My friend treats her kids terribly, what should I do?

I’d definitely say like hey let me take the kids for a few days and then you can feed them and take care of them , mabye she just needs a break

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If she’s doing things to her daughter that you can’t even mention because it’s too bad, you need to report her asap! Those poor children. I honestly will never understand why people have and keep kids they feel nothing for. It’s so unfair to the innocent children.

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Number one rule with kids if you see something say something. Too many people turn their head because they don’t want to put their nose in that person’s business but those children are suffering and they need somebody to stand up for them. Say something!

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Stand up for the kids,!!!
If she is your so called friend then it shouldn’t make her mad, Do the right thing Stand up for the Kids

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Of cps doesn’t do anything talk to her mom and see if she will take her to court to fight for custody of the babies!!!

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We have to be the voice of the children being they do not have one,please do the right thing

Definitely report it

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Erin Jones sounds like someone we know :roll_eyes:

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If your that concerned called social ?

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PLEASE!!! What are you waiting for???
CPS,now! Start documenting, …time,place,people,
duration and REPORT today.

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Speak up get those babies help before it’s too late then you will regret it for the rest of your life

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I would document every thing and call CPS

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If she is that bad then report her to child protective services. Turn your proof of neglect over to them.

Report her. The kids are old enough to talk about what is going on too. So hopefully they aren’t coached to be silent.

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Be the children’s voice if bad things are happening to them… call cps have a welfare check done!!! Its only going to get worse and now there’s going to be a new baby involved!!!

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Those babies could end up in worse situations if they are put in the system!! Hopefully a family member can help!! But if def should be reported

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This is a situation to CALL CPS for! If you truly believe these children are at risk then you need to so ASAP!

We were in the same situation a couple years ago. Nobody said one word to this lady that was in my wife’s family until I came along, right when I said something the woman cut all ties between us and her kids. But it got others relising it as well and eventually her kids were taken away we found out. Never say nothing, ALWAYS say something.

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Why are you posting on fb about it instead of getting on the phone and reporting it.Why are you talking about abuse you have seen and yet you havent called anyone to protect these children…if these things are actually happening you should have been called.You are apart of the problem

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You will never forgive yourself if something happens to those children. Report what you know….now. You can probably ask to remain anonymous but those children deserve to be protected. Do what is right.

C ALLL SOMEONE NOW. CPS OR WHATEVER. Before they grow up with mental issues or end up dead.
Like why are you even asking Fb right now. When it involves children ALWAYS protect them

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Sign up to be a foster parent. After getting your license and approval. Talk to the kids and report her. Tell the worker you are willing to take them. Sometimes the situation that you remove them from is better then the one you place them in. If you have better morals, be apart of the change. Become a foster parent.

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Call child protective services. Please. Those poor kids need someone to be their voice. Call, immediately.

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Call cps and report everything

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You should offer her some love support and understanding. She may have had the same treatment growing up, and just doing her best as a result. Or even a very real possibility that it’s even mental health related. She may not even understand what she’s doing. Or how it’s effecting her children. To me, it sounds like poor mental health. Good luck

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Alot of the time cps doesn’t do much. Do your best to help the kids in any way you can. Stop by their house with snacks or offer to baby sit. I know its not your job, but you could be a great influence and help to these kids❤

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Please report her. If something happens to those children, you’ll never be able to forgive yourself for not stepping in.

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Depending on your state there is usually a 24hr toll-free hotline to report child abuse anonymously…in Pennsylvania it is called CHILDLINE…a quick Google search will give you the info you need…PLEASE be the person these children need you to be…it’s not too late!!

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One tag of her name would expose it all. Trust me, those who know her know what’s going on. It’s a matter of caring about it. And they don’t. More people know more than you think. Some people truly do not deserve to be parents. I agree with everyone here.

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I would call child protective services. The well-being of the children always come first

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call cps! those kids need to be somewhere safe!

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If these children are in danger, and it sounds like they are - please call and report her … she sounds like a very selfish and horrible person

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It’s better to report now than to read about something happening later! If no one else
Sees a problem then they’re a problem, so the right thing and be a voice from these poor babies and the new one she’s about to being into this world!:broken_heart:

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Please report this POS. The children are being neglected and abused.

