Instal some cameras. Then take him to court.
Get an attorney and file before he does and file for custody of you babies if that’s what you want. If he went behind your back and got an apt what else is he doing without discussing it with you. I’m sorry this is happening to you but I would definitely lawyer up and not wait. He’s just playing with your emotions.
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Don’t want a divorce, well I guess momma just got a lot more closet space, honey I’m home!
Well that’s pretty obvious
If he did this behind your back, divorce
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I believe I’d change the locks!
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He got an apartment cause he’s to old to be fucking in his car
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I’ve give him the opportunity a sit down talk where he can explain his decisions and what he thinks is going to happen. Then get up and leave and file for divorce, child and spousal support, and note he’s abandoned the hime,
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It’s B’s see a lawyer.
He does not want divorce because he does not want to pay child support on three kids $1000plus a month just saying
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Umm he’s trying to either live a single life now or he is looking for a way out cause he met someone else!
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Noppppe id file for divorce this is his way of cheating (my opinion
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He’s is literally leaving you… wake up call time. Move on with your life and file for divorce
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Oh wow. He wants his cake and eat it to. Heck no. Get an attorney!
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Yeah he knows what he’s doing & is being sneaky about it…he’s also most likely cheating if he’s doing that & with out ur knowledge ? There’s a few reasons… don’t justify it give him an choice…tell him if he leaves that’s it…if u don’t put ur foot down you’ll keep looking like a fool
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He wants to have his cake and eat it yoo doing god knows what at that apartment while you take care of all the kids. He probably doesn’t wanna pay child support either. I feel like he’s just keeping you on the hook to do the hard work
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This should make you no longer to want to be with his fair weather ass. I don’t want to be the one to say it, but he likely has another woman at his bachelor pad
Seriously wish my husband was like this… were growing to hate each other. 10yrs and 4 kids… idk who I am anymore and if I had the same opportunity as a man I’d take it in a heartbeat, no, a lightning strike.
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You are correct. I’m sorry. He’s a coward. Tell him to explain to your children, TRUTHFULLY, why he’s leaving IF he has the insight AND the guts.
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I think it would be fair for you guys to share time at the apartment (Separately) You both get a few days to a week each month (separately) so you can also get a break too!! After All, he is using mutual married Money to pay for the place, so you should have access. You get it for a week (whether or not you choose to use the whole week or not) , he gets a week, then 2 weeks of co-parenting at home. Maybe even a night or 2 for you guys to spend there together ! If all he needs is some “space” I think it’s fair. You need space also! He can’t agree to that then it’s a lie:lying_face:
I think some space can be healthy, if that is all there is to it.
I go camping (RV) for a couple of nights, just me and my dog. It’s a much needed mommy break. It also helps to remind my husband of all that I do when he has to do it all himself…
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Babe, spouses do not move out and get their own place because they need space. They make that step when they are done with a relationship. If this has happened randomly and not because something severe has happened within the relationship such as cheating, then he is more than one foot out the door. He is ready to move on. Protect yourself. You will be fine. Mourn this loss and then pick yourself back up and do what you have to do for your children. Be happy and rediscover yourself. You will be happier in the end. You don’t need that toxic behavior.
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trust your feelings and get a lawyer
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So he’s most likely cheated but doesn’t want to own up to it or is having an affair and the new place is his place for it.
So I’d have a sit down and talk then see a lawyer.
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He wants his cake.and.eat it.too
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He has another woman and eventually he’s gonna divorce you sadly….
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Get a speration agreement in writing so he has to suport the home that his childern live in.
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Hand him the divorce papers and watch him do a 180 but continue to move on with your life because he obviously has
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That’s not fair to you if he is moving out then he should give you a divorce
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My Narcissistic ex? His “spot”? Was literally called? “The house of love zone”! I was the main bitch! At the time? Because he had so many “main” women? Anyways? The house of love zone? Was 100% known as the place where he would take his side chicks. You are and look’s to be? His number one? His wife? He’s now cheating? Ask him? Do you get keys to the apt? Can you drop bye the apt whenever you want? And if he’s dating? Tell him? Then you’re going to date too! And you should absolutely put something in writing? About? How this was his idea? I’m so sorry you’re going through this? The only positive Takeaway is that at least he told you? 
mine did that so I gave him a divorce and told him I wanted to be free also
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He wants privacy which probably means he’s got another woman ready for when he does mentally wanna divorce you. Leave him and take half, men are gross
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Divorce his ass let him go who tf he think he Is.
