My husband and I want a threesome

Me and my husband want to do a threesome we both agreed and it’ll only be like a one time thing, have any of you have done it before? And how did you find the other girl? We want to do it with someone we both don’t know. What are the apps or sites you would recommenrd?

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband and I want a threesome

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If you’re only wanting “one time” I wouldn’t do it. NO. NOPE. UH UH. It never happens that way. On the finding someone you don’t know aspect, how would you trust them anymore than someone you do know? At least someone you do know may be someone you know it’s clean(STD wise), hygiene wise, everything.

My experience from when I was(well to young)… I dated a guy older than me for several years. We had a 3-some with a friends, best friend. So we knew-ish her. They are married with a child now and have been together for over 10 years. I’d say don’t do it, unless you’re planning on living that swinger life style and want to continue it. But how do you know you want to continue? You just don’t. Just don’t do it. Save your time, your relationship, all of it.

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Everybody needs to get tested before you lay down with whoever you pick. It’s normally not a one time thing because someone always gets attached and enjoys having threesomes in the relationship and will constantly want to do it.

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I did it q lot with my ex husband but it kinda just happened randomly. Or at swinger parties we would meet woman

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Nope 🙅🏻
It always ruins things

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Yes try the Attorney’s Referral Service, that way at least one of you will already be lawyered up when your marriage implodes because of it

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Um… do not do that.

Everyone I personally know that has had one is now divorced or single.

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The “MeetMe” app has a lot of people looking for a third wheel. Like you won’t believe how many people ask you straight forward. No judgement though.usually everyone’s blunt and honest on what their looking for. :slightly_smiling_face:

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There’s a website called FetLife.

Also y’all are some judgy mfs

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I see it all the time on Tinder.

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Lordddd during covid?! Lol

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Tinder maybe? I had threesomes with friends and :joy: Not okay I’ve had a few different ones and the one relationship where I dated the guy, he ended up leaving me for that girl :joy: So, do it at you’re own risk, but we both promised eachother the same things you did.

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As a woman who did this during a 10 year and 2+ children relationship (the 3rd child being an odd situation)… I will say, proceed with caution. Best of luck. If it feels right, do it. If it doesn’t (regardless of pressure or duty) don’t.

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Not another guy ? This for you or him ?:woman_facepalming:t5:

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I’ve done a few. First time it was a chic from his past that he knew was bi. I met a couple through meetme years ago and we still hookup every so often.

Good luck… Its like finding a Unicorn… Hence why single females are called that in the Lifestyle.

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Fetlife, fling, swinglifestyle lots of vetting and communication before you do, and please understand yyou both need to have an open mind and set rules best of luck to you both❤, and on another note some of you are judgy as hell just because you live under a rock dosent mean everyone wants to live your boring ass vanilla life.

one time thing?..it never stays that way…it takes very mature and secure couple to play that game…in the end someone ALWAYS ends up left and hurt…you can intellectually think you can handle it…but once it happens it all changes because you didnt factor in unknown feelings and changes that will arise

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There’s a lot of swingers club, y’all might get lucky there

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We tried it… the fantasy in my brain was much better

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One condition if it’s for him for a woman do another for you with a man… unless you’re into women. :thinking:

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There’s a few risks involved if you’re going to do that. STI’s, STD’s, Covid, relationship break up

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Remember to talk about what is ok and what is not ok with each other first. Set ground rules and like everyone else has said proceed with caution best of luck in the future :wink:

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Girl don’t do it he might cheat on you behind your back with her

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Wanna marry this guy dont do it dont see a future with this guy go for it. Make this decision wisely.

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Why are all of you telling her not to do it??? She literally said they both wanted to she wasn’t asking any of y’all’s permission!

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Have y’all found her yet ? :upside_down_face:

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Not my business but since you are asking, I’ll just say that I guess you both are not looking to be married to each other in the future… If you both want excitement, find it within your marriage…

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Hiring s3x workers needs to be normalised for couples wanting threesomes! Would make it 10x easier for you guys to actually find someone too.

