You are entitled to feel whatever you feel but you need to work through that. Vaping is not the end of the world. He is a grown man and can do whatever he wants. You cannot control him. Speak your peace and then drop it.
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Damnnnnn it’s just a damn vape not drugs you say your whole entire pregnancy when honey you ain’t even halfway through it yet:roll_eyes:
If it was me I would be wondering what else he was lying to me about
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Definitely hornones its only a vape
trust me no one can tell anyone to stop doing something , when he is ready he will quit on his own but this you just have to let go, as he isnt doing it around you now he probably wont do it around the baby either,
Why does he have to stop vaping? Is this because your pregnant?
Cigarettes are really hard to give up, the vape is helping him with the cravings. He gave up the cigarettes for you I’d be proud of that but sounds like it’s either your way or no way you can’t control him.
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Control freak if this was a man everyone would be saying RED FLAGS 
RUN so bloody what it’s a vape he’s a grown ass man says a lot if you’re man has to lie over a vape
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Heartbroken over a man vaping are you for real now hormones or not you thats a bit controlling and especially when smoking actual cigarettes are alot more harmful for him.you and unborn I’d rather him quit the fags and vape away from me and out the door vaping is the not prob here the fact a grown man needs to ask his mother to sort a vape for him aswell as hide and delete the msgs that is what point you have pushed this poor man to, that is what I would be worried about, I’d be worried about what sort of person your letting him and his mother see you as what man wants a baby with a woman he cant even vape with if it was me or anyone I knew I’ll tell you her a grip before you end up a single mother and tell him to run for the hills it’s a vape now love what it gunna be months down like or when baby due you say he gas lighting you , I say your giving him no choice but to lie to you why should he have to stop vaping your the one who is causing mental and emotional abuse to your partner and think you have rights to moan on fb woman play victim all to much these days and not very well just sit down and stop being a controlling karen …
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Dang if this is ur only worry then count yourself lucky:zipper_mouth_face:
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He has a vape … That he’s not smoking anywhere near or around you … And your bitching and upset by it? 
Who put who in the position to lie?
You need a reality check girl 
You sound like a nightmare
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That man needs to…RUN!!!
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I’m pregnant rn and would never put that kinda stress on my man. 
ur pregnant lol not him .
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Let the man vape, you can’t control his every move, so don’t try too. This is the reason for the lies. He’s a grown man. You should count yourself lucky this is all he’s lying about. Now sit him down and tell him your sorry for trying to make him give up an addiction on your terms. Pregnancy gives you no right to control another person, end of.
Dear sorry but it’s a vape. Not cocaine, buttons, weed, extacy or any other terrible drug. & His not cheating on you. Some woman are getting abused verbally & physically, living with men 100 times worse than your fiance. Yes you are overeating & his your partner not your child. Sit with him & speak to him in a grown manner. Explain how you feel & let him also state his feelings. All the best going forward
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You’re his partner not his mother. Stop treating your significant other like your child. He is an adult who enjoys vaping…you have things that you enjoy too.
That’s the issue with so many relationships, one wants to be so controlling…then the other starts hiding and lying. Be open to one another … allow each one to be an individual.
Love each other that way, dont change each other.
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Why can’t he vape at all, that’s controlling on your part. He’s an adult that can do as he pleases, same as you. Fair enough not smoke in front of you or same room but you can’t out right say not at all… take some chill time for yourself you need to calm down stressing over something so simple as this. The issue is the lack of communication is the issue
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Sorry but you have no say in what your partner smokes/vapes or anything else.
I know your hormonal at the moment and the sneaking behind your back is wrong.
He should have just said it’s my body I’ll do as I please when you demanded he stop.
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It’s not the vaping that your upset about it’s the lies and deceit.and just for the record YES I do think it’s worth being upset over. I think you should definitely try and have a calm conversation about why he felt he had to lie to you and that your upset because of the lies. But in saying that this is just my opinion. Your welcome to take it or leave it. Hope your ok.
My crystal ball says you’ve got lots of trouble ahead…you are not his Controller, so give it up now…
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Unpopular opinion here but yes you have every right to be upset! I’d be so pissed if my man lied to me about vaping, its just as bad as smoking and I wouldn’t want that around while being pregnant either. And he’s blatantly lied to you about it, I’d be piiiiiiissed!!
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First off he is a grown up and can choose as he pleases.
My man and I both smoke, I stopped with both my pregnancies but let him decide if he wanted to stop or continue to smoke (HIS CHOICE) Why, cause he’s an adult . That means let him do as he pleases cause ARE NOT HIS MOTHER NOR BOSS!!!
