Why would you allow him to smoke but not vape? Second hand smoke is 1000% more harmful then second hand vape to you and your unborn child. Plus you can’t make him do anything, he’s an adult. My advise to you is get over it.
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This post is ridiculous lol
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If he don’t wanna quit, then he could leave her. Just as easy as you could leave.
She don’t have to deal with having that in her life if she doesn’t want to. If none of you have dealt with an addict, it’s hard to judge a situation like this. My soon to be husband is an addict, not anymore. But I have to keep it that way by not allowing any of this in the slightest. And I mean addicted to EVERYTHING that he likes. Weed, drinking, vaping… etc. We are trying to save for a home. When he sees we have a little money in our pockets, he don’t see it a huge deal to go by a gram or 2 of bud, or a few beers. Whatever it may be. He will spend every dollar we have on it in the weeks following because he had a “taste”. When he gets the first hit or sip, it takes him. Then we are on a roller coaster for a LONG time. I’m not sayin this is her case but for me it is. A lot of people that don’t know him would look in and say “come on you’re being a bitch, it’s just one beer, or it’s just a gram of bud, or hell even it’s just a vape, it’s legal”. But none of those people truly understand what an addictive personality is till they love someone that has one. It’s a nightmare.
He’s gaslighting you? How about let a grown man make his own decisions. The fact he can’t have his own privacy means your too much. This is how you loose a guy 101
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He is a grown man, you’re going to have to let him figure that one out on his own. It should be his choice whether he quits or not. He shouldn’t be lying to you, but maybe he did it so he wouldn’t hurt your feelings idk. But you’re gonna have to be grateful he wasn’t lying about cheating or doing drugs.
We’re all collectively laughing at you at this point
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Why does it matter lol and heartbroken over a vape?? Honey you got a lot of time on your hands because I would be embarrassed to make this post 
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Oh my God grow up its a vape you can smoke too, it’s not gonna cause a lot of issues. I smoked through both pregnancies and my boys were and are 100% healthy
I would “let you” find the door 
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I don’t know.He’s not doing it around you. This seems a little controlling.
Overreact much? You’re being a bit dramatic. 
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He deletes conversations he has with his mother? You mean you have to look at his phone and monitor the conversations he has with his mother? Are you for real?
You’ve got a baby coming. It’s time to grow up.
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I was agreeing with all of you too but I think what she’s trying to say is that she enjoyed vaping too and she since can’t do it they made an agreement to quit together but him doing it behind her back is sort of betrayal to her I get that’s it’s super petty and honestly if he doesn’t do it in front of you than just let it slide but idk 
okay ask yourself this tho why should “you” get to decide weather or not someone can vape and making your partner stop just cause you got pregnant and you don’t wanna do it while pregnant shouldn’t mean he should have to give it up as well
His body his choice. I’m sure if he told you straight up he was you would still react this way.
I would be thrown off Facebook if I said what I do… but Lorraine Bobbitt is my hero. He will have a problem vaping kills people faster than cigarettes
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I hate smoking . It kills All.
He is his own person. You can force someone to give something up if they aren’t ready. He has to want to do it himself. In saying that if he has done it all along all you can do is voice your concerns but you can’t make him stop and controlling him isn’t healthy for your relationship. I’m sorry your feelings towards it aren’t good but he isn’t doing anything illegal.
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You’re to controlling let him have his vape. You can’t smell them… It’s healthier then a cigarette. And way cheaper!!!
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Heart broken over a vape? Bruh
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I have never smoked yet I have smoke induced asthma, and I have to use a breathing machine. Not fair!
Let him vape why police him?!!
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I think demanding him to quit is a little harsh. You can ask him to never be around you when he smokes and to be proactive in hiding his pens so that you aren’t tempted but asking him to completely stop isn’t really the way to go about this. I know that you want to be a partnership and go through things together but just remember a partnership allows for individuality as well and a space to communicate without judgement. Sending you hugs mama
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Omg momma …he is a grown man , u said its hard for u if he vapes but u didnt say hes doing it in ur presence …ur searching his pockets .
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Those bloudy hormones x
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Sounds like my ex wife!
