I read this to husband and he said he’s probably cheating too…
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It’s plain disrespectful… my ex was like that … I say ‘ex’ … great person but in the end it always ends badly ……
try doing what he does I bet he won’t like it when the cards are turned!!
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I had this problem with my ex husband (although we became friends after divorce) he described looking at women like a nice car.
He made an effort not to be blatantly obvious about it due to your insecurities.
If you look for something bad or wrong, you will find it… appreciate all the amazingness that you say he is.
He’s not dead let him look as long as he’s not running around and it’s you he leaves with and you he takes care of why would you be jealous of him looking at a girl I would be worried if he didn’t look he is not dead what harm is it to look at somebody? Be glad he doesn’t do anything sneaky be glad you have that wonderful husband don’t run him off over something so stupid looking doesn’t hurt anybody
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What else is going on? Have you ever noticed that a hot guy caught your attention? Sounds like maor trust issues.
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My boyfriend does this too and it used to be way worse. In the beginning of our relationship he would look and say a girl is hot…ok…then it started being all the time and making facial expressions and staring…then he literally went up to a woman at another table at dinner to tell her she was beautiful. Another time at an art gallery he went on and on and on and on aboot how beautiful a woman there was, her dress , her hair, how elegant she looked. That’s when I had enough and flipped out. There is a fine line between looking and maybe commenting and literally going up to other woman to tell them how attractive you think they are. The woman at the table for dinner looked at him like he was crazy because I was right there. Finally he stopped doing that, we will both look sometimes and I started pointing out tall hot muscular in shape men, it doesn’t seem to bother him. But since he knows how hurt I was that he was going up to women and basically hitting on them in front of me he stopped doing that……it does hurt the trust some because he works out of town a lot and I imagine he is hitting on women when I’m not around. I try not to think about that and jump to conclusions because ultimately he is a good caring and loving person. So I would tell him in a non confrontational way how it makes you feel, that when other women realize he is checking them out how it’s disrespectful to you being that you are in his presence. Also i started dtessing as sexy as I could so I get attention and looks from other guys and that seems to control his wandering eye too because he is looking at who is checking me out 
Look but don’t touch. If he isn’t cheating or talking to other Women then it should not be an issue. If you feel that upset about it then start doing the same & look at other men in public to see if he gets jealous. It is natural to have eye candy or be attracted to looking at someone who is good looking… Even if you don’t say it out loud or stare the person is still thinking it. Some men are discreet about it but they all do it & women too. Men like confident women. Have more confidence in yourself & have the attitude that you are a Queen & know you can’t ve replaced that those women he is looking at aren’t worth looking at… act like it doesn’t bother you then maybe he will stop doing it if he is that type. pretend that it doesn’t affect you & ignore it just to see his reaction. Some men play games & those that do will get upset if you don’t give them the attention they are seeking like getting a rise out of you.
Is there a reason why you are so concerned about your Husband looking at other women? Is he home every night & only work (if he is employed) & come home to you & your Family every night?? Does he ever have “boy nights” or go out & party & leave you home? Is there any reason other than him looking at other women that is making you uncomfortable?? So many unanswered questions… I need more details…
I put up with it for 12 years!
HE WAS BORN WITH EYE’S. HES GONNA LOOK … YOU WILL NEVER STOP A MAN FROM LOOKING SO LOOKING. if you don’t want a man who looks opt for someone who his blind.
Are you15???
Wanting to End you’re marriage because he’s a looking else where?.
these posts are pathetic
Absolutely pathetic.
You are being insecure and need help. To work on that.
Not all men are the same. But yeah buddy he was born with eyes his gonna look.