He wouldn’t have to want a divorce, I would. Present him with that paperwork.
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He has another woman!
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Get your stuff together. He us a father… the price of apartments… nope! Get your stuff un order. He needs to go…all the way! And he needs to prep the bachellor pad foe kiddo visits! F- THAT!!!
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Is he the Bay Harbor Butcher?
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He doesn’t want a divorce, but after this you should turn around and get one.
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Sorry honey but he’s cheating……get the divorce!
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Honestly wish I would’ve considered this before I got married sometimes it’s nice to have space … I hope it works out for you 
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He needs space he’ll girl what does he think that you need space taken care of 3 kids.Tell him bye
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Save yourself the trouble. If he’s moving out - whether he has another woman or not - he doesn’t WANT to be there with you. There’s already a mental divorce in his head. Let him go.
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I agree with op and needs to get that divorce
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I would give him all the Space he could ever want along with the DIVORCE PAPERS!!!
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It’s called desertion file the papers.
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Take the lead…he’s making you a single mother without the “perks”… if he leaves Sue for sole custody and child support…
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He doesn’t wanna pay child support lol
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He’s doesn’t want to be with you or he would be. Bluntly put.
He also doesn’t want to split everything 50/50…which is why he doesn’t want a divorce. He’s keeping you around for his convenience.
You deserve better
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Get a separation agreement before he moves out!!!
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My ex did this too saying he wanted to write his “book”. Haha. He also walked out of couples therapy! Big red flags 
. Note: my EX!!
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Get an attorney, the min he moves out
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I am sorry you are going through this bewildering heartbreak and so many questions that you deserve honest answers to so I wish you nothing but the best with this situation
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Divorce him. He is probably trying to get out of paying child support.
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He doesn’t want to be with you. Probably already seeing someone else! Wake up sweetie! You deserve better! 
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Immature. He needs space? So he can do as he pleases while he keeps you on a chain. Wait til he moves out and then file for divorce.
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File for divorce immediately. He just doesn’t want to split everything and pay child support.
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He just deserted you.
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He has a girlfriend…dont be stupid. If he profits trom your income…cut him off. And begin divorce proceedings TODAY
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You deserve better than this. When he leaves, file for a divorce on the grounds of desertion. Then file for child support.
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Writing is on the wall, read it
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File for child support and separation paperwork. Married or not if you live in different house holds he should be required to pay child support and spousal support
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So sorry … sounds like he wants the best of both worlds … his freedom but a marriage … on the back burner….
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Do not leave your house If you leave it may have repercussions especially if you have children. It can effect your rights to stay in your home and your custody rights if it is your children’s primary home and you move out. Look up legal services near you. They have free options available as well. Him leaving is the best scenario for you! Let him do it! Do not budge from your home and make sure kids stay with you.
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Walk away… He’s doin some shady things 
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Tell him you want a key to the apartment.
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He’s having an affair. I’m sorry. You deserve the truth!
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If he’s moving out…he’s leaving for someone else so tell him You want a divorce!
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Your an idiot get the divorce.He has an apartment a joke. He has someone else Get his clothes together and don’t come back.You have 3 kids take him to court.Lets see how that works too.
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Change the locks on his way out…
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He doesn’t want to pay child support. Divorce his ass.
Personally, I’d tell him him you want out, you go all out. You’re either married and live with your family or you’re not. No both ways!
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Tell him that if he decides to move into an apartment then you’re filing for divorce. It’s that simple.
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Take all money in child support.
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Ahhh no! There’s someone else
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I’m so sorry do you think he is cheating or planning to cheat?
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It’s a No for me.Bye Felipe!!
Fuk him change the locks and go file for full custody don’t be a dumb one.