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She should be reported to the authorities regarding her role as a mother right away!! These kids need someone to help them!!! You can do it anonymously—-JUST Do It!!!

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Protecting a " fuck up" is NEVER a good idea!! :rage:

I would report her as soon as possible

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2 sides too every story how do you know she doesn’t know these people and didn’t ask have you been with her every min of her life? Why do you say she’s blowing her money on fast food then say her kids go hungry 70% of the time it sounds like she has money issues yeah but she can always get help with that and nobody wants too go-to work but like you said she pays her bills and another thing you said she always tells her kids too find a new mommy? That doesn’t sound like abuse sounds like she’s playing around to be honest if she’s a single mother and has a job keeping her bills paid I think she’s doing fine and if she’s blowing her money on food for her and her kids then that’s not a issue either you sound judgmental and not a true friend you should be helping her instead of bashing her on social media and everyone else on here is so golable that story is 1 sided like a motherfucker

And this mom will probably get the up most respect from them kids!! That is the best part :exploding_head::face_vomiting:

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I’d get some proof first. If you can get a recording of the way she talks to the kids or her saying any of that stuff, it will help the he said, she said arguments.

First, how is she your friend?
Second, yes someone needs to intervene and do something for those babies

I would contact CPS she is right

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Report her to CPS. If she’s doing things in front of the children (or TO the children) that you can’t even mention here among adults, then they need to be removed from the home.

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If it’s that bad cps should be involved.

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cps is the best direction even though they suck half the time

go write this story to cps not fb.

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Report to the local authority social services department. They will speak to school/ nursery and anyone else involved with the family and look at support for mum and to ensure safety of the little ones

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Help her! Cook a meal she could reheat, have play dates with her and the kids. She sounds like a young struggling mum. Any “freind” would help

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If she did something to her daughter that you cant say on fb, call cps

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Definitely report. Idk what the other part is that can’t be posted but it’s obviously not good. I’ve watched a friend go through cps investigation and she turned her life way around. Who knows maybe she will change too or the babies will get to a safe place.

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Report to cps or police please kids being abused and neglected

They are in more danger if they are taken by the state. The best you can hope for is just stepping in as much as possible. You can model how they should be treated. Bring meals and snacks. Offer to take them for the weekend. After the baby comes things are going to be worse. She will be cranky and the baby will take a lot of her time. Hopefully she will be too tired to be abusive.

Call CPS! You will be anonymous

Report her!!! This is where we must be brave for the kids instead of worrying about being wrong. You know those kids deserve better so stop doubting yourself and report her. The kids need you.

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What you need to do is get cps on that right away! If you want idk where this is but if your Long island I can let my mom know who works for social service. She would do everything to make sure they are somewhere safe. This “mom” sounds like she needs serious help in so many ways. Don’t wait until it’s to late for these children

Child Protective Services ASAP.

I think you already know the answer to your own question. If it’s so bad for you to have to explain it on fb to total strangers then why have you not already stepped up and contacted child protective services??? Do not wait for it to get worse give these poor kids a chance and who gives a shit what she has to say the kids come first. Then hopefully they can seek some serious counseling and move on from this cold callus mother who does not deserve them.

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Just as bad for not saying anything to protect those little babies, instead you come on here for a rant

I am a foster parent. There is multiple things wrong in this situation. I would suggest calling CPS.

Call CPS and report her and they will do a child welfare check.

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Ok and your friends with her why? Instead of asking for Advice on a social media
Platform, tell her exactly how you feel. Period. And then report her and her abuse.

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Report it before it effects the children even more or one of those babies end up hurt worse or dead, then you’ll end up regretting not doing it for the rest of your life. Those babies need protection and if their mom isn’t going to give them that then they need someone to stand up and speak for em. Especially you said there stuff you can’t even say, report report report. It could literally save those kids lives. As young as they are thing could get better if their situation changed but if it continues as the kids get older the more that it will stick with them and effect them later on.

Call childrens services . These babies deserve better. It’s sad she pregnant again . Please help these children . There is no telling what is going on behind closed doors .

video it and call cps. post it on facebook, the video evidence. each time she posts about her children post the video evidence. call her out on it. that’s a horrible way to be towards her kids.

