My kids fathers co worker is spreading rumors: Advice?

I’ve been with my kid’s father for almost five years now. We’ve been doing soo good until one of his co-workers started spreading rumors to my brother’s wife. And she went into an FBI Mode and ducked up his past. So about two years ago, I caught my kid’s father talking to a female from work fo4 almost a week, and after getting caught, he cut all ties with her. And last week one of his female co-workers started telling my brother’s wife that he’s been sleeping and doing the nasty with this girl from two years ago at his friend’s house and they’ve been talking the whole time even till now. But the thing is it was all lies. My brother’s wife made this girl text her, and she did confirm that it was two years ago. She’d wanted something serious, but he said no, he has a family. And my brother and his wife are still trying to say it happened recently. His phones have been broken for almost a month now, and his been coming straight home after work, and he works across the street from our place. His co-workers have told me that it’s not true at all and that he and this girl don’t even work together in the same building. And when he’s at work, all he does is work and don’t talk to anyone. So my brother’s wife told my brother, and now they are saying all kinds of stuff about him and I. Yes I understand he talked to this girl two years ago and that was all. Nothing happened ever since. We were supposed to move to Vegas next month, and now I don’t know what to do anymore. My brother and his wife are very stubborn, and they want everything and everybody to be perfect like they don’t make mistakes. My brother and his wife are trying to make my grandma convinced me of leaving him and put him on Child support, which is not what I want. Our little family of 4 has been so good we’ve been so happy, but they are really trying to come up with more lies so I can leave him and not move. Please, I need some advice. Should I put my foot down and tell them to back up and let us work and talk about our relationship?

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Do u really need the receipts

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Girl if you are happy or were before this all started, I’d tell them to mind their own damn business. You have to do what’s best for you and your family. I’d move and leave no forwarding address of they can’t get over themselves. You are grown. They aren’t your boss. Dont let them steal your joy.

Cut ties with them. Dont talk or facebook or text. Never talk to them again.

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I mean you already know what you need to do. Tell them to back off and worry about their marriage. What goes on your house is none of their business and they need to stick their nose somewhere else.

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He cheated 2 years ago but you still believe his version of what happened?
Wtf is wrong with some of you women?
Also not sure what your brother, his wife, or your move have to do with anything
Why do you refer to your partner/husband/bf/fiance of 5 years as your “kid’s father”

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Hell yes!!! Its your relationship NO family member or friend has the right to intervene like this. They would kick up a fuss if the shoe was on the other foot i bet

Tell them to butt out and move sooner

My solution is this since they enjoy running their mouths punch em there and tell em that’s what happens wen they try to ruin lives but that’s just me. That and cut ties brother or not. If YOU are sure ur husband is being honest or whatever then forget the bullshit cuz obviously they aren’t living the happy perfect life they want ppl to think they’re living

Why are you listening to them and letting them control your life??

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did they talk sexually tall each other did he promise her things etc ? Or was it just talk

Cut ties with your toxic family! But behind every lie, there is some truth🤷‍♀️

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I think you need to clear the shit and listen ! Find out now ! For sure ! My experience is hes lying !

I would completely cut the ties with your brother and his wife… they sound toxic as heck. Whatever happened between your husband and you in the past is none of their damn business. They sound insanely toxic.

She just trying to cover her own ass maybe she is cheating on your brother. You need to tell them to clean out their own backyard first. Take your family and get the hell away from all the drama.

You know they say the accuser is the one doing. So that mean your sister-in-law ant no saint

Tell them to back off and keep them out of your head and move with him as he is your family so he talked to a girl you found out and he ended it so move on or move out choice is yours

Uh, okay. That’s your man if you choose to believe him, fine. Cut them off. But you do know there is still the possibility that he could be talking/messing with her. I mean some women will actually cover for the man that they are cheating with. You don’t have to hound him about it but you might just want to keep your eyes open.

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I’m on the fence. On one side, people talk shit and thrive off of drama. And at the same time, family needs to mind their own, unless there is hard evidence to prove something. At which point they should be pointing it out just to help you and not because they want control. On the other side of it, if he has cheated in the past (yes, talking to someone inappropriately is cheating just as much as sleeping with someone, the trust is broken) and you have forgiven him, he will do it again. Mostly because he knows that he can. If your partner cheats on you and you forgive them, that’s just a green light to do it again because you’ll forgive them again. If I were you, I would be cautious. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with someone or how many kids you have with them.

You’re only believing what you want to believe. He cheated before, he will again most likely. Keep your eyes open.

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Even the most perfect relationships on the outside can be ones of absolute misery on the inside. Stick by your husband. Your brother and his wife sound absolutely toxic and appear to be jealous, vindictive people. If your husband is doing everything you say he is, stand by him. Move to Vegas and get away from that toxic hell hole

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Tell them to back off and cut ties. That’s your family

Do what you want, it’s your life, not theirs.

Seems to me like you got a nosy busy body in your family that’s not so happy herself and likes to start trouble amongst other family members to cover her own misery or perhaps misdoings in fear that someone at work will spill the beans on her…just a gesture there of course. But if you trust your husband and believe in him you know what to do take your happy little family and go your merry way and forget about the rumors and trouble makers - Karma will come back to bite whoever is lying that is for sure. Your life, your well being, your kids, your man do what you all want to do as a family and forget the rest. Good Luck in your choices you make.

