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My step daughter does this. When we know sheās lying we give her the chance to tell the truth. If she still lies we explain to her that when you lie as an adult there can be some really bad consequences. So we give her 3 consequences to chose from. No toys for the rest of the day. No tv for the rest of the day. Or time out for 5 minutes. Sheās also given the option to have her consequence taken back if she tells the truth before the end of the day, so that way itās rewarding her for telling the truth without actually making it a huge deal and giving her different rewards for something she should have done in the first place. Sheās 5 and it works pretty good for us. Most of the time sheāll tell the truth after a couple hours.
Take away their stuff. You want to lie bam you get your phone take. Away, no wifi. No tablet got to teach these younins you canāt do that. They got to live like cave men if they want to lie. Make them do chores, clean the house take the garbage out go old school on their butts.
My step daughter did. It was the age. She is better now. I showed her explains of when people lied to her and how she felt. Took a little but she is so much better now. Other than the normal kid little lie here and there
Does he know that his ears turn purple when he lies!? Itās only adults that have strong enough eyes to see it though(usually results in a change in body language or trying to hide the ears) I know itās hard but probably a phase. Tell him he has to tell you the truth for you to understand and help him. I always tell my kids for me to advocate for them in any situation I must know the truth otherwise I canāt stick up for them. Good luck
My almost 7 year lies and is teaching her almost 5 year old sister as well. I call them out on lying and let them know that lying is bad and will only make matters worse. I let them know that even when telling the truth might still get them in trouble, they wonāt be in as much trouble as to if they lie about it. I explain that lying doesnāt cover up the fact that it happened, just makes things worse for the lier.
Tell them you love how their ears turn red when they lieā¦they cover their ears.
This too shall passāļø
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I would take their toys away. This was before phones. They are grown now. But, I took games or game systems away. It didnāt do anything. My daughter came to me and confessed she was a constant lier. Please help. I laughed and said I didnāt realize it was that bad. She cried. She said she couldnāt stop. I wish I had spanked them. 1 or 2 licks. Something more than taking stuff away. Try taking it. If she does continue try corner or time out. Then spanking. But every child is different. Let them know you wonāt believe anything they say ā¦ever.
Itās a phase unless itās an influence
Get it under control now and keep in top of him so he doesnāt lead a life of crime later. Find things of interest that are mentally challenging and interesting
He is just a child. He will grow out of it.
My 4 year old tells crazy stories all the time that never happened. I just chalk it up to a very creative imagination.
Tell the story of the boy who cried wolf .
Make it safer to tell the truth.
My daughter likes to make stuff up to be funny or creative. I tell her thatās fine as long as she tells the real story right after. Thatās our compromise. If I call her to say goodnight and ask how her day was, she might say āI broke my leg todayā then tell me sheās just kidding. Sometimes kids donāt mean harm when they make things up.
Sometimes they lie about what theyāve done or neglected to do because theyāre afraid of punishment or shame. If you make it so they can tell the truth without shame or punishment, theyāre a lot more likely to be honest.
My step son does thisā¦not all the time though. I tell him his eyes change red when he is lying so when I ask to see his eyes after I know heās told a big fib he squints them to hide the āredā and thatās how we know he is lying give them a chance to tell the truth and if that doesnāt work show them consequences
One reason why kids do lies: Itās because they are afraid to tell you the truth coz they know youāll get mad and they donāt like the way you treated them when youāre mad/angry. Sometimes, we parents are the reasons why they chose to lie than tell the truth.
I legit have the same exact problem with my 7 year old son. When I ask him why he tells stories he tells me ācause I like itā¦ā Iāve been working with him for well over a year. His biological dad was a compulsive liar. Lied about dumb stuff all the time. Like tried to convince me heās great friends with lead singer of Papa Roach and even wrote one of their songs for them. I think the worst lie my ex ever told me was for the first 3 months or so we were dating he told me he had been in the marines and had done four tours in iraq. And I believed him like a dumbass. I finally started putting the pieces together when I caught him lying about other things and never found any evidence of him being in the military ever. So I keep saying itās in the genetics for my son. He tells stories like his dad does even though he hasnāt seen his dad in over two years. I work with him though. Tell him every time I know heās lying and I give him a chance to correct himself. Hopefully itās just a phase and heāll grow out of it soon.
My parents said if I told the truth I wouldnāt get punished. Made me a very honest person. If it seems compulsive and constant, find a child psychologist.
My daughter was like this and I know when she does XXX I give her 3 changes to come clean and tell me if she donāt then she get stuff taken away or good one was her lie was not upsetting anyone so when she told me the truth on a different Avent I said I not to sure if I should believe u because u lie before and that really upset her cos I didnāt believe her when she was telling the truth xxx
I tell my 6yo that lying is bad. She asked why, i asked her how would you feel if i lied to you? She said she will feel bad. I hope sheāll remember that little conversation while sheās going up.
I thought it was guna say
Age 14 or 15 i had to read that again Lol to make sure it was 7ā¦
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My kid is driving me crazy with lying, help! - Mamas Uncut
I told my son who has high functioning autism that everytime he lies his eyes turn red so if he lies he will continously blink so I know and I can say to him your eyes are going red do you want to correct yourself before being punished for lying and then the truth comes out xx
They may be trying to get attention. Negative attention is attention to kids. Do they need more one on one time?
