I’d stop going over there.
I wish my grandma was around to see my kids. I have loads of fond memories and yes most was granny been a bit naughty and giving me pop, sweets & generally getting away with more than mum would allow. They aint around for ever. If you and hubby turned out ok then guess they did a goid job.
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Your got Your momma bear claws out ,and thats good ! Dont lett anyone to kiss babies face . Herpes on the face is very painful, and there are other contagious dieases that kill. No if Gram cant mind the rules ,no alone time and dont answere your door . (keep them locked). Great job Mom. God bless !
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When family didnt respect my parenting rules, they stopped being allowed to take my kids.
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Rules are rules. I totally understand. Especially with the kissing in the mouth. She needs to respect you NO MATTER WHAT.
I grown up with a grandmother who spoiled my brother to no end. Giving him everything he wanted when my parents said no. It’s caused problems. He knows he can get what he wants. It caused problems with him listening to my own parents. It’s HIGHLY disrespectful to undermine YOUR RULES WITH YOUR CHILD.
Spoil your grandchild by all means, but listen to rules. Spoiling does not mean to disrespect the rules and parents. There are soooo many way to spoil and still listen to your rules. My dad spoils my girls unconditionally in sooo many ways.
My MIL was the same disrespected what I said and wouldn’t listen. She had boundaries. It’s our child not hers. Kissing in the mouth with a child that’s not your own is just inappropriate.
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I am a great grandma and I do respect the parents wishes. The parents also respect the fact that I am a grown woman who has lived a long time and hopefully has gained enough wisdom to pick and choose battles in life worth fighting. Do not take your child there anymore! It will only be for a short time we don’t live forever. To be guite honest I would be relieved to not have to put up with your spoiled rottens attitudes that I may be partly responsible for. If you are a product of my grandmothering I would figure the child is bettr off not being around me.
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I don’t know what to tell you, other than pick your battles. I wish I could get my mom and grandmother to respect the decisions my husband and I make. My mom and grandmother fuss at me all the time, in front of my kids, all the time about all kinds of things. They get my little boy to tell mama that he wants a hair cut. He is three. (His Dad and I have agreed to let his hair be long and in a pony tail) They also say words and phrases around them that we have asked them not to say.
I grew up with grandma kisses, treats, fun summer days in the pool and so much love. My childhood wouldn’t of been the same if it wasn’t for my grandma. Let these kids be kids and experience love and fun with there extended family, noone lives forever and a little bit of treats etc is not going to kill them.
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i wish my babies had a grandma
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I wish I still had my grandmother and my mom. I would love for either one of them to have a grandma relationship with my grandbabies and spoil them just like I do. My babies are my world, I would never do anything that would hurt them and I’m sure grandma wouldn’t either. I mean I lived to be a half century and they never hurt me.
Grandparents aren’t around forever. They deserve to spoil the grandbabies and make memories while they’re here.
Thats what brandmas do kiss hug let loose mama kids will live they only have a grandma once i wishmy parents were aliveto see these 2 greatgrankids because they woyldkiss love hug andgive treats because graparentsdo that we have a pool in ourbackyard yes kids can only go if there is an adult down there now 4 adults so weare watchng i personaly will not take them bu myself but so ifshe thinks so lether you are just making rues to because you are selfish let her enioy the kids you make rules ar your house but gradma can give the some things and reach the too so what grandma gives them cookies is thatgoing to kilthe or she makes a special day is that going to really hurtroutine for life NOO be nice because one day theyare going to need her and shewill notbe there becausseyuare pushing her away
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Wow those things don’t sound like she’s breaking “rules” it sounds like you just want to be in control. What’s the point in going to see Grandma if it’s not to be loved on and making memories?? I was 24 when my Grandmother passed away and up to the last time I saw her I was still kissing her on the lips.
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If i were u i would not visit her or let her visit my until she can obey the rules u have 4 her and your so
I have learnt to be grateful you still have your grandmother. I just lost mine a month and half ago she pretty much raised me and only got to see my daughter 3 times and hold her once and she was born in December. Be nice and ask her to follow the rules but you will regret it if you stop going to see her and don’t let her around cause I regret it everyday for not taking my daughter to see her more or for her not coming to the house now she will never grow up to meet her great grandmother. I had got mad that she kissed her on top of the head and now I would do anything in my power if I could for her to kiss her cheeks and hold her but she never will get to again. Try to be nice and just keep reminding her of the rules.
