I broke up with my girlfriend after she cheated on me, and we have been together for 20 years. She really hurt me, and I can’t get myself to forgive her, but now she’s saying she is sorry and don’t want to lose me. We have a daughter together who is ten, and I have a six-year-old little boy anyway. We still live in the same house, but she said that she is not gonna leave me alone until I give her another chance cuz she is not ready to give up on us yet and that I’m all she wants for the rest of her life and I keep telling her I don’t want to get back together what should I do
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don’t move on she made her choice
Once a cheater always a cheater 
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Okay, please correct me if I’m wrong. You’ve been together 20 years you’s have a daughter together, but ‘you’ also have a 6 year old son… He is not your ex girlfriends child? Does that mean you have cheated on her, in the past?.. 
And by the sounds of it… She had maybe forgiven you, hence why you’s were still an item, upon her cheating on you? My apologies if I’m wrong… Just found this confusing. And my personal opinion, you do you, how do you think you could deal with trying to make the relationship work ect… Me personally I couldn’t do it.
Question??? If you two been together 20 years …and have a 10 year old daughter together …then how do you have a 6 year old son that’s not hers as well? 
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^^ wondering the same
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So you’ve been together twenty years but aren’t married. You have a six year old that from the sound of it isn’t hers which means you were doing dirt with someone else a few years ago yourself, and now you’re mad she did it? The fact that in twenty years it hasn’t been serious or important enough to make it permanent and legal tells me you guys probably aren’t doing much but killing time and settling anyway. Just walk away and make a clean break for your daughter.
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Together 20 years…10 year old daughter together but you have a 6 year old boy “anyway”…assuming the distinction is because the 6 year old is not your child together…but, you’ve been together for 20 years 
…I guess the saying is true…“some people can dish it but can’t take it”
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Both bad as each other poor kids x
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Where does it say the 6 yr old ISNT hers? Isnt that presumptuous?
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They have a 10 yr old together. 6 yr old that is his. Its safe to say the boy isn’t hers. He bluntly said it.
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You cheated also right. 20 years and s 6 year old. Just wondering
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So sounds like the son you have isn’t from her? And together for 20 yrs sounds like you cheated first. Grow up
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If you have a six year old an she has a 10 year old an you guys have been together for 20 years… Something isn’t adding up.
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I don’t get the 20 years together but it’s worded like your son is with someone else? If you don’t want to get back together leave ? If there’s no trust you have nothing talk and tell her how you feel and make it plain you don’t want her …stop wasting both your time
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RUN you will never trust her again
You’ve been with her 20yrs and have a six year old that isn’t hers 
. Seems cheating has been going on for awhile from both of you
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Sounds like payback to me!!
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Maybe they’ve been broken up for over 6 years ???
Guys always hate when the shit they do to us women is done to them, they cant handle it…
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Relationships are personal. You have to decide if you can find peace after forgiveness. Either way forgiveness will set you free. She is the one who has to leave with the choices she made as well as you.
You and her were together 20 years. You and her have a 10 year old together. You have a 6 year old as well. Soooo you were unfaithful first (or had him while on some sort of break at years ~13-15) and you’re hurt?! Brooo in this case it sounds like everything is coming full circle. Just break it off at this point.
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20 yrs and still just a girlfriend? Damn
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. I do not believe if people do it once, they won’t eventually do it again. You’ll always be questioning if she’s being faithful. I would find a better relationship where no one even thinks of cheating.
If you were together 20 years but only you have a 6 year old…you cheated first. Hi kettle, this is pot…you’re black. Karma a mf.
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Ummmm 20 year boyfriend/girlfriend? Y’all aren’t committed to each other anyway or you’d be husband/wife!!! Plus a 6 year old son… y’all just playin house evidently.
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You both need to give it up. The numbers dont stack up with ages of kids and relationship time. From the minimal information it seems this relationship isnt very stable and you are both going to continue to hurt each other. It’s a habit not love. Life is too short to play games.
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I stop reading after girlfriend and 20 years. 20 YEARS???
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How do “you” have a 6 yr old boy, if you been together with her for 20 yrs???