It comes with its flaws, but if yall must…set ground rules and respect one another… good luck most relationships don’t last doing those things… someone always catches feelings

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Y’all are being so dang judgey. She didn’t ask you if she could and by the sounds of it they have laid ground rules. Not your relationship not your worry

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Ohhh not something you should be doing while in a relationship or marriage, it won’t end good. Wanna play the game stay single… no marriage or relationship is worth ruining it over a play date

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Seekingarrangement.com

  1. The biggest thing with adding a new person is safety(stds, birth control etc) . There has to be some level of communication with the person (I.e boundaries, rules,getting tested etc).
  2. What you are looking for, Anonymous, clean, one time, that you’re both attracted to is referred to as a Unicorn.
  3. You can try apps, but that’s going to be very hot or miss. But you’ll run into a lot more “no” than curiosity. There are such things as like swinger clubs but about 90% of those are couples and not single women. KIK has groups that are more geared toward poly but it’ll be the same amount of luck as swinger clubs.
  4. Be 100% sure and secure with y’all’s relationship first before venturing into that realm. Communicate and FULLY discuss boundaries, rules, dos and dont’s(where do you finish, is a specific hole off limits) etc.
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Set clear boundaries!!! That’s all the advice I have though lol

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Bad idea. Period. You’ll both end up.feeling some type of way. You jealous and him craving more of the same thing. Unless you are both very mature and able to deal with seeing your SO fuck someone else. I would kindly say pass. This notion ruins so many relationships. It seems fun. Yeah. And it is in the moment. But the aftermath is unruly. Just dont.

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Broke up a marriage of someone I know

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Bumble! So much fun!

Hun if you really love him don’t do it .if he’s just s boy toy then by all means go a head .but trust me it will ruin your relationship

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Big mistake. Unless you are for certain 1000 million percent that you are in a strong stable uncrackable relationship I wouldn’t do it.

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Why bother getting married.

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Tons of websites out there. Fetlife. Swingstyle. Swingerzonecentral. Even plentyoffish. Or hell, you may even find a hookup at a random bar. Communication is very key in this. Set rules and stick to them for both of you. Talk about later. Likes and dislikes. Maybe get a guy for you down the road.

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I wouldn’t do it… when you do three somes than expect more. And it can cause arguments and more…

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Probably won’t be husband and wife for long.

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Can you make like a tinder and explain that’s what you’re looking for?

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Don’t do it!! Even if your okay with it, it will break your bond!!

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Kik, sls, 3fun, fetlife all good sites. Kasidie and more. Don’t listen to the haters. Communication is key. Good luck.

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Do a 3some with 2 dudes.

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Do it with someone you 110% trust. :woman_shrugging:t2:

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DONT, the relationship will NEVER be the same.

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A friend of mine and her husband did this… they both regretted it.

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She didn’t ask you for permission many couples are in the swinging lifestyle happily married just bc you don’t want to do it don’t mean they can’t.

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Never do this in your own home. That’s a private space. Don’t use your real names. Do not exchange contact info with the third person.

My husband have talked about doing this while on vacation and came up with aliases.

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I done one. It was kind of boring. But maybe that’s because I’m not into females.

Dont do it,just dont do it.

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You should find a sex worker. That way you get a professional level experience without worry. Don’t be cheap either go all out. Make sure you get references and share recent test results and all that jazz. Plus then you’ll have someone that knows A LOT of tricks and tips.

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I see some have listed the sites I was going to. If you and your husband have a healthy relationship and have set clear boundaries, there won’t be anything that goes wrong. Don’t listen to all the people saying don’t do it. Just because they had a bad experience, doesn’t mean you and your husband will.

Also make sure there is transparency with the person you are bringing in. People live different life styles. You don’t want her/him coming in thinking she/he is a part of the relationship. Make it clear it’s a one time thing but make sure to make the party comfortable for the night. Start with conversation, maybe a cocktail and a card game or something. Don’t treat them just like they are less than human

Why would you put something like this on FB? Your sex life should be private because it’s the only thing you two have together that no one else can share. Maybe you should reference the Bible with your ridiculous question.

Sista girl
Don’t do it
It may seem like a fun experience
But it may come with risks
Such as secret booty calls and
Stds

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Why am I even seeing this post.

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I actually don’t recommend… I was the girl used and it got all jealousy and I lost friends. I guess if you’re using someone you don’t know, it maybe ok, but be prepared for things to go on secretly :woman_shrugging:t3:

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Nope, wasn’t for me, never was asked to…

I’ve done it…doesn’t work there are websites for swingers …it almost ruined my marriage…and most of the women do it because the men want them to…google swingers websites…but I caution you…it could get emotional and you never know if you start developing feeling for someone else…not a good idea…

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I’m so done with this f-ed up page. It’s so ridiculously stupid, every single post is just laughable. Where do you get these people?

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I have a few friends that have open relationships and it works for them. Your relationship, communication and trust definently needs to be strong and probably best to go through an escort as they’d know what needs to be communicated before you take that step.

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A sex worker would probably be great. Also, don’t be unicorn hunters.

Why not a foursome??? :eggplant::honey_pot:

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Ya, boy, that would be GREAT for your marriage. Are you freakin kidding me? :joy::joy::joy::joy::joy::joy:

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We had one with another man that I know and my husband and him played darts and bet on what piece of clothing to come off of me based off of who won they picked. They had fun and it eased the tension. To find a woman has been harder for us and we haven’t found one yet.

