So is watching magic Mike, or some male dancer video, disrespectful for women to watch? 
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Not everyone is gonna have the same expectations in a relationship. For me I couldn’t care less if the oh watches p○rn, follows other girls, ect… alot of women do the same… social media has made this happen … but it’s more about your relationship trust and respect … have you discussed boundaries?
Snooping isn’t okay…so that there is a trust issue… which is unhealthy …
Again expectations are different for everyone…
Well you make a tik tok video and see the reaction if you follows yr page…but honestly it’s probably all harmless most men watch por. No biggie. My husband does and I don’t care…lol
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Honey if your hurt it’s not okay even if he’s a man. Talk to him let him know how you feel.
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That’s not normal at all 🥲
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No it’s not normal.
It’s becoming that way because it’s put up with. And social media says it’s ok
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I don’t think I have ever met a man that didn’t watch porn. It’s completely normal and doesn’t replace you. Now if he’s talking to these girls that’s different. But watching porn is a normal thing to do even if you are in a relationship. Try not to feel so insecure and stay out of your man’s phone. If my guy went through my phone without my permission, especially if he thought I was hiding something, I would leave him. That’s toxic as fuck
Not saying its ok but I found gay porn on my husbands phone. Shoot I pray for the day someone comes and catches my attention so I can ride off into the sunset with my kids
She just found out his horny. She has been tired for a long time.
Nope not normal and sounds like a porn addiction
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Yall should sit down and have a talk.
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Why is everyone attacking her for going through his phone though? Y’all know you can see who ppl follow from your own account on your own phone right?
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It’s the new normal that a large percentage of women say they are ok with . I disagree , I get that males are tempted and it’s ok to look but there’s a difference when a guy uses time looking up girls to watch . It will only get worse !! Last three relationships I had ended due to problems because the men couldn’t stay off social media sites looking at naked/ half naked girls with no respect for their self posting trashy videos . He’s prob already addicted and he will say he will stop but he won’t , he will just hide it better next time . That’s the biggest problem with relationships now all these sites.
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l get paid over $ 130 per hour working from home. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $ 17385 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
Mmmmmm no
That’s called micro cheating!
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I follow men who dance on TikTok happily married 12 yrs this year 
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Just because it’s normal male behavior doesn’t mean it’s okay, If it bothers you then you definitely should say something, ask him how he would feel if you posted the same type of tik toks?
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Luckily, my husband is not into porn or going to strip clubs or anything like that. But if he was and we had an honest conversation about it, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I don’t consider looking at porn or naked people cheating. We just watched the new jack ass movie together and it was literally nothing but naked dudes with their junk hanging out and yes it was a bit uncomfortable but we just ignored it lol nakedness doesn’t bother me…cheating and lies do. I would have a conversation with him and let him know how you feel. If you aren’t comfortable with it, that’s an entirely different matter and should be discussed. 
If you’ve never set any boundaries around p*rn then he doesn’t know you don’t like it. Have a conversation with him about your feelings and go from there. I think it’s natural to look at attractive people. But if it’s taking up a lot of his time and your relationship is suffering for it then it’s not ok. Communication is important.
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Looking at porn is definitely normal. I don’t think there’s anything wrong w it unless he’s actively going out and cheating. But if you aren’t comfortable, you need to talk to him about it .
If you aren’t comfortable with it then no it’s not ok. Your boundaries are YOURS. Don’t look for confirmation from other women because everyone has different boundaries
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If u don’t like it tell him and set boundaries. Nobody can tell u how to feel. If it hurts u then it hurts u. I’d hate it as well! So me and my man decided to both not use tiktok because of all the half naked women on there and little girls being half nude as well
Talk to him first. If you’ve expressed how it bothers you and he continues to do it, leave. I’ve been married for almost 2 years now and that’s how it started. First following women on tic tok. Then he started messaging them, asking for pictures and videos. I have caught him talking to other women saying he’s single 7 times. I consider it cheating at this point because I have set boundaries and he isn’t following them. He will continue to do it. Just like mine is. It is NOT typical guy behavior. Don’t be in the crappy situation I’m in. It isn’t fun. I have insecurities I’ve never had because of it…it’s awful when the person you love doesn’t love you enough to respect your marriage
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For the people saying it’s fine. Having sex is also normal male behavior but you don’t want your man having sex with a bunch of other people do you? So, some people aren’t okay with their man looking at a bunch of other half or fully naked women and getting off even though that is ‘normal’ behavior for men. Perspective is different for everyone I suppose, but what is deemed normal behavior isn’t always an acceptable thing in relationships unless that’s what you and your man are into lol.