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Feel you’re over reacting he’s grown man not a child it’s a vape so he won’t be smelling of cigs round u or baby so honestly don’t see the issue also sounds bad but can see why he lied if y act like this in all honesty I would have lied also to keep the peace come across tad controlling hun he’s his own person please rest n understand some battles are worth fighting you’re pregnant and have bigger things to worry about best of luck x
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A vape? Does he have to sign a contract to piss too
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Just because you shouldn’t doesn’t mean that he also shouldn’t.
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It’s only a vape and he ain’t pregnant
Grow up
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Women are you serious if that’s all I had to worry about damn your a lucky lady let him vape or smoke.my Lord
You have a right to be upset about the lies. That’s the end of where you should be upset. It doesn’t even make sense that you would allow him to smoke, but not vape. Smoking makes everything stink and stains everything yellow. It’s also way worse second hand than vape.
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Lmfao is this the new season of 16 & pregnant?
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It’s a vape, now wud u rather he smoked around u or vape, Ur in a relation ship u have to give an take not tell him what to do, he has his life and does thing like vaping to maybe ease stress and stop him smoking, x
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Tad controlling!!!….he’s not pregnant!…it’s vaping, not smoking!…he’s an adult, don’t treat him like a teenager!….he’s lying because he will know you will go mad at him!….try sitting down with him & talking, without going mad, so he knows he can talk to you about anything….you will soon have a lot more to worry about…so you both need to be on the same page now 
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When I was pregnant both times my husband would still smoke, but never in the house or the car if I was with him. I found it so hard the first pregnancy to quit but I did as soon as I found out I was pregnant but with the second one it didn’t bother me to quit. When we were out at a function or something , my husband would always ask me if I wouldn’t mind if he had a smoke which I thought was being very respectful to my feelings and I never ever told him NO u can’t smoke. Maybe suggest he do it but not around you, you can’t control what another person does but if he’s willing to compromise and you just don’t think about him doing it you might not be as angry. It sounds to me like he doesn’t want to upset or anger you and that’s why he’s doing it behind your back since you are struggling and so angry about it. Goodluck Mama 
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Errr, wow! Stop being so controlling!
He’s a grown man creeping around behind your back because your making him feel like he has too. You need to calm yourself down a bit. Let him vape just not around you.
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He’s a grown ass man (I’m assuming) leave him alone. Why are you asking what’s in his pockets and going through his phone. You are doing nothing but making him hide shit and possibly leave.
Its really up to him are u his girlfriend or hes ma
Oh my. If you need to control someone that much, it’s your issue not there’s. If he has agreed it sounds like it’s for peace and quiet rather than because he wants too. He respects you enough to do it out of site so your not tempted. Relax and give him the choice of an adult. Tell him it’s your choice not to vape and you have had a think and actually appreciate that he has made the effort not to do it in front of you. Then you don’t have to become over sensitive and he doesn’t have to hide.
It’s a right to have choice and if you want to be honest with each other then you need to respect that. It’s not good to force another person to do something that they don’t want to do.
Have a good pregnancy with each other and understanding about personal choice xx
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This can’t be serious surely… So he can’t smoke a vape and smell like candies and marshmallows but you allow him to smoke and smell like ashtrays… Don’t get it
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No you do have a right it’s a lying issue plus vapes are so bad too
Queen of petty. Shew I hate to see how you are after the baby is born.
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Hormones hunni, he could be doing so much worse. Give him a break xxxx
Vaping keeps you from smoking. I did it. It doesn’t happen in a day. He has to reduce his nicotine dosage every few days. Once he has no nicotine in his vape he can eventually stop that too. It works. Give it time.
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Vaping keeps you from smoking. I did it. It doesn’t happen in a day. He has to reduce his nicotine dosage every few days. Once he has no nicotine in his vape he can eventually stop that too. It works. Give it time.
Ok… well it’s been proven that both cigarettes AND vape aren’t healthy for you. The thing that gets me in this post? “Tho I let him”… you let him? YOU LET HIM…who the hell do you think you are? Seriously? That you can dictate to him? Wow. He is a grown man. He doesn’t need your permission to do anything. I would have been on your side - IF you had stated you’d both talked and both decided that you both were going to do such and such for the pregnancy and safety of baby…
Oh and if I was you? I’d seriously research the dangers of toxins been left in clothing from smoking and how it affects babies and the dangers of secondhand smoke
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Can’t vape but can smoke surely there’s more to this story lol makes no sense
I think your over reacting tbh he can vape if he needs to, you shouldnt tell him he cnt vape but he can smoke , just because your pregnant I dont believe you can tell your husband to not smoke or not smoke a vape, what you really should of said to him is “if your guna vape can you not vape infront of me please and not leave them hanging around the house to get used to it so baby doesnt grab one” I think your being very unfair to the man he should have the choice to do what he wants
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First of all, you’re making him stop…no
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I think you are in the wrong here, it’s his choice just as it’s your choice to quit
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He’s vaping love, it’s not like you’ve found crack in his pocket
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Wtf. I can understand no smoking but not no vaping, that’s ridiculous. You vape to come OFF cigarettes 
You want to be passed on 2nd and 3rd hand side effects of disgusting cigarettes but don’t want the side affects of a fruity smell around you?