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Remember it comes from love, so little the elderly can do with little people these days that was the way of life in their younger days. Remind them gently of the changes in acceptable contact. Be patient💋
Her house her rules if you don’t like it stay away
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You need to lay down the law with her. Respect you and your rules about YOUR kids or no visits until she can.
If she really loved you and your kids she would respect you. Disrespect is not love not matter the intentions. Put your foot down. Respect your rules or no visits until she does
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Well you could not go around her knowing she doesn’t follow your rules. Some may disagree with me here and I rightly don’t care, but most grandparents do wtf they want regardless of your rules and nothing you say is ever going to change that! Do you not kiss your children? Is this a covid issue or are you just a helicopter parent 
That behavior is teaching kids their parents aren’t the authority to listen to and show respect to. And needs to be nipped in the bud asap unless you want behavior issues later on. Just because she’s grandma doesn’t mean she can do whatever she wants. She can still show them love and spoil them without being disrespectful to the parents and ignoring their authority with their own children. My grandparents always showed me and my siblings love and did alot of stuff with us but respected my mother’s rules. The didn’t agree with everything she did but respected her decisions. If they are not comfortable with people kissing their children especially on the lips then you don’t. If they said no swimming there is probably a reason why. The children won’t learn respect or responsibility if someone always letting them do whatever they want and going against their parents.
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There are things called boundaries , and it sounds like you guys have set them and she doesn’t want to follow them , …
Now that being said !
You guys have to giver her a break ! She spoils him with kisses and the pool because she knows she isn’t going to be around much longer and she probably wants her great grandson to remember her as the fun great Gramma !
Let her be a Gramma !!!
She isn’t hurting him what so ever in anyway!! She literally just loves him to pieces!!!
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Grandmother’s were meant to spoil their grandchildren And yet is so true we are not here for ever we need to have special times with our grand kids so they can remember us when We are gone I love my granddaughter is with all my heart each and every one of them
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If you don’t like what she says or does, then just don’t bring your kid there. End of story
My dad’s family lived in Indiana as my mom’s family did also. We moved to Texas when I was around three I think. I did not know any of my grandparents. I barely knew my dad and mom. Left home when I was seventeen. I got to know my mom as I grew up some more and was blessed to find a good man and have beautiful children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. I love each one of them to the moon and back. I would never put them in harm’s way but I know your concerns too because I was a worrier when my kids were small. Give your grandmother a paper to put on her icebox that tells her what your child is not allowed to do at her house and ask her to please stick to the list. Explain to her why. She will refer to the list when they are there. Allow her to kiss on the cheek. The memories you make with your grandparents can never be replaced. Give them a little space for showing their love. Prayers.
No let her be fell blessed he has a grandparent that loves him that much…
For all the ones giving stay away comments …I feel sorry for them
Omgoodness…loosen up mama…she will not be around forever…you will feel horrid when she dies and your child does not have many memories of her loving on him…we cannot control others. Grandmas are supposed to absolutely spoil their grandkids…my MIL spoils my daughter rotten I hated it at first but I think I was a little jelly that I never had a grandma to dote on me…I have zero memories of any family loving on me at all…ever… let her love your kid. Your kid will not die. What happens at her home is ok. Kids have to learn grandma is a soft place to fall…its not a big deal. Not as big a deal as you’re making it out to be.
Relax a little and take a deep breath. You child will appreciate and adore the memories
Its not like shes a stranger or distant family. Shes older, like great grandmother older… Let het be. Keep an eye out during pool time and let her love him!
Don’t let her see him then. That’s the way to stop it.
Tell her if she doesn’t like it than to respect your rules, that is your child.
Your child , she needs to respect your wishes, or stop visiting it’s up to you
Yes take him away from her. Those are important rules…simple things like a treat here and there is fine for a grandmother. But those are big things she should respect!
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Look she is old and time is short this is her shining moment to spoil her grandkids a little and why wouldn’t you want her kissing him she obviously loves him very much and is just showing him so !Don’t deprive your son or her these moments.Once she is gone you will feel guilty.You should be happy she wants to spend time with him some of us aren’t that blessed and have to raise our children without extensive family members to care.
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If you continue to visit, do not take your child. Easier yet, don’t go-that way you don’t have to leave your child. If she can’t respect you/your child, don’t go.
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Stop visiting until she can respect your decision on these or any other rules you set forth…
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Then stop visiting her. Simple as that.
