I point out how women are dressed to him. If they have a little or big butt. Whether they’re pretty or ugly etc. The point is. If you start pointing them out to him maybe he won’t feel the need to look.
I dunno what your perspective is on religion, and it doesn’t matter, really. But Jesus said if you look at a woman with lust, you’re actually committing adultery in your heart.
To me, this is truth that cannot be ignored. That’s why it makes you feel the way you do. It’s degrading to you and very disrespectful.
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Some is a reflex he’s a man but If I am out with my husband i’ll point a women out to him. Be comfortable with your relationship and let him look! Don’t look for problems that aren’t there. You might consider stepping up your game so he sees men check you out! Don’t over think it.
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It’s ok, he’s just looking, he’s home with you right?
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We look at the opposite sex all the time…rather people we see out in public, on tv, or internet. Men and woman. Nothing wrong as long as he isn’t acting on it. Looking at woman doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to you, or happy in your relationship. Believe it or not this can also be scientific where our brains release Neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin giving these type of reactions to the opposite sex.
If he’s disrespecting you like that after you told him it bothers you, he does not treat you well AND if he does that while he’s with you, he’s imagine his behavior when he’s not with you.
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Omgoodness. I would say most men look. Don’t you look at good looking men? Lordy.
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It sounds like he only have to listen to you when you first addressed the situation. So now he still doing it but he’s trying to hide it from you so you still need to talk to him about this and let him know that he is not as slick as he thinks he is.  let him know that you still notice when he’s doing it and the fact that he’s still doing it even if he’s trying to hide it from you is actually more disrespectful. 
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It is disrespectful to look multiple times in my opinion. Start checking out other guys and see how he likes it 
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my husband was the same way, but then I gave him a taste of his own medicine and I would make sure he saw me checking out other men making eye contact with the crotch 
but I’m petty tho
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My husband did that for years it never bothered me.
I agree it’s disrespectful. Tell him to do it when you’re not with him. If he does it with you there then call him out and embarrass him. Or make his day miserable. He will rethink it.
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He is not an “amazing husband” if he is blatantly disrespecting you in public and you have already voiced your concerns too.
And yes, it is f*ing creepy.
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I check out woman more than mine . I will admit … I’m a full blown booty bandit
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He’s gonna overly creep the wrong one and got slapped. It may take that for him to realoze it’s gross.
If you have a son, teach him better. If you have a daughter…
Tell your husband, one day a man will check her out like that. Bet he won’t like it.
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I check out women to. I appreciate a good looking woman. I am straight. But check out chicks? I know it’s weird. More than I do guys usually. My husband and I catch each other doing it all the time. I say it’s harmless. But that’s just us. Every couple is different. I understand feeling insecure. It’s a crappy way to feel. He should validate ur feelings .
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Being dramatic and just cuz you don’t see other women doing it they are probably just as dramatic as you are about their husband looking but I truly hope not and it has nothing to do with being insecure but no moreso he grown and has eyes that see like yours. Which leads me to believe he was looking at women before the I DO but guess what he chose YOU. Has he given you a reason to think he’s acting on his looking if so then HOUSTON WE HAVE A PROBLEM - if not then you watching him to much to be even noticing him glancing at other women. Question - does he watch tv or movies, what about plays or musicals if so are there women in those and do you check him on that as well? #blindwitheyeswideopen
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It’s easy walk with him and state to girls you can give references… Skipping down the trail laughing. It’s rude
If you’ve voiced your feelings and someone continues to disregard your feelings, it’s disrespectful to you. That’s not a good spouse.
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If some married dude was checking me out, I’d instantly think, “What a creep!” 
My partner may have some choice words, too.
Every relationship is different. If you told him it hurts you and he continues to do it, he doesn’t give a crap about you. If it’s meaningless, it’d be easy to quit, right? He is consciously choosing to continue hurting you. 
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CHeck out men in front of him
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I would start checking out guys. I bet he wouldn’t like that
It’s totally disrespectful, you are entitled to your feelings, it’s not your fault, it doesn’t make you look bad. You are not his mother, he is not yours to raise. His behavior is his behavior but I do have to question how an “amazing husband” can disrespect your feelings so much. Expect more from yourself, command his respect, if he can’t give you that…. It says a lot about the man he really is, without your rose colored glasses!!!
Good luck!!!’ Hugs
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Turn about… Even if you don’t really want to…you will get your answer
You need to tell him he’s a total creep! If I caught another woman’s man staring at me he’d have a busted lip from me, and my husband is bout to f*** him up. It’s disrespectful to YOU and the women he’s staring at. We don’t know if he’s a sexual predator or just a bad husband and our safety is at stake. I’m a throw hands first ask questions later.
TELL HIM HOW CREEPY HE IS!!