I used to tell my son the devil is going to grab ur tongue and make u choke when I lieā¦ it was the best thing I ever said
My son told some whoppers at that age full well knowing he was doing it lol I just told him the truth prevails so you might want to rethink it. I taught him about karma and what goes around comes around. If itās not true you donāt tell that. Took him a few times of testing the water but he was given a conscience so it was up to us parents to enforce it.
My daughter is 6.5 yrs old and tried a BIG lie, so I told her you will get in more trouble than if you tell the truth. Plus we started telling her at age 3 if you lie your ears will turn red. I know when she is lying to me. But sadly the big lie she said at school on her 2nd day ever, little boy went home and told him mom, the mom called the teacher and then the teacher told the counselor and then they called meā¦.it all got straightened out but since then sheās not told a lie. We explained how we donāt lie, how the out come of them can be and some lies can cause consequences bigger than mommy or daddy can fix.
When my daughter was born my son was 3. When he was 4 we put a camera in his room. We lived in a very small house at the time. When anything happened and we asked him we could see the truth on the camera. This has made him a very honest child. It taught him that lying doesnāt work. And it also helped him not to get in trouble for thongs he didnāt do.
same omg mine will be 7 in November and iv done tried everything and nothing works so if you find something that works let me know
I tell my 3 children when they lie there ears turn red so they would try to cover them. Mine has consequences to face if lie. They will now say jk when lieing and than say the truth
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I put vanilla on my daughters tongue when she lies. It does not hurt at all itās just bitter. I tell her when gross lies come out they sound as gross as that stuff tastes. She doesnāt lie very often anymore. She is 5. I will not tolerate lying
I have an 8 year old like this. Sheās a good kid, but we will watch her do something or hear her say something, address it, and her response is always āI didnāt do/say thatā even though we witnessed it directly. In that aspect, Iāve been calling her out on her lies like āI just saw/herd you, donāt lie about things. Lying gets you into trouble and there are consequencesā. I try to point out that I KNOW she is lying, correct her and then explain (every single time) why itās wrong to lie.
My daughter went through this when she was young. She always got in trouble for lying & we stressed the importance of her always being honest. I got her a few notebooks and some cute pens/pencils & told her if she wanted to make up stories to write them in the notebooks but everything thing that came out of her mouth had to be true. It worked for us
Be consistent and make the punishment worse when they lie. I had to drill it into my kids head that it would be worse if they lied to me
Kids are motivated to lie to avoid punishment. Make the punishment for lying the bigger punishment/consequence.
My now 6 year old kept lying when she was around 4. So I told her that every time she lied her eyes turned green. So anytime I thought she was lying, Iād ask to see her eyes. I also explained that lying was bad. She got tired of showing me her eyes and getting caught in lies so she quit.
My 7 year old just says idk , every time I ask her why she did something that truly deserves an explanationā:upside_down_face:
I told my 8 year old along time ago that when he lies his ears turn red and still to this day when he lies he covers his ears
One of my kids went through this phase and I made a light game of it while checking if their story was true. I would say hmm but I wonder how xyz happened, I presented silly scenarios, and it usually lightened the mood to where they smiled and told the truth. Then I told them they were being silly and moved on. It was just a phase. It doesnāt mean your kids is doomed. If it continues on, Iād address it more seriously.
Teach him what be lied to feels like.
Promise him to do or go somewhere he wants to goā¦ Have him look forward to it over a day or two reminding him of the fun he will haveā¦ then as day approaches. Tell him to get readyā¦ and get dressedā¦ when heās ready to go and asks when are we goingā¦ Tell him youāre notā¦ he will sayā¦ āBut you promisedā
Look him dead Iām the eyes and say . āI lied. How does it feel to be lied too.ā Let him ponder that.
Kids donāt understand how their actions hurt others
They donāt understand biting hurts until theyāve been bit. They donāt know how long effects others until theyāve been lied too.
Tell him when he lies his nose will grow.
Very slowlyā¦ but eventually it will be gigantic. Tell him/her you can already see the difference.
Lying is one of the only things my husband and I have zero tolerance for. It causes distrust and is an easy and terrible habit to fall into. We have explained this to my nearly 6yo and give her a chance to tell the truth and if she doesnāt she loses a privilege/receives a punishment.
7ā¦ I have a 7yr old. I think itās the age testing our limits and patience. I canāt stand it. We told him his ears turn bright red so we can catch him but as for consequences we base it off of the severity of the lie. Typically gets put in his room or gets something taken away.
15 yr old. Lies about everything.
This sounds like the kid across the street from me.
ā¦daughter is 11. Lies over the stupidest shit!.. I just do the whole lecture thing ! tell her I WILL ALWAYS FIND OUT ā¦ then I constantly ask her if it was worth it !?!
as sheās doing the most hated chores around the house - cleaning toilets, cleaning cat box, scrubbing the floors with tooth brushesā¦ the only thing that saved me from getting in trouble was the fact I HATED my dadās lectures! So much !..
