May I ask what you did for him to feel so insecure or if you even really did anything? Did you cheat on him or something? Maybe you need to leave for a while to give yourself a mental break and just take care of you. I also suggest getting into some form of therapy to kind of help guide you though your feelings.
Only speak to him about the kids. If he tries about anything else. Say youre right but i cant change the past so im done talking about it. Basically the principle is its hard to argue if you just agree with him. Heโs the type that it doesnโt matter what you say anyway he just wants to blame you and fight with you.
Youโre separated for a reason. I would move forward with divorce and tell him to stay away.
Get a divorce and tell this lunatic to go straight to hell. This is ridiculous.
He is manipulating you, the only thing you should be talking about is the children. Unfollow his social media, block him on yours. Do not comment on the shit he posts. These are all narcissistic mannerisms. Cut him off, only the children are important.
Tell him to grow up and start pulling his weight or youโre outta there!
The past is the past and canโt be changed. Dredging it up all the time only causes more damage and hurt feelings. If youโre truly done then cut the ties and keep your contact kid related only. Block all the social media crap and move on. Iโd make the separation legal and binding or get a divorce so you can really move on. Stepping backwards would be the same as staying in that rut in the first place or maybe even worse. He sounds like he is tethering between fantasy and reality with is bipolar sounding actions. He may even be dangerous. Close the door that youโre allowing him to keep his foot it
Look up what gaslighting means.
And look up what โcovert narcissitโ mean. Youโll have answers and hopefully some peace
Well one of you needs to be the grown up and get past whatever your issues are and focus on what is important and thatโs the kids. Tell him sorry for whatever if you and if not, tell him bye and get on with life without him.
Get out of there now! Run, donโt walk.
Sounds to me like heโs a narcissist and is gas lighting you constantly. You canโt fix someone else. They have to want to work on themselves. You canโt help someone that doesnโt really want to be helped. Sounds to me like he doesnโt want your help, he just wants to make you feel bad. Know your worth. If it doesnโt pertain to your children, if they are minors, cut him off and ignore him. If your children are grown, completely cut him off for your own personal growth to occur. Stop letting that man control you. Best advice i can give is, itโs none of your business what others think if you. You know who you are and what youโre doing. Theyโre gonna talk no matter what you do. Prayers
๐จ ๐บ๐ ๐๐พ๐๐ ๐๐บ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐บ๐๐, ๐๐๐พ๐ ๐บ๐๐พ ๐๐๐พ ๐ป๐พ๐๐ ๐๐ฟ ๐บ๐
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He is manipulating you through guilt. Constant control He may only speak to you about the children. No more groveling. Canโt change the past. He has one too. Not w counseling to improve your self confidence. Heโs holding you back
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๐จ ๐๐๐๐พ๐๐๐
๐ ๐๐บ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐บ๐๐๐๐พ๐ผ๐๐บ๐๐พ ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฏ๐บ๐๐
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๐๐ฟ๐พ ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐ฟ๐บ๐๐๐
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๐ฌ๐บ๐ฝ๐๐๐, ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐พ๐
๐๐๐๐ ๐๐พ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐บ๐ฝ๐พ
๐๐๐ ๐ผ๐บ๐ ๐บ๐
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He sounds like a narcissistโฆ look into it. Get counseling. Cut ties block as much as possible.
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๐พ๐๐๐โฆ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ ๐ฅ๐บ๐ผ๐พ๐ป๐๐๐ ๐
๐๐๐ ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐พ ๐๐๐ฟ๐
๐๐๐, ๐จ ๐๐๐
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๐๐บ๐๐ ๐๐พ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐ ๐บ๐ป๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐บ๐๐, ๐๐๐พ๐ ๐บ๐๐พ ๐๐๐ผ๐ ๐บ ๐๐๐๐ฝ๐พ๐๐ฟ๐๐
๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐บ ๐๐๐๐ฝ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐บ๐๐, ๐จ ๐๐พ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐๐พ๐๐๐
๐พ ๐๐พ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐๐๐๐ ๐บ๐ป๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ๐ ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐จ ๐ฝ๐พ๐ผ๐๐ฝ๐พ๐ฝ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐๐๐๐ผ๐พ ๐๐๐พ๐ ๐จ ๐๐บ๐๐พ ๐ป๐พ๐พ๐ ๐๐บ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ฝ ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ๐. ๐จ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐พ๐ผ๐พ๐๐๐พ๐ฝ ๐๐ ๐๐พ๐ผ๐๐๐ฝ ๐๐๐๐๐ฝ๐๐บ๐๐บ๐
๐ฟ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ๐ ๐๐๐ผ๐ผ๐พ๐๐๐ฟ๐๐
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๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐บ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐พ. ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ผ๐บ๐ ๐๐๐บ๐๐ ๐๐บ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐๐ ๐บ๐ ๐๐๐๐พ.