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Call him out when he does it, loud enough for the womsn he is checking out to hear you. Embarrass the sh:poop: out of him and call his behaviour out as its happening. Guaranteed he will stop doing it. Or video him doing it to show him out creepy it is, some men think they are smooth until they get an idea how they look to others
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Be dramatic. Cause a scene when you catch him doing it. Make sure that the eye target hears you and be the over-dramatic wife. Say stupid crap out loud just to embarrass him. Example: “I can’t believe you’re checking her out when you know I’m pregnant with your twins. I can’t help it that I’m gonna get fat!” And start fake wailing and walk away with your hands covering your face. When you call him out on being a stupid ass over and over, his stupid ass will quit b/c he will never know when you are going to embarrass him in public. Problem solved.
How disrespectful to you!!!
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If another man start looking at you… started talking to you or flirting with you. You would see him change real quick.
I like to watch stuff like that when it happens ( Jealous comes out)
I would be more upset with a man that pretends not to think other woman are hot. If it were my man I would say she’s hot isn’t she. It’s perfectly normal. Woman are beautiful creatures.
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My husband and I check women out together. I am straight. There nothing wrong with it. It’s natural to look at other people.
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Men will be men. I look at men, but that is all it is and his is probable the same
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No that’s what men do I had to learn to stay out of peeps heads & it works what use to bother me don’t anymore but trust me still keep a look out 
I’ve been married over 30 years to a girl watcher. I’ve always said if God thought it was wrong he’d make us blind once we got married.
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I always lived by the “being on a diet doesn’t mean you can’t read the menu”. If he went out with me and came home with me and had no questionable things happening then I really didn’t care who he looked at. Sounds like your self esteem needs some work.
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They are all checking out other women. You just don’t notice it in anyone but your husband. You don’t notice good looking people ever?
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Well unless he wants to stop, nothing you do or say or look like will change it. You picked him, so stick by him… If that changes then leave him and be with a man who understands and uses sexual discipline in life. They exist and yeah they actually have no desire to make their partners feel like he has no issue making you feel.
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I promise you they ALL check out other women. I can’t imagine leaving a "great husband and father " for gasp thinking other people are attractive too! Lol like you’ve never looked
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Leave him at the place you’re at. He starts blatantly checking them out, get in the car and drive home alone. He can get an Uber
Brandon Dubuc right??? 
Im not putting UP with his shit thats all im going to say
For me I have no problem with it. You don’t want him to be secretive do you? It could lead into role play or build libidos! You know if we as partners fully like I mean fully trust one another. And are treated amazingly. There is.No threat. Just one person opinion.
Honestly a little dramatic …it’s in their nature…He’s looking. He’s not touching. I check out women with mine but I’m into that. Girls are beautiful and its hard not to look sometimes. You getting mad is going to make him hide more. Be honest and open and if it’s an absolute no you might want to find one guy that doesn’t. Good luck.
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I would talk to him and be real. Like I get your a man and to be honest we all look but you sir are on a higher level and you look like a creeper. Do you have like a creepy pervy thing going on cause its beginning to give me some real big creeper vibes. Hopefully once he realizes how and what your thinking he might change. Also just be glad he’s looking at grown women, not kids or men hello?
You would consider ending your marriage because your husband looks at other women? Is he going over and grabbing them? Running around on you? A complete ass and abusing you? Withholding financial support of you and your children? Time to put on your big girl panties and dig into what the issue really is. And can you honestly say you don’t look at other men, because when you say you see how other men treat their wives, that’s telling me that yes, you do. Even I look at other men, and I’m 70, and they don’t have to be my own age bc younger men rock!! Give your amazing husband a break.
Start going up to men in stores and asking questions like your a dumb blonde and giggle. I bet he sees you and not other women them
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My fiancé does not look at other woman unless we’re making funny jokes about outfits or crazy makeup or hair ya know 
but he says it’s disrespectful, he doesn’t understand it and thinks its gross when guys grope over women. He’ll even notice when other guys are looking at woman and tell me how disrespectful it is to the women especially since its mostly not wanted. I honestly hate it, I always felt so creeped out by it when it happens to me. But honestly we only have eyes for eachother and I love it, not having to feel insecure ever, you shouldn’t have to feel that way especially with the one you love most…
I hate that “boys will be boys” crap. “It’s in their nature.” There’s no excuse for the disrespect. Period. Women absolutely find other men attractive- it’s not a nature formed to one gender. It’s ALLLLLL about respect. My guy is amazing too, But he knows better. 
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lol I’d dress sexy show others I wouldn’t like that at all two can play at that game
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Mine did that so when I would catch him I would just calmly say o honey is that some one you know ,he say y I just seen you staring and thought you might know them .that’s all honey and just be as calm as you can be they’ll stop but don’t give up it will take a while
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Some men are just jerks. I get the fact he’s being disrespectful, but sometimes you just can’t get others to understand. Start checking out men when he’s around. Give him a taste of his own medicine?
