My husband texted me something that was not meant for me to see: Advice?

Me and my husband were texting. In the middle of texting he sends me something that has nothing to do with what we were talking about. It seemed as though it was meant for someone else. Thing is it said, Free consultation. They will evaluate and get back to me. I said what and he was like what? I showed him what he wrote and said I didn’t write that. It looks like my phone was hacked. We’ve been having marriage problems for a long time and I told him I’m done and will be moving out recently. To me it sounds like he was talking to someone else about a divorce attorney. Could someone really have hacked his number and wrote that?

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If you told him you were done. Does it not stand to reason that he would get an attorney. You should do the same.

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If you told him you were done and will be moving out, than why wouldn’t he be looking into getting a lawyer? He could also be looking into counseling. Either for himself or for the two of you as a couple. My question is, why do you feel. Blindsided by it? Again, you told him you were done and that you’re leaving. Shouldn’t you be looking into a lawyer yourself? Or were you just saying that to manipulate him into putting more effort into saving your marriage?

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You want to leave, he is probably getting a head start so you don’t take everything from him.

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No. Nobody hacked your phone. Unfortunately, he is lying.

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That literally could mean anything. Job, attorney, dentist lol I think you’re jumping the gun because you have your mind made up that you’re leaving. Don’t threaten to leave if you don’t want to leave. Don’t threaten to break up and leave and then get upset if he did get an attorney.

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If you’re done then be done … Could have been a divorce lawyer, could have been counseling, could have been a Dr office - who knows …

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If you told him you are done and will be moving out, then he very well may have reached out to a lawyer, as he should. So should you.
He should not lie about it but also is not obligated at this point to share that with you either :woman_shrugging:t2:

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You can’t be mad about it if you told him you were done and you he is looking into his legal options. You told him you were done. He has every right to protect himself. And so do you. He wasn’t hacked.

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Why are you mad? Even if he is talking to an attorney, Your the one that told him your done and will be leaving.
There are sites you can go on and text people using a number you put in, my mom did it to my sister when we were younger after her and some friends went to a scary movie for her birthday and were spending the night. :joy: also hid a walk-in talkie in her closet :rofl:
So I mean someone could. Specially if you have been telling anyone about what you’ve been telling your husband and they wanna start fights. But I doubt it.

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He’s lying… get yourself an attorney

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He’s most likely getting his ducks in a row, I don’t blame him if he is aware you are leaving him and most likely divorcing. He could have been hacked but I doubt it, also if he is getting a lawyer or talking to someone about it no offence but it isn’t your business.

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No his phone was not hacked he probably was suppose to send that to his gf to show proof he’s on the path to divorcing you but accidentally sent it to you instead.

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Not enough information?
Did it say “free consultation. I will evaluate and get back to you” or “free consultation. They will evaluate and get back to me”

The first would imply that he is the one doing the consulting and evaluating…which could be work related…or you could have been hacked or he could have been hacked.
The second would imply that he speaking to someone about something with some type of evaluation. Doesn’t necessarily mean a divorce lawyer but it could be. It could also be a personal trainer or a counselor. Could also be someone he’s talking to about renovations or a dozen other things.

Honestly at this point though…
You have said you’re done and you’ve told him you’re moving out. It’s not necessarily your business anymore.

Even if you didn’t really want to be done and really just wanted to do the “girl trap” thing where he’d “do anything” to get you to stay…he took you at your word and this is where you are.

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How do you jump immediately to cheating?
Maybe he’s planning a surprise. A friends husband once got a free consult and built a surprise sauna for her for her birthday, some of their friends were in on it.
There could be lots of reasons he wrote that. He doesn’t have to tell you everything. I can’t believe that you’d immediately jump to ‘a divorce lawyer’ .
In this case I hope I’m wrong and you’re right cuz he certainly deserves one.

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I mean you said you was done and leaving. You should both be getting an attorney so what’s the issue?

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I just keep thinking…what the hell were you expecting!!! Him to beg you to stay? Him to swear he will do everything you ask and want and be a good little boy? That class is what we call manipulation. It is considered a form of abuse. I swear I can’t people today…

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I’m gonna say go with your gut. His phone was not hacked.

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I’m not sure what the issue is? You told him you were done with the relationship and were moving out and now your upset that he is getting an attorney?