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Obviously he ain’t that amazing if he keeps doing something that makes you feel inferior
“Thou shall not lust”
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All these women “just let him do it” seriously you’re not getting great advice here if it bothers you he should not do it everyone has their own relationships in regards to what they will and won’t accept or put up with you clearly do not want to put up with this any longer let him know give him an opportunity to rectify it and if he does not you need to make the best decision for your mental health and wellbeing
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Get use to it. It’s natural for men to look at other woman & vise versa. As long as they don’t touch your good
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You told the man how you feel about him being a creeper in front of your face? That it was actually bothering you and very disrespectful? I take it that his response was to continue and advance? His actions are his feelings, he’s telling you, he’s not going to stop no matter how you feel. Noticing an attractive person is a natural instinct and that’s fine but when you amp it up to straight up being a weirdo about it and I’m there. No ma’am, You want to make yourself look like one of those creeper men, that all woman know about, the kind that has to be seen , very blatant about it. That man? My husband, out in public making me look like a fool? Nope
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Look at another man in front of him and he’ll never forget it lol. Maybe then he will understand how you feel 
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I totally get it. Yes we all look but when it’s over the top looking like he does it’s definitely disrespectful & creepy. Doesn’t seem like he’ll stop & being a good husband doesn’t equal it out either so it’s your move now to decide how you want to handle it. In my opinion he’s out of line & it has nothing to do with you being insecure & it’s not normal to go overboard the way he does either.
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I think it’s an overreaction. He’s just looking. He doesn’t know their names, their address, where they work, he’s not touching them or even talking to/flirting with.
If you don’t think that this is pretty normal in this day and age, then why do strip clubs exist? Or groups like manpower. Stripper at a bachelor/ette party anyone? Relationships come with compromise. He’s obviously taken what you’ve said on board and he’s tried to make it less obvious. In doing so, instead of one appreciative look, it’s now a few quick glimpses. I speak from personal experience, all my partners have looked and there’s only 1 that made me insecure as you are and that’s because he lacked in making me feel loved by him.
Well he can’t be that amazing because that’s not very respectful. And what’s an amazing man with no respect? So…
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My man and I check out girls together, but that’s because I’m bisexual as f*ck.
If it’s bothering you, he shouldn’t be doing it. Really he should make it a point to you that all eyes are on you. I mean, it’s normal to look, we are all guilty of it, but if he’s being creepy about it, then definitely not okay. Check out another man, like stare that guy down, as much as you can without pretending to drool, and see how your man likes it when you do it. If he doesn’t like watching you be a freakin creep checking out other men, then tell him to stop being a creep with other women.
Never just Settle …you need to be respected hands down ! If he can’t do that he doesn’t deserve you
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Your feelings are valid. While it’s a natural thing to look at people we find attractive, what you are describing is 100% disrespectful…especially if you’ve already expressed to him how it makes you feel when he does it.
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Probably because the “other men” in public aren’t checking you out.
I’m my opinion if it’s a once glance at a really beautiful lady, like nothing in appropriate, I don’t see nothing wrong. But if he can’t focus on you, it’s scouting, looking to make eye contact, up and down staring, and it obvious to the lady or others around I think he has an issue. Most likely a cheater and needs professional help. A guy needs to be able to control himself. I know for darn sure I don’t like it when a guy other than my husband looks at me like I’m a piece of meat let alone when with a partner or when I’m with mine. It doesn’t make me feel pretty at all. When a guy can admire you respectfully or compliment to my partner then it’s flattering. But these sicko uncontrolled boys is just disgusting. A real man can control himself, knows how to give his women all his attention, and can appreciate a beautiful woman without thinking nasty. If he can’t control himself in front of you then you already know what he is like behind your back.
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Pretend you are checking out guys and see how he likes it
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A woman is as old as she looks & a man is old when he doesn’t! You said it yourself, he’s a very good husband. They are hard to find. Don’t throw it away.
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If he’s just looking at the menu and not ordering leave it be. Now if he places an order u have a problem
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Make a joke out of it and be like, “Yeah, I’d do her too!!” when you catch him doing it. Or you could start doing the same thing but for men.
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I’m sorry you’re going through this but you also have to realize that you need to stop ignoring the obvious And making excuses for him if he does it in your face he’s definitely going to do worse behind your back. I’m not trying to be rude but you should sit back and really think about whether he truly is treating you well, sometimes we let people who don’t treat us well become a fantasy when they actually don’t treat us well at all . 