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My husband and I did it and our relationship is just fine and honestly stronger than before. Just communicate.

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My husband and i used to talk about doing it with another guy or a girl but we decided not to because he said it be fine at first but he would not be able to go through with it because he couldnt share me with someone else.

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Don’t listen to all the judgey people. You can absolutely do this if the relationship is strong enough. My husband and I have been married 10years. We had one back before we were even engaged. A 1 time thing. Didn’t change anything.
If you communicate and love and respect each other go for it! Have fun! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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3fun is a good app and I totally say do it ! Choose wisely and don’t just jump at the first person and don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t happen right away they call them unicorns for a reason definitely looking into swinger sites and parties as well

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Do not defile your bed & Vows You all should’ve done that before

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My mom joined a married couple once…She’s now dating the husband, he ended up dumping his wife for her. :grimacing:

I wouldn’t personally do it - After listening to my mom say “she shouldn’t have invited another women into her bed. It’s her own fault.”
Seeing it from the “person invited ins” point of view, ruined any ideas of ever doing it in my relationship.
(Yes, I told my mom she was awful)

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One of my friends acquiesced to her husband’s request and she liked it enough she decided she was Bisexual! They had an open marriage that worked for them I guess, but if you have kids, make sure the don’t know what’s going on at least until they’re grown.

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Madylann Atkinson Bowers you really just in the mood to argue with strangers on the internet huh?:rofl:

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Don’t do it… I’ve done it with 3 of my relationships and it essentially ruined them… I know it sounds fun but don’t

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Oh how fun :blush:… Me and my husband said it was going to be a one time thing, we had such a great time we have done it a few more times. Our marriage is stronger than ever lots of communication. We always rent a room never at our home. Girl I say go for it if that’s what u and ur husband both want have fun!!!

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My husband and I want a divorce, that’s where we’re headed with a clear mind, later on we’ll cry about our stupid decision, but for now, we just choose to be stupid…. …………

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I seen an ad on fb dating

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So long as it’s for the right reasons and not to “save” anything or spice things up because y’all are bored.

There can also be a lot of feelings that can come up even if y’all think you’re okay with it. Make sure you own your feelings and can talk about it openly. Own your own insecurities and try to figure out the deeper level of where they come from. Etc etc etc.

Overall it can be a great bonding and deeper intimate time with your partner emotionally and physically… and personal growth as well as growth within the relationship.

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Fetlife, meetme, tinder, whisper, or even your local bar just be careful who you bring home and make sure you and your husband go over rules and then go over them with her make sure everyone is on the same page. My biggest advice on this is rent a hotel room for the night instead of opening up your home:) goo luck and have fun

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Seems like a bad idea. One of you isnt gonna be happy doing one and done. Someone is gonna get hurt feelings.

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Bad idea a family member did the same thing they ended up breaking up and getting with each other and now divorced

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Try Reddit. You can find lots of people with similar interests and it can all be anonymous until you’re ready for it not to be

She’s literally just asking people who have had a threesome before, how they went about arranging it. And y’all are judging and dragging tf out of it with all your irrelevant opinions. :roll_eyes:

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Don’t open that can of worms will create a monster :woman_shrugging:

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Why do it just one time tho

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When me and my ex did it first thing we agreed no feelings attached and I would find the other person I asked would it matter what she look like and blah he said he didn’t care so I found some one we did not get tested but we did use protection and it was really fun and I would definitely do it again just so sad I moved all the way the other side of the us if I didn’t move we would probably still be together and our relationship was almost perfect but to each it’s own

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Dark Twitter. Go for it.

3 is a crowd and once never ends at once… if you value your marriage, do not do it… anything can happen, and I’m assuming this would be female, correct… ask your husband for a three one with a male and see what his response is… bet he would bo longer be interested…

Allowing someone else into your bedroom opens so many opportunities for description… your husband could take greater interest or third party, or you could, but a wedge between the two of you OR the person you chose could take great interest in one of you and reek havoc in your marriage… your curiosity of a threes one will turn into a life time movie. The person you pick could behave in so many ways following the event and cause so many unforeseen issues… Highly highly do not recommend.

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Where you at hit me up :wink:

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The girls need to be the decision makers and everyone needs boundaries. I’ve seen a lot of hurt feelings happen unexpectedly. Remember to be gentle and have fun!

Not a good idea. My sister in law did that to make her husband happy… swore it be a one time thing. After that he cheated on her. Don’t open Pandora’s box. Marriage is sacred.

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Molly Marie Sterling😂

Please don’t defile your marital bed. Your marriage will be destroyed.

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Ummm, I don’t think this is that kind of group. Lol

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