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You guys act like people don’t lie , and women especially can be catty as hell. Sounds like your sister in law is jealous. I would just cut ties all together.

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Two years ago or not, he’s still scum and he’ll continue and probably has. But, it’s your choice. Not theirs! :woman_shrugging: do what you feel is best nevermind everyone else.

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If you’ve been together for 5 years, you’ve got a child together, why not get married? You trust him, tell your brother it isn’t his business.

If he’s willing to move to Vegas I can’t see him still having anything to do with this other lady. If he was he wouldn’t want to move away from her.

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1: why do you refer to your boyfriend as your child’s father? 2: if you know for a fact it isn’t true, tell them to stay the fuck out of your relationship… and mind their own. It’s your life and your family. Why are you letting others control or try to control your life or your family? They’re not the ones in it.

You need to cut these toxic people outta your life. Family or not. You do what you want. If ‘family’ wants to make up lies let them it is your choice what to do.

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Follow your heart and move to Vegas with him.

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Cut them. They sound controlling and toxic. If you know for yourself they are lies and that your partner is being faithful and you are happy then move and cut ties with anyone that is trying to force you to leave him or anyone spreading lies.

Move get away from the toxic people, drama and past
Go be happy with your little family best of luck

Your life your decision… I wouldnt be listening to anyone that wasnt trying to help you both work through whatever your problems are especially when there are children involved

Girl move to Vegas with your family. No explanation needed to anyone.

Move to Vegas and get away from the negative people in your life. It sounds like they are just trying to cause trouble for you and your man.

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Your brother and his wife need to but out of your life and relationship and if they won’t than you need to kick them out.

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I would tell them both that your marriage is between you and your husband. The past is the past, and y’all need to be moving forward, not reliving the past. Their current behavior is toxic to you, your marriage, and ultimately your children.

Oh my gosh.
I am exhausted trying to read all of that.
Best thing get rid of all those people and try just talking to hubby.:roll_eyes::rofl:

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what if it’s true tho :thinking::thinking::thinking::thinking::face_with_hand_over_mouth:

It’s your choice if you love him and can live with him happily do what you heart tells you it’s your life and your children

What grade are your brother and his wife in?? Geesh! Tell them to mind their own and you do you.

It’s gossip/rumours. Just ignore it and focus on your life with your husband. Especially if you both have dealt with it TWO YEARS AGO. Let them talk and be in the drama alone.

I’d tell her mind her own business unless she has any proof.

Don’t let others infiltrate ur relationship with lies

They’re jealous tell them to let you live your life s d then theirs if your happy that’s what’s matter and you k ow the truth

Rumor or true- it’s YOUR relationship. You can tell anyone to butt out.

You need to make a complete separation. Your immediate family is in your household. Your relationahip- your business

Cut them out… move on. Simple

The best action is no reaction. stop reacting to this nonsense that’s exactly what they want a reaction from you . and you are giving it to them. Move away and don’t look back .

I’m not trying to be a smart Alec here, but you should have ALREADY put them in their place. This is YOUR FAMILY, not their business. And if they can’t worry about themselves and leave you and yours alone, then you cut them off. Completely. Married or not you and your man are together and raising a family, and as such you guys are one! Never, ever, let someone sow seeds of contempt in your relationship. You shut that down IMMEDIATELY!

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If you and him are good. You believe him and know that it was in the past and you moved forward, then fuck them. Its not their business.

Tell them to worry about their own relationship. If you guys are happy and healthy and so are your kids and you know hes being faithful then tell them to shut it. Make your move to Vegas and go live a happy life. Best of luck and many happy years to you guys.

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Don’t feed into the bs do what you think is best. Don’t leave him for something that happened 2 years ago

Kick your relatives to the curb, move without telling them and don’t provide your new address! When he gives his two weeks at work, all he has to say is he has a better opportunity. No explanations. Toxic is toxic.

This is so messy for no reason. Good luck though.

Listen to your gut feeling.

If you know your partner is innocent in all this and family is causing unnecessary drama, you know the answer before asking it. Your family becomes your relatives when you choose a partner and have a FAMILY. You need to stand beside him and do what is right for you and him. Eventually petty people will get to your kids and the disrupt to your family dynamics even gets worst.

Like 100% tell them its none of their business and if they can’t respect your families boundaries you don’t need them.

Follow your own
This is your life, what do you want
What do you and your husband want
You two need to stand united no matter what you decide let it me what you want

Tell your family to mind their own business. That’s all.

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Tell them it’s your life

Absolutely. Yes he messed up and it was wrong. You’ve heard and seen for yourself he isn’t doing anything wrong. You said for yourself you guys are happy. They need to realize that while they are your family so is your husband and children and if he is what makes you happy then they need to accept it and play nice or not be a part of it any more.

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If you trust your husband and believe he hasn’t cheated then what everyone else says doesn’t matter.

