He’s grown. Why would u try to stop him from smoking because ur pregnant ?
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Y’all saying she’s controlling and overreacting are stupid. If he wasn’t going to stop he should’ve stood his ground, not lie to her face for months. If someone can go to such lengths to lie and hide things simple what else will they lie about and hide. I get why she’s upset, they were both vaping and now she can’t because she’s growing his child, which he should be caring and understanding of. It’s also not a far reach to ask him not to do something they both like to do for the duration that she can’t. Women carry 99.98% of the work during pregnancy and it’s hard work. More or less that’s each couple and opinions. The real issue is lying about things to her face so easily, having a mother that’s enables him to lie to his fiancé and cover it up. It’s just wrong. You can justify him not wanting to stop, but you can’t justify lying about it. You’re not overreacting, and me personally would reconsider marrying someone who could so easily lie and hide things to my face. Lies are lies not matter how small they may seem. I would be worried that if something this small warranted this much trouble what he’d do when it was actually something big. But, that’s just me 
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At least it’s a vape and not another bitch
Lying is terrible for a relationship. Once a liar always a liar in my book.
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Maybe counseling!lol just kidding…Hope everything goes well and Congratulations!
He should have just come clean when she first found out, then said, “look bro, I need it cause you so damn controlling and you all up in my shi” then vape a huge cloud and roll out like a boss.
Girl leave him tf alone. You are acting like he’s doing meth or cheating on you. Worry about other things omg. You’re not his mom either. You can not tell him he can’t smoke.
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You let a grown man keep smoking? That sounds very toxic and unhealthy just in itself. Good luck 
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Your hormones are definitely talking for you right now sweetie. I’ve had 3 kids and I know from experience, he’s and an adult and I’m sure he already has a mom. He doesn’t need another one. Just because YOU can’t do something doesn’t mean he has to stop. You requesting that in the first place is ridiculous.
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Nicotine is an addiction. He isn’t going to quit because you want him to, he needs to quit when HE wants to or he is doomed to fail.
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If you want to be a single mom over your man vaping then go on ahead. He wasn’t treating you bad, cussing, beating or calling you names. You didn’t complain about his employment status or that he wasn’t making enough to pay the bills so struggle if you want to because of your self-righteousness. Just remember it was your choice.
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My dude vapes and he smells like fruit when he does. I’m not saying vaping is awesome but I’m glad he don’t smoke cigarettes anymore the smell would stink bad & hurt my stomach and make everything (clothes & work car) smell… vaping might be the least of your worries cause if they’re hiding small things they’re hiding big things, most likely… you live & you learn. Figure it out but don’t stress yourself out on someone else’s choices or actions, regardless of who it is, life’s too short. Good luck.
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Lmao wow yea… Hes a grown man stopppppp ittttttt 
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If u can’t trust him time to show him the door. Sp
He’s a grown azz man. Sounds to me those hormones are kickin in Worry about you and keeping that baby that you are pregnant with healthy.
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I think it was kind of nice he was being discreet instead of doing right in front of you. Not like he hiding another woman in the closet😜 calm down little bit.
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At least he was TRYING to support you and not doing it around you etc. Just because YOU have to quit doesn’t mean he should have to. This is definitely hormones. And why can’t he buy his own? Yall are kids I assume
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Second hand smoke can harm your child. He must stop smoking and vaping indoors and in the car.
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He’s a grown man and if it’s not affecting the child’s health or your health it shouldn’t matter. However, if he said he would stop and he didn’t then he is in the wrong. But if he never directly said that and kept doing it you’re in the wrong
Be glad he is vaping and not doing drugs.
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Just because he’s a grown man doesn’t make it any less upsetting, feelings are valid and him “hiding it/being discreet” doesn’t make it any better at the end he’s gaslighting you& keeping stuff from you that’s already bad enough.
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Is this for real 
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I’m sorry but “you let him” your not the boss of him just because you got pregnant does not mean he has to make any life styles changes that don’t actually effect another person. Your hormones are probably out of wack right now but you better start treating this man with more respect.
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Honestly, everyone saying he’s a grown ass man missed the part where his mommy was buying the vapes for him and he wasn’t being truthful with her. That’s some baby behavior right there.
I expressed to my husband before we ever started dating that heavy drinking (even responsible just for fun drinking) set me on edge because of my ex and he didn’t have a drink for three years. I mentioned I didn’t mind smoking but he’d need to make sure he chewed gum often and he quit cold turkey.
If a man wanted too, he would. Don’t make excuses for grown ass men. “At least it’s not…” nah. That doesn’t fly. Bc all that other stuff isn’t what the topic is about.
Every lie is a lie. If it’s your boundary; then it’s your boundary.
Are you his mother or wife to be?? I get you don’t like him smoking or vaping but you have to remember it his personal choice!! If you keep acting this way you’ll end up alone!!
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He shouldn’t of lied but also I think your hormones are making you think it’s a worse situation than it is xx maybe have a discussion with him and come to a compromise like maybe he can vape just not around you
Let the man vape for the sanity of both y’all. And yes its your hormones… Just get back to a place where he doesnt feel the need to hide it from you dude cuz that sucks living like that yo… Yes he couldve been honest but consider how you (being pregnant and extra hormonal) approached it that made him not feel comfortable being honest about things… Communication is key here… Did he tell u he was deleting stuff from his phone or do you always go through his stuff in hopes to find an issue??? And have you ever considered its his happy place, outlet, or sense of clarity, given his home life is clealry overrun by hormones… If this is how he breaks your heart girl. Id say youre sweating the small stuff and just ask him to tell you next time stopping was harder than he thought and he would like to continue until further notice
Idk dude. My hubby stoppee smoking ciggys when we had our first baby and he has a vape thing now and it makes him happy so i cant be a typical wife and put a stop to that nonsense haha
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Vaping wont hurt you or the baby, if is only steam that comes out. Better than ciggys,
It’s your hormones. Smoking is way worst let that grown a*s man vape if he wants to it isn’t hurting you or your baby but second hand tobacco smoke does.