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Anna Mayhew honestly, have a talk with him about the boundaries in your relationship… what your comfortable with and what you guys aren’t. If it doesn’t change, or he doesn’t at least accept your feelings and acknowledge them then I’d post a video the same and see what reactions I get 
And no this isn’t normal. Males do get tempted yes but they aren’t animals and if we can control ourselves surely they can too
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If you are uncomfortable with it then you are, you can’t help that. Some women really don’t mind and that works for them. Do what works for you. If it hurts you, you need to address it because it will end up turning into resentment. I personally would have an issue if my husband was watching women like that on tiktok, but the porn, I watch with him. But that’s what works for us. I would have a conversation with him and see how it goes. If he stops he cares enough about how you feel, if he doesn’t it would be safe to say he will continue to do it whether you like it or not.
Communication
What is ok for some isn’t for others, it’s something you both have to talk about.
He should know what’s good for one is good for both. Sometimes people don’t understand until they get a taste of what they are doing.
Him following people on social media he will never meet is similar to you going outside your relationship with your problems before actually discussing it with him.
Sounds like you both need to grow up.
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I think the only reason straight men of a certain age have Tiktok is to get attention or to creep women. Unless they are promoting a small business. I have one but I talk to other moms. My husband thinks it’s ridiculous. He’s not wrong.
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It only gets worse. Eliminate tiktok asap.
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So just get your own porn and naked guy pics .6hen let him see your phone.whats good for the goose…
Y’all have got to stop searching your men’s phones/property. And no one can tell you or should have to tell you what to be ok with. Are you ok with him watching porn? WE don’t matter in YOUR marriage.
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If you are not ok with it, then it’s not ok. Period.
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If you are not ok with it then you should definitely have a talk with him about boundaries. But also consider of you follow male celebrities, do you watch attractive male men dancing? Have you ever talked about the “grey sweatpants” on males? I’m not saying it’s exactly the same but can’t expect to hold men to a standard that we break too
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You know every woman goes through their man’s phone especially if they think he’s up to no good
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It’s normal for a lot of men but not all. Depends on the man. I swear even to this day my ex had a porn addiction ans I know I’ll get laughed at. It’s definitely not the reason he’s my ex. It’s because he was abusive. Anyway, you have to decide how much of it you’re ok with and go from there because he isn’t going to stop. They say they will but they won’t. When I was younger I never thought to have these conversations over boundaries over these things. Now I have a whole laundry list. Next thing is is he actually spending money on these and if he’s messaging other women for favors ect… have a talk with him and let him know how you feel. He most likely won’t stop just try to hide it better so depending on how deep he is in it. You’ll be able to tell by how defensive he gets. Then it’s up to you, do you tolerate it and stay with him or do you put your foot down, call it a boundary breech and go your separate ways. Because just because these women might say all guys watch porn. Not all do, but women watch porn too. And many women will follow attractive males. My personal boundary in this situation would be if he’s spending money and a considerable amount of time on these and its spilling into his every day.
My husband and I just had this issue, i told him how I felt about it and he deleted the app bc he didn’t want to make me feel that way. I told him just don’t follow these girls and he insisted on just deleting it all
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It’s not normal to be cheated on. That’s cheating. No need to look at other women especially naked.
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I’ve been with my guy for over a year and I have never went through his phone. If you have to go through someone’s phone you don’t trust them and will always find something you don’t like. The relationship is doomed the minute you start snooping.
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I must have the most secure marriage in the world because we definitely show each other people we think are good looking on social media. My husband is on TikTok, I chose not to be. He shows me all kinds of craziness. We do fine.
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He’s a dude. It’s normal. It’s like watching porn lol. As long as he ain’t reaching out to these women.
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It really depends on your relationship. Personally, it’s basically porn, and I look at porn so I have no room to get upset with him. Now, if he was paying for an only fans or something, then I’d be upset. I understand that for some women, porn is a hard no & that’s okay too. It’s definitely a normal thing for both men and women, but it’s also okay to not be okay with it.
Why are you looking at his phone? What’s the problem 
seems like you may have some underlying insecurities and trust issues.