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I don’t think vaping is the real issue, it’s the lying!
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You sound like a total control freak, pregnant or not. Vaping is better for you than smoking but your treating him like a child. You need to seriously grow up before that baby is born
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he shouldn’t have lied to you but i don’t see why he can’t vape/smoke just bc you can’t?
He’s cheating on you with vape, least it ain’t a woman or man lol
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I’ll say from this point that the vaping will do less harm financial and health wise to your future with a child than smoking will. But as for the lying side that comes with having such a tight control over his ability to make his own choices about what he can or can’t do. Sit down and talk with him. If your concerned about it for your own and baby’s health then allow him to vape or smoke but have an area for him to do it in That has no risk for the child
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He has to want to give up himself or he won’t do it, can you imagine how shit he feels, his mum buying him his vapes and hiding them, don’t be so hard on him, and yes your hormones are making the situation worse leave him be and enjoy your pregnancy xxx
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HIS body HIS choice!
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Hunny ya hormones are tripping🤦🏾♀️you trying to control this man… At least he’s not cheating🤷🏾♀️could be worse…
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You have the right to your feelings and they are valid. Who cares if he vapes as long as it’s not around the baby
I seen this post on another mum group. You’re being totally unfair to ask him to stop just because you can’t do it. I would never expect my partner to give up smoking/vaping just because I can’t do it. It’s not like he’s doing drugs and quite clearly, I understand why he lied. It’s a vape, you’re over reacting.
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You’re Way Overreacting! It’s a vape…not a crack or meth pipe!!!
LET IT GO!!!
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i think lying is definitely the issue, but i don’t think anyone on here really has an answer to your question.
unfortunately, vaping or smoking contain nicotine which can be hard to come off of.
BUT. everyone on her that go beyond answering the question asked should be ashamed. she’s genuinely asking a question and making comments like “grow up before that baby is born,” is not helping build women up in a world designed to tear us down. jesus. everyone’s pregnancy and relationship is different, although i don’t think i’d ever tell my man he couldn’t do something, i can completely understand the pregnancy hormones making you feel some type of way and none of y’all know how THEIR relationship works. answer the question asked and don’t comment all the hate and judgment.
y’all need to do better about HELPING.
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Girl it’s a vape shut up
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You aren’t crazy. He lied. No matter how dumb everyone else thinks the reason is, the truth is that he went to great lengths to hide it and now some level of trust is lost. I’d be pissed too
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You aren’t crazy. He lied. No matter how dumb everyone else thinks the reason is, the truth is that he went to great lengths to hide it and now some level of trust is lost. I’d be pissed too
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People do realise that vapes were invented to help stop smoking?!
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I’d rather my fiance vape than smoke cigarettes ESPECIALLY when I was pregnant. I get that it’s hard for you BUT vaping is more safe than smoking cigarettes especially for you as the vapor isn’t really as harmful. I wouldn’t be mad about it, he’s only hiding it because you told him he must quit. And he’d only be able to quit on his own accord. Vaping is an addiction try not to be so hard on him.
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You’re being ridiculous and driving him away. Stop it pregnancy is hard on both of you his world is drastically changing also. Stop snooping around and leave him alone. This isn’t the hill you want to die on.
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Ur not even married and ur trying to control him wow just have him ape away from u this relationship won’t last
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Would it not have made more sense to let him vape but not smoke. That would generally be the way to do it.
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I would be More worried he lied to you. Stop Trying to Control the Man. I’m Sorry Ur having a hard Time But you need to understand it isn’t That EASY to JUST stop. you are being very unfair.
Anyone would think he was pinning up
Heroin get a grip!
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pick and choose your battles. if I were you i’d let this one go honestly. vaping is better than smoking. just request he doesn’t do it in front of you but also doesn’t hide it.
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This isn’t something I’d be concerned with hiding. Drinking or drugs yes but vaping or cigarettes? Nah. Let it go. They have vaporizers that are just essential oils or no-nic if you wanted to try those for yourself.
