Are they going on their lunch hr or on a day off. I can maybe see if he is going to get all fancied up on a day off and go to lunch with just her but I’ve had lunch with both male and female staff at work and it never seemed like a big deal to me.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband wants to eat lunch with a female co-worker, is that okay?
No need for this. Unless he’ brings his wife too
I feel like that’s really weird. He should respect you if you say it makes you uncomfortable. If they had a lunch table at work and all ate together that’s one thing but not going out lol
There is nothing wrong with eating lunch with coworkers in my opinion. As long as this happens during work hours and doesn’t turn into dinner dates, etc. and also as long as your marriage is healthy and happy. 
Sounds like there’s trust issues. If he’s never given you a reason not to trust him I don’t see what the big deal is 
I don’t see an issue . If it’s near work and during lunch break hours . If it becomes a habit yes .
Nope not crazy. That shouldn’t happen. It opens the door for scandalous behavior even if there were only the most innocent of intentions present initially.
Why wouldn’t it be?? It is okay for both sexes to have friends of both sexes.
Would be a little different if they all went not just them two
Do you trust your Husband to stop anything before it starts?
Ask if you can go with them! If he says no, let him know that you don’t like it. I’d think of that as a red flag.
I don’t see a problem with it.
Lunch between co workers is fine.
If he was trying to hide something he wouldn’t have told you . He would have just went
I speak from experience
Absolutely fucking not!
She was married too, and had alternate motives. If your gut says no, trust it.
Suggest all 4 of you go on a double date
I would encourage my husband to form friendships with his Co- workers. It makes the days so much easier to handle. But I trust my husband, he is committed to me. It’s just food, everyone needs to eat!
I have had many lunch meetings with co workers, and/or my boss. We go, we eat, we talk shop, we go back to work.
Maybe I’m controlling or whatever? Lolol but I don’t see why on earth a man needs female friends when he’s married. Just my opinion.
Just them 2, intentionally going out to eat together, when you feel uncomfortable about it, doesn’t sound like it’s necessary or a good idea
Girl hell no. And I guarantee it’s happened before and you didn’t know about it. That is a date
Sure. And tell them u will make the reservation …for 3
I went to lunch with a male coworker and friend lots of times. We were both married and there was never anything inappropriate. We were/are still really good friends. You just need to figure out if its just you have some issues or if there is a legit reason you don’t trust him and if there is you got bigger problems than lunch.
I wouldn’t be okay with it. If he wanted to take her there as a friend it should not be lunch it should be a dinner with you, him, her, and her husband.
I trust my husband beyond measure. With this being said, no it is not appropriate for just the 2 of them. As a group of co-workers, yes.
Since everyone likes the restaurant shouldn’t he suggest everyone go
Make it a double date
It depends how he is behaving about it. Mine would offer to do something like this because he’s a nice guy and wouldn’t stop and think how it might look. Prove you love and trust him by being OK with it. If it’s a one off, no problem. Keep an eye on things but otherwise trust him enough to let it go.
I don’t see a problem with it. Unless he’s given u reasons to not trust him. And if u say u don’t trust her then your being insecure.
If you don’t have trust in the marriage then you don’t have anything.
If it’s makes you uncomfortable he shouldn’t take that into consideration and do what he feels is best for y’all’s relationship. I personally wouldn’t be comfortable with it myself.
Why don’t you suggest doing dinner and you and her husband join.
He’s probably smashing that already lol.
I think it’s OK but the issue is do you trust your husband.
No!! Only because of its appearance. Not good for him not good for the woman. Never mix business with pleasure. It would be different if it was a group of workers. Also if superiors become aware They both could be fired.
I wont put up with that
Only if its during work hours like they’re goin there during lunch, but if its after work hours than hell no my husband is not taking another woman to lunch.
I didn’t need to the read the rest. Absolutely not.
I wouldn’t have an issue with it.
It’s inappropriate. Especially if you have reservations about it. Why don’t you all four go
It’s just pushing boundaries for me. Professionally and personally. He doesn’t have to offer to be there with her for her to go and enjoy the food. The suggestion itself was enough
Its lunch its not like its an evening candle lit dinner 
its no different to sitting in mc Donald’s like you she is married and so is he 
Nope, especially if you’re feeling uncomfortable about it
It just depends on your relationship. It’s okay to express that you’re a little uncomfortable about it. And if it’s happening outside of work hours, its okay to suggest you go along as well as her husband. I think in most relationships it’s normal to sometimes feel uneasy about things like this, doesn’t make you crazy.
It’s lunch? Who cares? Men and women are allowed to be friends lol.
Depends on your boundaries. If it makes you uncomfortable that’s all that matters. Voice your concerns!
Tell him that the two of you should have dinner there with her & her husband.
If it’s an issue maybe suggest that they do it as a group and not just the 2 of them?
If he mentioned it up front I wouldn’t worry but if they hide it and you find out it’s not good.
Unless u have reasons to not trust him I see nothing wrong. I go out with coworkers all the time for lunch n so does my husband.
We both go out n have drinks with the opposite sexes too, because it’s ok to be friends with others.
Suggest you and her husband tag along. Date night
The “I’ll take you to lunch” is weird IMO. I’d think it would be weird even if he even told a male coworker “I’ll take you for lunch” lol
If everyone loves this place to eat why isn’t everyone or several people going/ meeting up there for lunch one day? Just seems weird to me
Make it a dinner for 4
No recommended.It will lead to issues with even the best of intentions. Situations that can result with your family suffering heartbreak
How about suggest a double date with her and her husband and also he told you about so not like he tried hiding it
I went out to lunch multiple times a week with my coworker. Definitely not a big deal unless you make it one. At least he told you and was being honest with you. Don’t sweat the small stuff, it’s just lunch and people have to eat.