Being pregnant is hard. We choose to have a baby and with that choice we have to give other things up as well. It’s very nice when a partner can be supportive and give things up with us. But this isn’t always realistic. He must be having a hard time with his vaping addiction and he’s not ready to give it up. I can see why you would be hurt from the lying and sneaking behind your back. I would talk with him about it and maybe you guys can come to an honest compromise that works for both of you.
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Why do you get to decide if he quits or not. He has to quit for himself, no one else. Him vaping or smoking is not going to hurt you or the baby as long as he’s not smoking inside. His body, his choice. I understand your frustration but making him quit is only going to make him hide it obviously. Just have a conversation with him instead of freaking out and just listen to him.
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Him vaping is not affecting your pregnancy. And for him to go this length to hide it from means that he probably “feared the wrath” if he found out. A little immature on your part and with a baby almost n your doorstep I think you have more important things to be concerned about than whether your partner is vaping.Get your head in the right place and focus on your baby. It’s not like he’s cheating know you.
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you are pregnant not him, and he married you not his mother, so don’t act like one.
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Big yikes. poor guy.
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I’ve been married 52 yrs.I was 17 he 21.My finance smoked when we got married.He was in the Navy and had to go to Japan for 3 yrs .I flew and met up 4 months after I graduated.He knew I hated smoking as I never had.So by the time I got to Japan he had quit !I didn’t even ask him to it was his choice !If u have a good relationship you don’t control your partner !Yes if it’s things like alcoholism,illegal drugs ,abuse then you take care of things or break up !I had 3 children and if my man had still smoked I woulda just ask him NOT to do it around the pregnancy !If he wants to vape he should be allowed too you’re NOT his mother !Just ask him NOT to do it around you !For health reasons I’m glad my husband and I don’t vape or smoke !
I think this post is just redicules. If he wants to vape he can vape outside. Also you’re making it sound as like he’s cheating but it’s literally just vaping and you are letting your pregnant hormones cloud your brain and just because you are having his baby doesn’t mean you have to be so controlling about it. And it’s obvious he’s being respectful enough to not do it around you. There is no betrayal in any of this lol. I almost feel this post is a joke to be honest.
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So you let him smoke but nope vape aint that a bit backwards lol. Vapes better then smokes. And cheaper 
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I see a lot of people are saying “who cares” and “let him do it” and “he is grown” and “your not his mother”… but ultimately he agreed to NOT do it and he did and he hide it behind your back and has lied about it. It is a type of betrayal. He made a commitment and made decisions to go against it. Even his mother helped him out with that. I would hope he has admitted to it, hopefully has apologized… and if you want to continue to have this boundary then by all means you deserve to. You are your own person, you set the expectations, set your boundaries, he agreed, and ultimately he decided to go against it behind your back. I’d be upset too. EVERYONE IS ALLOWED TO HAVE BOUNDARIES. ESPECIALLY, A WOMAN WHO IS GROWING A BABY INSIDE OF HER BODY. Like he’s deleting calls and messages just so he can vape?? Sorry but I gave up worse habits for my baby. I’m sorry this is happening. You are allowed to have your own boundaries. You are your own person.
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Are you guys 12, cause why is his mom buying them if he’s a grown man? Lol
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I’m sorry, are you his mother or his soon-to-be wife?? 
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I say hormones on this one.
I’m grossed out by people’s comments. He is being sneaky and lying, involving his own mom, when he could just be honest and communicate with her. COMMUNICATION.
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So…how’s he treat you? That should matter more than forcing him to feel like he has to lito in order to be himself.
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Its partially your hormones. I wouldnt worry abt him vaping, id just ask if he wouldnt do it around me. But i can say id feel betrayed and hurt if my old man were to tell me something to my face and i found out he was lying. Abt something so stupid on top of that. Id wonder…what else would he keep from me or lie to me abt?
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My ex husband smoked the whole pregnancies and after
my motto thru my pregnancy…
when I stress.
My Baby stress.
Is the problem worth the stress?
On repeat.
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No you don’t have a right, you’re acting like a deputy dog. Maybe you’re too far up his butt that he feels he has to lie to you. You are not his mommy, sneaking around and looking through his pockets! How would you like it if he went through your purse’s, wallet and dresser’s, giving you no privacy. And, think about if he was doing all that to you. Grow up before you screw up your relationship, try to work things out like adults before you both end up all alone. 
