It’s your choice you can say no. If your husband’s mad he can get over it. My biggest piece of advice to you is let the nurses know that you don’t want anybody in there. The nurses will make them leave. If they’re there and you don’t feel comfortable saying something to the nurses in front of them tell the nurses that you want no one in the room when they check you to see how far along you are. They’ll make everybody leave and tell him at that point that you don’t want anybody in the room but your mom and your husband and they will tell everybody they have to stay out.
Also with covid most hospitals are only allowing one support person in the room.
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Tell them not NO but HELL NO!!!
Say no! Your body they can see the baby when everyone else does.
I had a room full of people that I WAS NOT comfortable with while it was my first as well. I’m due at the end of August and I AM putting my foot down regardless of ANYONES feelings. That is YOUR privacy, YOUR first experience. Don’t let it be ruined like mine was. I couldn’t even enjoy my birthing process because I spent the WHOLE visit crying. I wish I would’ve stood up for myself the first time.
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Just you and your husband
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Throw the whole husband out. Ask your mom to come and put your foot down. This is like a huge moment for you and they can literally wait and don’t need to see you going through that especially if you are uncomfortable with it. If he doesn’t like it and says you are being selfish tell him he is being selfish for not considering your feelings and let him know he is being toxic. Not cool
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Not their body, not their choice.
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Tell them absolutely no reason for them to be in there with you and your baby to be born 
Demanding? Let nurses know who you want and they can allow or not allow.
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The hospital should give you a paper that you can sign and put down names of people who you don’t want in the room
Here in Ireland only 1 person allowed in with u ! If your not comfortable I wouldn’t have her there! It’s your choice at the end of day it’s u that’s going through the pain and all the pushing ! Best of luck!
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First of all …Throw away the WHOLE husband!!! He should respect you and your decision, I wouldn’t want them there either or him because he sounds like a mama’s boy
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“demanding”??? Seriously? That’d be a fast NO!! From me!! My MIL went in with me, but my mother had already passed & she never demanded anything or assumed so I was happy to have her there.
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Be selfish. You’re about to pour every drop of yourself selflessly into that baby. Take this one time to do what YOU want momma. Forget them🤸♀️
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Just say no… it’s your labor & you shouldn’t have to share that experience w/ anyone but the daddy
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Get the midwives to tell them it’s only your husband aloud.xx
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It’s also your VAGINA!! Lol idgaf who it is or whose feelings get hurt! I’d tell them to kindly fuck off! It’s your choice and yours alone.
Absolutely not. When your husband is the patient, he can decide who’s in the room
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Listen . . Slide a note to your nurse or call ahead and set it up when you preregister. I had mine set up so that if I asked for ginger ale they would clear everyone out but my support person and if I asked if they had hot chocolate they’d kick everybody out . Worked amazing and avoided awkwardness in the moment as I felt vulnerable and a little loopy. The nurses were great and understood needing a break etc , they used plausible excuses like " nap time on the ward" , them not putting on a show and even saying the dr wanted to talk to us in private and when someone chimmed in that they could stay and asked me “right?” The nurse said it’s up to the dr and booted em
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No. Throw out hubby too.
It is completely your choice and honestly you want to be as comfortable as possible especially if this is your first child. It’s up to you and if they make you uncomfortable then don’t allow them in there. Your husband needs to respect your choice
It’s your body and your call! If u don’t want them in they should respect that and wait just like everyone else
Check with your hospital first some are still having covid Restrictions
Nope it is YOUR choice who is in there. You don’t even have to have baby daddy in there if you don’t want to! You’re going to be going through something incredibly personal, it is completely up to you who you allow in there.
Tell him to get over himself and keep who you want in there. Your nurses will advocate for you as well
I would never allow them in, that’s private and personal and your husband should back you on that…wow…stand your ground.
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It’s completely natural to want your mother and husband in the room. They need to step back.
You shouldn’t have to explain yourself to anyone! You said NO, so stick with it. This your time with your husband and shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for not wanting them there! I didn’t have my Mom, I had my bestie and my husband because I knew they were the ones who would make me more
Comfortable
With how everything is going still they only let 1 person in the room from what I understand and that be just your spouse
Tell them your only allowed one person
Tell them because of covid only hubby!
Or just say NO.
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Tell them once they lay naked in front of your famiky for several hours then you will consider it
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Your birth plan, your support system. Most hospitals have been very restricted on allowing any innthe delivery room, so hopefully your husband is allowed.
It’s up to u n what you are comfortable with
At this time it’s about the baby n you not anyone else n of course the father but if he stresses u out he can stay outside with the rest too do what’s best n comfortable for you mama
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Throw out the husband and his family. Have your closest friend or family member go in there with you. It’s YOUR choice not anyone elses
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Tell him to lay spread eagle on a table while trying to take a crap with your parents watching. Ask him if that thought makes him uncomfortable… if he still insists, then he can be in the waiting room with his family.