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I know when I’m out with my husband, there’s always gonna be someone that’s good looking……there’s a big difference between admiring someone’s beauty, and checking someone out!
That’s just plain disrespectful. Stand up for yourself!
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I’ve always said he can look at the menu but he can’t order off the menu
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Yes. You’re being dramatic.
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Women can be very insecure about themselves when men do shit like that. But it’s bound to happen anyways because they don’t care or they can’t control it… And vice versa!
I personally don’t check out any guy like I did back in the day long before my fiance, which was celebs I had crushes on. And I was never into the whole muscle/ six pack look either like a lot women love.
Look it’s in a man’s dna it’s not that he doesn’t love you but men just have it wired in their brain.
Looking is different than what u are describing, I agree your feelings are valid. I’ve felt that way for years about my own SO and it is some times to the point where it seems like he’s flirting and being extra nice and talks to them or smiles at them or makes conversation 
can’t stand it. But if I were to do that “I’m the whore in the room”. I can’t even walk through a door a man is holding open for me without him getting mad
That is very disrespectful especially if it is obvious. No your not insecure, but hey do it back to him and see if he likes it🤷🏻♀️
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I don’t think yr over reacting…it’s just disrespectful he’s a creep
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Look but don’t touch, You have no reason to be concerned
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My parents have a strict look but don’t touch policy, it’s okay for her to check out other guys and okay for him to check out other gals, my dad even points out attractive women to my mom sometimes (she’s straight, she doesn’t mind), he still thinks my mom is the priest chick ever… they’ve been married for 38 years and together a few years longer… what works for them doesn’t work for everybody I guess
Whenever my husband checks out other women I just say “you know… if you made more money I could look like that “
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As big as he’s yet looking n not touching I would t be bothered as I’d be looking at all the fit men xx
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I’d check her out first and point out all her good bits and ask his opinion and then I’d do the same with any men that passed by and ask his opinion on them as well he would soon get bored of looking lol x
I dont know I talk with my hubby about guys and girls. We both look and comment about people but if he’s being creepy I would let him know like gross guy drooling and what not. Your feelings are valid and maby he needs to feel how your feeling when yall go out do a hard core check out fest yourself comment on the good looking guy to your hubby see what he thinks, this could also backfire on you and make him think its ok with you if your doing it. Just have a sit down with him about it just the 2 of yall and talk.
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Pick your battles dear. Seems like his looking is habitual and it’s not likely to change. I’m sure there’s things you do that he doesn’t like either.
Beat him to it. Find and check out the pretty people before he can. Make a game of it. Take the power away from it.
If he loves you and treats you well try and take the sting out of it by taking control of it.
If he is just a jerk pack up and move on.
Some people are more visual. Some people get more self conscious and have anxiety.
I was pretty hot stuff a decade and 3 babies ago and had less self esteem issue. Today, 3 babies, give or take 160lbs gained and loss twice over, and raising kids, working, homes to care for, aging parents. It’s ALOT and my body comes last
Ive started taking 5 minutes in the morning JUST FOR ME. even if the kids are up at 530 and screaming at me they are safe in cribs for 5 minutes so I can focus on me. Whither it’s brushing my teeth or putting some eyeliner on or having a darn good cry while I poop alone for the first and last time that day.
First find out If you can find a way to cope with it or if you need to move on.
Second start giving back and loving yourself. Even if you already do do more. Build yourself, and him, up and foster that relationship and bond.
Third, everyone likes looking at beautiful things/people/places etc. Just because he looks at someone else beautiful it does NOT make you less beautiful. Just because one flower blooms purple, and another blooms yellow, doesn’t make either less worthy.
Now finally if he steps out or misbehaved just find someone with a backhoe and plant your own beautiful flowers, preferably endangered so they can’t be dug up for evidence. 
I think if it’s subtle it’s nothing to worry about, unless he is actively looking for someone to hit on. He’s just appreciating someone’s good looks.
My late husband and I would occasionally point out attractive people to each other, until we both hit out 30s. Then it became awkward, because it seemed to become increasingly hard to tell whether someone was close to our age or not.
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He’s being a man, he’s coming home to you at night isn’t he? I’ve pointed women out to my fiance & he does the same (in a joking manner), but we’re also very comfortable with eachother… Insecurities suck but when it comes down to it he’s with you, comes home to you, married you… I don’t understand why this bothers women so much,
Whether or not you’re insecure it’s disrespectful. Period.
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If you feel like is disrespectful to you and you’ve told him that then yes it’s disrespectful.
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Hahaha wow! He’s looking at someone big deal…I point women out to my husband. Idc he’s coming home with/to me.