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It is “normal” for people in general to look not in a gawking way. Personally I couldn’t care less. We are all humans and individuals and after 17 years of marriage if he looks and if I want to look it’s no harm no foul. But if it bothers u this much then have a talk with him and see where he stands on the issue. Maybe it’s just innocent fun and he could care less and won’t do it again. Maybe he’s been feeling neglected or lonely snd this will be a wonderful way to figure things out. Either way it starts w talking to him. Good luck. Personally I don’t find it to be a big deal
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So what?? Do you really think he doesn’t find other women attractive. I don’t understand how ppl can have this mentality. He’s human and I’m sure he loves you but I’m sure even you find other men physically attractive.
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One thing yo watch porn occasionally, it’s another thing to have it alllllll in your phone plus publicly following women that are putting themselves out there in a certain way (nothing against them just wouldn’t want my husband engaging with them)
I would ask him about it. I have known of two men personally who were porn addicts. They both cheated. That doesn’t mean all men who like porn are cheaters, but it bears some checking into.
I cannot imagine being so insecure with myself.
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If it bothers you, it bothers you. There isn’t a right or wrong answer here. Some people are okay with p*rn others aren’t. If you are not okay and it hurts your feelings, he should respect that. Tell him. I do think the tik tok is ridiculous. It’s taking it too far, he shouldn’t have a tik tok simply to follow half naked women, but some people may disagree. Only you know what is “normal” in your relationship.
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If you’re not okay with it, tell him. Every marriage is different.
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Don’t be weird. Everyone likes porn karen
I think it’s depends on the relationship forsure. Those boundaries of what each of you is comfortable with needs to be talked about and set. It sounds like there’s a lot of mistrust going on if you felt the need to go through his phone but that also doesn’t mean this is your fault. We’ve gotta stop victim blaming. You and your husband need to sit down and talk about what makes you uncomfortable about the situation and why he’s doing it so maybe you can come to an agreement that suits both of your needs.
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It’s your personal boundary and it does need to be flat out discussed
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I’ve never went through my husbands phone cause I’ve never felt a reason to. I did have an ex in the past who I did feel a need to look through his phone. My suspicions were right. He was texting inappropriate things to other girls, but porn and stuff like that wouldn’t bother me. That’s normal. It’s not ok to invade someone’s privacy without a valid reason though. My husband can look through my phone if he absolutely wants but I’d be sad and hurt cause that would mean he doesn’t feel he can’t trust me. Don’t break that trust unless you have a valid reason. Checking someone’s phone isn’t cool unless you know somethings up.
It’s all about boundaries that need to be drawn up between the two of you. If you dont like it, say something. If it makes you uncomfortable, say something. If he doesnt listen after you communicate this, he needs to go. I personally have no issues with my fiance following randoms on TikTok. Hell, I probably follow them too. He too has a reddit that is basically nothing but porn but so do I. With that said, it’s not a boundary for us. We arent every one else. You need to communicate this to your husband and come to a conclusion with him.
Ask yourself: would he be ok if you did the same thing? If not approach him with that, otherwise there’s really not much you can do. I’d let him know it bothers you but unless he goes blind he will continue to do this. I’d rather know what he’s doing then have him sneaking around. You have to trust the person your with for one, two you have to love yourself enough to walk away if you feel disrespected.
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My ex used to do that and also follow other girls only fans and let’s just say he wasn’t entirely loyal so… I think you’re justified
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My husband does the same, heck I do the same and we are okay with it. It’s one thing to be gawking and looking and it’s another thing to be touching or cheating. Looking isn’t cheating to us. Especially since we are both equally aware of it.
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Its borderline emotional cheating. No woman is ever really ok with it unless they both do it. Its disrespectful to the other person. Looking at attractive women to a man sends a shot of dopamine into his brain everytime he looks at porn or other half naked women. So it becomes highly addictive, more so than cocaine addiction. There are real studies on this. So the best thing to do is talk with hubby or partner and explain to them how it hurts you and makes you feel. That’s all anyone can do.
Every women, man, and relationship is different. Tell him and you can see if he cares or not about your feelings.
Mine was gawking over women online. Like a little puppy dog. But me, being the good wife I am 
decided to let these other men shower me with affection (online) I always ignored them. Call it what you want, childish, but I brush men off bc I have respect for my husband. He didn’t have respect for me. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, and I had to remind him of that 
don’t take my advice, just know that I guess it is normal for significant others to act a fool. Before you found out, was your sex life okay? Or was he being distant? Or mean to you? If things were fine, then I wouldn’t trip so bad when you bring it to his attention that his gawking at the online women and porn make you feel a certain way 
. I’m 32 and my body has drastically changed, so I get the insecurities. But only I can change that perception of myself. You’re not alone and safe to say a lot of our husbands do this 
Good luck girly
I’d just start following a bunch of tiktok men dressing provocatively and have my own p*rn search history 
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Yeah I would not be okay with it …voice it
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I think it’s wrong and disrespectful my husband would much rather jack off to my pics not any others …… throw the whole man away
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I like to go by the moto, you can look but not touch. It’s completely natural for people to find other people attractive. It’s a very unhealthy way of thinking to believe that your partner can’t find anyone else attractive but you. I personally could care less if my partner watches porn, but other people do not like that. If the watching of porn is effecting your sex life then, that is a boundry you’ll have to figure out if you’re ok with or not. But looking at other women or finding other women attractive is completely natural. I’m sure you find other men attractive. That doesn’t mean you don’t wanna be with your husband right?