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Don’t let someone else ruin your relationship. If you and your husband talked thru your issues and both agree to move past it, that is all that matters. Everyone else needs to mind their own business.

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I hope they’re just being nosey and you can cut them out. But I will say from experience where there smoke theres usually fire so keep your eyes open! Good luck sweetie!

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Only you can make the decision to be with this man or not. Tell them to back off so you can figure out things for yourself. No relationship is perfect not even your brothers. You should remind him of that. Good luck🙂

I’d be asking my brother and his wife why they are trying to shift all the focus on you guys… what/who are they hiding?

Nosey Nancy’s need to fuck off!! Shit happens point is you two worked through it and as adults they should know not to believe everything they hear. Tell them to shove it.

Tell em to fuck off…

Do what you feel is good it is your life and ur choice

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You need to stop involving other people in your relationship and handle it between you and your significant other. When your S.O. messes up and you tell everyone about it, you may forget about it, but your family won’t.

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Tell your sister in law to mind het own BUSSINESS! It is nobody’s buzz.what you 2 plan to do with your life! Stop TALKING TO YOUR BROTHER AND SISTER IN LAW! IT’S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS

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OMG This is your family your man & your business…NOT THEIRS. Do you believe them or the people who are telling you it’s not true like his co workers…Sounds like it is time 2 change people places & things…But that is also in your hands…You need 2 weigh the pros & cons…& when does this man of yours supposedly do this ??? He works nearby he has No phone & he comes home after work…Sounds like he is good 2 you & your children…Are I’ll dated rumors worth destroying your family ??? Talk 2 your man …If he gets super angry ??? It…I was always told when someone is caught in a lie that get angry trip over their words…If he blows your concerns & worries off ??? That…I had a cheating husband…In fact when he fought with his 2nd wife we saw each other…When he had a fight with his present wife wasnt his wife @ the time they lived together ) He came 2 me…Both times we went 2 the same hotel & did the same thing…He made me believe he was wrong he should of stayed with me etc…etc…He was the Love of my life…
BUT he learned from his Dad who also cheated even had a child with another woman…I should of listened 2 the biological woman who had mu exs child 8 months B4 we got together…I was crazy about him…& the sick sad thing is I Still Am…He is the last man that I have been with…So if this is Real & you believe him Dont Let Him Go …You may end up yearning 4 what you have up & the what ifs…Sounds like Las Vegas might B the adventure you all need.

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Why would you allow your brother and his wife to even be in your relationship? Time to take control of your life.

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If your family is that much in your business… you should definitely make the move. If things don’t work out, you can always go back home to your family.

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A guy doesn’t have to leave work to get some head in the bathroom by a co worker 🤷

Dont worry about what other people say, do what you know is right. Hold your head up high and be confident!

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Yr moving away anyway.
If you believe yr husband then just forget everybody else n move on with yr life.

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If you had to question ahis coworkers because you don’t trust him that says something. You gotta make this decision yourself.

Geez, I feel like I just stepped back in time to high school. Are these people even 20 years old?

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Unless he is harming you or your children, your relationship with your bf (don’t know what your title is) is nobody’s business. Not your family, nor anyone else. Do what you think is right.

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Simple. Tell them to mind their business and to fuck off.

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Yes you should put you foot down with your family

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Girl if you want to be with him then move with him that girl aint moving with yall from experience misery loves company and water is thicker than blood sometimes take your family move and get a fresh start but if your questioning what he is doing he is probably cheating sis in law didnt just pull information from thin air so either she is a lie and making it up or this other girl aint telling the truth and neither is your man.

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I would tell them to mind there own business and get on with your lives and be happy they have nothing better but cause trouble for others bet they have a past and hide theres

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Sounds very High School-ish :woman_facepalming:t5:

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This happened 2 yrs ago if hes gained ur trust and ur happy then don’t let ur family intervene u need to live ur life for u and ur kids and ur husband

They need hard facts not hearsay. Also ask your partner to put in a compliant at work, what if she tried to get with him and is jaded about him saying no or she is friends with the other chick from 2yrs ago and wanted them together? lots of scenarios I could think of but, if you trust him I think the move sounds like it could be a good one if it is financially/emotional beneficial to your family.

If you forgave him for what he did 2 years back and believe him now then you should just tell your family to back off and let you two worry about your relationship. Tell them you appreciate them being concerned but it’s non of their business and you guys are gonna move forward and if they can’t respect you stop talking to them until they respect your relationship. Why wouldn’t you not be able to move? Not every relationship is perfect and if someone says it is they are full of shit. Every relationship goes through some type of Hurdle. You should really put your foot down. If you and him are good why have someone cause unnecessary problems. Good luck to you I hope everything turns out good.

Tell them to back off!

Sometimes toxic people need to be 100% cut from your life!
I personally don’t have time for anyone to bring down everything I’ve worked for so I’ve dropped more then enough friends and family to keep my mental health in check! Sad fact but family will screw you over quicker then anyone! Put your foot down, make that move and cut out the toxic people!!

Your marriage is your business! No one else’s. Tell them to back up and let you handle it. Your the one who made vows with your husband, not them. Move to Vegas and cut ties with your family is my advice.