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You told him no pool, did you tell her? How old is he, is he your only child. I am great grandma now. I not only raised your parent, but probably helped raise you as well. We don’t intend to disrespect you. Just those little ones have us wrapped up. And they know it and we love it. Don’t take that away. Try something else.
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Good heavens. She is his great grandmother. Lighten up! It’s not like she’s letting him watch porno!
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My boys r lucky to have a great grandma. Great grandmas arw just crazy lol they pkay by their own rules. Some times you just gotta let them be unless they are harming your child cause they wont be around forever and they have lives their lives to get to spoil them grandbabies
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Great grandma!? Dang! You’re lucky. So is your son. Let her spoil him. If he doesn’t want the hugs and kisses let him tell her. You tell her if he doesn’t want the affection he will say no and she needs to respect that.
Omg give her a break no respect you wont have her around long. Im glad my kids let me love my grandchildren geez
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Keep your son away until she can respect your rules. You’re the parent, not her. She needs to know her place.
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Ehh… great grandma’s do that. They live for spoiling. I get your frustration but I would just appreciate the fact that she loves him so much and is healthy enough to spend time with him alone. Everyone is different though.
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Hes your kid. Speak up and correct her right in front of your son. Tell him mommy told you no so grandma should tell you no too.
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She is from a total differnet upbringing then you… I would tell her no kissing on the lips just bwcause of viruses infection ect… In today’s world… But cheeks forehead should be acceptable… I know we are all different… Does she hug and kiss you my granny did and i would love to have a mamaw kiss and hug… Many days… Here recently… Noe telling him he cant swim and then her letting you… I’m sure she would be more understanding if there was a valuiable reason behind it… Sit down and talk to her… Im sure you can come to an understanding
There is a saying “you love your grandchildren double your own children” Essentially grand parents will spoil your kids regardless of what you say - it seems to go with the territory. Even my daughter says she wants to visit so she can do whatever she wants there 
You have to let some go to the keeper but stand strong if its something you feel strong about and reinforce you said NO. You may endlessly do this however. If they tell you about your parenting style they dont like just tell them ‘thank you but your opinion is not welcome’.
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Yes that is perfectly okay for you to do. Speak up everytime it happens, “i told him no, no means no”. Your child, Your rules.
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I would be greatly bothered by the kissing on the lips if you have repeatedly asked her to stop, why does she want to keep kissing him on the lips? Grandparents or great grandparents or anyone do not get to just kiss or touch your child when you say no 
I do not have memories with any grandparents of mine and no i don’t feel like i’m missing out because i’m pretty sure the one or two memories i have my grandmother hated me.
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Remember she wont be around forever. I wish I lived closer to my great grandma so she could kiss and spoil her great great granddaughter, regardless let your child have that memory with her. I know I’ll probably get alot of hate but I dont care personally, wouldnt you want more memories with your great grandparents?
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Your child your rules as long as your making choice you feel are safest ans best for your child then it should be respected .
How old is he?? That might play a part in the pool part… I feel the same when it comes to kissing in the mouth… I’m ok with cheeks but again… It would be when he’s older and his immune system is strong, I won’t allow people to kiss my newborn on the face at all for a while and never on the mouth. 
Kiss in the lips I ain’t going. I dont even kiss my kids in the lips.
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I never let anyone kiss my kids on the lips either. If you don’t want him in the pool don’t take him there.
Why couldn’t he use the pool and why can’t grandma kiss her grandbaby?!? So sad.
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No advice but i also have trouble with my daughters great grandparents, it’s like the try to do exactly the opposite of what you ask.
I would keep correcting her.
Your child your rules
YOUR RULES SHOULD NOT BE FORCED UPON GRANDMA. it is grandparents right to spoil. She was capable of raising her children.
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Sounds like it’s time for a break from grandma. When she understands it’s YOUR son, YOUR rules, then visits can start up again. It’s mean, not fair to the child, but there is a reason why you say what you say to your child.
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My kids have their great grandpa. He doesn’t do things that cross the line. He’s the greatest man on this earth and I’d have a hard time telling him no. But he’s not that kind really. He’s 80 and not in best of health. I kiss his cheek every time I see him cause one day that embrace will in fact be gone. With covid we keep things safe for him. I would never tell him to not hug my kids or kids on the cheek.
I’m a grandmother. If my son told me there were specific things he didn’t want my grand daughter doing, I wouldn’t do them. Its HIS child. Grandparents need to respect the rules put into place.
