourself. I wish all these times my ex was hiding a vape and not text messeges and pictures
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You “let” him Lol, 
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Why would you let him keep smoking but not let him use a vape?
. Let him use it it’s safer than smoking. But maybe work on honest communication in the relationship so he can be honest without fear of you overacting.
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Nicki La Bella Is this even a problem?? lol this girl needs to get her self in check there’s other things to worry about:woman_facepalming:
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I think he probably felt he couldn’t be honest…. This is a big reaction to something that is actually his personal choice, your body your choice… his body his choice.
Who are you to tell him what he can and can’t do?
Or am I missing something?
Neurotic springs to mind.
Hope you feel some comfort from the responses you’ve had and maybe get some help for the overwhelming feelings you’re experiencing xxx
Good luck xxx
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I think he probably felt he couldn’t be honest…. This is a big reaction to something that is actually his personal choice, your body your choice… his body his choice.
Who are you to tell him what he can and can’t do?
Or am I missing something?
Neurotic springs to mind.
Hope you feel some comfort from the responses you’ve had and maybe get some help for the overwhelming feelings you’re experiencing xxx
Good luck xxx
He can’t vape but you let him smoke 
? The vaping may help him stop smoking and you can’t force someone to just give up a habit like that. It has to be in their terms or it will never work. Ask him to only do it outside if the home and away from you but don’t expect him to just stop because you say so cause it won’t happen.
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Momas boy. Make him vape out side not your problem it’s his to fix you can’t make anyone change
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This is the most controlling crybaby bs that I’ve ever heard
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Keep it up and you will push him away. Bye Felisha!
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Lord, if that isn’t the main reason to break up!! I mean how dare a person vape!! That is the ultimate sin!!
If he was cheating, beating the hell out of you, doing drugs, or stealing from your own mother’s purse then those things could be overlooked… BUT VAPING!!!
MAY GOD HAVE MERCY ON HIS SOUL!!
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I feel all of this falls on weather or not he agreed to quit with you or you were trying to force his hand in the matter… Just because you cant doesnt mean he has to quit. If its what keeps his sanity while dealing with you and your hormones or stress at work then i feel its beneficial 
i agree with most of the other members. Pick and choose your battles. I feel this is a quick way to fighting about who had to change more diapers during the day once baby is here 
somethings you just gotta let go if it doesnt have to do with you. Soon to be hubby or not…
Ateast he is not cheating.
Lucky he’s still with you. You sound like Haard Work
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He can smoke but not vape… uhm?? What?
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Just the beginning of all the lies too bad your pregnant because let the games begin
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You’re entitled to your feelings. As crazy and unjustified as they may be 
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It’s just the point of lieing. Adults lieing about childish crap. A liar is a liar.
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It’s just the point of lieing. Adults lieing about childish crap. A liar is a liar.
Emma Jane see it is a dump-able offence
Parent your kid not your spouse…. I hope it’s just your hormones
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Just because you quit doesn’t mean he has to…I quit smoking but never once expected my fiancé to quit. That’s his choice to make, not mine.
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I think it is terrible to force someone to do something they do not want to do. No wonder he is lying. He doesn’t want to hear you bitch and moan. He is an adult. When he feels like he wants to quit, he will. In the meantime, quit being a control freak. Noabody likes to be told and forced to do something or told to do something.
Maybe there is a reason he feels the need to lie to you about vaping? But I hate being lied to full stop…
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You sound controlling
Yes he shouldn’t of lied and hidden them.
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Omg, are you serious? He is an adult! It’s a shame that he has to lie! He is a grown man! You are acting like he is using heroin!
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Ur going to let him smoke but won’t let him vape? Grow up lady ,hes a grown man and if he wants to vape you can’t control him also vaping is better than smoking a cigarette
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If he lied about such a trivial thing as vaping. It begs the question of what else would he lie about that is of a more serious nature.
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I’d be worried about the lying 
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What is the difference in smoking or vaping? Smoking is worse for you and the baby then vaping. I don’t understand what the problem is. Just talk to him not use. You can’t settle anything with us just with him. Hope you get it worked out
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I mean it’s a little effed up the extent he went to keep a secret but then again to me him vapong shouldn’t have been that big of a deal in the first place as long as he was being considerate of how hard it was for you to quit.
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If he’s not doing it in front of you while you’re pregnant he’s respecting you and your Health. He’s a grown man and shouldn’t have to be told he can’t Vape when he’s not around you. It sounds like he has no choice but to lie to you
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If he’s not doing it in front of you while you’re pregnant he’s respecting you and your Health. He’s a grown man and shouldn’t have to be told he can’t Vape when he’s not around you. It sounds like he has no choice but to lie to you
You knew he smoked when you got together. You can’t just make him quit and you cant throw a fit because again you knew he smoked. He shouldn’t lie but it’s the same concept of an overbearing parent freaking about stupid crap so kid won’t talk to them . If you are at him all the time then he is going to hide it. Learn to pick your battles he is your partner not your child.
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Dude I’m 22 weeks pregnant with twins and you are doing the MOST:joy:
baby girl go chill out and have some ice cream or something. The hormones are no joke but this is overboard
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Seriously? You should be more focused on that child you’re going to have. If you can’t accept people for who they are then you should let them go. A relationship is not supposed to be about control it’s about loving and accepting who you are with. If that’s the worst he is doing just be thankful. He probably wouldn’t have hid it from you had you been not so worried about controlling him.
Leave him alone. Just because your pregnant doesn’t mean he has to do everything you do. Lighten up, he is not pregnant.
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Sorry, but an addict will lie. The question is, what else will he lie about?? You need to sit down together and TALK. Tell him you feel betrayed. Tell him your concerns ( about health, trust, fatherhood, etc) even talk to his mommy. This could be the tip of an iceberg… or maybe nothing. P.S. throw every vape you see away…
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As long as he’s not vaping around you why does it matter?
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Wow, I feel sorry for him. You are being controlling and downright ridiculous. He is an adult.
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Lol. He’s a adult. Stop trying to Mother him.
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He is who he is … you decide
It’s vape. Chill. Be more worried that you felt you could change someone, he could lie, and his mom helped
Focus on growing a healthy baby with a healthy life.
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