Good lord. This breaks your heart? THIS!? 
Be thankful it’s not crack
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So are we treating this just like cheating. Like actual full blown affair with another woman, for several years, and now the mistress is pregnant??
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Count ya lucky stars he ain’t lying about meth 
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It’s your hormones hun. He could be doing worse. Personally I would neverrr lose sleep over something this petty. Relax
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Girl you are trippin. So what if he vapes. He isn’t doing it around you. You’re literally jealous.
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If it bothers you that he vapes around you, just tell him, please don’t vape around me. He’s a grown ass man. I don’t agree with the lying and going behind your back about it. But as long as he’s respectful and isn’t doing it around you, why does it matter?
Sounds like he’s been telling a white lie so you wouldn’t be tempted to vape. I think he lied with good intentions, and in no way should this “break your heart”…
Pick your battles, this ain’t one. Quitting nicotine is hard, especially when he doesn’t have a fetus growing inside of him as extra motivation.
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While part of is it hormones, he agreed to stop and it’s disrespectful he’s lying about it.
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I mean… if him vaping is your biggest issue, consider yourself lucky.
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If you don’t want to smoke/ vape don’t but don’t say he can not do it that’s Controlling.
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I’d vape if I had to deal with you.
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Out of all addictions lol this is what your getting mad about… 
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You know, it isn’t just your hormones. Your partner lied which shows he either didn’t think you were smart enough to catch him, or that he didn’t need to respect your wishes and take you seriously. It sucks, but see how he responds to you confronting him about it again. If it’s positive, stay with him and see if you canove past it. If not, even though it is hard being a single mom, I’d leave him personally. You deserve a man who won’t lie to you. Not on the big things, certainly not the small
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You need to let it go and try to relax. Stressing over something so petty isn’t good for you or your child. I’d honestly apologize to him, a reaction this big over something this small is just way over the top. Seems like he lied in fear of how you’d react
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Girl I’m vaping right now just because I have to read this post lol
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Why does he have to quit something that he has probably done for years because you’re pregnant, I’m sorry but that’s so selfish, he’s vapping it’s not the end of the world and the fact he isn’t doing it around you like why are you pissed I don’t get it, not like he’s hiding a pipe in his pocket. You’re pregnant girl not him let him vape!
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I think it’s just your hormones 
it sucks that he’s lying about it but I feel like he’s just trying to protect you. Sure he’s hiding them, and making sure he’s respecting you and atleast not doing it around you so you don’t get tempted.
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Hormones. It’s vaping… he’s not hurting you… and he’s being respectful by not doing it in front of you
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When I was pregnant I was HEART BROKEN that my husband brought me a burger with onions on it and he knows I dont like onion totally understand 
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Girl you are tripping like what ? ! He’s grown it’s unhealthy ud like him to stop especially when around u n kids n that’s it. Leave him alone and stop stressing over nothing
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Honey be GRATEFUL it’s not heroin.
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This is ridiculous. Grow up.
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It’s definitely your hormones.
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I’m still stuck on “you LET him keep smoking”
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You’re trying to be in control of something you cannot be in control of. This, if anything, should be an opportunity to self-reflect and ask yourself why this bothers you so much… it’ll probably have more to do with selfishness than anything having to do with him. If you put those ridiculous restrictions on someone, you’re just asking for disappointment. He isn’t cheating on you, he isn’t harming you. You just want him to stop because you can’t vape right now?? I suggest you apologize and lift the restrictions; admit your faults and hug it out.
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Hormones dear…it’s not that big a deal.
Oh girl….your hormones are crazy right now. It’s not a big a deal as it feels right now.
Oh please…he isnt doing it in your face…
It’s a freaking vape… your hormones are getting the best of you… when I was pregnant I found a meth bong in my ex husbands car… I smashed that shit and then woke him up and told him about me finding it… he tried to tell me I didn’t find anything… lol just be glad it’s only a vape
Damn and I was upset my husband left me for another woman, I need to get my priorities straight 
So he smoked/vaped when you met and now you unrealistically are demanding he stop because you don’t like it…as long as he’s not doing it around you then it’s his life and his body and I’m sorry but you don’t get to decide that for him 
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So he smoked/vaped when you met and now you unrealistically are demanding he stop because you don’t like it…as long as he’s not doing it around you then it’s his life and his body and I’m sorry but you don’t get to decide that for him
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Why would you want someone to stop valine to only smoke cigarettes?
