Hey I’m not the type to really post questions here but I’m extremely confused on what I should do, I am a young mom who has been with the father of my kid since we were in middle school and got married a little before my child was born, during the pregnancy I did all the housework and cooking while my husband is at work… but now that my child is 9 months I started working and going to school during the day, my husband is on paternity leave, so he’s staying at home and doing one hour of school a day… and I get home around 7 every day… while my mom watches my kid all day, when we get back I bathe her and clean and cook but I’m tired sometimes and it kind of bothers me that my husband doesn’t take part of anything and when I mention it he calls me a bitch and tells me I’m crazy and shouldn’t complain since it’s my job if he ever has to watch or child he complains and tells me he’s tired too… Am I crazy or overreacting?! Also he will charge me for the babies diapers and everything I eat as well as anything that he considers “my spends” it kind of bothers me as well since I already pay most of the bills… I don’t know I just really don’t want to overreact pls help.
Leave his ass now run and go far far away
Pack you and the kid up and get out.
You don’t have a husband, you have a little bitch.
Forget that dude. Its a partnership or nothing at all. Run girl run
You’re not overreacting
He needs a reality check and quick. I would have been out the door the first time my childrens father charged me for anything…do you really want a grown child the rest of your life? Because that’s what he is…not too mention selfish and cruel. Leave and file for child supoort so his lazy ass has to actually get a job. Just reading this made me furious. I couldn’t imagine actually choosing to be with a person like this.
Do the same to him and see how he wont like it either. If he cant handle it then he can kick rocks.
You aren’t over reacting
He is being horrible
Your “husband” is a controlling piece of shit.
Take the kid. Go to your moms and get him for child support. This is not a healthy relationship.
What a jerk. Do what you want but I’d leave him. Im the mother of one not two.
Run as fast as you can .you both created that baby he should help
U need to get out of that situation no husband should charge u for looking after his child he is to controlling
Sounds like the idiot is fucking lazy and needs to be dumped. It’s called a “team” and if anyone should be charged for anything it should be him since he isn’t “working” so I’m just saying he’s a dick
You’re only crazy if you keep tolerating that mess.
First of all you didnt marry a man ! What he is doing is being a lazy immature child. Lay it on the line if he doesnt start helping now he never will! If you are ok with verbal abuse then stay with him
Do you have an cast iron skillet? If you do smack him upside his damned head with it until he gets it.
Throw his ass out!!!
Get rid of him you will be better off
The ANSWER IS RIGHT IN YOUR FACE!!! WHAT IS Sup!!! GTFO of There, He’s a PUNK!!!
I’m sorry what. So your mom watches the baby while he does to school for one hour a day and he’s tired to help out? Plus he charges you for the babies diapers.
Leave.
Absolutely not, pack his shit girl. Then charge him for diapers in the form of child support.
Those are some serious signs of abuse. Whatever you do, do it for your baby.
So… let’s say you couldn’t pay him for the diapers and food. Would you both just have to go without? Do you charge him for cleaning and cooking service? What he is doing is abusive. Please try to seek counseling.
Fuck that and fuck him!! That’s not a MAN hes a child.
If I were you, I would leave his ungrateful ass. You deserve better. You are a hard working momma and you don’t deserve to be treated like that
Charge his ass for his parts of the bills!
Yeah I’d be saying bye bye
What an asshole. Time to move on
Kick his ass to the curb!! His a useless excuse for a husband and father
Throw away the whole man
Run…U be stupid to put up with that
Sorry I usually dont tell people to walk away but I would not walk but RUN from this guy. That is not a husband partner father that is an arrogant asshole
RUN!!!
Sounds like he’s a little bitch, who thinks watching his child is babysitting… UM no!!! Also bills should be split and who TF charges their spouse to change their child’s diaper?? I’d save $ get a divorce and put his on support. Know your worth and don’t ever let anyone put you down or take advantage of you.
You need to leave NOW.
I wouldn’t put up with that insanity. Sounds like you have a good partner in your mother. Leave. And tell him to figure out how to be a helper and partner and you can try again. Kids and marriage are 50/50 100%
WTF, GTFO and hit him up for child support.
Wait a minute, he’s on “paternity leave”, and someone else watches the baby??? How does that work??
What the hell??? Is this a real question??? He gets away with doing next to nothing but gets to whine he’s tired while you take care of him and the baby? You’re crazy for still being with such a goof
That’s ridiculous. You are crazy for putting up with that shit.
Ditch the loser…you will have an easier life as a single mom. Promise.
Paternity leave & not watching his child 
. yea, not happening!!!
Girl, RUN FOR THE EFFING HILLS
Hell to the no girl leave already he ain’t shit!!!
Your husband is the crazy one, you are a team not master/slave. He really needs to change big time but I believe you already know this.
He’s just being lazy! Making you do what HE SHOULD BE DOING. Girl leave his sorry ass!
What the actual fuck… sorry but imo you guys are just roommates with a baby. If he is on leave then he needs to be the one watching your child. What is wrong with him? Its a team effort. Girl you need to leave. Record and keep track of everything. You are already doing it anyhow. File for custody and child support. Dude needs to grow tf up
Hee hee hee CAN FUCK HIM SELF!!! Dang!! Something IS WRONG WITH YOU ALL!!! Dumb ASS!! Sorry but WHAT part don’t you understand!; The End!