On a serious note: nurses are gatekeepers. Let them know who YOU want in the room. They are there to protect you and your baby
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It isn’t his call. Your body, your discomfort, your choice of audience. Personally, I think it should be just the two of you.
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I’m pretty sure with Covid, they will only let your husband there. But when I was pregnant with my son, my husband (6 hours before I went into labor) argued with me that we should call people when I go into labor… I flat out said “why is this entire pregnancy about you?” And then he agreed to call people afterwards… as I told him I don’t want anyone at the hospital besides him or my sister until I say it’s ok… I’m not a movie or a circus that people can just wait for the show. I told him that exact thing.
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Do not worry about it! Tell your nurse when you get there. Make sure to do it when your hubby is not around and ask her to tell them only two people in the delivery room (hubby and your mom). The nurse will take care of it. I had to do that!
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Nope there are out of place
Just make sure all the hospital staff have their names and photographs and have them add them to the escort off property list!!
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Say no, thank you. Explain to them that you would not be comfortable. If they get mad, so what.
Just tell them HELL NO!!! they’ll get over it
Stick to what you want
Just say no - you don’t feel comfortable and that you want only your husband in there. She should understand.
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She won’t be allowed, don’t be worrying, only husband or partner allowed, end off…
Tell them no but I was only allowed to have 2 people but they did allow a 3rd one it’s your baby you do what u want. I couldn’t have done it without my mom
Just tell the nurse in charge that you only want your husband and your mom. Those ob nurses are fierce lol. Ignore them your body your choice!
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Sternly tell them “No” and leave it at that. Don’t let them bully you into doing something you aren’t comfortable with.
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Wondering where she lives? Most hospitals where I am aren’t allowing anyone else in. So that could be a win!!
They shouldn’t be demanding anything. They can see baby once it’s out just like normal. If you want YOUR mom and husband in there thats your choice. They can demand all they want its totally up to YOU! He needs to be there for you and not worry about his mom and sister. You are his family now, they need to respect that.
Ummm, it’s your vagina and your baby. Your comfort is what matters. I don’t want just anyone in my shit!! Let him know, the stress could stress the baby.
Too bad your the one delivering that baby. This is your choice and your husband should support you. Everyone is different. I would want my husband and our mothers but no sister in laws. Good luck.
If they weren’t a part of the act of creating the baby then they don’t need to be involved in the birth.
Its to your comfort not his… I had my oldest son with my mother in law in there. Then I had my youngest just me and hubs. Me and my mil get along. My mom died when I was younger so it was nice to have her there. But its completely up to how you feel about it.
They should have to wait this experience is for the husband and wife
Unless he’s pushing a watermelon out of his penis, he’s got no right telling you you’re being selfish. Set the boundaries now, or it’ll get worse…
Tell your nurses this in private if you think it will make you the bad guy and they will stop it ! But I am also pregnant and only my husband is entitled to a spot in that room !! My body and my baby
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I went through this… i just said no! Who cares if you make them mad.
Tell them all to stick it where the sun don’t shine. It is YOUR day. Not your husbands, not your mother in laws, and not your sister in laws day. It is YOURS! You choose who will and will not be in the room. It doesn’t matter what your husband says, if you tell the hospital staff that it will only be you, your mom, and your husband in the delivery room then they will fight for you and make sure no one comes into the room that isn’t approved by you.
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They have no right to demand anything…
You tell your midwife and the nurses at the time they wont let them in delivery room your patient not them they’ll listen to you 
your choice your moment, your body not theres and especially if your not even close with them no way
No, they have no right to demand anything and your husband needs to step up and tell them so. Tell the Dr. and hospital You don’t want them in there and they will not allow them in.
If they are insisting that ‘it’s their family too’- divorce can fix that.
It’s your body. It’s an incredibly intimate and powerful moment. You need to be surrounded by people who will focus on you. Their demands now prove that you will not be the focus during birth.
Would they allow you in the room during a bowel movement, or during sex? If that thought makes them uncomfortable, then they shouldn’t demand attendance at a birth.
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I said no to my mother in law. My husband wasn’t happy at first. I basically said would you want her there when we had sex? Oh that’s personal? Well so is having my vagina out while in labor.
She called all hours of the night, even showed up in the ER at 2 in the morning because she was with her boss who was sick. She thought she could sneak in while I was sleeping.
I still said no. I registered as private so no information could be given over the phone either. Nurses knew not to let anyone in either until a couple hours after I had the baby.
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Tell your doctor and hospital your concerns. They should keep them out. A girl needs her mama and husband
Gurl thats not even a question to ask …this a personal experience for you screww them …bring ur mama with you simple and hubby if he mad watever his madness should be gone when he sees the baby
Your body, your rules! I’d also ask your partner if he’d enjoy having your mum and sister in there while he’s going through a vulnerable and painful procedure similar with his privates on show to everyone!