So, until she can respect your wishes, she doesn’t need to see her grandkids.
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If you keep your child from his grandmother you will come to regret it when she is gone. Sounds like you need to have a serious talk with her but don’t deprive either other them of that special relationship. She will be gone before you know it.
I know it sounds harsh but I would not let her see him anymore until she can start learning to respect you and your rules. Cause it sounds to me like she has no respect.
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I no it must be really hard to tell your grandmother not to kiss your baby. I mo it is for me, however mine after a chat will now just his the back of his head or around his ears and hug him a lot. If she cant respect your rules I would make it a point of not going around until she can
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my grandfather has always and will always respect me as a woman and as a mother to my children (his great grandchildren) get rude and tlel her she doesnt listen one more time she can come to you to see him from now on💁💁
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Most grandparents look forward to things like letting the kids swim and other privileges the parents can’t provide so the swimming maybe a disappointment to both child and grandparents. As far as kissing on the mouth it was very common when I was young and it could be the grandparents don’t realize customs have changed. I suggest a honest discussion could solve this problem
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Lighten up!! She loves him! WOW! P.S. I’m a grandma and I’d be so hurt by your “rules”!
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It’s frustrating when someone disregards your rules, but as long as it isn’t anything dangerous I try to be understanding. I understand grandparents get to be the fun ones. I had a grandma who let me stay up late and who bought me way too many toys, and those are some of my best memories. However, I draw the line at anything dangerous, such as riding without a carseat. That’s when I have to let them know that we love spending time, but we have to trust that they’re doing things with safety in mind.
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If you can’t follow our rules as parents, you lose the privilege of seeing our children. 
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You better let grandma kiss her great grandbaby and let her spoil them…hell of your so good at informing rules…make a rule that they are only spoiled at great grandma’s…jeez you sound like one of those dang drill Sargent’s that don’t allow any rules to be broken.
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If they can’t do things your way, don’t let them see him. That’s the rules with my kids🤷
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I have so many great memories with my grandparents and never did my mom tell her mother what she could or couldn’t do when we visited them especially since I only saw them once a year.
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My only memories of my great grandmother were running straight into her room, she’d give us an empty vegemite lid and fill it with 2 of every colour M&M then she would give us a back scratch with her back scratcher.
My 2yr old twin boys just got back from their great aunty’s where they were allowed to roast marshmallows over a fire all night and stay up til 9pm running around in the rain with their rain coats and welly boots on with their cousins. Do I let them do any of that at home? Hell no. But every now and again its okay to break the rules so they can create memories with their loved ones.
I’d never alienate my children from their extended family unless those relationships were harmful to my children.
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Do you have a problem with her? Is she a danger to them?
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Don’t follow my rules and you don’t get the time with them.
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no grandma absolutely
Can’t follow ur rules, can’t see him 🤷
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Don’t take him over there 
The only memory I have of my dad’s mother so my grandma on my dads side was. Ok so she lived in texas we lived in Missouri we didn’t see her much and she passed from cancer when I was young. An my mom got me and my brother some water balloons. When we got there we just wanted to do water balloons. I was upset mom said no…the only vivid memory I have of her was her pointing in the kitchen and telling us to go fill them up…thats the one and only memory of my grandmother I own…an the overwhelming joy I felt when she told us to go fill them up was priceless…an how something so small created this one and only memory just for me…i know how it feels to feel underminded and feel like if my kids don’t get their way then they just run to grandmas and do it anyway…it hurts our feelings more than the actual thing itself…ive learned in my short years of being a mom that my job title is much much different from grandmas job title. Grandma isnt the mom grandma is their fun place. Grandma is where they have freedom to do things they want more openly. An ive chose to have a mindset of if grandma lets you at her house fine. Not at home tho. At home its my way…theres still things that are gonna pester you either way. But what a short time they have their grandchildren …such a short time…i think about my grandparents and how fast they were gone with little to no time to even know them. Most memories won’t imprint on you. Most will be lost to young age. An I know that from my own grand parents…its easy to be mad…its harder to have reason with this. See the bigger picture. The short years they have…the memories they can have if you bend the rules a little…had grandma listened to my mom I would never have this memory of her. My only one…something so small and harmless…learn to let the little stuff go. An remember that grandma and mom are two totally different titles an we all need some room to hold our titles…2 years ago I would have been all over this. Now I see things a bit differently. They dont mean no harm with little things like this. All they see is the smile it brings. An the happiness they feel when they see it. An we should try to see that as mothers instead of feeling like its an attack towards us…i used to feel that way too until I realized how very short life is. Everybody needs understanding but when it comes to play. Or just one cookie before supper or just the smallest bits of happiness they try to bring to your child. Cherish it. That could he the only memory they keep with them.