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Gouge his eyes out
Just kidding 
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Sounds like the movie “Hall Pass”. Sorry you’re going through this. Best of luck
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I started pointing out hot chicks it made him uncomfortable he stopped 

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You’re definitely not insecure and that would be embarrassing and creepy af. Anytime I see a man checking me out with his women I turn into the biggest bitch and make sure he knows he’s a douche. #girlcode
Flirt in front of him
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So just ask him if they’re sexy like you when he’s looking at them.No big deal,i’m sure you look at men too.Grow up.
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You have a right to your own feelings. Guys are guys, they all check out other women whether you realize it or not. But as long as mine isn’t touching anyone else hell he can look, I guess 
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Start checking out guys and see how it makes him feel!
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My husband said "if I stop looking you better bury me.’ Men are always looking as long as they don’t touch.
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It’s disrespectful and an issue. Ask him what needs of his are not being met and why he feels the need to look around have him think about it like really think and go from there . What does he say when you bring it up ?
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Very disrespectful and I know exactly how you feel and my husband has even complimented other women in front of me:sob:
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My ex would do the same thing…it is so disrespectful!
Yes. You are being dramatic. Go make him a sammich n apologise
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Return the favor bet he won’t like it
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Dress to attract other men’s attention and watch h start guarding
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Been there, done it, rude af get out now. That’s the highest of disrespect whilst making you look stupid. Hold yourself higher than putting up with that!
Mine does the same thing but it doesn’t bother me because as the old saying is if you can get him you can have him lol and if I see something that looks good yup I look and I dare him to speak one word P.S. I guess I’m just evil
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It’s ok to look 
but not to touch 99% of men and women look at other women and men that’s just a natural thing to do but they don’t touch
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I deal with the exact same from my husband! I feel your pain !
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He sounds like an amazing husband
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Why don’t you start checking out other men? You married him knowing he did this so okay his game…
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When I see my husband take a second look, I find a man and point out his better looks…then we both laugh…there will always be someone better at everything …Its all vanity and an attempt by satan to plant distrust.
Being dramatic as hell.
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I just read ‘checking out’ as ‘choking out’ and had to double take
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Men are visual creatures. They’re going to look.
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OMG just because a guy looks at another woman doesn’t mean they fancy them or they want them or they are going to run off and fu(k them. Women do this as well. Just because you don’t doesn’t mean all women don’t.
I’m afraid as much as your feelings are valid this is an insecurity that you and him need to work together to resolve with you trying to change him.
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Your overeating, get over it
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If I see a woman with a big bum I point her out to him vise versa lol I be like daaaaaamn girlllllllllll look babe!!! She could hold a dinner plate with that 
This isnt insecurity, it’s just rude and disrespectful. Glancing at people is one thing,checking them out is not ok.
I don’t think you are being dramatic at all, that behavior really bothers me too. And it changes how I feel around them. And it causes me to put my guard up around other women when they are around. It is disrespectful. I believe we all look at each other from time to time, but you don’t have to bug your eyes out over it. It does sound like it’s feeding a visual need in him. It causes cognitive dissonance. The actions are not matching the words. And it stirs up jealousy.
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If he’s blatantly disrespecting you this way, he probably isn’t loyal husband material. Imagine what he’s capable of when you’re not there? Sorry! You deserve better! X
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We always check out other women. Difference is, some know how to do it without their wife or anyone else noticing and others don’t. But it’s normal to look at something or someone that you feel looks nice. Like a woman, a car, a house, a dog. Anything. I’m pretty sure when you see a man that’s handsome you think you yourself that he’s handsome. That doesn’t mean you’re cheating or being disrespectful. You’re just admiring the way he looks. Or you can just leave your husband and get with someone that knows how to look at women without you knowing and mistreats you. Just get it how you live. You’ll be OK.
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You check the boys out
You are insecure. You say he loves you and he is good to you. He may look but you are married to him .