It’s YOUR choice. tell hubby to kick rocks too!!!
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then tell your husband to let your family watch him push out a watermelon from a hole the size of a pea aka his but and see how he feels! if they meet you uncomfortable when it comes time the nurses will kick them out and you’ll be birthing alone!
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Ask the nurse to kick them out. My nurse could tell I didn’t particularly want my mil in the room so she asked me quietly if I wanted her in there and then she made them leave. 
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Ask your husband to get naked lay on a table in front of your family legs wide open will he shits and getting punched in the back and balls after that you guys can talk…
Tell the nurses that you only want your husband in there. If anyone demands me, it’s a hard and fast no. It was only my husband in the delivery and I didn’t care how people felt. If he cant respect your decision and how you feel, give him the boot too.
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Stand your ground now because if you give in and let them dictate then they will dictate to how you raise your baby as well
Boundaries x
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Your birth your way. There’s no need to people please tell them to go f themselves
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It’s your body your choice.
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Due to covid only one person is allowed in the room with you! Unless things have changed… my friend just had a baby a few weeks ago! No visitors were allowed!
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Tell the attending to deal with her. They won’t let her past the nurses station untill you are ready for her to come back.
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Tell them no and your husband should have your back
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You can tell the nurses how you feel. Print our a birth-care plan before you go in and hand it to the nurse. You can put you only want your mother and husband in the room. They will make sure your wishes are met. My ex husband tried to do this to me and I felt so conflicted because it started a huge fight. I printed off my plan and gave it to my nurse. He didn’t even know what the papers were since I have them to her when I checked in. She nicely asked everyone to step out into the waiting room and my ex never even knew it was in my plan. He just thought it was policy so no fussing from him after that. I allowed the extra family to come in once I was cleaned up and covered.
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Tell them no. No need to explain anything.
If their feelings are hurt oh well. They can visit when you are home, if you want them to.
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That is ur choice not there’s
If u don’t want them in the room with u tell them no u not coming in
They will
Get over it
Uh. No. Also, make the hospital staff aware of your wishes. They’ll keep them out.
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Your husband should be on your side. He is not the one having the baby. Follow your heart, it’s your body . I wouldn’t have them in. It’s not a party
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Let the Dr and nurses know you do not want them in there.
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Tell them all to stay out if your husband wants to go in let him but you don’t have to let any one else in it’s your call! The Dr and nurses have to do what you want!
the rest of them can get over it, I agree withAlicia 
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They seriously need to back up. Of course your gonna want your momma. If you want your mom and husband to be the only ones then stick to it love. Its all about keeping you comfortable and as relaxed as possible while you give birth. They can wait and see the baby after.
Demanding?! They’re nobody to demand anything. That choice is yours and only yours yo make.
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Should be just you and your spouse. In my opinion. Only those who were in the room when you got pregnant should be in the delivery room. Most hospitals are still under COVID operations and won’t allow more then one person and rules change daily. This is YOUR delivery not theirs. Stand up for yourself. You need that room as stress free as possible and if them being there will make you uncomfortable then they don’t belong there. Plain and simple.
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Its simple, tell them to f**k off. If you don’t do what you want, you will regret it.
Hell no! Only have who I want there! I didn’t even allow visitors!
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It’s not up to him. If you’re not comfortable confronting your family, tell the nursing staff. They will support you.
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Because of Covid they are only allowing one person in with you during delivery! This is nationwide so they can get over it! Besides, even if they were allowed in, it’s about you and what you’re comfortable with! Don’t let anyone try and force their presence on you!!!
Everyone can make demands - your in laws must wear pineapple hats …. However doesn’t mean they’re right. I believe it’s your vagina so you get the last say. As fir your husband when he is getting a colonoscopy, he can have as many spectators as he likes.
This is YOUR CHILD AND YOUR EXPERIENCE. SCREW THEM JS
Talk to your Dr. with COVID only husband allowed at delivery rest in the lobby
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Tell the nurses you only want your husband in there. They can’t demand anything. That day is all about you and the Birth of your little one. And if you need help? I’ll rip into them for you 
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I wouldn’t worry more than likely they won’t be allowed in cause during my granddaughters birth only one person was allowed in
She can’t demand shit. Nurses and hospital staff will straight up throw out anyone that is stressing out the pregnant person. Like they don’t fuck around with that. They asked me if I wanted my mom removed she wasn’t annoying me because I’m used to my parents but other people may have felt uncomfortable lol. But seriously she has no damn say in your birth the hospital will handle it if you need them to.
Also covid is doing its thing again there might be rules put back in place about that when you give birth
You. No one else. You. Are pushing out a HUMAN. You are the only one who’s feelings matter in that situation.
I have a rule. If I made this baby in private, I will also deliver this baby In private.
She had her kids. She can step off. Period.
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