Everybody is making attack on grandpas and grandmas like they never had a great rule bending time with their own grand parents. Let your kids live a little with them. Don’t please don’t always think its a kick at you…its not…its harmless innocent happiness. An one day you will all be grandparents…keep that in mind before your too hard on them.
We have got to learn to be less offended an more understanding.
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I had the same feeling with my daughter when my aunt (who is like a mother to me) ignored my rules, didn’t ask if I was okay with anything etc. but I learned to let go. There are some things we need to let go because in the end our child will still be safe and happy. I’d give a hard NO on the pool thing though. Communicate with her and tell her if she can’t respect your hard no’s then she can’t be around/ spend alone time with your child. You’re entitled to your boundaries but you have to follow through on the punishment for those who ignore them.
Be thankful there Is A Grandparent. Who Loves and Cares. Or are you only going to love on their deathbed…
I always leave great-grandma alone. I cherish my grandma and my daughter is lucky to have her still alive. She’s 83, could be here today and gone tomorrow so I choose my battles lol
Grandma isn’t going to be there forever, your child is so lucky to have a chance to be loved by a great grand parent. As a parent it is your responsibility to enforce your boundaries, and the child’s (and apparently the grandma’s) job to challenge them .
DONT BE A BITCH she is his great grandmother … did she not kiss on you and let you do things that your mother didn’t want you to do … get the fuck over it and let her enjoy the time she has left on this earth with her great grand baby … sorry not sorry but thats what grand parents do … my son will tell his son his a grandmas boy … all his kids are and yes my house my rules… i over ride what mom and dad says when there with me or at my house to a point depending on what they say and all of my kids now this … you can’t handle it then don’t let your son have any memories of her
Great-grandparents don’t often get to meet or have their great-grand kids grow up around them… this is a special time for both of them and a memory your child will hang on to once they pass. If it is that important to you that she respects these rules, then don’t visit, but just know once the time comes, you and your child will wish you had more time to make memories with her.
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Ive always been by my grandparents but I remember my parents always having rules that my grandparents had to respect and I’m the same way. Just because shes a grandparent doesn’t give her a freebie, its YOUR kid. Let her know to be respectful of your rules with your child or she’s done being alone with him. You should be able to trust her with your kid.
Ive always been by my grandparents but I remember my parents always having rules that my grandparents had to respect and I’m the same way. Just because shes a grandparent doesn’t give her a freebie, its YOUR kid. Let her know to be respectful of your rules with your child or she’s done being alone with him. You should be able to trust her with your kid.
It just boils down to respect. Grandma can love the crap out of your children but she can show it in ways that respect your wishes. You as your childs parent make the rules regarding your child and any respectful loving grandma would be all to happy to go along with what you have set out concerning them.
Respect parents rules or it’s a no go. Been thru that my whole life, if the grandparents don’t respect your rules it only teaches the kid to no respect you.
First of all… COVID anyone? Let’s keep the kissing to ourselves for now. Second, how old is this child? Can he safely swim alone? And since I’m guessing probably not, is great-grandma gonna jump in and save him if he’s in danger? It was a rule for a reason. Have a talk with G-grandma or limit the interactions. It’s up to you as a parent to lay down the rules and enforce them even if you have to be a bad guy and say to the kid, “I’m sorry, I said no pool today.” Or, “Grandma, don’t kiss him on the face please.” Or instruct your child to turn their head away. You do what you have to to make sure your rules are enforced.
I would distance your son from her and when she asks why explain it again. I have this issue with people giving my kids candy and soda or letting them spend to much time on tablets. Its aggravating.
Like none of you had grandparents who spoiled you, let you stay up late, eat sweets and generally have more freedom and less rules than at home? And kissing on the lips is very common with older generations, but our “modern” society has turned it into something perverted or dirty. Relax, let your children have fun at Grandma’s. And let Grandma have fun spoiling them. As long as it’s nothing dangerous, what’s it going to hurt? And to all of you replying to keep the children away, shame on you! Are you really that desperate to show you’re the boss that you would deny the deep love and precious time spent together?
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