I got invited by a co-worker to go to a family friendly event over the weekend. My ex is totally freaking out saying I had our child around another man because I accepted the invite and went. I have not and would not have anything more than friendship with this individual. My ex thinks I am lying and trying to have our child around someone I am interested in. Is it wrong?
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He is an ex and in my experience he can’t control who you are around any more than you can control who he’s around when and if he has your child so no he shouldn’t be mad he can expect you to be alone and not have friends just cuz your not with him and have a child with him
Well that’s life do what makes you happy! His an ex, and your single to mingle whether your are not! Sounds like you feel comfortable with the friend to have wanted to have gone good for you keep doing you mommas!
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Nope! Guarantee you that he has your child around other women!
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He is your ex it is none of his business what you do, and that is your child too and you can bring the child around anyone you want.it is probably a good thing that he is your ex because he sounds like he is controlling.
It’s none of your ex’s business what you do!
Nope - not wrong 
Sounds to me that he’s projecting onto you. Good thing he’s an ex!
You don’t need his permission. It’s perfectly ok to spend the day with a friend and go to a family thing.
Your ex just likes thinking he has control over you. Prove him wrong.
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Did you say ex? How is it you are allowing him to control who and what you are doing? Unless there is something in writing, you don’t have to adhere to his rules. But, make sure you don’t or haven’t tried this with him.
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Key word here EX! Even though you share a child does not mean he can control you or your child’s life. You should have friends. You are single and a grown woman and a mother. You can have your child around anyone you see fit! No you are not wrong. He is insecure and needs to mature.
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First, let me congratulate you on making him an Ex 
good decision. He cannot dictate what you do with your child on your time. Unless there is a court order in place stating that you can’t take your child around friends, there is nothing he can do about it. Let him get mad. He’ll get over it.
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I wouldn’t tell him anything about your life
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No.
He’s ex for a reason
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He’s an ex for a reason, girlie. He has no control over anything you do anymore. What, is your kid not suppose to go around any men at all? Tell him to mind his business and he can have something to say when it’s valid.
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You can do whatever you want on your parenting time . He can’t control u just like u can’t control him.
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Even if you were, it’s none of his business. Remember this, when you split up, you each gave away all rights to know what the other person is doing and they have absolutely 0 say in anything.
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Your ex is jealous. He can’t tell you what you can do or who you can be around with your child unless there’s a chance for harm to the child.
Who TF cares what the EX thinks. An EX for a reason
You aren’t wrong, but remember that door swings both ways.
Do you rely on your ex for child care?
No you’re not wrong. He has zero rights to what you do and to whom you have a friendship with. You’re entitled to have as many friends as you want male or female.
He has no reason at all to be mad. As long as you kept the child in a safe, family environment, he’s an EX, why should it matter!?!?!
No it’s not wrong. There is nothing romantic going on and you are allowed to be around men. Even if there was he can’t dictate who you bring your child around on your time.
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Friends is ok if it was a new bf then the polite thing would be to let the father know but at the same time no one can tell you what to do same as you can’t tell the father what to do 
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You can coparent without sharing every detail of your life with your ex. Even if you were dating someone, he has no right to say they can’t be around your child, much like you have no right to tell him he couldn’t do the same. You do need to start guarding your personal business more closely, though. Look up gray rock communication and see if that might be helpful.
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Yea, if you go and he’s not ok with it!
Ex is a control freak, just ignore.
Not if he’s an ex! Also probably was no need to even have mentioned it to him.
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How does he even know? He isn’t your boss. Do what you want.
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Tell him to get a life of his own and not to worry about what you are doing. It’s his jealousy showing, cuz you are moving on…
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He has the right to be mad , angry, happy , jealous etc ., should you CARE ? Absolutely not , you can’t control how others feel, he doesn’t own you and can’t dictate how or with who you interact with, And you do not have to talk about what you do all the time .