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Pull the phone bill, call the # :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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Sounds like he’s telling his gf about the divorce lawyer he’s prob also lying about

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Stay in your home and tell him to move out. ChNge the locks so he can’t get back in. See a divorce attorney for a consultation. Take care of yourself and good luck.

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If you told him that you were done, then he has every right to consult with an attorney, financial advisor or realtor. It could be anyone and he is probably preparing for your exit.

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Of course his phone wasn’t hacked, sorry you’re dealing with this.

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He reached out to someone for help with something for sure

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I’m not siding with him but weird things do happen. I live in TX but still have my IA # a few weeks ago I got a call from an out of state # nevwr seen this # so I called it back they didn’t answer , it tried calling me back a few hrs later so I thought it must be someone that knows me, so I tied back. It was a man in TN that said he never dialed my # at all. So weird how that happens

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband texted me something that was not meant for me to see: Advice?

Sorry to tell you this but your husband is a liar

Nope wasn’t hacked just lieing to try to cover it up

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His phone wasn’t hacked

No his phone wasn’t hacked.

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I received a sex message
Of a man ejaculating from my prim and proper sister phones can be hacked she did not send it

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I mean go with your gut but I will say about a week ago I got a text from my mom it popped up her name and everything but she never sent it. Even Screen shot our conversation to show me. It was weird.

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Nope. Just a random hack…with 1 random text?
You told him you wanted to leave recently… He should probably get an attorney then right?

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I mean, he lied.
BUT you told him you were done and moving out, so can you blame him for reaching out for help?

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Check your phone bill

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He’s lying. He’s probably spoken with a attorney. If I were you I’d go ahead and get a attorney.

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No. U can’t hack phones. :roll_eyes: :clap::clap::clap:

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He’s lying to you, trust your gut! I do not blame you for getting out but I would make sure you have your ducks in a row as well!

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Lol no no one hacked anything. He’s lying. Good thing is that he’s looking for attorneys that have free consults so chances are they may not be that great. You get what you pay for… but, lawyer up girl

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He did not get hacked

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If you’re leaving, then why are you surprised? He’s going to cover his ass. He should and so should you.

I mean, I could be if y’all have been having issues. If you told him this stuff then yeah. He should be meeting with someone….as you should too.

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Don’t be so naive! You told him you were done. So what if he’s consulting an attorney? You asked for it.

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If you’re done and moving out, why do you care?

Okay so if you are separated it’s really none of your business. If you are trying to mend fences tell him show you.

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Wait…you said you wanted to leave and your upset about him possibly covering his own butt in the case of a divorce that you want?..who cares if he’s lying to you at this point, you are done with the marriage :woman_shrugging:t4:

I mean it could happen ppl can text from others numbers but seems unlikely

If it was in the middle of the convo, he was not hacked.
However, that has been happening more often.

Unfortunately he’s a lier :woman_facepalming:t2:

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Hacked? Swear men think we are dumb or something :roll_eyes::rofl::rofl:

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Uh. No. That’s not how “hacking” works. He’s lying :lying_face: lawyer up and leave him ASAP

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You asking that question is about as dumb as him saying he didn’t write it. Wake up

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Most likely seeking legal help and most 1st consultations are free. They can give basic advice/ recommendations. He could have sent it on purpose to scare ya and play it off or he didn’t mean too.

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No. It’s basically impossible to that

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I mean, if youre done and moving out, why do you care? If my husband told me he was leaving an attorney would be the first person I would call. It’s the smart thing to do. I’d be more concerned with finding my own attorney and figuring out my own business than trying to figure out what he’s doing at this point. Sounds like he’s giving you want you told him you want.

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Girl, you know he wasn’t hacked

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Sounds like he’s letting his new chick know he’s starting the divorce process

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Im not saying hes not lying but i get thesse all the time. Amd yes it could be him did u check his phone?

Check other numbers on his phone

I doubt it if that’s your feeling you’re probably right keep to your plans and set yourself free be happy…

My ex used to do this stuff all the time. Playing mind games. He would do it, lie about it, just to play with my head. He knew it would drive me insane trying to figure it out and he enjoyed it. He’s lying.

Doubtful it was a hack. But sometimes technology does weird stuff. My husband got a text from me that i sent months ago in the middle of a convo and i was like what do you mean what are you talking about. We figured out it was a text that never delivered.

Nobody hacks a phone like that. Go with your GUT

No he most certainly wasn’t hacked and that’s what come up lol id be getting ur own attorney

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Doubt he was hacked.