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Definitely don’t disregard your feelings because they are Valid! It’s not the fact that he’s vaping it’s the lying. So I totally get it
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Why can’t he vap? I see this as immature…smh
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My Mum always says, “if he’s willing to lie about the little things, it will be easy to lie about the big things”
You’re upset is valid, it’s not about the vape, it’s the fact he lied and went out of his way to hide all evidence. Not just that, but he isn’t thinking about you or the baby in this situation.
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How dare he cheat on you with a vape
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I mean your pregnant, not him, I understand that it’s hard for you to watch him as you can’t cause your pregnant. But thats like telling him he can’t eat the foods that make you vomit. Even though on a normal day he and you would both enjoy it
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Je zzz, poor guy, no wonder he will ran off soon! 
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Why are you so controlling? Leave the poor guy alone. It’s only a vape. Not like he’s smoking crack
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Grow up for the sake of your unborn baby
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The lying is the only thing I’d be mad about. Not the vaping…
But at the same time… he’s doing it NOT around you… which… if you hadn’t been snooping, you would have never known…
And small white lies doesn’t mean he’s gonna lie about big important things. But that’s really a thing that different person to person …
Your feelings are valid to you.
But if you make a huge deal over small things, it will make big things even harder to be honest about…
I’ve learned this the hard way.
Once you can just let stuff go, or talk about it civilly… and then let it go… it makes things a lot easier in the long run when bigger things arise.
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Dump him! Hes a mamas boy, a filthy vaper and he lied. Your baby deserves a stinky buttsucker who only does what you tell him and would never speak to his mother regularly like that. I mean thats just atrocious.
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So you would rather him smoke cigarettes than vape?? Your feelings are valid and it’s probably more so the lying, it just doesn’t make sense to me that you ask him to quite vaping and go back to cigarettes, which smell and stick to clothing and transfer smell to your house and cling in fabrics like the couch and bed…
So you would rather him smoke cigarettes than vape?? Your feelings are valid and it’s probably more so the lying, it just doesn’t make sense to me that you ask him to quite vaping and go back to cigarettes, which smell and stick to clothing and transfer smell to your house and cling in fabrics like the couch and bed…
Man wow he’s a grown ass man there no reason for him to have to lie and deleting calls and messages let me just say when you have to look in his phone or pockets that’s the beginning of the end like I said he’s a grown man if he can’t quiet he should tell you he can go outside to vape rather than lie and the phone the min you have to pick up his phone that’s a bad sign I’m sorry and I pray you have a huge turn around
He’s only vaping relax I’m sure he could probably be doing a lot worse let it go
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Wow. What a judgmental, unsympathetic bunch going after a pregnant woman asking for support. It’s not about the vaping. They discussed, he agreed to stop, then lied, went behind her back and worse, went to his mother like a kid, instead of owning up like a man and communicating properly to his partner that he wasn’t ready to stop vaping. They’re about to have a baby and he’s behaving like an immature prick. It’s not about the vaping, it’s the lies. The trust is broken, she’s upset and everyone going after her like she did something wrong.
To OP: Ignore the negativity, you have a right to feel whatever you feel. Let him know clearly why you’re upset, ask him what’s going on, tell him you’re partners and want to work things out before the baby comes and hopefully put this behind you. Take care xx
Jeez it’s a vape man
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If his vaping away from you then that’s should be OK BUT lying isn’t OK
Maybe tell him its OK to vape as long as its not near you - hey ho no need to lie, why do you object?
You. Do. NOT. have. The. Right. To. Control. Other. People.
I said what I said.
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I’d leave him so he can find someone a little less controlling then you.
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Your feelings aren’t wrong BUT that doesn’t mean they’re not also hormonal the lying sucks but cut him some slack men don’t process stress as well as women do he’s probably super nervous and it sounds like he put a lot of effort into hiding it which is wrong but it kind of shows that he is ashamed and cares enough to be all crazy secretive about something that shouldn’t be a big deal
You can not control people! Shit it’s not like he is lying about being on meth ffs 
YOU need to get over yourself!
You’re the one pregnant, not him. Yes, he helped, but at least he isn’t doing it right in your face. As mothers, we make sacrifices for our children… vaping and smoking while pregnant is one of them. I couldn’t stand the smell of a cigarette when I was pregnant with my twins but do you think I asked my husband to stop smoking?? He just didn’t do it around me. Which is what your bf is doing. Leave that man alone and grow up before your child gets here. You have more important things to worry about than that
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Wait so because your pregnant he can’t do anything? You must be a real peach at parties
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You “let him keep smoking” I’m assuming he’s an adult and can smoke or vape if he wants to… So… I’d just learn to deal with it 
Let him vape but just not near you 
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