Does your husband have any responsibilities? Pay any bills? Sounds like he’s getting a free ride while you cook, clean and work AND pay most of the bills. So really, what is his job? What is his role in the household? Why is he charging you for the babies diapers? No offense but he sounds like an asshole. You sound like a responsible woman, don’t settle for that bullshit and abuse. Because what he’s saying to you and the way he’s treating you is called abuse.
I’m sorry, but that is NOT a marriage. Do what is best for you and your baby. Get out of this situation asap before it gets worse.
Where do you find these men!!! 
LEAVE NOW. There is nothing else to say.
He’s on paternity leave but your mom is watching your baby? Why???
This is a joke right?
Kick his butt to the curb!!
Abuse comes in more than just physical form and this post is throwing up ALL the red flags, girl!!!
Move to your mums house! That way you’re saving YOUR MONEY & not paying for his sorry arse!
Leave girlfriend LEAVE!!!
Nah girl you need to leave him. Kick him out if you are living with your mom.
Get a back bone and stand up to him?
He charges you? The day after my husband and I got married we moved all of our money to a joint account. “His money” and “your money” isn’t a thing it’s both of yalls. He should be providing everything you guys need because he is the man of the house.
This really pisses me off!! RUN AWAY FASTER THAN FORREST GUMP!!
I’m sorry he charges you for diapers? He’d be wearing them. Idc if he works, and goes to school so do you. Y’all made the child together y’all take care of the child together.
Send his ass packing
He’s the worst kind of guy. Hands down. Get away from him he will destroy you.
Sounds like you need to give him the boot or take your baby and run.
What kind of marriage is this!? 
Good luck with that.
Him calling you names is verbal abuse get out now.
Is this a joke?? I would leave
Get out. Run and do not look back.
Financial abuse. You don’t ‘charge’ your partner for purchases, especially necessities like food and diapers. When you get married you commit to a future together. This is not acceptable.
And you stick around and allow him to treat you like that 
there’s no way in hellllll. Y’all aren’t a team, girl I think ya know what to do
He considers yall room mates
Get out NOW never look back. Finish your education and make a life for yourself and child!
You need to get a divorce, honey! That’s insane!!
Also he should be paying ALL the bills as the man.
Leave him that Is disgusting behaviour 
The fact that he calls you a bitch and feels it necessary to keep tabs on everything he pays for. .trust me, !!! Get him gone! It will be harder later, you’ve " manned up" so now it’s his turn. No fight, no big confrontation, just poof bye b gone! Time flies, dont have regret, dont allow this because your kid will think it’s okay,
I’d go see a counselor. Since both of you are young and having a child is not easy and quite demanding. Maybe he isn’t seeing your side the way he needs to be or maybe he needs to grow up a little more. Your relationship is going to take work and understanding to make it. Good luck. Remember your child is the most important.
Hes trash…and that’s putting it nicely 
Get out. For your child’s sake.
seems pretty cut and dry, if you’re doing everything, and he’s doing nothing, you’re better off without him. that’s not over reacting, it’s facing reality. Dump him and move along.
Kick him out, or leave. Divorce him. Take him to court for child support, and to get full custody of your children. Don’t look back.
I don’t normally say leave but damn!!
He’s abusing his paternity leave by doing diddly with his kids, home and has the damn Audacity to charge you for a damn thing and calls you names and degrades you.
That’s not a healthy relationship.
Get yourself into some councling wear you can learn to look for and see those Manipulative Narcissistic behaviors.
Those red flags and listen to your gut.
That’s not partnership Or teamwork!
OMG that’s not healthy. You are not over reacting you are in an abusive relationship. Quietly make an exit plan, see a lawyer, open your own bank account that he has no access to and get out.
Some of the stuff I read on here just flat out surprises me sometimes. I wouldn’t give him a damn dime!! That’s BOTH of ya’lls food & both of ya’lls baby!
Sounds like he’s not doing anything anyway. If you do it all continue to do it with out the negative that he brings. Cause it sounds like that’s all he’s bringing to the table. You can do better.
Get out while you can.
Dude sounds crazy. Since you’ve been together since middle school he probably just thinks he can treat you any way he wants like you’re locked down. Nope I’d take my baby and stay at my moms 
Umm… he’s on paternity leave why, then? Leave him. He’s a dick head.
That’s abusive and disgusting and you need to get rid before he gets worse because he will!
He is crazy lol cgarge him for daycare then lol dont let him use you… Cuz him doing that says alot. Youve let him slide alot.
I would tell him to hit the road!Go to your mom’s and stay ! Please don’t put up with that crap!
Girl put your foot down…if you’re paying the bills tell him he is living in your house and he better wise up or get the f@ck on out! Hell NO! THIS IS MENTAL ABUSE AND REALLY JUST LEAVE AND FIND A REAL MAN!
Sorry he sounds like an ASS
Why did you marry him ?
Get your baby and leave
I’m sorry you have to deal with this! Not at all how it is supposed to be. It’s a lot easier said than done, I know but I have to say you’d be better off without him!!
For him to charge you for anything if you are married with your child together absolutley blows my mind lol. That’s one of the lowest things ive ever heard, like for real. Thats incredibly f’ed up and you absolutley do not have to put up with it, leave his sorry butt asap 
Don’t stay with him just because he is the father of your child. Sounds like he is really taking advantage of you.
You need to ask yourself is that the kind of role model you want for your daughter. It sounds very unhealthy and like he doesnt care.
Ok … I’m not trying to be a complete B!$&# but he is a controlling asshole. Imo its mental and emotional abuse in how he is treating you period. A household is a 50/50 partner thing as is PARENTING. I hope yall get help ir you just leave .