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Is it because you had to quit, because your pregnant? He’s an adult he should wanna quit for his own reasons not to be forced or guilted into it
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You need to grow up its a vape and he’s a grown man he’s going to do it whether you like it or not. Now the lying to your face even though you know what’s going on and he’s making you feel stupid that’s another issue but him vaping shouldn’t have you all butthurt.
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2 people cannot be on the same journey. Everyone is different. Lying and hiding things come from the fact that the person is not ready themselves yet to give up the habit.
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Just make sure he has life insurance!
You’re feelings should be validated. You have a right to be upset. It was no reason for him to lie.
Stop trying to control the poor guy. Let him do his thing ffs
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It’s definitely your hormones. You’re acting as if he’s cheated on you.
That’s just going to cause him to not come to you for support through this.
Its his choice to give up, as a reformed smoker myself, it’s something that has to be chosen by HIM and him only. Otherwise its just not going to work.
Your only task here, is to support him.
It’s an addiction, addictions are not easy.
I quit more than 5 times before I actually succeeded. Because I did it myself, I wasn’t forced and I had no one watching me if I failed.
He’s not ready. And that IS okay!!! He can always try again. And when he does, all you need to do is support him.
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Let him be him u do U if you keep up your controlling way he’s going to leave your ass nobody wants to hide from who they really are it’s not like it’s another woman
Of course he is going to lie to you when you try to control him! 
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Your trying but you don’t understand a man’s mind and You are not his parents. He smokes if you let him be a man then the lies will be unnecessary. Mature have y’all’s own individual life. Marriage is grown up and after you both have your day y’all will come together. Run his life and he will have his without you. You would not like him to be controlling and demanding. Always sneaking and searching for something to jump your butt. Just stop trying to be one person, your TWO different people. That happen to love each other.
Hun it’s just a vape… you are fine with him smoking but not vaping?!? There could be bigger issues… like cheating… this is nothing.
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Check out zyn after 20 years of smoking that’s helped me 
be happy he not on a pipe your defiantly gone over board to the point he had to lie to you i get smoking is yuck an if use talked about giving up an he went behind your back but still it could be 10times worse just make sure he does it out side
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This isn’t that serious, just compromise and ask him to leave the room/step outside. You can’t force him to give up something, just because you are. That’s not fair.
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no. you’re a nightmare wife and you’ll drive his ass all the way crazy doing shit like this. Y0u worry about you, and if he isn’t smoking on you or even around you then STFU and enjoy that he still comes home to you, because shit like this would make me run away really fast
The vaping itself isn’t a big deal I feel. The fact that he lied and gaslighted you and went so far to hid it iconcerning and what I’d be hurt about. he coulda talked to you and told u he was having a hard time. Instead he chose to lie. it make me feel like what else is he ok lying about😕 and don’t let ppl in this group diminish your feelings
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if you’re tripping on him about vaping somewhere else that isn’t around you, I’d be way worried about a million other things that you’ve gone coo coo about that he must lie about, really chick? what do you think you OWN the human male?
You cannot control someone honey. In any way, shape, or form. This may seem small to some, but it seems like you smoked also before getting pregnant. You cannot control what someone does. It is unfair for you to try to make him stop simply because you cannot. This will start to cause bigger issues (it already is since you say he’s deleting phone calls and messages) and only create more problems. You just simply cannot force someone to live a certain way just because you are. Wishing you the best of luck 
Let the man be a man and be able to make decisions about his own life… Stop playing silly games life is too short for petty shit
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ooooops disregard, i’m not a mom, goodluck
You’re being too controlling over someone else’s addiction. He cut cigarettes… vaping is the least of your problems.
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First thing i saw was " you Let him" girl🤦♀️ no
If thats your take on a relationship that you are the " boss" and what you says goes…he needs to exit immediately cause you got it all wrong🤷♀️
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Hiding it, lying, gaslighting is the problem truly. Not the vaping itself.
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Whats wrong with him vaping?