I’m more confused why they aren’t going with you.
He’s a 
. He’s mad because he actually has to parent his children alone. Ya know, like you do all the time.
I would tell him he’s an asshole for that.
O no way would he say that
Is he usually an insensitive ass or was this a case of not knowing what to say so he stuck his foot in his mouth?
Maybe he was just being nice and telling you to enjoy some alone time since your surrounded by children. Jesus you woman are cruel. We have no idea in the tone it was said.
He sounds like an insensitive nut 
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I’d personally be having a serious chat. That’s outta line…you’re grieving and he’s making comments like that, nope.
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I would said a good ol f**k you and left!
Drop his asssssss neowwwww. Frankly I would of thrown hands
He’s being snarky because your leaving him with the kids. Wait 3 days to return. He’ll learn !
Gee I wonder WHY Women are the Petitioner in 80% of Divorces? We get told ,WE should choose better, But all I see is a LACK of F**king options. POOR BABY had to be the primary Parent so the Primary Parent could attend a Funeral. Hope HE recovers from the Responsibility!
What in the feral fu*k. My mouth would have got the better of me instantly.
Even if it was an errant statement it is a sign of a not very psychologically potty trained person to head trip you during a time of sorrow
Maybe he meant well and didn’t think it through? I would just have a conversation with him and explain that while it’s a nice gesture to tell you to enjoy your time alone, it isn’t under happy circumstances, so you won’t be able to enjoy it, and it comes across as being insensitive, so it was upsetting for you. Sometimes people just aren’t able to understand (this is fairly common in people on the spectrum, too, not that you HAVE to be to struggle with that) and sometimes people just put their foot in their mouth and say things without thinking-especially if that’s typically what he says when you leave and it has become a habit. Have the conversation. Not speaking builds resentment and you may be able to come to an understanding and receive the apology/empathy that I’m sure you would like to hear from him.
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Why do people have kids if they don’t want to be around them?
U shd of told him ohh thk u i will… .fcn men!!!
Throw that to the curb wirh the trash 
What an ash. Like he wants you to thank him and he’s doing you a favor by watching his own kids so you can attend your grandpas funeral. I wouldn’t even know what to say. But it would likely include something like….you’re a selfish mf!!!
Sounds like a really terrible guy.
Men can be such @$$hole sometimes .but so can women…I wouldn’t take it the wrong way unless your really think he was being mean and sarcastic because he has to watch the kids
Why y’all making excuses for this behavior? That’s wild to me. It was a spiteful, insensitive, and under the circumstances I daresay CRUEL thing to say. Unacceptable period.
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Your husband is being an insensitive jerk. Have a conversation when you get home.
Why did he and the kids not go?
Her kids stayed home cause most moms don’t want their young children seeing dead bodies. Damn, wtf is wrong with some a y’all.
What a D!(k. Did you tell him to go Fu(k himself. Sorry this happen to you but that is heartless and evil.
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Examine his intent and question him on it. “What did you mean by that comment? It made me feel _________.” Because that could be a gas light comment lol it just depends on the intent behind it. See how he reacts when you ask him.
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I would’ve said “thanks you too!” Because if he got it wrong then I can too
suuuuper disrespectful!!! I’d be headed to my husbands funeral next after that one….
Without knowing your husband it could mean lots of things. It could be a compliment. A quiet vehicle, a place to be with family, yourself with out kids… peace and quiet. … if it were my spouse… we talk, I would ask him… … I’d do exactly what he said. Enjoy my alone time… I love it because I rarely get it
My husband would never say anything like that in a mean way. If he said it I’d assume he meant something like I could get a little uninterrupted sleep in a hotel or something. But he drops everything and attends funerals with me so idk.
He just had a “dummy man” moment. Let it go in one ear and out the other, like I so much of my husband’s malarkey. Sometimes he says profound things and I listen well and digest the import of his words. Other times, he doesn’t even think before he speaks. He probably won’t even have registered that he said that to you and at such an inappropriate time. Don’t sweat it.
Maybe he meant it as a way of saying to take some time for yourself and collecting your thoughts. His wording may have been off tho. It’s hard to judge because we don’t know how the marriage is or the tone when said ect. I’d like to think he wasn’t being snarky and it was misinterpreted. Sorry for your loss.
I don’t think he meant it in a bad way. More like focus on you and your family. Don’t worry about the kids they’re taken care of type of way. I think it may have just come out wrong.
Of it was coming from .you husband… I would be sure he was trying to make the bad situation a little lighter… I don’t think he was meaning in any kind of bad way.
So heartless. I’d be seriously reconsidering the relationship at that point.
He obviously resents watching his own kids -
It’s time for a come to Jesus meeting with him bc divorce is inevitable with his “view of family” and “separate responsibilities.”
Once back and not going to rip his head off. I would have a conversation with him that this is not alone time and what he said was inconsiderate.
Tell him “thanks”. He is obviously resentful that he has to watch the kids.
The day my husband ever said that to me when I was walking out the door FOR ANYTHING without my kids would be the day he would regret opening his mouth…how childish
“Not as much as I’ll enjoy the next funeral I go to… yours.”
Well it would be his funeral next…
Enjoy a funeral? Whata low blow!
I think you need to sit down with your husband after your emotions are regulated and ask him about this. He may not be being malicious, but have an underlying reason for the comment. Ask him if there is something he is needing. Maybe he wants time alone with you. Maybe he wants to feel connected to you. Maybe something happened at work. Find someone to watch the kids and have this talk with full attention.
That would be my bf my kids dad. I never have time to myself so when I leave for like 20 minutes he gets mad like it’s so hard to watch your own kids. When my bf says stuff like that to me I flip and say the worst things to him. Sorry for your loss tho.
You probably are reading way to far into that small comment, he’s a man, he probably meant well.
Guarantee she comes home to a trashed house. He doesn’t even like you.
Im so sorry for your loss. When is your husbands funeral?
Let’s stop making excuses for men being rude and “not thinking before they speak” because the same excuse won’t be made for women. 
I don’t understand why him and the kids didn’t go with.
Oh I’d be pissed. What an insensitive asshole