Not to be dramatic but you are those kids best advocate. You do everything you can and don’t let social norms or manners filter your actions. I’ve been in your position and it’s an important one because they can’t advocate for themselves. Do everything in your power. Get the state involved .

You clearly know what to do. You don’t need us to say yup it’s okay to call.
It’s absolutely beyond necessary for a call to be made.

I would turn her in. Sorry but those children come first.

Reporrt them to Dyfus or social services…before they remove the children they will try to teach her parenting skills…and they will observe her…

I’m 29 n have 5 kids so how many kids and how old really doesn’t matter but the rest needs to be dealt with

You need to report child abuse…it’s the law…and it is for the protection of the children which should always come first

Sadly alot of kids don’t come first so most families like that… they think of themselves… best to let someone know…

This is’ normal’ in some circles. Entire cities would be without kids & would never have kids removed for the things listed. Sad but true.

DPS doesn’t always take action. Report her to the police and document everything you have seen or heard her do. They should follow up with DPS but if they don’t continue to document all things and continue to report her to the police.

If they are truly being abused physically and/or mentally, make the call.

I’d rather be the one to make the call, than hear how something had happened to those children.

Take pictures and record it .Then call family and children services on her :pray::point_up:

Until you can get enough proof stay quiet. When you get proof then make the appropriate calls.

I would turn her in to the cops and welfare sept.

If it’s your friend you should call her out and let her know she is wrong. That’s what friends are supposed to do.
You don’t support friends doing harmful shit.

OK, if she’s doing things you can’t even speak about on Facebook, it’s very clear that a call to CPS is in order. What you are hinting at is abuse.
It also sounds like the mom has some kind of substance abuse issue and those children are in danger.
Make the call. Now.

Report her those kids deserve better

Turn her in to the cops

Call social services and report your concerns

Call cps this is horrific

Make a report. Depending on what state you are in, all adults can end up being mandated reporters.

I think you know its time to get all the evidence and call social services, remain anonymous but do the right thing x

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If you are truly concerned and this thing you won’t disclose will make readers feel sick is anything in regards to abuse then you do need to phone social services. However, word of caution you need to ensure that all these situations are facts and not hear say etc - as you may create unnecessary heartache, not only for mum but her two children.

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If it is so bad that you think it would make strangers sick is when it’s time to report

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Please please report her before one of the kids end up dead this is making me angry :rage:

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If you can’t post what has been done around these kids because it’s that bad then you need to get as much evidence as you can and report this woman and get these kids safe!!!
If you just sit by then I’m sorry to say but you’re just as bad.
How would you feel if something happened to one of them and you couldve done something? It doesn’t bear thinking about, those kids could be in danger and you don’t want that on your conscience

you can not sit back and do nothing , report her to social services if you are in any way worried . you can not sit back and do nothing

You need to call child services

Definitely report it, make sure its facts and thing you’ve seen yourself

If you’re worried that they’re neglected or abused please call cps.

I would be calling social now, what a disgusting human being.

1st time I’d have seen that the social would have had a call n I’d have done everything to make sure them kids was safe I’m sorry for you to sit n hear n see that post this on here in stead of ringing the police or social is just as bad I’m sorry but anyone in the right mind would have done something about it not post here !!!

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I would ask her if she ever thought about therapy but very casually. She obviously has some underlying issues and takes it out on her kids.

Set an example, do it right in front of her. Tell her when she does stupid things to her kids. Ask her the hard questions as to why she says and does these things. Confront her if calling authorities isn’t what you want to do. Make play dough with her kids. Show her how to mom. Read books to her kids. Treat them as intelligent, loved individuals. Step up. I have done this and it works. Help the sister out. her kids will thank you.

Honestly I’m not for calling on cps but you would be helping those kids tell cps if it’s ok for the kids to have you on file so you can see them or send them letters or something idk if that’s possible but if she doesn’t change sad outcomes are coming . But of course you need evidence of her miss treating

Even if she is feeding the children, washing them and tending to their basic needs, she may still need to be educated on how to properly care for a child’s emotional well being. She may have been raised the same way she is raising her own children. Advocate for parenting classes and please keep a close eye on the situation if you decide not to report to CPS or even if you do.