I wouldn’t want to be with my husband of 15 years if he rented an apartment before discussing it. Hell even after discussing it.
Kiss his ass goodbye 
I feel as he has a side chick and before getting a divorce he is going to see how this “new” thing works… I’m so sorry 
I wouldn’t leave the house though, I would let him have whatever he is doing without you and let him dig his own hole, the truth will come… women are great investors… you can find the truth to your questions and when you do, you go all out and get that divorce… make his rear pay!
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My first thought is that he wants to live a single life while you stay faithful, committed and married to him. Maybe try to have a real serious talk with him find out what he really wants and let him know strongly that he’s not going to have his cake and eat it too. I mean unless you’re cool with that, then 
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The apartment is probably the new place he’s sharing with someone else. He doesn’t want a divorce because it will cost him. Cut your losses and be done with him.
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Make sure you put aside money in a separate account he can’t touch, change the locks and call a lawyer.
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He needs to be honest with you and himself, this is a separation and yes that is a lead up to divorce but not in fixable if he’s willing to. With him hitting you with this suddenly though is not a good sign.
He’s sleeping with someone else
Time to talk to your lawyer cos it looks like he s keeping you as a safety net n he ll have his cake n eat it too. The only reason he don t want a divorce is cos it ll cost him. N if he has someone n it don t work out he ll try crawling back to you
He wants to live the life of a single man and needs his own bachelor pad to take women to, but doesn’t want to pay up like a divorced man with 3 kids. It’s not a matter of trying to put one foot out the door hun. He has totally left the relationship and just doesn’t want to have to deal with the repercussions of getting a divorce. Get a divorce lawyer and make him pay for the lawyer and everything else. Start a new life with you and the kids and be free and happy.
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Say see ya don’t let the door hit you in the a**
FIRST THING YOU NEED TO DO IS BE CAUTIOUS
He is stringing you along
what do you think is happening he has a chick on the side and she is probably married too so they need a place to be together…and they both arent ready to leave their sposes yet…he has you at home looking after kids being the ever loving faithful wife
So he wants the single life
You need to find out who she is by following him and finding out more
Depends on your state he can stop all payments to you and you cant do much.if you seperate…so before you make any decisions check with legal aid and find out everything you need to know
I would suggest you start by putting money aside to make the payments on the house, and food and bills
Because once you find out more about what he is up to then you can file for divorce
Because his foot is already out the door and instead of saying i dont love you anymore he is just trying to be sneaky right now
Good luck sweetie and sorry this is happening to you
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Hes moving on without you
He doesnt want a divorce as it will make him look bad
Please get professional advice
He needs space ? Child divorce him he playing you . He want space give it to him and get all the support you can.
Let’s see how the table turns.
He want his cake and eat it alone .aht aht not today sir.
He definitely playing you trying to play both sides single / married . If I was you I would ask him what his man name
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Stay safe make sure he doesn’t have a life insurance on you and kids.
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Get some papers he’s on his way out.
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File for divorce. He isn’t coming back
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Tell him you’re filing for divorce, get therapy for yourself to help you move on, and try your best to remain civil and coparent for the kids sake, but yes, if he’s taking this step, then sadly, it’s over, and you need to be free of the entanglement
It’s a no for me also….I would approach him and ask how he would feel if you were the one doing this to him?
Go to your lawyer now.
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F that girl. You send that sob packing. Sue him for abandonment. Hit his sorry behind for child support and be thankful he is gone. If he moves in with somebody hit him again. Amend to adultery for everyone to see. Don’t forget spousal support. The judge will award CS by how much he makes or in an amount to sustain the children in a life they are accustom to. Let him I can promise you his new thang won’t hang around long if he is broke.
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He doesn’t want a divorce because then you get half of what he’s got, spousal support and child support…
Believe me when I tell you he is going to behave as though he is divorced in that apartment. That is abandonment. Seek legal council Immediately.
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Tell him to be sure and take the kids with him! See how that works!
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Yeah it’s just time to say goodbye. If you guys haven’t discussed this until now then he’s wanting to leave. I know it hurts a ton but don’t hold onto someone that wants to leave.
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