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You’ve been together 20 years but you have a 6yo that’s yours and not hers? How does that work?
Besides all that, if your done with the relationship don’t keep her on a string. Cut her lose and move out!
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What kind of relationship is this exactly? Been together 20 years and have a 10 year old but you have a 6 year old with another woman, you’re not married…I’m confused
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This is fake news. Exact same post on another site.
Quarter someone that cares
You cheated 6 years ago with her. She gave back what you did if I read this story.
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If u both want yo reconcile. Seek counseling. Read "mended " by rick n tiffany together.
Is he even getting any of these comments?
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Girlfriend for 20 years??? That’s why she cheated on you 
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Girlfriend for 20 years?! You deserve to be cheated on. Oh & let’s not forget to mention y’all have a 10 yr old & you have a 6 yr old🤔
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I’m confused. You’ve been together 20 years and you have a 6 yr old little boy?
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I tried it and we both went thru even more pain. You never forget and you always are wondering if it will happen again. It will never be the same. Move on, it’s hard but most times once a cheater cheats and gets away with it they will do it again and he did.
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If you were all she wanted for the rest of your life, she wouldn’t have cheated on you in the first place.
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Is this a serious question?
If you have a six your old with someone else and you been together 20 years sounds like you cheated on her AND knocked someone up. You deserved it. Lol
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Lmfao, is he kidding… Karma sucks don’t it… fucking moron
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Listen to your head. I don’t tolerate cheating at all. But that’s just me.
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Huhhh what a twisted relationship! Am I missing something here besides you having a 6 year old and y’all been together 20 years. Who cheated who first. Seems obvious who destroyed this relationship. Women will get back when they have been hurt. They say “you reap what you sow”
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Guessing you’ve cheated also (actually the one whom cheated first) as you have a 6 year old of your own and a ten year old with yourself also. Correct me if I’m wrong but the maths don’t add up
…you deserve everything you got & you two are absolutely perfect for one another” 
Something tells me that this is another gimmick to get this page suggested and spread over facebook. I’ve seen these same exact “fan questions” on other media.
Yeah no ring in 20yrs and a 6yr old not hers deserve what you got she deserves a happy life
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Cheating is a team sport. Reasons are the responsibility of both people in the relationship. Figure out why she cheated and then if you can truly take your share of the blame you may be able to get back some of the trust through understanding the why. Go slow and build together. You wouldn’t even be considering it if you didnt have some feelings for her still. Good luck my friend and have some fun together along the way.
Give up you are not meant to be together you both have cheated you both need to move on for these children develop or try a healthy relationship try to focus on these kids. You have wasted your time on each other honestly once a check always a cheat.
Love and trust, if you don’t have love and trust you’ll probably be in a weak waist of time relationship.
Soooo… What I’m reading is, you can dish it and bring home a now 6 year old souvenir but you can’t take it. Take your karma.
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I have a ask how did u get a whole 6 year old boy
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Sounds to me someone else cheated also y’all have a 10 year old plus you have a 6 year old ,hum why would you even blast her out when you have or are doing the same sounds to me like y’all just need to grow up and move a long . But just maybe you can’t handle her doing to you what you did to her .
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Why do men think it’s OKAY for them to cheat and it’s Normal? How did he get the 6 year baby boy if he didn’t cheat? 20 years with someone and still be called girlfriend not a Wife😯…this is a game…
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A thief never wants his things to be stolen 
do what she did, when you did it 
That’s all 
I’m confused. You’ve been together 20 years. Have one child together, but you have a six year old of your own. How did that happen if the child isn’t hers?
Karma is real bud…
So um cheating is just not worth ending a 20 yr relationship for. It hurts and trust is lost but it was just sex. If you cannot get over it then its over and she should respect your wishes. Ive been raped by an ex and to hear youre breaking it off over some side guy just seems real small to me.
Like i only say that to point out it could have been soooo much worse.
So you cheated too I’m guessing due to you having a boy who is 6
I think the best thing to do is forgive her and move forward with her since it seems as though you cheated on her first ,if you didn’t you would not have a six years old son, she continued with you on the journey why don’t you do the same and have a happy life together with the kids.