He’s your ex. ! He has nothing to say where you go and who your with. Tell him to get a life. Your child can go where you go and it’s none of his business.
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Wouldn’t matter if you were. Ignore.
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You’re honest with him, not hiding anything from him
I don’t know him or your life together but normally when a man is acting so insecure it’s because he has something to hide and assumes you’re guilty bc of that
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your ex is your ex for a reason. He has zero right to control your activities, and as long as you’re not bringing this male co worker home with you and it’s a “family friendly” event, he has no more say than if he took your kid to the fair. Which is also a “family friendly event” but has strange males gathering in small places. That, and I’m struggling to find any valid reason you’re telling him you’re taking your child anywhere if you have physical custody of said child, unless it’s out of state or violates a court order
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Sounds like it’s a good thing he’s an ex.
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It’s none of his business if you take your daughter to a cookout. No matter who invited you. You should be less detailed oriented in telling him your comings n going.
Tell him not his business, but be prepared when he does the same to you, because he will.
He is your ex for a reason. Stop the bullying
Why would you even tell him
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None of his business, shouldn’t have even told him honestly. Only talk about your child, he sounds toxic.
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Why do you care what your ex thinks?
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You do you girl , take your kid where ever you want , he needs to get over himself
He is in the wrong!!! He has no business telling you who you can associate with. If it was romantic you only need to give your ex a heads up that you have a new man, and you’ll be introducing new man to the child soon. Even then he has no say in the matter
He is your ex for a reason eventually you both will move on and meet new ppl so he will have to deal with it you didn’t even have to tell him where you go
Stop telling him more than he needs to know.
No its not wrong plus your allowed to move on with your life and meet another man if your ready to this has nothing to do with your ex unless there is a court order place that says your kids canr be around certain people then he can get over it your allowed a life xxx
Your ex can’t control what you do. He can’t make you not have friends. He’s trying to control you. Don’t let him.
No you are fine. He is your ex for a reason! You are free to have friends and if the event you were invited to us “ family friendly” there is no reason for your ex to protest. Enjoy your time.
Why do you care what your ex thinks? Answer that first. Go from there. Personally I’d be keeping my distance from a controlling jealous ex.
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HE is wrong. You can visit friends.
Sounds like he’s getting to control what you do. Does he not trust your judgment?
if you’re not with this coworker what were you doing at a family event:roll_eyes:
sounds suspicious to me
It’s none of his business even if you were interested in that person. He’s an ex for a reason, you don’t owe him a thing
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It’s none of his business if you are dating or not, unless your child is in danger.
Your ex sounds toxic as.
Why are you so worried about his allegations?
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Even if you were interested or dating, your ex doesn’t get to dictate who you see even if your child is there. Just like you don’t get to say who he spends time with. Grow up.
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Your ex is controlling and probably abusive in more than one way. No, it is not OK for any ex partner to control any aspect of your personal life, whether you share a child, or not. Best believe he’s gonna do whatever he damn well pleases during his parenting time! And that can hurt and be worrisome to a mother. But unless it risks grave bodily injury, you’ve gotta let it go. And so does he.
This is probably why he is you ex
Make sure there are boundaries set. What part of your life is yours and what is theirs… make sure the part of the child involved doesn’t not crossover into a realm of using the kid to control. Your ex is being ridiculous.
Umm no…ur ex has no say in what u do with your child on your time. I don’t care if you were dating the co worker or not. The ex don’t get to chose who u have around your kid.
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Why did you even tell him in the first place? It’s not his business!
You did nothing wrong! Your ex needs to know his place! Where is it written that you cannot take your child around someone you are interested in? Sounds like your ex hasn’t accepted being your ex!!
Unless he has a stick up your butt and you are his puppet you don’t have to run everything by your ex you live your life and do you you don’t have to explain yourself to your ex there a reason he’s your ex and just keep it about your child who cares what he has to say
He doesn’t have the right to be mad and you don’t have to explain a damn thing to him. He’s your EX but it seems like he’s trying to control you through your child.
