Do your boyfriends/ husbands tell you that you DO NOT need a toy or any other ‘pleasure device’ because ‘he is all you need’? Or is it just mine? Because I want to try new things and he is not for it…
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Omg we all need toys. He needs to get a grip. Talk to him is all I can suggest. Toys are not the bad thing, his insecurity is. Good luck x
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The insecurities in this post are glaring.
Idk that seems like a man who either knows he’s not putting in the effort you deserve, feels inadequate in one way or another whether it’s size or overall game, or feels you will become aware of how little effort he’s applying.
Maybe I’m bitchy. But toys are to enhance the experience. He isn’t supposed to be able to replicate the erm… effects toys will have on you. Last I remember no penises in existence vibrate like an old Nokia cellphone or in 16 different pulsating patterns with a cl*t stimulator 
Toys are his friends, they’re teammates in this not opposing forces. Most are not massive in length or diameter, more often closer to average. The curve of the end of the toy seems to be the big appeal.
I’d say try for a remote vibe. Something you can wear and he can control. That way he feels like he’s in control of the erm, way and when you get your ‘O’. The remote ones are fairly small and discrete, more intimate and private. It’s a dirty secret just between you two. Gives him a sense of something to work alongside and not compete against given he has total control of it.
Start with something for both of you, he’s probably just insecure about it and imagining you want something huge to “replace him”. So try starting with something you would both enjoy like a c*ck ring 
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i have 2 adult toys. I mostly use solo but sometimes my husband uses them on me. My
husband has an adult toy as well, he uses solo. Neither my husband or myself tell each other we can’t have our own toys. We both enjoy solo play and play together.
Maybe go to a shop together or even walmart and pick out a toy to use together or pick each other out toys y’all can use solo and together.
Y’all should also sit down, listen to his concerns and hopefully he will listen to your pov as well.
on a side note: i honestly wouldn’t let my husband tell me i couldn’t have a toy but i would also try to understand why it bothered him so much. Some people consider it cheating like watching porn. Some partners need and want to be the only thing that arouses you and satisfies you and it makes them feel like they aren’t enough if you have a toy, masturbate or watch porn, especially without them.
It enhances both of your experience. Start with something small and not intimidating. If he’s that controlling over something simple then he needs to check why he is insecure about it.
Are you satisfied without it? Then great and it can add some fun. If you’re not then tell him that and it can help there too…
This seems like such an old concept
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Just sounds super insecure. Using it together is just to enhance the experience for both of you. Tell him to grow up. I guess if you want to take a nicer route you could just explain that and try to reassure him. Super weird that most men watch porn and justify that but then some of those same men don’t want women to use toys because it makes them feel like they’re not good enough.
I’d start out with something small…maybe try A beginners anal toy, you can get vibrating rings that go around him that stimulates you both. I’d be open with him and tell him you want to experience and try new things WITH HIM.
Try buying a small toy and ask him to use it on you. We use one for foreplay.
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Glad to hear my dude isn’t the only one 
tell him that you can have them if you want them.
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He sounds like this guy😂
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No man can dictate what you have… buy all the toys you want!!
Someone who sees your vibrator as competition isn’t for you.
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I’ve tried. My husband literally said it’s a insult to him
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Only insecure men w a fragile masculinity feel like this.
Try talking about how they can help instead of seeing it as competition 
ffs
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Yes mine does because he says it takes from him
Thats total an absolute BS.
He masturbates so you should be able to Also. He uses his hand , jill… porn etc. You can have a toy a d maybe let hom watch once or twice
That is a huge red flag!!! Jealous and threatened by a toy…good God.
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There is a lot of men that feel like this. You can start out with a vibrating c-ring or something that is smaller in size than he is. Something to show him it can enhance your intimate time not take away from it. Men are visual so maybe once he sees it then he will get it. Communication is key to expanding.
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