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Just because your on diet, doesn’t mean you can’t check out the menu
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I always ask my husband, Do you want her?
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Not all men check out other women, I hate how everybody makes it the norm of that men are just horny little f**** that look at everything. I honestly think it’s disrespectful if you’re man checks out other women when he’s with the woman he loves. Men want women to believe that it’s normal for them to check out other women just so they can get away with it. Every guy I’ve been with has respected me and not once checked out another woman in front of me.
Ewww. Just gross. He’s an asshole. Sorry.
I’d start checking out guys the same way he does girls. Turn about is fair play. If he wants to look, then by all means girl get you an eye full of some man candy.
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My soon to be ex did also… It was such a turn off for me. I know men look but gawking is different. And so disrespectful.
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Wish I could give you confidence to LOL at him when he does this infront of the ladies… I wouldn’t tolerate it… I get its normal to look but sounds like he’s overdoing it. Wonder what he’d do if you weren’t there!!! You should be his arm candy… hugs
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My ex was like this, and he was one womanizing fucker 
it was embarrassing!
Some people don’t realize they are looking or flirting. Dad was like that, he would light up and flirt with women didn’t matter size, shape, color or age. I have realized I inherited it to a smaller degree and try not to do so. But I do catch myself doing it so I don’t have a lot of control over not looking, I try hard because I don’t want to hurt my husband’s feelings.
Just turned the tables But he always goes home with you right. Stop stressing.
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He’s married not dead. Same goes for you
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Nope it’s disrespectful. He CAN control his eyes. I hate the people who say shit like “you can look at the menu” or some dumbass shit like that. No. It’s rude and shows he has zero respect for you. If I caught my partner checking out people like that multiple times, we would have an issue
Nope my man gets caught once, I say something but let that one go. Anything beyond that is an issue and I’ll make a scene and embarrass him, idrc. Not everyone looks so he’s being super disrespectful.
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You’re likely not the sexiest woman out there. Women will be more or less attractive than you. They’ll have some better features than you. You accept that. It’s rare for someone to think the partner is the sexiest in literal sense. Most of us notice an attractive person to us and think they’re good looking. He’s not doing anything worrisome. You’re insecure.
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People, men in this case, aren’t animals. We have control over ourselves. The problem isn’t that OP thinks her other half can’t find people attractive, it’s that her husband is choosing to be disrespectful and continuing an action he could stop. He can go ham when she’s not there. He’s fundamentally telling her she’s not worth the effort, and his needs exceed hers.
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Lol how do you start it off like that and then follow with he LOOKS lol . Who cares . Look with him . Woman are BEAUTIFUL 
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Make a big deal of other guys when you’re walking with him. Check them out. Make eye contact. Flirt with them. He needs a taste of his own medicine!
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Lol, just start checking out all the handsome Men you see lol, It’s ok to look just don’t touch. Other than that all you can do is get over it.
Turn it around on him. You start checking out men blatantly. And when he gets upset….which he will. Tell him that’s how you feel when he does it. I am so tired of this double standard that they are men and “can’t control things” my man’s ig is filled with “hot women” why can’t I have “hot men” on mine. I went out of my way to make that the ONLY on my timeline now. And it was AMAZING how quick his timeline changed. 
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You can’t control who he looks at. If he is wonderful than don’t worry about it.
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Since you’ve told him it’s an issue and he chooses to ignore your feelings and does what he wants. That is not a sign of a supportive loving partner! Yes, people are attractive but you don’t risk hurting the feelings of the person you say you love. Lots of advice here says “you should look to” I don’t agree, it makes you no better than him. And if you were to do it, then it would really be just a phony act of revenge. He’s looking because he is not happy with what he has. He’s wondering if maybe something better is there. Or he’s feeling his age. Whatever his reason is it’s more important than you are. And how you view the man your with should be important to him. He’s being rude and disrespectful to you and your marriage.
That’s super gross and I bet he’s making those women uncomfortable. Noticing an attractive person isn’t an issue, we all do that, but staring at them like you’ve described is fucking creepy, and super disrespectful to your partner. Him blatantly invalidating your feelings is even worse.
I honestly don’t really have any solutions, bc I’ve never stayed with anyone who did that. It was always something I looked for early on on dates. Maybe try marriage counseling to see if an unbiased 3rd party can get him to listen to you and understand your perspective?
I like to look so I made a game out of it. We have fun checking out other people and even daring each other to holler. We never do but we have tons of fun being able to talk about everything. Be confident in your position in his life.
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I’d wait for him to wanna go somewhere…and tell ‘NAW I AINT GOIN NOWHERE WIT YOU…YOU CANT KEEP YOUR EYES IN YO HEAD.!’ Now we gotta argue every trip:rofl:
Give him a dose of his own medicine with verbal as well. See how he likes it.
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