If you’re done, you’re done. No matter what she has to say or what she wants. She gave up that right when she cheated.
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Missing something… 6 yr old son. Did you separate at some point?
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You will never forget…
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Say she already gave up on us
Yea I’m confused on the 6 year old son part too
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20 YEARS:rofl: She didn’t owe you anything smh… Should have married that woman…
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Everyone deserves a second chance.20 years is a long time.
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I’m real confused on how you have been together for 20 years, yet you have a 6 year old son that doesn’t also belong to her. Was there a separation or how did that happen?
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She’s been your GF for 20 years? 
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No smh as far as I’m concerned that’s her breaking up with you in a nasty and childish way
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If u plan to forgive her you can’t keep bringing up the past if you are than move on
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but , you have a 6 yr old from someone else …hmmmm
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It’ll never be the same, don’t drag it out
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Tell her you’re done. You have a 6 year old and y’all been together 20 years? Sounds like you both have issues
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She gave up on you the moment she cheated. If you’re done, you’re done.
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If your done, your done.
But I will say 6 year old son, that doesn’t appear to be hers?
Did you separate at some point, or did you do the same thing to her? Something’s most definitely is missing.
So for now that’s my answer.
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So did you cheat and have a son with someone else if you don’t want to then don’t and either evict her or move out
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Ha…she gave up on you when she cheated…your kid is the only connection…if shes serious, tell her only if she has a threesome…you,her and she…,
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Y’all have been together for 20 years but you have a 6 year old son with someone else?
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You all are full of shit
If you have a 6 year old son that isn’t hers, then apparently she gave a 2nd chance, she deserves the same!
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I would give her another chance, I mean everyone messes up some times. Maybe after 20 years you should put a ring on it!!
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If you didnt also cheat at some point how do you have 6 year old that isn’t hers?
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You have a 6yr old & Have been together 20yrs? So did you cheat or did you’s take a break?
Either way! It doesn’t sound very healthy! Might be time to call it quits
Walk away. It sounds like she is gaslighting you and saying she isn’t going to leave you alone until you give her another chance is toxic.
None of what you said matters to this question except the last part. She wants to be with you, you don’t want to be with her. She is trying to force you to be with her anyway when you do not want to. If she were a man many people would call it abuse. It doesn’t matter how many kids you have or what you or she has done in the past. This won’t end well for either of you so put your foot down and get out.
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Who is the 6yr olds mom…doesnt sound like you were 100% to her eithrr
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Im glad I’m not the only one wondering how they have a 10 yr old daughter together and he has a 6 yr old son but she cheated on him.
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This post doesn’t jive.
Does everyone realize this could very well be a women typing this? They may have a 6 year old from adopting, sperm bank etc… or am I miss the MAN part?
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Looks like it’s time to walk away. You said it yourself “I keep telling her I don’t want to get back together”.
From someone who has been cheated on and tried to make it work- it will always be in the back of your mind. Oh they’re stuck in traffic on the way home (in your mind wonder if they’re actually stuck in traffic…).
You’re the only person who truly knows if you’re capable of forgive and forget. 20 years is hard to walk away from. But being in a relationship you just aren’t 100% invested in is harder. For the sake of everyone involved (children) unhappy homes are the worst. Bickering parents are the worst. Just know your limits and know kids don’t care if their parents are together, they care if they are happy.
You’ve been together for 20 years and yet you have a 6 year old that’s not hers, and YOU can’t forgive HER for cheating? This does not pass the smell test.
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Im with everyone else how do you have a 6 year old that doesn’t belong to her? Sounds sketchy to me did you park your bike in another garage
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So your 6 year old isn’t your son with her??? Sounds like you cheated first pal.
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Maybe she cheated because you’ve only kept her your girlfriend for 20 years…
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So because he has a 6year old son who dont seem to be hers he automatically cheated also? 
they 
could:clap:have:clap:seperated?
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I’m 100% convinced this is fake …
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You’ve been together for 20yrs and YOU have a six-year-old son… SO THE 6-YEAR-OLD ISN’T HERS? You obviously cheated first, get over yourself. two wrongs don’t make a right but you should be just as forgiving as she was.
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