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He is responding appropriately to the dynamic you made him aware of. Stop asking questions you already know the answer to and move forward. He made a mistake sending it to you. It happens. No big deal.

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Maria McCoy Aronica …do you think he was hacked?

So my bestie has AT&T service. She has had the same number for several years. Well I called her number and some one else answered ( we were down the rd from her while we went on vacation together last fall) they were like no this is A. I was confused AF! So I text her she text me back then I called again and same person answered. I apologized. Then sent a message and it said iMessage at the top she’s never had an iPhone. Finally I find her down the rd at a store and I am legit showing her my phone and she was like naw I waited for your call. She said I tried to call you but it was busy. I was like wtf. So I show her the text how it went through as an iMessage and how she asked me who I was. We legit called the phone company and they told her they’ve had problems like we describe several times and “they’re working on it”.

I understand your having problems but I wanted to put that out there since that shit happened to us and has since.

I feel like we don’t have enough information. Are you both separating for a short about of time? Are you separating so you can divorce? (I know some states have a time frame you have to be separated to get divorced) even if he is finding a lawyer I don’t think he exactly has to tell you. This feels kind of controlling in a way to me.

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Could he have been speaking about therapy? Just saying therapists do evaluations too before taking on a new patient… You really can’t assume anything nor do you really have the right at this point since you have made your intentions clear according to this post and you are done with the marriage right? I mean if you’re done…why does he owe you ANY explanations at all?

You already know the answer. I mean come on he was in the middle of texting you.

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You brought that on yourself. I’d seek a free consultation too if I was threatened with divorce

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Free consultation with an evaluation could be for many things. I’m not sure an evaluation would pertain to a divorce necessarily in those words. Could be for anything, what does he do for work? He could have easily tried to send it to someone else while conversations with you. Had that happen to me many times if I’m having two conversations at once via text.

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Why even question it. You are done correct?!

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Come on you know the truth. Get an attorney and protect yourself

Hahaah someone hacked his phone and texted that to you. Umm Noway. He thinks your that gullible? I’d be like put on your big boy pants and tell me the truth . You said you were done and moving out so what’s it matter why should he lie so strange.

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I accused my husband of being online in the middle od the night until i was awake and he was asleep next to me but showed he was active on Facebook. I havr gotten porn and spam messages from my friends names but they never wrote it. So it is possible

You said you were done :woman_shrugging:t2: so it probably was a divorce attorney and you will get want you asked for

He’s getting the house evaluated. You did say you’re moving out. So what’s the problem?

Why didn’t you look at his phone when he said it was a hack

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Maybe he’s double bluffing you to get a response :thinking:

He wasn’t hacked :woozy_face:
But, if you’re done, why are you worried about it?

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How do you know it’s a divorce attorney

So he’s talking to another woman…nice

I would have said I was done too. Unless he provided with physical evidence of what that text was about, nope. Cut your losses now

Yeahhhhh he’s definitely consulting a lawyer (which is fair since you told him you were done). It’s odd that he’d lie about it though

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No. Nobody hacked his phone. I’m not saying it’s for sure a divorce attorney but that’s what I would think.

Nah you caught him and he tried to get out of it. He’s doing exactly what your thinking

I don’t know what your problem is. You’re the one who ended things. Get over yourself. It’s not necessarily a lawyer that he contacted but I really don’t think he was hacked but anyway. Whatever. Get your own legal advice :blush:

Be proactive … protect yourself.

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No but could b anything

Always go with your gut. 9 times outta 10 it’s always right.

Maybe he was looking for viagra and not an attorney? I mean… could have been for anything really.

You’re very naive. Of course it was for consultation for a divorce attorney. Like cmon you already told him you were going to move out so why does it matter anyways if he’s seeking a divorce attorney honestly? You said you’re done and moving out so

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Just to be safe, get checked for sexually transmitted diseases

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His phone being hacked is a little too convenient for me!

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If you told him you’re done and moving out, it could be a divorce lawyer.

It could also be a doctor or a therapist. It could be for siding on the house :woman_shrugging:t2: Regardless, you’re leaving him, so it really doesn’t matter.

If it was an attorney, you should probably get your free consultation as well.

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He was also forwarding that text to someone else. Friend, family, girl, etc

Free consultation is just 15 mins of advise not much difference than you coming on here for advise…