๐๐๐บ๐โ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐
๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐บ๐ผ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐พ ๐๐๐ฟ๐๐๐๐บ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐บ๐ผ๐พ๐ป๐๐๐
๐๐ป๐๐ฒ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐๐ฝ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฎ ๐น๐ฒ๐ด๐ถ๐ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ. ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ป ๐ฒ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต ๐บ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐น๐ฒ๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ถ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐๐๐ณ๐๐น๐น๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ณ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐ต๐ถ๐บ ๐ฝ๐น๐ฎ๐๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐บ ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ผ๐น ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐น๐ฎ๐ ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ณ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฐ๐๐น๐๐. ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ ๐ต๐ถ๐บ ๐ป๐ผ๐
I feel so much of this! My ex did alot of this gaslighting ridiculousness!!! You are strong and amazing and worthy of love (your own) move forward and stay strong!
Get a divorce. Block him on social media and only communicate about your children.
Every time he brings it up just tell him that was in the past, and youโre not living there anymore. You canโt erase the past, but you CAN stop living there. Did your actions hurt him, probably, but you canโt force him to hurry up and get over it any more than you can make him forget it. Iโd tell him, he can choose to live in the past, or he can start moving on towards the future. If you dont want to be with him, then divorce and be done. Donโt keep blurring the lines between separation and marriage. Maybe thatโs the reason he keeps bringing it up. To use your guilt to manipulate you into feeling so bad about yourself and your choices, that you second guess yourself and lower your relationship expectations. Toxic is still toxic. Draw boundaries and be a hard ass on them. Itโs what you both need to grow individually, and eventually move on and forward.
divorce him. he needs help
He will never let you both move on, better you can move on with your life and starting over all of this you do not deserve the rest of your lifeโฆ
Sounds like you both maybe should try marital counseling if you want to save it. Sometimes that helps to make you both aware of how each other feels.
Ummm it takes two and I donโt know your story donโt need too , itโs never just one sided there is plenty of blame to go around donโt take it all on yourself he owns half of it , for whatever reason you did what you did or didnโt do start with something he did or didnโt do
Divorce and take charge of your life. Change your password on fb and turnoff notifications. Tell the kids your feelings for him have changed and that maybe you were too young to marry but you had a great life with him and have wonderful children because of it. Tell them you hope he finds someone new and lovely. Just remember he wont stop his bull he will do what he can to hurt you. Ive been divorced for 12 years now and he used my son against me until i played his game then he showed no interest anymore. Its dominance so just step back and let him take the lead until he gets sick of playing.
Simple just quit talking to him ever!
How about you get rid of him and admin for this group get rid if of these blood sucking idiots that keep leeching onto this group with their money making crap comments
Unfortunately you need to go to court and establish boundaries on communication or he probably wonโt stop. For the time being, donโt argue with him, just say โokayโ to whatever he blames you for and let him think heโs winning and you can keep some peace for yourself. Your kids may not understand now but they will eventually see why you and him didnโt work out
No comment. Enough said.
Narcissists will beat you over the head with something, because they project their feelings onto you. Life is too short to be unhappy. You already know that together it canโt work,so your only option is to cut ties to him so you can move on. You can work out a way for him to be with the kids,but he doesnโt need to be with you.
Your wish to disappear from your family show the sign that u r suffering from depression , seek medical help and for the rest of story those who critiscize u are ones who do less than u atleast I found this true.
What a narcissistic jerk. First. Let it go and let him go toโฆ Hades. Heโs trying to control you. Donโt let him. Ignore him and his untrue, nasty, comments. Counseling could help. A divorce would be better. Keep telling yourselfโฆ he doesnโt love you. If he did, he would show it. He clearly HAS NOT
Google โgaslightingโ. Read the definition carefully. Find a good therapist. Heal. Remember that your kids are learning from you two how their romantic relationships should be and how men and women should behave in relationships.