Sounds like your little one is afraid to talk to you. ā¦no judgment
Talk to them constantly tell them you love them no matter what mine went through that phase. And this worked. Get an open line of communication
We use to make our kids write sentences. My oldest is 20 and my youngest is 12 they are more honest then most adults I know.
100% the age!! And itās the constant reminder of the consequences of a lie.
Take away all toys and electronics. And if lying make punishment harder than if they told truth my son copies a full page in dictionary for lying
First why? Does he/she feel in trouble or fear punishment. Paraphrase,ā. āTommy is mean to meā. So youāre saying youāre angry at Tommy. Then talk about it. Find out
My mans 7 year old lied to me after getting into bubble gum and snacks for breakfast before her dad and I were awake. The 5 year old ratted her out and she still lied straight to my face so she had snacks taken away for the day
Phaseā¦ my daughter does it and my boys did it
Do it back tell ur child your gonna do something make sure its something they wanna do or want then dont do it n when they say but u said u would explain this is why people dont lie im going threw this now with my 9 8 6 and 5 year old. So for the past 3 days we goin to the park n guess what it worked cause they lie everyday on eachother lol n me n dad catch them so we know the truth we remind them how they lied they said oh so i said u dont like it do u my 9 yr old n 8 yr old said no i said if u dont want people to do it to u dont u think u shouldnt do it to other people they understood
Oh heckā:rofl: 7ā:rofl: thatās hilarious
I have cameras through my house. My kids think I can see everything. My 9yo wonāt lie. Her tablet is too important to her. Sheās lost it once. It took her months to buy it back from me. My almost 8yo tries. I just say ok Iāll check the cameras. You know if I find out you lied youāll get punished worse. Then he says "I donāt remember doing it " I know heās lied then. He gets a consequence for both lying & the act itself. I tell him all the time if you admit to doing wrong it wonāt be that bad. He wonāt. Heās stubborn just like his brother. Heāll scream, throw a fit but wonāt admit he lied. Itās madening.
When my kids would try to lie to me, I refused to believe anything they told me for about a week. If they said they wanted ice cream they got something else. If they wanted hamburgers at McDonaldās they got chicken chunks or fish sandwiches. If they said they wanted chicken for dinner I fixed meatloaf, hamburgers or spaghetti. I told them that since they had lied about (whatever it was) that I couldnāt believe them anymore. It worked, no more big lies but I do know they told small fibs at times.
Tell āem santa isnāt real and see how he likes it
Not sure following need same help at times with my 7 year old and a couple kids I watch
Mine were told the story about āthe little boy who cried wolfā and I told them dishonesty also makes people ugly in the inside. Itās easier to tell the truth and not have to remember a fib. Get it over with telling the truth, or get into more trouble by lying.
My 7 year old lies and her little sister has started recently, I had to buy a camera
Same!!! Here for the comments.
Iād say they wanna see what they can get away with . My kids are almost 5 and 3 &1 the oldest of course understands way more , I used to have a camera set up in their room at our old house so whenever theyād fight Iād know exactly what happened , he got used to the camera and started just coming clean about everything . Well we moved and no longer have cameras but I keep my kids and keep them under the impression that I now have cameras all over the house which I donāt have a single camera here , not yet anyways . So now if I feel Iām being lied to but cannot prove it , I tell him Iām going to check my cameras and if I see heās lying heās in big trouble , so before I grab my phone out to pretend like Iām going to find the truth out for myself , HE TELLS ON HISMELF ! or if heās telling the truth he will say yes check your camera so you can see Iām not lying ! Maybe some mama out there will see this and give it a try , a little mind game never hurt especially when trying to keep little ones in line without having to be too hard on them
They think itās game of I tricked you
Intention. Is it just imagination or lying with bad intentions?
My daughter is 7 and sometimes she tells me things that she imagines like its true. I just listen. Butā¦ if she tells me stuff that with bad intentions like to put somebody in trouble or to get away with something she did thenā¦ we gotta talk.
Ugh my boy is 7 and he lies over the stupid stuff. Mainly toys or not being mean to his little brother. Gets caught with every lie and he donāt care. Can b put in time out and loose everything, still doesnāt phase him.
Tell them when they lie a star appears on their forehead that only adults can see. A kid was told this and covered his forehead when he lied
Lying isnāt good however keep in mind kids lie for different reasons . Attention for example as well as illnesses some kids canāt control it. If itās out of the ordinary for her please have her checked.
Unfortunately you might have to give her a dose of her own medicineā¦
Tell her you are going somewhere she REALLY wants to go then take her to the grocery store, or a doctorās appointmentā¦
When she gets upset about it, you tell her that feeling is what you get inside every time she tells a lie.
If she seems to āget itā take her for an ice cream, sit down & apologize for lying & letting her down, & explain thatās why we donāt tell lies to people in our lives, because it hurts their feelings & makes her a mean person, & you know sheās not a mean person in her beautiful heart.
My son is 9 and this is our biggest issue we have been dealing with for a few months. It drives me insane! Lies over everything for no reason.
My kids write sentences for lying, starting at a 100, more if itās a really bad one.