I don’t think it’s right if you have someone you should be with that person not looking at other ones it’s okay to look but when you’re looking in the wrong way not good at all
No its not normal.ffs hes sick 
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It’s not necessarily normal for all guys. I would confront him and talk to him about it. Be honest with it how makes you feel.
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If you dont know that’s normal for men than plz grow up
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Debbe McDaniel that’s adorable you actually believe that
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My husband deleted Instagram because of that, I told him look at all my socials and if you find a half naked man we leave the subject, also told him I could share halve naked pictures of me to see how many men would follow me .
I know some of you might say that it’s ok and that we over react, but some of us are insecure of ourselves and are not ok with that kind of stuff.
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I never met a man that didn’t do this . I doubt he is cheating but it does hurt I was upset but then I realized they are all like that . Sex addiction !!! But I started just dressing sexy and doing things like that ! Fight fire with fire … I don’t know one woman who hasn’t been Thru this . These phones are the downfall of society… give him
A show he won’t forget ! Trust me it works ! I’m not saying you are not Awsome but guys get bored with routine so I’d say spruce it up ! It will work ! My boyfriend was doing same thing I started doing sexy stuff and he stopped watching stuff like that ! That’s my advice . I doubt he’s cheating physically because that’s a lot of work to actually do it plus I’m sure the girls aren’t in the same state . It does hurt but just start a sexy routine and he will forget those others !
I honestly think it’s disrespectful for your partner to look at half naked women or men. You’re in a relationship for a reason, looking at others is something you do single. Just my opinion tho. I have a lot of half naked women and them dancing and all on my tik tok but if you want to allow it, go ahead and do the same with the men, hell post you half naked and dancing like that and if he has a issue then say “Well I figured you would like it since you wanna look at other females”
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Have a conversation with him, tell him how it makes you feel. If he doesn’t make changes to respect you or the relationship then I say get your own TikTok account, start making your own videos. If he can enjoy looking at other women why can’t other guys enjoy looking at you.
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There’s no such thing as “normal for men”. You are allowed to feel how you feel. You should talk to him and say “hey I find it hurtful that you’re looking at these things, please stop or tone it down (whatever you want the outcome to be)” you can tell him how it makes you feel.
To me that kind of stuff feels like cheating in my marriage. That was a boundary I made (for reasons) and that’s 100% ok.
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All you woman saying it’s wrong, do u not watch the half naked men dancing when they pop up on your ticktock? There is nothing wrong with looking, it’s just human nature now if he’s actually pursuing any of those woman, then yes he’s a jerk otherwise I see no problem
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An open an honest conversation can open a lot of doors… instead of looking for advice from the masses. Most of the time, what men watch on tiktok, or in P*orn has NOTHING to do with you or your relationship.
If you had to go through his phone in the first place, there is bigger issue then what he is looking at…
If it bothers you it’s a problem.
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Men watch porn they look at other women it’s in their nature as long as he isn’t having conversations with them or touching them it’s not cheating
Lol p0rn is perfectly normal i love p0rn! but if it bothers you then talk to him about it.
First of all how old are you guys? And married I think tik tok is for teens, we are adults and shouldn’t have time for teen social media
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Personally, I wouldn’t care but if it’s bothering you then you should bring it up and have a conversation about it.
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if you think its wrong then tell him xx i would also be very hurt 
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I wouldn’t put up with it. It would feel almost like cheating to me. Talk to him and ask to stop.
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Porn is normal for most people lol
Its normal for men and women. If your open to it watch together. Or atleast try it. If not talk to him. It doesnt have to mean he wants these women and not you.
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I’ve been through a similar situation and I basically told him he can keep beating off to a screen while I go out and get someone who actually wants me. Shit changed pretty quickly.