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Look at other guys… be sure to be obvious too.
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Apparently many people on this thread don’t get how cheating works or how it starts. Also, to take it a step further, it’s about respect as well. If these other women see him looking at them, he’s giving his attention to them and not displaying that he is yours but that there is potential he could be theirs. So many people act as if looking is harmless but it’s not. And it’s not about a person being insecure either, In fact that’s victim blaming and asinine. We naturally do find things attractive and when we are trying to find a mate that’s fine to look, but once you’re married and you have found the one, you can’t keep those same habits. You’re not single, you’re not available and there is literally no reason to look elsewhere. One glance is reaction, after that it’s intentional.
He’s wrong sweetheart and he needs to stop. Nothing he is doing is beneficial to your marriage. Bottom line.
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I’ll point them out to my husband.so what YOU see good looking man what you do you not look well fuck I do so what that’s what your eyes are for
Yes. Take comfort in you know for a fact he’s straight if he were actually talking and engaging with them, then I’d be a little upset.
I cured my husband years x ago . I gave him a taste of his own medicine . We would be driving and hot guys working etc . I would roll down the car windows yelling and hanging out the window. If in public I would just comment under my breathe so he could hear me . Took a few weeks. But ye qui it doing it . Trust me I did it back over the top
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My husband looks and I look at guys and we say to each other u can look u just cannot order from the menu
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He obviously don’t care about your feelings If you told him and he still does this He is a disrespectful pig Leave him he is not a good husband
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Give him something to look at
Whew honey, reading these comments makes me extra thankful for my husband and our marriage… After 11 years my husband won’t even look at a woman even if I’m trying to tell him I want to buy what she’s wearing . The fact that you have brought this to his attention and explained how it bothers you and he is not respecting your wishes or hell even giving a shit less about your feelings is not “normal or men will be men” it’s disgusting and disrespectful. Not all men and women think it’s okay to check out others of the opposite sex, so the people saying it’s normal apparently enjoy doing it just as much as their partner does. And yeah he’s coming home to you and sleeping in the bed with you, but does he even care about your feelings or emotions if he can’t even control himself after you’ve expressed your concerns to him!? No honey. Don’t do it back and get even, start evaluating your marriage for what it really could be.
I think all couples are different, my husband and I will actively talk about others that are attractive, men and woman. It doesn’t bother either of us. However, I also recognize everyone has different feelings and yours are valid. I would think about perhaps where it comes from. What I did learn is when I felt a certain way about a situation I would really get to the heart of why (with my own thoughts or a close friend) it really helps or has helped me to articulate why I may feel a certain way and determine if I need or needed to talk with my husband. It sounds like you do need to talk to him too. So is there a past relationship that really opens these feelings like they do?
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Just because he is on a diet. Doesn’t mean he can’t look at the menu. Doesn’t matter how he gets his appetite as long as he comes home to eat.
Make him feel uncomfortable by commenting on other men in public…or better yet, comment on the women, like oh yeah she is hot, I’d rather take her home than you 
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I told my fiancé, if I catch him checking out another woman in front of me again… I’ll embarrass him into his next life. He will feel how much he’s disrespected me.
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mine did the same thing so i tried never to go out together he got what was going on but would not stop
Have a serious talk with him about how you feel about this. If he doesn’t stop, I would start checking out guys in front of him.
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If you don’t want him to look at other women then blindfold him in public. You’re not gonna change him. Btw you may feel other men don’t look at females as much as your husband but they just hide it better. You telling me you see Jason Samoa without a shirt you ain’t taking a looksy. Humans are beautiful. Just because you buy a Ferrari doesn’t mean you’re going to ignore the Lambo that passes by.
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Get a divorce then. Some people like to look & that’s not an issue. The issue is you find it disrespectful & he still does it. Find someone who has the same values as you or live with it. You can’t force people to change.