My question is, how did your ex even know? Did you tell him to make him jealous? Are you still fooling around with him. And he has a point, I wouldn’t want my ex taking our kid around strange females as I wound t take our child around strange men.
He’s jealous. Omg, drama dude week think you are lying no matter what you do. Might be time to reevaluate the parenting plan.
Wow for real to hell with what your ex thinks. Tell his to kiss your butt and go live your life.
Tell your ex to myob he is an ex for a reason
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Unless it’s in the agreement that you won’t have new partners around your kiddo, it isn’t his business at all even if you were dating the person. My ex was continually convinced I was screwing all my friends, male or female. I dated a few people after we split up. My husband is the only one i introduced to my daughter though. Did I have her around my friends, yep. Did her dad start shit, also yeo.
If it’s in your custody agreement, just be prepared for him to cause an uproar about any opposite sex friends.
Maybe your using this guy to make your ex jealous…grow up, why even tell him what your doing…ain’t none of his business unless you do it intentionally to make him jealous…only YOU know the truth…
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Nope. He has no reason to be mad. He’s an ex for a reason. You do what you please and what makes you happy. Let him throw his fits.
Exs are exs for a reason.
Your time, your decision.
He can’t do anything even if you DID want a relationship with this individual.
But don’t forget this goes both ways. You will have no say in who he brings baby around either.
Not only is it not wrong, it’s also none of your ex’s business!
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Control issues are hard habits to break for some people but as an “ex” he has a significantly reduced status in your life and his only input about your time with your child is whether the child is safe and healthy
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Ex is an X
Do what is your issue
He’s called Ex for a reason!
Nope! He doesn’t own you.
Your EX? He doesn’t get a say on where you go and who you have around your child, anymore than you have a say in his life. Time to establish boundaries and ensure he knows that he doesn’t have a right to demand anything
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keep your ex out of your current life…
He’s your EX! Doesn’t have the right to tell what you can do & what you can’t!!!
Wth! What kind of question is this. He is an EX! No he has no right to be mad period. And he’s throwing the kid in there? Wow. He is still trying to control your life and make sure you will remain alone forever. Tell him to kick rocks and mind his business
Not wrong.
He needs to quit trying to control you via your child.
You are allowed to have a life.
They’re exes for a reason.
You did say EX, right? Enough said.
Sounds like jealous ex to me
As long as this individual is not a criminal, addict, pedophile or other troubled person and it doesnt matter if you’re dating or not, you can do as you please. Ex means ex.
He’s your ex, which therefore prevents him to be able to dictate anything, anywhere or anybody you choose to visit. Put him in his place. He is not and never will be the boss of you…
Don’t tell your ex your personal business. He only needs to know stuff about your childs well being and school stuff.
Unless he has a court order saying that you can’t have your child around other men then there’s absolutely nothing he can do about it as long as your child isn’t exposed to anything harmful or inappropriate.
Set some boundaries and enforce them
What you do with your kids on YOUR time, is your business. If the child wasn’t in harms way, he has no say over you anymore. Don’t share all of your information with him, it’s not his business anymore.
Sounds like a him problem
He’s just jealous amd don’t want you having friends you do what you want you have the right to have friends
Your ex shouldn’t be dictating where you go or who you see unless you are putting your child in harms way. You do not need his permission to go or do what you want. You need to not share your personal business with him or get his approval.
They are an ex for a reason they have no control over you
Your EX is ridiculous and jealous/controlling
Why is it any of his business?

If he is your EX it is none of his business unless your friend is in savory. Go have a good time tell your ex to myob
He just jealous. He doesn’t need to know everything u do
Tell your EX to mind his business because your business is none of his anymore
You said EX…. THEE END!!!
No its not wrong,and tell him to shut the hell up,and quit listening to him