I wouldn’t like it. Sounds like a date. Are you going too?
Its just lunch. If it was dinner maybe
Why wouldn’t he suggest a double date?
Sounds fishy to me.
No way…trust has nothing to do with this…its about both adults being married an your husband should not except taking another coworker/female out …it is not his wife…if this was a work party than that would be. Considered okay!
Unless he’s giving you a reason, why question it?
Would you have this same energy if it was a guy?
Probaly not!
If he’s never given you reason to not trust him then let them go or maybe suggest a double date to dinner and everyone can go together.
It’s lunch. Obviously he isn’t hiding it from you.
Tell her its a nice place and she should try it sometimes with her husband.
Nope…she should take her own husband and leave mine alone, thank you very much 
just walk away lady, walk away 
Seems inappropriate to me if it is just the two of them.crossing some boundaries.would be better if it was a group of co-workers.
I wouldn’t be ok with it, personally.
I feel like I can have lunch with my co workers , male or female, and it not lure me to cheat so I figure my husband is capable of doing that too
It would be a no from me…
You’re crazy it’s lunch at work. I work evenings and so does my husband, he’s gone to " dinner " with his female coworkers and I’ve gone to “dinner” with my male coworkers . Even if we all just doordash something. If you trust him who cares.
Has he ever cheated? Made you think he was? Ever did anything with said co-worker? If not then this was an elaborate way to say you don’t trust your spouse. 
All about trust. To each their own
Your post says more about you than it does about your husband. I do however like another person’s comment of asking for it to be a dinner with you and her husband joining them.
Not crazy at all. My husband worked with a lady that was also married and swore he didn’t like her or would do anything. But a couple months later, after I knew this lady and she knew he was married with children and she was married with children as well. They had been sexting on snap under different names and had plans of meeting after work to have sex. So no, I don’t blame you at all for feeling this way! My opinion from my experience, don’t allow it unless it can be a double date.
Seems like you maybe do not trust him. If you do not then it could be a problem, BUT if you trust him and met her, I think it’s fine. Remember he just recently started there and is probably trying to make friends and build camaraderie with his NEW co-workers. I say it’s fine!
it being an issue is indicative of other problems. maybe figure those out then this would be no big deal.
Death for lunch is what my husband would be having…
If you’re not comfortable with it, then you’re not & he needs to respect that. If he doesn’t & continues to go after expressing your feelings, then he just showed you his true colors.
To me, you don’t have to have a reason why you don’t trust him. If you’re uncomfortable with something, it is what it is. Say it, hopefully they respect it & that’s that.
Mine wouldn’t even have offered to begin with basically because he wouldn’t feel comfortable either if roles were switched & we both give no reason to “not trust each other”. We just rather take each other out to places to eat rather than other people 
If you’re comfortable with letting him go, then nothing wrong with that either. You make the choice, how you feel about it & go from there.
To each it’s own.
It isn’t a good look for your marriage for him to be seen out in public with another woman. Even if they are just friends, there’s just some lines you don’t cross. If she’s married as well, I would suggest a dinner with you and your husband and her and her husband join at said restaurant.
Just tell him you don’t like the idea if it and see how he reacts. That’ll tell you all you need to know.
Nope!! He has no business taking another woman out to lunch! That’s how AFFAIRS start. Her husband should be taking her out to lunch not YOUR husband.
If it was multiple people I would say yes but that right there is how issues start
I need people to stop asking for advice on here. Everyone jumping to he cheating, it’s a bad sign etc… we don’t know you, we don’t know your husband. To me it is innocent and if he hasn’t given you a reason to distrust why now?
I don’t even know on this one…. I would say yes, It’s perfectly fine to have lunch with a co worker of the opposite sex. However, crazy me would probably worry indefinitely
So yea… you kinda crazy 
Nope NOT okay.
Can I ask why did your husband felt obligated to take her to lunch? He could have easily suggested a group outing or another female coworker take her.
Some Folks are so insecure that they’ll behave in a petty manner. If that’s you just own it…
I’d be okay with it 
No I’d never let my man go
Why don’t you all go? Since she’s married also.
If you have no reason not to trust him I don’t think it’s a big deal. Especially if they’re going on their lunch break from work. If I end up going on my lunch break at the same time as one of my coworkers well ride together just because it’s convenient it’s also nice to have company on luncg
Absolutely a big NO. He better take you in stead.
Lmao literally what lead to my recent divorce. It starts with lunch. No married man who is happy should ever want to entertain the attention of another female. Her husband can take her.
Why are people so jealous? Trust people!
Guys and girls can be just friends!
So I’m a police officer and I regularly go to lunch with men alone I think that you have to trust your partner. If I didn’t go to lunch with guys I would have to eat lunch alone every single day
Just tell him you would love to try out this restaurant too, and you will be joining them. That’s pretty simple.!
Has he lost his ****ing mind
You could just try to be honest with him and tell him You are insecure and don’t trust him or her not to be adults with rules and boundaries
yes you are kind of crazy, but on the other hand if he wants to cheat on you he will anyway. “lunch” or no lunch
I have eaten lunch with my male coworkers many , many , many times in the 11 years I’ve worked with them . It has never been anything other than co workers eating lunch together. However , out of all those times , I can’t remember any of them being less than 3 of us , even tho I’ve always been the only female , but not by design . The guys go out , sometimes I go with , i have eaten lunch with just one other male on the premises tho but again , it’s just co workers eating lunch together because we happen to be there at the same time. I get how someone might feel insecure about it , but it is 100% possible for it to be totally platonic and/or just out of convenience. I guess The act itself isn’t inappropriate, it’s how the people involved perceive it . If one of them starts to think it’s anything other than what I’ve described … then it’s an issue .
Nope. There are boundaries you just don’t cross.