Yeah this is called a personality disorder and they will defend themselves about whatever it is lol… those kinds never get better
There’s more to a lie than meets the eye. A lie is never told in pure isolation. Someone will have a reason for lying, even if those reasons may not seem very reasonable. And, as much as we might not like to admit it, we all lie pretty much every day of our lives. So you can pretend your little white lies or fibs don’t count because they don’t hurt anyone but we are no better than any other liar. You can live your life with blunt, brutal honesty if that’s how you so choice to live. Me personally I tend to see the bigger picture. I don’t know this man’s reasons for lying anymore than you do. People lie out of insecurity, fear, or nervousness without even realizing that they’re doing it. It’s a survival mechanism of sorts for some. That’s not to excuse the lie one bit. And it doesn’t make it any less acceptable or hurtful or even right. But we are all fragile creatures stuck in this insanely difficult and ever demanding world and it makes some of us feel worthless and small. In simple terms it’s self preservation. The act of willing your life into something that matters or counted. They tell a bare faced untruth to avoid punishment or blame. They lie to save their own skins and sometimes to feel like their existence wasn’t some waste of time. You’re right, lying is wrong. But sometimes, the lie plays second fiddle to the very practical matters it was hiding.
So while you may want to address the lie and the liar, it may have to wait until you have dealt with the immediate aftermath. Some people are hurting. And we don’t hurt hurt people just so we can feel right or superior. We try to understand. But I realize there are way more people who come to these situations immediately wanting to point out error so they can collect their, reward??? And if he’s been lying for YEARS. Why is she still there? I hate taking sides but I’m more upset that a wife would go to such lengths to discredit her partner. Maybe it’s just me but that seems as equally as toxic as being a liar. I guess what I’m saying is we just need more people who want to fix issues like this instead of being right and being able to say I told you so.
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As long as he doesn’t have other red flags I’d let it go. So as long as he’s not an abusive narcissist the lie doesn’t hurt anyone. Just makes him feel better about himself in front of his friends who probably all have degrees or are more successful than him in his eyes
He probably been lying about it for so long that he believes his own lies.
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The guy lied about college degrees and is now making up college stories. He needs to come out of his fantasy world and seek therapy. This is not normal or healthy. What other things is he going to invent and lie about? Is he actually starting to believe this fantasy happened? This is a slippery slope.
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Why does it matter after all these years?
Why does a degree matter?
Like cool for you, wow you did it… but it’s like throwing it in his face.
Why does it matter, my sister told me the best thing is people not knowing you it means you can tell people anything you want you can have the best childhood you want it to be, works perfect 