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I’ve always said, “look, but don’t touch!” but yes, like a few of these comments say - you’re making him sound creepy, like he doesn’t just check them out, he stares. If that’s the case, imagine how the girls he’s checking out feel? Hahahaha idk … I think this post is just ridiculous, in my opinion.
Do it back, make comments. “Wow look at his muscles… jeezzz those sweats leave nothing to the imagination and lord is he blessed” etc lol he’ll get the hint eventually 
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Looking more than once, many times or staring I could see being an issue but glancing no, it’s normal.
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haha…come look… imagine… you should be marred…thank fk for braincells
It is something that guys do. His dad probably did the same thing. As long as it is just a look and not a speaking engagement, I wouldn’t worry about it.
You might do what I did once. I saw a seriously handsome guy and asked my rubber necking boyfriend what he thought of a certain guy who walked by in the other direction. We actually had a good laugh and spent the rest of the evening talking about whether this guy or that guy was handsome. It was hilariously funny. And, he stopped rubbernecking.
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No harm checkin out the menu no one said u have to order and who did he go home with
I fill the same way if he want to look at someone else then he should not have got married lol I got boobs and an ass so what else is there to look at and only said to my husband once he never did again that I ever noticed 
So guess I have no advice as I’m the bi chick who will point other girls out to my bf/gf without a second thought or trying to set them up. Like “oh she’s so pretty 
” or “damn she’s got a nice ----” and just genuinely mean it. Unless you’re insecure and think he’s looking bc he’d sleep with them behind your back or something, just leave it alone. Most women look at other guys with no intention if doing anything.
As I get older I really don’t care about things like that. We even point out attractive men and women to each other. When I was younger it used to bother me . Now it doesn’t .
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Try looking at other men in front of him.
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I think it’s disgusting & disrespectful,one thing to glance but another to do what your saying he does & yes woman as myself always think what a scum bag and he’s with his woman , I always feel bad for her and look down on the dude some do that opposite, I’m sorry but one thing I despise the most is when he makes you look like a fool , not ok and your married , even worse
He’s just being disrespectful at this point….
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My husband was constantly staring at other women in public but trying to be sly and he was the biggest cheater on the planet, constantly messaging women on line acting like he was ahead of the game, I finally just had him leave ,best thing I ever did !! Keep a very good eye on your husband, don’t be fooled by the "good husband " act !!
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I don’t mind the quick glance.Nothing wrong with appreciating beauty but when I was 8 months pregnant he actually looked and then turned around to get her back view as she walked by. I poked him in the eye. He got the message
beat him to the punch and comment first. Best compliment comes from a woman anyway. I always compliment people on perfume or cologne as well as outfits.
Everyone deserves to hear something nice.
He’ll quit when you do it better 
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My late husband would look but to be honest I would look at men I thought were good looking but I also knew my husband would look but not touch and that was the same with me. My late husband was an excellent husband and father but I never felt insecure
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That’s super disrespectful to do it in front of you or to have you know about it. Just start checking out guys in front of him so he knows how it feels 
two wrongs don’t make a right I know. But sometimes they need a taste of their own medicine.
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Look it’s a man’s instinct to look at other females same as it’s for a women to look at other guys I see no problem with that unless u don’t trust him or have issues with him cheating . N as long as it’s u he comes home to every night I wouldn’t let it hurt u honey at least u got him n they don’t …
No you aren’t being dramatic. He is being disrespectful to you and your children.
You do it too let him know how much you like your eye candy bet he stops your feelings are valid and I agree 
I have a beautiful Vietnamese wife and there are times when I look at other women when I’m with her but for me personally it is because I am comparing her to them. Beauty is not everything and yes there are women out there that are prettier and more attractive than her. It is just something that men do and no it’s not always polite. Because of how wonderful and beautiful my wife is as a person I would never stray. When you have gold you don’t trade it for silver. I’m sure he knows how wonderful you are and how attractive you are. And I think he believes you are that sliver of gold that he would never trade for any piece of silver. Maybe you should ask him why he does it and tell him you’re not angry so that you can get an honest answer. Don’t judge until you hear his honest answer.