My wife and I have this golden rule, “ You can look but don’t touch “. We set boundaries in our marriage and when we were dating. If I see an attractive woman I’m going to look, nod, then go on about my day. If my wife is with me, we play a game and point out who’s the hottest, vice versa if she’s out and about by herself or with friends. She respects me enough to even call and say “ babe this girl had the most perfect ass “ or whatever it is she says and it’s great honestly. It’s fun and keeps us within the boundaries we set. You gotta have trust and boundaries in your relationship. If that’s a deal breaker for you, talk to him about it. You will gain nothing by worrying yourself Over it.
No, you shouldn’t be okay with it and even if everyone here says you should, it doesn’t change the fact that you’re not.
Everyone is different, some women mind, some don’t.
I personally would not allow it in my marriage and if he were to refuse to give it up, I wouldn’t stay. 
Porn and lust destroys marriages.
It doesn’t matter what any of us think, at the end of the day it’s your marriage and they’re your feelings and they’re valid and he needs to be sensitive to them and respect you.
I think its disrespectful. It is not “normal” but i can understand you feel you might be overreacting. Maybe have a conversation with him. Dont yell or accuse but a conversation tell him how you feel and see what happens. He might not realize it hurts you. However dont be surprised if he says its “normal and your overreacting” that is a common thing. Mine pulled that crap and i kicked him out after he said it was my fault. He came back and hasnt done it since. Good luck and remember your self worth. Dont change your morals or beliefs and dont underrate how you feel its YOUR feelings and you have a right to feel whatever you are feeling.
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My husband use to have a porn addiction and sometimes I feel he still does it.
If you don’t address it now, it may get worse. I understand the hurt.
ARE you OK with it?? That is your answer. Next: do you trust him ? I think you should sit down with him and talk about it.
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The only thing that’s “normal” is how ridiculously normalised it is in relationships where one partner knows it hurts the other…
And before anyone belittles what I’m saying…
I’ve been in relationships where both partners watched porn and didn’t mind and where the female watched porn and it hurt the man and I also used to be genuinely addicted to porn a very long time ago and sincerely needed help because it was negatively affecting my whole life.
Hell no I would go off if it were mines doing that. If you want to act single I’m out
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It’s not normal to be disrespected no, lol… you have to set boundaries of what you’re going to allow and how you want to be treated 
if this bothers you, you let him know and if he keeps doing it…it just shows he has no respect for you 
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No! It is NOT OK. He needs to know you are hurt by it and if it doesn’t stop he has addicted himself to it and needs counseling. If he refuses counseling, he is choosing pornography over you.
Ok, this isn’t advice for everyone, but this is what I did. My SO watches porn yes, I don’t mind that actually because it just is. BUT, when he got on tik tok and started doing the same, following girls who show everything but their brain, and send messages like, oh you wanna hook up or you need my services etc. I straight up told him, Ok, so since its ok for you to follow all them and look at them then its totally ok for me to start making videos of myself like that and posting them so other guys can look at me. You know, whats good for you is good for me right? Well, he deleted his account and the app off his phone.
Honestly all I can say is, if it bothers you then you should definitely talk to him about it. Do not let it simmer. Its about respect.
Unfortunately with many men this is typical. Not “ok” by any means but a lot of men watch prom or stuff like this. My husband and I just got into it for this very same thing but with Instagram. He was likeing and following al these girls thag were half naked and doing sexual things and then liking all these girls pictures. I confronted him about it bc to me it was disrespectful and honestly infuriated me. He acted like it wasn’t a big deal and it didn’t mean anything. But I think he knew it was wrong bc he then deleted Instagram without me having to ask him. So I would just ask him about it. Don’t let him gas light you into thinking it was ok either. Like I said mine tried and I wasn’t having it. I told my husband it would be a whole different story and wouldn’t be ok if I was the one doing it.
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It’s all about boundaries. If it hurts you, you must speak with him about pushing those boundaries.
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My husband should definitely not look at my tiktok or my searches then
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First. Of. All. Tic.Toc. Is.
Bottom feed. Media. The. CRAP. On. There. Is. Amazing!! But. Only. Someone. Insecure. About. Their. Marriage. Whould. Sweat. That. Just. Tell him. You. Know. About. It. And. Ask. How. Would. He. Feel. If. It. Were. You lol. Men. !! It’s. No. Different. Then. Him. Going to a. Gentlemens. Club ogling. Strangers
Hon. I. Don’t. Mean. To. Be. Insensitive ! Be. Strong. I’m. Sure. You are. More. Woman. Then. Those. He’s. Seen
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